Princess_Keiko Posted October 3, 2004 Share Posted October 3, 2004 I have been wondering about this for a little while. Almost everyone falls in love at some point and then they get hurt. I always hear people say "I'll never love again" But they always do. If love hurts so much why do people continue to love? I mean are they just addicted to it? ( I just want some of your point of views on this,I am sorry if someone already had a thread like this one, sorry!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Solo Tremaine Posted October 3, 2004 Share Posted October 3, 2004 [COLOR=#503F86]Pain is only one of many different aspects of love. To say that love only hurts is silly, because if it's right then it brings a great mutual sense of euphoria for both people. There are times when everyone thinks 'I'll never fall in love again', and I've even thought it myself. But it's part of human instinct to want and need to be close to other people, specifically to one person in particular above all others. So it's only natural that people continue to find someone who they will always want to be with and that will always want to be with them. But as much as people are humans, humans are people. And people argue, get drunk, sleep with other people and all that jazz... if someone's prepared to do that to someone else then the chances are they're not really in love with anyone. Love does hurt, but for the right reasons. It hurts when you're not with the person that you love, or if the love isn't being requited as much as it should, if it feels wrong in some way, or if love has ended. It's a sign that something needs to be sorted out, as some kind of warning. But that doesn't mean that love is bad. It's just something to be very careful with, because it consumes so much of you that when it's not there, you will be hurt,[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorykoAngelcry Posted October 3, 2004 Share Posted October 3, 2004 [QUOTE=Princess_Keiko]I have been wondering about this for a little while. Almost everyone falls in love at some point and then they get hurt. I always hear people say "I'll never love again" But they always do. If love hurts so much why do people continue to love? I mean are they just addicted to it? ( I just want some of your point of views on this,I am sorry if someone already had a thread like this one, sorry!)[/QUOTE] [SIZE=1][COLOR=darkred]Well. . just to put in my own comments on this. . I don't think that love hurts. . contrary to the popular old song. .I think it's losing that love, or the means that you do, that is what really hurts. . Love is supposed to feal great. . I don't think I have ever been in love. . had many crushes, but don't think I have ever said 'I love you' to anyone, other then someone I really cared about (close female friends, sister, mother. . relatives. . ), but no girlfriend or anything. Perhaps I am afraid to make that big of a step in a relationship. . When I do say it, I want to mean it, not just the next progressive step in a relationship to keep the other's interest, or say what I believe she wants me to say. . I want the true feeling to be there. . But then again, I am still waiting for that feeling. . who knows! [/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hell'z_KiD Posted October 3, 2004 Share Posted October 3, 2004 I am not sure why I continue to love someone actually I have been hurt too many times to care anymore....but yeah I guess you could say I am addicted,heh... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muad'Dib Posted October 3, 2004 Share Posted October 3, 2004 [FONT=Palatino Linotype][COLOR=Navy]Well that's a silly question for two reasons... 1) Love is love. Once you feel love, it's impossible to forget. Anything less than love from then on doesn't feel right, or whole. It's the [i]need[/i] for love. Addicted? In a way I suppose. You could say love is one of those natural highs. Ah, here's a metaphor for you: Love is riding a roller coaster. It gives you a thrill (though roller coasters don't give you that feeling of being close to someone...) but a roller coaster can also be frightening, or painful. It has it's ups and downs. 2) It's human nature to desire something that feels good. And Love, [i]real[/i] love, is quite possibly the best feeling thing on the planet. And I would know... <3 ^_^[/COLOR][/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samus413 Posted October 3, 2004 Share Posted October 3, 2004 think of it as being hard wire idnto the human mind. you can't get rid of it with out actualy and litiraly cutting off part of yourself. Or if you had a lot of will power, but I doubt any one would have that much, not even me, and I said yay while someone choked me, don't ask. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Midnight Rush Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 This whole question is rather.... illogical. Love is. Period. Up or down, roses or knives, close or far, it is. Being hurt is just the downside, wait till you find your Ryoko Fujiwara (The name I gave the the idea of "the one"), and you'll be singing a different tune. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inari Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 [COLOR=DarkSlateBlue][quote name='Midnight Rush']This whole question is rather.... illogical.[/quote] Humans are illogical, and love is an illogical feeling. Love is like a rose, beautiful, but covered in thorns. All humans have a desire to give and receive love. Its part of what makes us human. Lots of people are afraid of love because it puts them in a vulnerable position. You have to trust that they wont hurt you. It's a leap of faith. Not everyone is mature enough to handle the commitment that love entails, and this is why many good relationships end. Saying that you will never love again is a natural response to being hurt by one you love. The fact is that if you are truly in love, then those feeling that you feel for someone don't just go away. These feelings can be transferred into hate, for both are strong emotions, but try not to do this. Whether you are loosing a boyfriend/girlfriend, a family member or even a close friend things do get better if you let them. Grieve for your lose, but do not become consumed by it. Love is always worth it.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Falkon Posted October 4, 2004 Share Posted October 4, 2004 You mean other than to just pass life on? (Just kidding) I think that people love so that they can have something to feel secure about in life. Personally, with my girlfriend, I feel that we can talk about anything and when I, or she, needs someone to talk to, they will always be there. It's a sense of social... security and confidence, I guess you could say. So, why continue to love? Again, to ahve that place in your heart where you fel that you're accepted, because, whether or not you recognize it, eveyone wants to be accepted. