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I'm gay, i'll start this off now and let everyone know that. On with the problem now.


There are two guys i really like, one more than the other. Their names are Will and Shane. Fate has always ****** me over, once again, it ****** me over when they started going out. Will knows i really like him, but Shane doesn't know (at least to my knowledge) that i like Both of them. Will was the first person I ever opened up to, and admit i liked him. and I want to be close to Shane as well.


Another part to this is that another freind made some points very clear, and i am still trying to sort them out, i haven't slept in days.

It seems all i do is hurt people, without even trying...... And then i open my mouth, and make things even worse. I try to be positive, but I just hurt them more it seems, because I'm petending. But, when i am truely posivive, i feel alive again, becuase i am with them..... I guess I am taking everthing wrong. But, no one ever tries to cheer me up, either. No one ever let's me cry on their shoulder or puts their arm around me when i'm feeling blue. Does this mean that they are afraid to get to close to me? I want to be close to Will and Shane, and I won't deny that i want them in bed, though i want Will more as a very very close freind with very good benifits.

I'm hurting inside, and i want to make that pain go away. I want to tell Will and Shane everything. I don't know what to do.........When i am with Will... IO feel so alive again, like I'm waking up......
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Hey, don't think that you are the one making things difficult! For all we know, things have already taken a turn for the worse and you were the only one who noticed it. Doesn't it make you feel insightful?

Be positive when you feel positive and be downbeat if otherwise. Maybe if you stay true to your feelings, people will understand you more and will give you that coveted shoulder-to-cry-on! (A lovely example is this thread. See, someone posted!)

Tell Will and Shane whatever it is you want to tell them (except, of course, the part where you want them in bed :D). Whatever their replies may be, you'll feel much better after!

Hoom hmm... how uncharacteristic of me to give advice! Ah well.

Love and Peace! :love2:
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Alright, first of all, get some sleep. Sleep makes things so much clearer. Im sure you can still be friends with them, though Im not an expert on relationships...
If you lay back and let it take its course, I am sure you will find someone you really like other then them. I dont mean to say that you should just kill your feelings for them. Things have a way of working out in the end, even if it doesnt seem too clear in the beginning. ;)
Oh, and I also think that you really should tell them both how you feel.
Good luck!
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[quote name='Inuyasha Fandom']I am scared to tell them........if i do, it might damage my freindship with Will,and I value his freindship above all else........... I don't want to lose him.[/quote]

He'll understand if hes your true friend.

You know you love me.
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You have a right to be scared, but you shouldnt allow it to control you. Dont push it away, but dont embrace it either. Always keep fear at the tip of your sleeves. If he deserves to be your friend, he will understand, even if he doesnt feel the same way. But I can understand how you wouldnt want to lose someone you care about so deeply. Just make the jump. You'll be fine.
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I had this same problem during the summer, I met this guy named Derrik at the arcade and he was really cute and all. Both of us played Dance Dance Revoution together and he always came to the arcade (where I work), I really liked him and was scared to tell him. So one day I had to take a deep breath and tell him everything out of no where, though he didn't share those same feelings for me to have a relationship because he was straight and liked girls, he and I are the bestest of friends ever (and he know's I still love him ^.^). The bottome line is like everyone else said if they are your true friends they will not be offended that much by what you think of them, just tell them and get it over with. It may be hard to do but it is the only way you can get all that stress off your shoulders and make you feel better again.

~Hope things work out good for you~
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Maybe if you were to express your feelings with a etter of some sort like writing then if you are to scared or imbarassed to face Will and Shane face to face they will still get what you are trying to say... YOu know three ways are complicated and I'm not even sure if that is what you want... but in the end you should be OK as everyone else has been saying if Will is truely your friend he will accept anything... And not to be on the dark side of things but the worst that could happen is really rejection and I know it might hurt but there are always other fish in the sea.... :rolleyes:
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