When's Too Young?

[TOTALIMMORTAL]

[FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=DimGray]Alright everybody, I have a simple question. When are you old enough to have sex? I think when you're physically able to, mentally ready, mature enough, use protection, and your partner also matches all these categories, then you are ready. I know some would disagree and say you have to be married, or it's only intended to make babies or something like that, but what do you all think? I'm only 14, and I'm sure just about everybody here would say that's way too young, but I know I'm ready, and so is my girlfriend. All I wanna know is what all of your opinions are on when your old enough to be ready for sex. Please tell me what you think.....[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]

[miss_adriana]

u know 14 is waaay too young. lots of people have sex too young and they all think that theyre ready. but most of them are wrong. believe me, most young people dont know whats good for them, even if your gf is really special. u have ur whole life to have sex so u dont reallly need to start so young. i would say u should be at least 17.

[Hevn]

[COLOR=RoyalBlue][SIZE=1][B]No age or maturity level can tell when one's ready to have sex. I don't want to go several paragraphs on this so I'm summing it up.

When you know you won't regret it someday, go have sex. Use a condom.[/B][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[wrist cutter]

Don't do it at all. Let's stop procreating.

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]When you're ready you just know. I guess. I don't know. How the hell am I supposed to be able to tell someone when they're ready? I waited until I was 19 and married the only guy I care to say I slept with.(hey process of elimination you know?) I think part of it has to do with being scarred by a woman who gave birth to me, but I never met.
excuse me, I need to go see a shrink.


I think you should probably think over the fact that even if you don't intend on staying with the person for an extended period of time or even have any feelings for the person other than sex there are still emotions involved. Even if you're able to be completely emotionless with the situation theotehr person may not be able to be as easily detatched. Then you have this big thing about the person going psycho because they thought they were more to you than a **** buddy. Trust me, i know a guy it happened to.

Either way it's not up for other people to decide, just promise that you'll use two types of protection and we'll be okay....that's what I plan on telling my kids.[/color]

[TOTALIMMORTAL]

[quote name='ChibiHorsewoman][color=darkviolet']Either way it's not up for other people to decide, just promise that you'll use two types of protection and we'll be okay....that's what I plan on telling my kids.[/color][/quote]

Well damn, I wish my mom shared the same ideas as you when it comes to her children having sex. She told me that sexual abstinence is the only way to fully protect yourself. Then I told her she can't stop me from doing it, and she grounded me. I might have replied back a bit too loud, but god, It sucks being young. Oh ya, before I go, thanks Wrist Cutter, you always know what to say don't you? Unfortunately your idea would lead to the exctinction of the human race and monkeys would take over. And no matter how much you all might want to see the real life version of Planet of the Apes, I know I wouldn't.....

[Gelgoog Pilot]

Uh 14 dude...that's too young...and how do you know you're ready? You do realize that men reach the sexual peek at like 14ish and retain it till well into manhood. So of course you think you are ready. However, are you ready for it to ruin relationships? I've seen it man, the guy has sex with a girl and from then on only goes out with girls so he can have sex. That's just not right. Also how do you know she is ready? Maybe you ahve been pressuring her to it, constatnly talking about it with her. She may feel as if she ought to be ready.

I just don't know....today everyone thinks they shouldn't be a virgin still by 16 it seems...Am I the only one who is too busy at the moment to have to worry about sex as well? I mean sure of course I want to with a well BUNCH of girls but...Gah hard to explain I guess. Just let it pass you're 14 for christ sake, this girlfriend will no doubt be gone in a few months or so...usually how they last. Its not worth it, not this young.

[Hevn]

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL']but god, It sucks being young[/quote]
[COLOR=RoyalBlue][SIZE=1][B]Sure there are a lot of priveleges that adults have that young people don't but hey, being young is one of the greatest things ever. Less care, less responsibilities. More fun, more video games.

Why are a lot people in such a hurry anyway? I say take your time in everything that you do and cherish the moment. A few years from now you're stuck with work, bills, and kids you wished you were younger.[/B][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Solo Tremaine]

[COLOR=#503F86]I'm 19 and I've still not had sex. It doesn't bother me, although there are times when I feel I want to.

The thing is, you have to make sure you understand the consequences of sex- even safe sex. It's not just some physical activity you do for five minutes and go off and do something else. There's an emotional attachment to it as well, and a lot of people don't seem to understand it when they first get into it. The further you get into puberty, the more you think about it and the harder it is to ignore (so to speak ^_^; ).

