When's Too Young?

[Hevn]

[quote name='Solo Tremaine][color=#503f86']Once you pop, you can't stop, or something along those lines.[/color][/quote]
[COLOR=RoyalBlue][SIZE=1][B]Lol. Pringles. I applaud you, Solo, for being 19 and a virgin. You're one good model for teenagers.

Anyway, tell me. Why do you want to have sex with her? The only possible reason I can think of is because of your hormones. Don't tell me you wanna do it because you love her because, if you're mature enough like you said you are, you know it's crap. Why do you post that you're having sex? Is it for advice or you just want to brag or broadcast it to the world? If it is for advice then, please, read our posts and let it sink.

Notes:

- A 14 year old boy wants to have sex with a girl he's been dating for four months.

- He said he's really in love with her. Love is sacrifice. [strike]Love is wiping your baby's arse after it disgustingly pooped.[/strike] Love is respect. A guy has nothing to loose after a successful sex, a girl does.

- He said he hasn't been talking a lot about it to the girl. You should talk a lot about it with her. The mutual feeling should be clear. A girl could say yes because she's madly in love a guy. Believe me, guys have that stupid effect on us.

- 14 is definitely waaaay to young. And no, I'm sorry but there are no special cases for sex.

- You're asking for a sign. So you're not sure...or am I missing something?[/B][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Vash IDK]

The only reason why I would think you would post about something like this is because of what Hev'n said ^^^. You want to broadcast it, shich is exactly why I think you have a long ways to go before you should even be thinking about having sex. You really need to think about all of this.

But the more I read, the more I'm convinced that which each passing post with all the reasons why you [i]shouldn't,[/i] makes you want to go ahead and do it anyways. Take the advice from the many older ones here. We know what is best. Don't trust in your own feelings. Especially at age 14, they can betray you and make you choose the worst possible decision for the rest of your life.

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[quote name='TOTALIMMORTAL][FONT=Arial Black][SIZE=3][COLOR=DarkRed]We've already been together for over four months, so it's definitely not some passing phase.[/COLOR][/SIZE'][/FONT][/quote]

[color=darkviolet]Whoa, 4 whole months? When's the wedding? Sorry, I couldn't resist that. I've been married to my husband for almost 2 years and we've been together for almost 4 years. So in my opinion, anything less than a year is a passing thing.

I know that the going rate of a teenage virgin is getting lower by the day, but just because all your friends seem to be doing it doesn't mean you should. Hell, my best friend never even kissed a guy until she was 20 and then lost her virginity at 22. Of course, a year later she got pregnant sleeping with her now boyfriend for the first time. So maybe you should let that be a lesson that you can get pregnant on your first time. Or in your case, you can [i]get[/i] someone pregnant on your first time.

Yes, I know I said in my first reply that nobody can really tell you when you're ready to have sex just as long as you use protection, but that doesn't mean that you should go ahead and get it on just because you've hit puberty. You have to remember that for every action there is an equal reaction...kind of like physics. Besides, condoms break and oral contraceptives aren't 100% effective. Not to mention that if your girlfriend is the same age as you I doubt her parents are going to be all that thrilled to take her to Planned Parenthood for some Ortho-Tricycline. (Not that my mom was any more thrilled to do the same for me when I was 19).

Bottom line, you're fourteen you can't even get a part time job at your age let alone a decent paying full time job. Sex can cause babies, babies cost money. Babies also cause sleep deprivation and stress. You've only been in a relationship for 4 months and you think it's going to last for a while. Wait another five months and then think-do I still want to be with this person for another nine months. Or just wait two years, I think sixteen is near the going rate for viginity loss among boys.[/color]

[Redemption]

I agree with most of the others. 14 is too young to have sex. I'm 17, going on 18 and I had sex with my bf for the first time not long ago. Remember that there are so many implications of having sex. Like the others said, legal, physical and, especially, emotional. You may not realise it but having sex is probably one of the biggest decisions of your life. When you decide to have sex for the first time, you're giving that person something that you will never ever get back. I had sex with my bf because I know that I will stay with him for a very long time. We've been going out for a long time before we made that decision. And we made sure that no one would interrupt us.

