Would you ever date someone that your best friend dated?

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]Why or why not?

Have you ever done it before?

And if you have done it before, how did it turn out?

As most of you probably know, I did date a guy that my best friend went out with. She never really thought of her and him as a couple though, so in her mind it doesn't count. But yes I have.

I only said yes to going out with him because my best friend was cool with it. To get right to the point, the first time she saw him she was liek 'He looks liek one of my brother's friends (her brotehr is four years younger than her) ' and when we dropped him off (afetr they had kissed) She said that she thought we'd make a cute couple (meaning me and the guy.

I don't know if I'd do it again I guess if the situation was simular I'd go for the guy again. But if it was some kind of serious relationship I don't think I would.

Oh, and as for how it turned out. She was my maid of honor at the wedding when I married said best friend's ex boyfriend. So for me it turned out pretty well. For them too. My best friend finally lost some of her shyness and the guy ended up with me :D.

So, everyone else, go ahead and reply.[/color]

[Magdalena]

[size=1]Yes, I would date someone my best friend dated because she wouldnt really care as to if I did or not, plus its just a guy, it shouldnt matter if I dated him or not.

As to if I have or havent.. I have, but its usually her dating my ex's, it was one of the worse relationships I've ever had because my bestfriend kept giving me advice on what to do with him and what he liked.. and well.. she had no idea as to what she was talking about, Lol.

Glad yours worked out though ^^[/size]

[future girl]

I would not. Not because I love my best friend or whatever crap, mostly because if he wasn't good enough for her I'd doubt I'd want to give it a go. My friends usually basically tell me everything and anything that's going on with their men and if I were to get into a relationship already knowing that you snore and have morning breath that smells like it's coming straight from the toilet and you don't notice when I cut my hair, well frankly why would I want to??? I like the mystery of meeting someone, falling for them, then finding out about all the annoying habits and being ok with it because he's yours. I'm selfish or something like it ::shrugs::

[Ezekiel]

[COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=1][FONT=Book Antiqua]Hm, I don't think I would.

I mean, she would have dumped him or he would have dumped her so something must have gone wrong in that sense. Friends (especially girls) are usually pretty similar and that's why they're friends, so the only thing her ex would go for would be the looks, eventually you'd probably just end up with the same result she did.

Another thing is that something like that might end up breaking up a friendship. For example, if my friend got dumped and then a week later I'm going out with her ex. Wouldn't it seem a tad suspicious even if there was nothing to it except us liking each other.

My friend would probably assume that I'd been flirting with him behind her back or visa-versa or that he dumped her because he though I was the better friend.

Of course none of this would ever happen, but that's beside the point.

So my basic answer if you can't make sense of the rest of my post (XD). No.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Delta]

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Most probably. I mean, it's just a date, right? Nothing serious about it. XD
It happened once and my friend didn't get jealous. Finally, someone to take that obnoxious jerk away from me, she said.

I ended up hating the guy rather than loving him.

Ah, well. Love and Peace! :love2:

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[Celia]

[font=tahoma][size=1][color=hotpink]No I wouldn't because since my best friend has dated that guy, and it didn't work out. Then the possibility of me and that guy as in a long term relationship wouldn't work out.

Hmm, not looking for a boyfriend at this age either. Even if my best friend said it's okay, I wouldn't do it either. And I think when they say it's alright, deep down, they might still have a teeny bits of feeling left. u.u[/color][/size][/font]

[Inari]

[COLOR=DarkSlateBlue]I would NEVER do that to a friend. I wouldn't risk loosing my best friend over some stupid guy. Some girls go through boyfriends monthly, even weekly, but still keep their best friends, which is very important. My friends are more important, because I need them to be there for me when I'm depressed after a break up, or when I?m happy and want to just hang out.

Last year this exact scenario came to my life. I had just had a relatively mutual break up with my boyfriend whom I dated for about six months. I had been hopping for a good relationship with my ex, but two weeks after our break up he went out with my best friend. At that point I had lost my best friend, and my boyfriend. I was completely crushed, and it really messed me up. I had no one who I could really talk to about my feelings, and so I had allot of nervous break downs.