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chobit Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 This is a bit of a weird question... People always have to love.ALWAYS.Whether it is a person,place,thing,everyone loves something.It is impossible not to.So,really,there is no way to stop loving. You know you love me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Midnight Rush Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 [QUOTE=Inari][COLOR=DarkSlateBlue] Humans are illogical, and love is an illogical feeling. [/COLOR][/QUOTE] I wasn't referring to love or directly to humans. Only to the rather strange nature of this question. I suppose its just my overwhelming anti-anst kicking in... You are correct though, just clarifying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Princess_Keiko Posted October 8, 2004 Author Share Posted October 8, 2004 Well...Thank you all for your point of views on this.However, I don't think anyone could actually answer the questions of love. Love is just too confusing. oo' Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathBug Posted October 9, 2004 Share Posted October 9, 2004 [color=indigo][size=1][font=comic sans ms]Well, the idea of love itself (in all of its forms, not just romantic love), is pretty cut and dry: if you care about someone more than you care about yourself, that's love. As for why people fall in love even when they know it might hurt later, I suppose it'd be the same reason you invest in the stock market or go in for surgery: it might go horribly wrong, but the benefits far outweigh the risks if it goes right.[/color][/size][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James P. Galvatron Posted October 12, 2004 Share Posted October 12, 2004 As it concerns me I am not really the loving type and I don't really need love (romatically) at this Point I can live without it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baron Samedi Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 [size=1]To an extent, humans cannot consciously control their love. Our bodies betray us....hormones and other such chemicals actually cause us to fall in love [and hopefully stay in love] with someone. It doesn't matter if we think that we love them because of 'blah-blah-blah', because really we are just reasoning out chemical reactions. Thats why people continue to fall in love. Because they can't really control it.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epitome Posted October 13, 2004 Share Posted October 13, 2004 [quote name='Baron Samedi][size=1]To an extent, humans cannot consciously control their love. Our bodies betray us....hormones and other such chemicals actually cause us to fall in love [and hopefully stay in love'] with someone. It doesn't matter if we think that we love them because of 'blah-blah-blah', because really we are just reasoning out chemical reactions. Thats why people continue to fall in love. Because they can't really control it.[/size][/quote] [size=1]Bingo... Its not that we want to love again, its that our body makes us. Everyone has hormones, and when they hormones begin to develop you start becoming more and more interested in the opposite sex or same sex. Either way, your body needs "love" as like a medicine to keep going. But on a non biological note... I continue to love because I may not find the perfect woman, but I always know that my family will love me, as I will love them. Also the same goes with God...[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fyxe Posted October 14, 2004 Share Posted October 14, 2004 [size=1][color=darkblue]You cannot control certain feelings like that. You feel love when it comes upon you. Even if you think that you will never love again after being hurt, you are bond to love anyway. You can't control it, therefore you can't control when or if you will love again. Human emotions are confusing, deal with it.[/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Angel_fire Posted October 18, 2004 Share Posted October 18, 2004 Love is a complicated mystery that has ensnared the human mind for centuries. (I enjoy creative writing, so work with me...) Humans are naturally meant to love, to experience loss and pain. Some believe this to be a part of character building fundamentals. Why people continue to love is a something many will never know. Ok, now that I'm over that bit of poetry, (I'm a poet a heart) I can get to the point which is as follows. Basically, people continue to love simply because it is love that brings courage and hope to the otherwise hopeless, dark lives of human beings. It's an instinct to want to be close to someone dear. I myself suffered heartbreak just last year, yet I am back to thinking "why won't so-and-so just ask me out?" you know, the usual thoughts of the single... did I make any sense whatsoever? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo2 Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 Well I don't know what you say but. After I got dumped by my GirlFriend it was all downhill from there. I may still whistle at hot girls and stuff but I don't date anymore Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 [quote name='Halo2']I may still whistle at hot girls and stuff[/quote] Uh huh. [quote name='Halo2']but I don't date anymore.[/quote] Judging from your first quote, you probably don't have a lot of choice in the matter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Halo2 Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 Yea on my first date I got Slapped. Damb Luck I Have. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shugo54 Posted October 23, 2004 Share Posted October 23, 2004 i think that love is necessary in life. I have never really loved until recently before i feel in love i was a wreck i wanted everyone to die i wanted them to suffer as i had sufered for so long. Love changes people it gives them a warm feeling inside and when the person they love tells you they love you for the first time it feels so wonderful. but like its counter-part hate loving too much can be a bad thing when you love someone so much and dont want them to be with other people thats bad....you should let the person you love choose if you make them do choices they dont want to they will grow an inner hatred towars you. I am still seing my girl and we love each other i let her choose if she wanted to be with me or not. this was the first time i have ever felt Love it feels weird sometimes but it really pays off. i'm not talking about sexual intercourse i'm talking about the happiness the person you love gives you. well anyways love is necesary in life....other people may deny loving because they think they will never be loved (i was like that). never give up on yourself thats my advice to you all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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