Sex is something special that you give to your partner. Its not something to be extremely casual about, especially considering the consequences that could happen. Just make sure that your girlfriend is indeed ready. Discuss all possible consequences as they could happen. Make sure that you aren't pressuring her to do it. My bf did for a bit and I told him to back off and didn't talk to him for a couple of days even though he's in my group of friends.

Another thing is, would you stay with your gf if she became pregnant or she got HIV/AIDs or any STI which might mean that you could never have sex with her again?

Are you ready to take those risks?

[InuyashaLvr]

[B][COLOR=DarkRed]hey! i'm just writing to say... dude... you are WAY too young! see, I'm only 14 too, but I mean come on! Sure I know we're all gonna think about it sometime,but that's mainly because of our "sexual hormones" or whatever you wanna call 'em... but no offence or anything but right now you just sound like a horny little freak... sorry to say so..... well that's my opinion.... sorry if I offended anyone...


EDIT: P.S. by the way... i've been dating my b/f for about 2 months and we already know we're in love and we wish to save our virginity. and i know alot of ppl are going to disagree with me when I say in love, but I'm telling the truth. I really want to marry my b/f when I get older... wow... i sound like an idiot now.. well newho. dude, i went out with one guy for 3 years, and i wouldn't have sex with him. that's the only reason we're still not going out. so..again....you're too young, and believe me.. you're girlfriend needs to slap herself... she must be really stupid to wanna have a child at 15.. sheesh...[/COLOR][/B]

[Gelgoog Pilot]

[quote]Hey man, I just gotta disagree. First of all, I would never in a million years go out w/ a girl just for sex. Especially not Ally. (gf) We've already been together for over four months, so it's definitely not some passing phase.[/quote]

Alright dude...I NEVER said you would do this...I said it ahs happened, and don't be so sure, sex is a very dangerous thing. Once you experience it, BAM you're hooked in a way. How do I know...HA! I just experienced it like a couple days after my other post. *does the jig*.

Anyway, about your statement of four months not being a passing phase...I've been in three relationships in that area of time. Two were about 4 mounths as well...BOY were they permantent. The other lasted seven months, also not a 'lasting relationship'. Don't be so confident in the feeling that you'll be with her next month. I have a feeling she isn't so into the idia as you your self are. Give her some more talks REALLY get under skin as to her feelings about it.

Ah you know what...forget what I said...you're a 14 year old who is holding his member like it was a fishing pole...you won't listen to anything we say. You basically stated that in the post. I think for you the only way you'll understand it, is if you screw up your life. Go ahead and knock her up...I'm tired of being nice to people who are to young to think of the future.

[James P. Galvatron]

Man you are too young I'm 14 myself in the 10th grade I turn 15 August 18 which is 3 days Wooh Wooh Wooh Ohrah. I hear most people in my grade talking about having sex when they have only been dating the girls for 1 to 2 weeks and some kids in my second grade class lost their viginity in the second grade which is kinda weird. I myself am waiting as long as I possibly can which is real smart heres a question for you [SIZE=3][B]DO YOU REALLY WANT TO EITHER GET A STD, AIDS, HAVE A BABY, OR MAKE THE RELATION SHIP AKWARD FOR JUST 3 TO 6 MINUTES OF PLEASURE WHICH IS HOW LONG MOST YOUNG TEENS LAST.[/B][/SIZE]

I hope not or you are really screwed.

Sincerly,

Inuyasha7271

[Dan L]

In all fairness, the only reason a lot of 14 year olds think they're ready for sex is that they haven't the faintest idea what they think they're ready for- in terms of possible repercussions, that is. The mind is a very decieving thing, particularly when it's getting used to having hormones flooding through it.

[Roxie Faye]

[color=#9933ff]Am I the only person who thinks that 14 is [b]not[/b] too young to have sex? Yes, I must be, and here comes the wrath of every other OBer out there. *runs* But yes, that is my opinion. If he wants to, if she wants to, if they're ready, then why not. Of course, there are many, many, many, many things to be considered when it comes to being ready (including, but not limited to the following).

Do you know how to use a condom correctly so it doesn't break? Is she taking/ using a form of birth control, like the pill? Are you prepared to get an STD, give her an STD (if you're already had sex)? What if she gets pregnant? There are tons of repurcussions of that, which many people have already outline quiet sufficiently for you (and if you're wondering what those repurcussions were, you're not ready).