So long as you [i]definitely[/i] know you're ready for it, then it shouldn't really matter. But I still think 13/14 is a bit too young, personally.[/COLOR]

[Captain Iuno]

[QUOTE]It's not just some physical activity you do for five minutes and go off and do something else. There's an emotional attachment to it as well, and a lot of people don't seem to understand it when they first get into it. The further you get into puberty, the more you think about it and the harder it is to ignore (so to speak ^_^; ).[/QUOTE]

I think 14 is definetely too young. At that age you've 'just' been thrown into puberty and you get these weird rushes of things you want to do. So if you want to do 'it', you should think first if it's not one of those rushes. And if you're sure about also think about the consequences (see quote form Solo above).

[DeathBug]

[color=indigo][size=1][font=comic sans ms]The three major possible consequences to sex arepotential physical complications, potential legal complications, and potential emotional complications. (Assuming you use protection.) If you think all of those risks are worth it for a few minutes of pleasure, and you're prepared to deal with all of those possible consequences and take responsibility for them, [i]then[/i] is the right time to have sex. Not before that.[/color][/size][/font]

[Guest Sean]

Ok Underage-Sex. It isn't right, you should wait, you may feel ready but i konw you wouldn't be ready if something decided to break. Most guys think there ready at the age of 14, but most of the time there not, there just desperatley wanting to get into a sexual relationship.
I agree with DeathBug on this topic, if your ready to take the consequences then your ready, but unless you can't take that then your definetley not ready.
I'm 14 aswell, and i haven't thought of having a sexual relationship basically because i know i couldn't handle that amount of pressure. And i'm sure you wouldn't be able to handle it either. I've gladly decided to wait on even trying to have a sexual relationship until i'm 16. When its actually legal.

[Vash IDK]

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL][FONT=Century Gothic][SIZE=3][COLOR=DimGray]Alright everybody, I have a simple question. When are you old enough to have sex? I think when you're physically able to, mentally ready, mature enough, use protection, and your partner also matches all these categories, then you are ready. I know some would disagree and say you have to be married, or it's only intended to make babies or something like that, but what do you all think? I'm only 14, and I'm sure just about everybody here would say that's way too young, but I know I'm ready, and so is my girlfriend. All I wanna know is what all of your opinions are on when your old enough to be ready for sex. Please tell me what you think.....[/COLOR][/SIZE'][/FONT][/quote]

Okay, I agree with every single person when they say 14 is too young. Personally, I think if you have to ask people on a message board whether having sex at age 14 is okay or not, is a bit immature, and is a clear sign that you're not ready. :cool: I'm a believer in the fact that sex should only be for a married couple, and not for "recreational" purposes. 14 is just out of the question IMO. I think you should rethink your priorities. Your 14. You're not even out of school yet, and you're making a grown up decision. It's not something to take lightly. Think about the consequences before you do anything.

[Corey]

[size=1]I'm not the most uptight person in the world, but fourteen is most certainly too young to have sex. I haven't had set yet nor do I plan to for several more years. Right about now your hormones are wizzing around saying 'go out and screw something'. What you have to realize is that no matter what or how many kinds of protection you use, your mother is right, abstinance is [i]the only[/i] 100% way of making sure your partner does not get pregnant. Condoms can break. Your girlfriend might forget to take a pill. And one missed pill can result in a pregnancy.

And what happens if she does become pregnant? [i]You[/i] have two choices. You can either stick by her side, which would be the mature and respectable thing to do, and have the child therefore [u]probably[/u] eliminating any chance you have of going to college and getting a job where you will be able to properly provide for your family. Or you can push for her to have an abortion, which may cause a lot of controversy and spite in your familys. Not to mention the emotional and physical trauma on your girlfriend when the procedure is over. And that's even if her parents allow the abortion. You are both underaged and therefore have to have a parent or guardian sign the papers for you.

Be a responsible individual. Wait until you can deal with a baby if it were to happen.
Fourteen is not that age.[/size]

[Inuyasha311]

Well I have to say 14 is to young. I didn't have any tell I was 17 and I still don't think I was really ready. I wish I would have waited longer but ,its to late now. But I can't tell you if your ready but, I would hold off for alittle long. And if your g/f really likes you she will be ok with that. But, if you have to please please use protection. Just be careful ok!!

[Doukeshi]

[quote name='wrist cutter']Don't do it at all. Let's stop procreating.[/quote]

I hate to say it, but I agree with wrist cutter here. A little bit more common sense and a little less population.

[TOTALIMMORTAL]

[QUOTE=Gelgoog Pilot]I've seen it man, the guy has sex with a girl and from then on only goes out with girls so he can have sex. That's just not right. Also how do you know she is ready? Maybe you ahve been pressuring her to it, constatnly talking about it with her. She may feel as if she ought to be ready.