Things between my ex-boyfriend and I are okay now, but I will never have my best friend back. I just had to go out and find someone else who could actually be there for me. We could never be as close again, and I have a really hard time pretending that everything is okay between us, even today after they have been together for eight months. I could never put anyone through all the **** I went through. It wasn't pretty, so I refuse do it.[/COLOR]

[Guest Midnight Rush]

If I felt like dating a chick, and I had the opportunity to do so, there would be nothing stopping it. If my best friend (God-forbid, he's a great guy) broke up with his girl Paige, and I wanted to date her... I would.

That won't happen, because Paige and I really..don't...click that well, but it was the best example I could think of. Shouldn't matter because the only girl on my mind is that hot Elle whatsherface from the game last night.

Good question though

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]it seems that most of you might, but the ones who wouldn't feel quite strongly about their discisions.

Like I said before, I wouldn't have gone through with it unless Becky was okay with it. They tried to give it a go twice because her mom saw the tattoos and black trench coat and thought 'bad influence on my daughter' so when Becky's mom said not to see him, Becky listened.

Now, unknown to Lincoln until recently, Becky kept tryijng to say that we'd make a good couple even when I tried to hook them up. Then Lincoln got it into his head that I interesting or something so he got my number from my ex who was kind of friends with him. So we started talking and then he asked me out. So I asked Becky and she was okay with it.

But you know why I really had to go out with Lincoln, then marry him? I was saving my best friend from the life of a military spouse.[/color]

[Gavin]

[SIZE=1]Hmm interesting.

Well I've only done it once to my knowledge, though I may have actually gone out with other girls who've dated my friends unbeknownst to me. Her name was Emma and she'd dated my friend Brian for a few weeks before they decided to call it a night on their relationship, to be honest I'd always liked Emma and I wasn't sure if it was right to make a move without asking Brian. In the end I did actually ask him and he said that he was fine with it as long as I was happy with going out with her, we went a few times but to be honest I preferred her as a friend rather than a girlfriend.

I wouldn't be against going out with a girl a friend of mine had been out with unless he had very strong objections to me doing so, I'm not in the habit of putting girls over my friends so to me it's a no fly zone unless I have authorisation. Still if you like the girl/guy and you friend thinks it's OK I can only say go for it, variety is the spice of life...[/SIZE]

[Orb]

I wouldnt because it just sort of seems like the guy's a like a guy who want to get with all these girls like a slut something and it would seem like you friend just already had him and now you have to be with some one who is no good. And it would just kind of be wierd between all three of the people

[Guest Sean]

Am going through something like this. Okay my mate Noodles was going out with his girlfriend for about a year, but she hated him. He treated her bad and he dragged her everywhere. They barely ever talked and that was it.

At this point she was a badger (don't ask), rumour spreading and annoying. Until she started hanging around with me and Matt and the likes. She turned out to be much better than the Badgers she hung around with before. And i took a liking to her.

Noodles and me sat besode each other in Music, Technological Studies and Art, it got confusing. He didn't know i like her, and i didn't know she liked me. This went on for a few months. I then told her i like her in that way, and found out she did the same, well cutting a long story short. After many weeks she finally left him, and at the beach the next day i asked her out (Me and Matts Beach Party).

A Week, One Week, 7 Days, Half of a Fortnight it lasted. All because she still liked Noodles. I went suicidal over 1 WEEK ! Yeah sad i know, but its turned out even better now.

1 or 2 weeks before the Summer Hols. ended, we were talking fine because way before that you should've seen the state of me, but we were talking fine. And i was going on about how i liked this other girl, perfect timing. Her reply was something like, "Oh thats great". Jealousy.

I then got told by her that she still liked me, and now whats it been 1 month on Friday we've been going out.

So all i can say is, if you do ask out a friends ex then make sure they've not been going out for a while. It will help the situation alot. Oh and happiness for Noodles aswell, he has a new g/f and he's been going out with her for about 10 weeks. Go Him. So us two are cool aswell.