Need a little help

[Rick Hunter]

Yeah granted I'm not really one of the most favorite people here....maybe this topic will get closed along with my account. Though for anyone that doesn't mind lending me their ears......well not literally though any support would be appreciated.

While I've been gone, I've been spending a lot of my time downtown taking up the game of Yugioh. Well eventually I met up with this girl named Vanessa (Blizzi) some of you have heard about her through myotaku account. The thing is I was getting close to her and strongly grew certain feelings for her.

However just as I was getting close to her she got invovled with this asian guy from out of the blue named Wei. And at that point I lost my chance I tried to tell her how I felt about her on various occassions....though everytime I did she either ignored me or danced around the subject.

Tonight kinda was like the final straw....today was her 18th birthday and I had bought her a gift and planned out calling her so I could make an appointment with her to pick it up. She blew me off on the telephone and told me to mail her the gift. Now knowing I don't have her address I tried to tell her via aim and plead to give me a chance to give her the gift.

In the end she brushed me off and said goodbye forever. I asked her one last time how she felt about me. And in the end Instead of saying whether she hated me or not she just muttered mutual and blocked me out. I really don't know what mutual is suppose to be.......though I do know my expensive gift cost ($500.00) went down the drain.

I'm feeling off depressed and needed a little support. Granted to those old people who know me from the past I'm not welcomed here though I'm asking for a small chance and morale support so I can get through this rough time. :(

[Brasil]

I'm simply going to number the points, as my attention span is quite low right now, and Windows is behaving badly. So, here we go. If I sound harsh, well...oh well, lol. I'm curt because I don't have the time to coat things in honey.

1) Blizzi sounds like she wants nothing to do with you at all.

2) She seems like she doesn't want to speak to you.

3) You got yourself in way, way too deep, as the feelings were and are not mutual. Your affection for Blizzi is unrequited. Say hi to Petrarch.

4) It doesn't sound like Blizzi was ever interested to begin with.

5) I don't know what kind of gift could cost 500 dollars, but I would never spend 500 dollars on a girl I don't even know. Yes, I've treated my girlfriend to a weekend down the shore at a nice Bed and Breakfast that did cost me around 550 to 600, but I knew what I was in, and I knew it was a secure relationship. Most importantly, I knew the love was mutual.

So, that's a major snag here. Spending large amounts of money on a girl that barely acknowledges your existence is setting yourself up for trouble.

CONCLUSION:

Basically...forget about her. Sounds cold, but I've been in similar situations in the past, years ago, and pursuing her is only going to hurt you, her, and everyone involved.

Kevin, I'd offer sympathy, but you've kind of painted yourself into a corner, which makes it incredibly hard to step out without getting your feet dirty.

Blizzi's gone. Accept it and move on.

I think that's the best advice you can hear. Just move on with your life.

[Rick Hunter]

There's a phone called Docomo it's a japanese cell phone that basically does everything. That's what cost $500.00 bucks because it's an import from Japan.

[Sara]

[SIZE=1]I pretty much have to agree with everything Alex just said here.

One-sided relationships aren't fun for either person involved. While I can understand that you've been hurt, you should also realize how alarming it can be when someone (you don't want to go out with) is obsessing over you. You've been posting about this girl on myO for the last nine months, and you've said it's over with her at least twice. As cold as it may sound, get over it.

Keep the phone and move on.[/size]

[Godelsensei]

[COLOR=Gray][FONT=Courier New]You have an expensive Japanese phone now. Brag about that; it's probably much cooler, anyway.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Gavin]

[size=1]I basically agree with everything Alex has said, I know it hurts, I've gone through the same situation before and it's going to hurt like hell for a while more but my only piece of consolation is that it will get better.

If you're really having a hard time getting over this girl then I'd advise you to possibly get some professional help, if you feel you're really in a dark place. As for the phone consider it a little reminder never to get taken around the bend like that again.[/size]

[Panda]

Everyone has given sound advice in this thread. It really does sound like it is time for you to move on. I agree with Kane that if you are having troubles moving on to seek professional help. It isn't healthy for you to continue dwelling on this one-sided relationship.

Time heals broken hearts. I wish you the best of luck and hope you can work through this difficult chapter in your life.