Just let it pass you're 14 for christ sake, this girlfriend will no doubt be gone in a few months or so...usually how they last. Its not worth it, not this young.[/QUOTE]

[FONT=Arial Black][SIZE=3][COLOR=DarkRed]Hey man, I just gotta disagree. First of all, I would [U]never[/U] in a million years go out w/ a girl just for sex. Especially not Ally. (gf) We've already been together for over four months, so it's definitely not some passing phase. I know you guys may also say I'm too young for love, and that I'm not really in love with her, I just think that I am due to hormones or something, but I am [U]really[/U] in love with her and I know it. I agree, It's definitely not right to go out with girls just for sex. But I should say I definitely have NOT pressured her whatsoever to have sex, I wouldn't do that to her. And I'm not constantly talking about it with her. It's sort of a mutual agreement between us that we're both ready and willing. Anyways, I see all of you definitely come to the agreement that 14 is waaaaaaay too young, and I actually sort of agree. But there can be special cases, right? Most guys my age would be too nervous to even think about doing it yet, but I'm not at all so that's at least some sort of sign right? Well, I definitely expected reactions such as all of yours, oh well. Guess nobodys on TI's side.....not surprising though.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]

[wrist cutter]

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL']Most guys my age would be too nervous to even think about doing it yet, but I'm not at all so that's at least some sort of sign right?[/quote]

That tells me one thing: you haven't taken into consideration anything that has been said in this post.

Until you have a well-paying job and are mentally able to raise a child you SHOULD be nervous about having sex. Because until you reach that point, any sex you have could very well result in a life-changing day when she gets pregnant and suddenly you are the one that's screwed.

[Corey]

[QUOTE=TOTALIMMORTAL][FONT=Arial Black][SIZE=3][COLOR=DarkRed]We've already been together for over four months, so it's definitely not some passing phase.

Guess nobodys on TI's side.....not surprising though.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT][/QUOTE]

[size=1]Four months!?
You've been dating a girl for four months and you're ready to have sex with her!?

Oi vey... You need to seriously think about this. Sit down with your girlfriend and talk through all the possible reprocussions of sex. And make sure you include the fact that you are both fourteen, at the height or your hormone levels, probably more than a little missinformed about sex, and have the rest of your lives to screw if you want.
What's a few more years in the greater scheme?[/size]

[Vash IDK]

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL][FONT=Arial Black][SIZE=3][COLOR=DarkRed]I know you guys may also say I'm too young for love, and that I'm not really in love with her, I just think that I am due to hormones or something, but I am [U]really[/U] in love with her and I know it.[/COLOR][/SIZE'][/FONT][/quote]

Then if you are really in love with this girl, it wouldn't matter whether or not you had sex later when you two can take care of yourselves. It is the hormones speaking for you. If you two were [i]really[/i] in love, you'd realize that love is something bigger than having sex. You wouldn't feel the need to prove it to one another.

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL][FONT=Arial Black][SIZE=3][COLOR=DarkRed]But there can be special cases, right? Most guys my age would be too nervous to even think about doing it yet, but I'm not at all so that's at least some sort of sign right?[/COLOR][/SIZE'][/FONT][/quote]


Exceptions? I don't think there can be any. Do you have a job? Can you support yourself? You don't even know what life is about yet. You're only 14, and to think with your heart is foolish at a time like that. You asked for the opinions of others, and I really think you're going to regret your decision.

EDIT:

[QUOTE=wrist cutter]That tells me one thing: you haven't taken into consideration anything that has been said in this post.

Until you have a well-paying job and are mentally able to raise a child you SHOULD be nervous about having sex. Because until you reach that point, any sex you have could very well result in a life-changing day when she gets pregnant and suddenly you are the one that's screwed.[/QUOTE]

lol, I posted before I read this post. I agree Wrist Cutter. Completely. You need to grow up, and back to my first post, asking people on a message board is really not proving your case that you're ready.

[Guest Vash331]

Your too young, regardless what you think, you are. You shouldn't have sex until your married, but if that's too much for you, you should at least wait until after school. What if you get her preagnant? Your life'll be over, you'll have to get a job, quit school, it will be over.

[Japan]

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL][FONT=Arial Black][SIZE=3][COLOR=DarkRed]We've already been together for over four months, so it's definitely not some passing phase. I know you guys may also say I'm too young for love, and that I'm not really in love with her, I just think that I am due to hormones or something, but I am [U]really[/U] in love with her and I know it.[/font] [/size'][/color][/quote]

[COLOR=Navy]How can you say, for a fact, that you are really in love with her. Do you know the true meaning of love. The true definition of when you love someone is that you want to spend the rest of your life with. I highly doubt you want to spend rest of your life. Maybe so, maybe not. You are a teenager going through a lot of changes and also a lot of horomones that are waking up. Fourteen is too young. Others may not agree with me, but, I think that having sex [b]any[/b] time in your teen years is not a good idea.