Not only that, there are so many emotional issues. Did you really talk to your girlfriend about this? Did you spend at [b]least[/b] a day talking to her about it? I don't know for guys, but for a girl, this [i]probably[/i] means a lot to her. Every girl is different, but she's, again, [i]probably[/i] thinking that it means that she thinks you're special, that she cares a lot about you, and that she's willing to give a part of herself to you. If you really love her, make sure she doesn't feel pressured or uncomfortable. Don't drop it after the first time she tells you that she wants to - girls are usually indirect about their feelings. Make sure she's really comfortable with the idea.

One of the best pieces of advice I can give you (after this annoying lecture - right?), is the following. Sit down with your girlfriend. Take a piece of paper, fold it in half length wise. Together, make a list of pros and cons about having sex, and if the pros outweight the cons enough (if they do I'll be surprised), then, and [b][i]only[/i][/b] then, consider having sex. When you're ready, when she's ready (really ready), go ahead.

[Thus endeth the rant from Roxanne. *___*][/color]

[Fall]

I agree with MistressRoxie.

It sounds as if everyone replying to TOTALIMMORTAL's topic is certain about him not being ready, and if he goes ahead with having sex, he's life is gonna come crashing down and hit him in the back of the head and leave him wishing he never even thought of it.

Of course, this can happen, and there's more of a chance it will happen than not, considering these "hormone levels" and ****. But after all this, do you still think you are ready, TI? If you feel you are, and your girlfriend is in the same situation, there's nothing stopping you. Though you and your girlfriend have to realise the consequences that can be landed.

I'm not going to list all the bad things and whatever, 'cause I was the same a year ago, and still you and me think alike. I'm relating to you like I know you as a best friend. I myself can say I didn't listen to my friends and advice being thrown at me, hardly any as it may have been, and I've had no consequences on me yet. Now I'm not saying "you follow me", 'cause I shouldn't be doin' it, neither should anyone else our age. But it's hard, I know, and feelings and **** can **** everything up. Been there.

Just don't let yourself get lead-on easily, and don't lead anyone else on just for the sake of it. If you's are both ready, and you's are sure of it, it's your's and your girlfriend's choice, not mine. [b]Or anyone else's.[/b]

Just take care in choice you and your gf make. Whatever your choice man, I'm behind ya.

[Skye]

[quote name='MistressRoxie][color=#9933ff]Am I the only person who thinks that 14 is [b]not[/b'] too young to have sex? Yes, I must be, and here comes the wrath of every other OBer out there. [/color][/quote]
[color=orange][size=2][font=times new roman]HEY!!!! *waves* What bout me?

SOrry, I guess I wasn't specific. I'm not against it (though by now I'm betting TOTALIMMORTAL is thruoughly embarrassed), I'm just saying be careful. Its your choice, and your life. If your not ready and you want to screw up the rest of your life go ahead; just think it over first. ^_^ If I get confuzzling tell me. Is it so hard to talk toyour parents about it and tell them [i]why[/i] you think what you do? (ANd don't say I'm sayng this because my parents are oh-so-nice, because sometimes my dad can be the scariest person I know). <_<---->_> >_< [<---- Has not had time to wake up yet, even though she's working on her third cup of coffee]

Steffanie OUT[/color][/font][/size]

[Kayin Cloud]

Alright...I'm not gonna go into some sort of rant...I'm 16 right now (the legal age), still a virgin, and I plan to be until I'm ready mentally, physically, and Financially. Cause if I do do 'it', it's gonna happen with someone I plan on staying with and taking care of. Of course they say 'men think about sex every 6 seconds' but it's usually worse for teenagers going through puberty. It's not like I don't have the thought of doin the do, but when I do, I find away to ignore it. I'm not gonna say anything about your relationship (being in love with her) considering I haven't been in a relationship irl. I have an example to look at who happens to be my 20yr old sister. she got pregnant when she was 16 and had the baby and kept it. We (my family) helped her take care of the baby and it was really tough on my sister. And she has had two more children since the first. I would not want to put any girl through that unless I know I'll be there for them the whole way through and can take care of things. Okay I lied...this is prolly what you'd call a rant...but if you really think you are ready, I'm not gonna stop you even if I could.

Take care and make the right choice,
~TJ