I know that you may feel like you love her, but circumstances change. Heck, when I was dating my now ex, Adam, I thought that I loved him. We've been together for three months. I thought that I was going to be with him forever. I was an idiot back then on dating issues, heh. I highly doubt that you are fiancially, mentally, and well prepared for a baby. Things may go wrong even if you have protection. If you truly love her, you would wait. [/COLOR]

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL][FONT=Arial Black][SIZE=3][COLOR=DarkRed]Anyways, I see all of you definitely come to the agreement that 14 is waaaaaaay too young, and I actually sort of agree. But there can be special cases, right? Most guys my age would be too nervous to even think about doing it yet, but I'm not at all so that's at least some sort of sign right? Well, I definitely expected reactions such as all of yours, oh well. Guess nobodys on TI's side.....not surprising though.[/COLOR][/SIZE'][/FONT][/quote]

[COLOR=Navy]Not being nervous is not a sign at all. There shouldn't be any special cases either. Having sex at fourteen is way to young. That's it. End of story. If you did have sex with her, and she got pregnant, then that would cause a lot of trauma on your part, and hers as well.

What if she got pregnant, had an abortion, then she will be really upset. She would feel like she murdered her baby, your baby. If she went through with the pregnancy, she would either adopt it out, or keep it. Two problems there as well. For one, some of her friends, may just move on...nobody really wants to bother with a girl with a screaming baby. The baby will have to go where ever she goes. Her social life would be a total mess.

If she adopted the baby out, she would feel sad. You may not think so, but...once a mother see her newborn baby, she falls instantly in love with it. Giving that baby up to adoptees would make her really depressed.

Now about your reactions. You may not do this, but it is a possibility. You may just forget about her when she gets pregnant because you are not ready to take the responsibilty to becaome a father and to help support her. That would also add some trauma to the situation.[/COLOR]

[Skye]

[color=orange][size=2][font=times new roman]o.o This thread is pointless. Obviously you all think that 14 is too young for sex. Try telling that to irrational teens who stopped being virgins at 8 years old. I know, that sounds creepy. Its not me, though. I?m 13, and still a virgin.

It isn?t my decision weather or not you do it. It?s just my opinion. There?s nothing I could do to stop you if I wanted to short of coming and shooting you. And I tell you: I am NOT doing that. Everyone, its called: experimentation. Not having sex even though your 19 (good gods, Solo!) may be comfortable for you, but no ones the same.

Really, people. I guess you all have good reasons. My personal opinion on the matter is that you should work it out. Its your problem. My parent?s support me, no matter what. Okay, so the first time I have sex they want me to be at home with protection so if something goes wrong I an get them. But they care. They are not going to stop me, even thought they might give me a very embarrassing lecture before hand, but if you are going to have sex this young, do it at home. Do it with protection. And [I]think[/I], god damnit!

^_^ My rant is over. (I just scared myself. I was about to start sounding like my mom.) As I said before: its your choice. But think about it.[/color][/font][/size]

[Box Hoy]

Okay TI. Understand that if you had sex now to this girl, who've you've been dating for 4 months now you'd be wasting you're first time on a girl you're unsure that you're going to love into your old days.
I know you're thinking that yopu'll be with her forever but give it another few weeks ad something's going to happen that will threaten you're relationship with her.

I don't know if you said you're going to keep this a secret but all I can say is that if so you're going to be in fear constantly of the day you're parents, her parents find out and that fear will drive you to break up with her.

[QUOTE]We've already been together for over four months, so it's definitely not some passing phase. I know you guys may also say I'm too young for love, and that I'm not really in love with her, I just think that I am due to hormones or something, but I am really in love with her and I know it. [/QUOTE]

If you do love her you won't take the risk of hurting her.

[Solo Tremaine]

[quote name='Delirium']Not having sex even though your 19 (good gods, Solo!)[/quote][color=#503f86]I never said it was through choice ^_~

But anyway, not being nervous about it doesn't necessarily mean you're ready at all. It just means you want it. And that can be a bad thing if you aren't ready to face the consequences that might come afterwards, or if you can't feel that your body's not ready for the experience. Not many people are as fully aware of what theire body is trying to do as they should be, so don't let yourself be dragged along by it. Especially if you could get yourself into trouble. Having sex at 14 is illegal anyway, and if you managed to get her pregnant, you could be held responsible. Like Delirium said though, it is your choice. But I wouldn't advise it personally.

Admittedly, it's not always as easy for a lot of men to go against desires of the groin. Once you pop, you can't stop, or something along those lines.

What sort of 'mutual agreement' do you have with her about it, anyway? If you asked her and she says 'yes', fair enough, but sex isn't a one-way thing. [i]She[/i] has to be ready as well, and you have to make sure that she's not just doing it to make sure you'll stay with her. I'm not suggesting that she would, but you have to be careful. It's one of the most serious parts of a relationship, and not something you can just brush off.[/color]