PainfulLife Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 I have just recently found that I have a crush/ am in love with one of my best freinds... I really don't know how to tell him... I'm a girl and am actually using his account to post this because he isn't using it... I am really not sure how to aproach it like should I just tell him, write him a letter, ask him out, Or what? I am really desprate and feel I need to tell him soon... :love: :blush: :love2: :luv: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delta Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 [COLOR=DarkRed][SIZE=1] Ah, love. If I were you, I wouldn't tell him that I love him. "I love you." sounds awkward, crude and unromantic. [b]Show[/b] him that you love him. [u]Question 1[/u]: When could I tell him that I love him? [u]Answer 1[/u]: When he asks you if you do (in that case, you should answer "yes") [u]Question 2[/u]: Is this a tried-and-tested technique? [u]Answer 2[/u]: Yes. It worked for me. Love and Peace! :love2: [/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 [quote name='PainfulLife']I have a crush/ am in love[/quote] Yes, because they pretty much are the same thing. I suggest you forget about him. Love is expensive and not worth the time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Toorima Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 Quote: [QUOTE]I suggest you forget about him. Love is expensive and not worth the time.[/QUOTE] Don't you think that's a little pessimistic? Anyways, I understand how you feel, and I also agree with eternity. But if that doesn't work I have a way to work up a conversation can most of the time lead up to when you can say something about how you feel. It's worked for me many times, but I don't know about everyone else. Wait until a time when he's not laughing and smiling and say, "You look sad." I know it sounds cheesy, but believe me, it opens up a great conversation, and well...just trust me, it works. I'm a guy and it's worked on me. It kind of gives a person the sense that you care about them, and they can trust you with things. Believe me, it works. Good Luck! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sean Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 [SIZE=1][COLOR=SlateGray]OK whatever you do, don't get drunk when your going to do it, big no-no. But i'll tell you what i did, oh and am a guy by the way, haha. Ok, i went over to her house because we were having a few people over, so during the time i was making pizza i approached her, we had a really long hug and i said "Ok...erm..." thats good though, it shows them that your that nervous, its good to be nervous, becuase nervousness shows you care, well thats what i think. Then i went onto say, how much i really liked her, the pizza was about to start burning, lol. So finally said "So do you wanna, like, maybe try it (again)" - Yeh we went out once before, but that wasn't meant to be. But now it'll be 2 months this Friday, so it worked for me. Hope it goes ok with you[/COLOR] --Sean[/SIZE] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Muad'Dib Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 [QUOTE=Reise][SIZE=1][COLOR=SlateGray] But now it'll be 2 months this Friday, so it worked for me. Hope it goes ok with you[/COLOR][/SIZE][/QUOTE] [COLOR=DarkOliveGreen][FONT=Palatino Linotype][CENTER]Congradulations! Really, I'm not being sarcastic. That's touching. So far, all the suggestions have been good, except for wrist cutter(remind me to hunt wrist cutter down). Well, how long have you known him? Because if it's, say, several years that you've known him, it would be different advice from knowing him a few months. Anyway, wait for a time when you're both alone. You know, a nice quiet place. Or semi-quiet at least. Try to ask him out, but don't just blurt out "Do you wanna go out??" Lead up to it ex:"We've known each other a long time you know..." If you're successful with this, go on a few dates with him, or be around him more often than usual. When you feel you're [i]really[/i] close to him, ask him if you can talk for a minute. Confess your feelings then. After that, I guess you're on your own. I really do hope it works out for you ^_^[/COLOR][/FONT][/CENTER] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 [QUOTE=Toorima]Quote: Don't you think that's a little pessimistic? [/QUOTE][size=1]Wrist cutter? Pessimistic? What? Whatever you end up doing, if you're the sort of person who tends to get embarassed about things long after the fact, I would advise against writing him a note. You'll probably feel awkward either way, but if you put it in writing, it lasts longer. ^_~[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chobit Posted October 5, 2004 Share Posted October 5, 2004 [QUOTE=wrist cutter] I suggest you forget about him. Love is expensive and not worth the time.[/QUOTE] Meh,don't worry about him,hes always like that(you know I love you Wristty). All I can say is,go for it.I'm about to tell a person I like them too(Yes,the Sex God,for those of you who read that post)and I'm really excited. Even if he turns me down,it might hurt,but there are plenty of other fish in the city. Oh,ewwww,I hate fish. You know you love me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PainfulLife Posted October 5, 2004 Author Share Posted October 5, 2004 Thank you all who have suggested those things so far I really appreciate it and hope it works...(I wish I could get alone time with him...) I sadly will have to wait till this friday so I wil either be rakeing up all my courage or I will be worrying... I have known my friend since I was in 7th grade and he was in 8th so we have known each other for about 3-4 years and I have become so used to just being his friend... yet someone just woke me up and seemed to slap me in the face and tell me you like him stupid! (I guess it's part of growing up...) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Inari Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 [COLOR=DarkSlateBlue]Wow, what's with all of the love threads? Homecoming or something? Well here's my advice: First: Don't tell him you love him just yet. If he's not ready to hear it, this could ruin any hopes of a relationship. It puts him in an awkward position of "do I say I love you back, even if I don't mean it?" That's never good. Second: Try just asking him out, and dating him for a while. You both can become much closer, and if it's meant to be great, but if not you can still be friends. If you still feel the same way about him after going out for a while (A couple of weeks or more) then you should tell him how you really feel. Third: Love is a very powerful word. It should only be used if you truly mean it. [quote name='PainfulLife'] I have a crush/ am in love [/quote] Having a crush or an infatuation is very different from love. Incredibly different. I know that you might be in love, but you don't want to say "the L word" unless you truly mean it. It entails a lot of commitment and it opens you up to the possibility of being hurt. Sorry if I sound harsh here, it just really pisses me off when people say they love people without truly meaning it. Love is supposed to be a special thing, and I hope you have truly found it.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ScirosDarkblade Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 Yes, avoid the word "love," especially if realistically the relationship is unlikely to last for too long. ...Well, no, that depends. In MY situation, the word "love" is best avoided because I KNOW it's gonna be over in at most a few months, and the relationship is otherwise... "involved." But if you use it the word very casually right off the bat, it might not mean all that much (as long as you're both clear on it). I'm rambling here... My suggestion? Just ask him out. Go for it. If he says no, ask him again in a bit. Be a tad bit persistent, because sometimes he/she will say "no" but it won't really be a permanent "no" and in your nervous state you won't be able to tell (trust me on this!). So yes, be persistent! And it does work. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sean Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 [SIZE=1][COLOR=SlateGray]Meh, my girlfrined doesn't want commitment, she told me that 1 year was way too long, (side note: she went out with a guy for a year). Adn i said why, and she answered one word: commitment. So i kinda broke down after that, even though i love her with all my heart, this relationship will be over in meh, 6 or so months, maybe sooner if Gary keeps hasseling her, telling her he wants out with her whilst i'm away for a week. *sigh* Oh well, it doesn't matter, Love is Love. The best feeling to have, the worst feeling to lose.[/COLOR][/SIZE] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lavalamp Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 To show the guy in my life that I loved him, I bought myself a poodle. To tell someone you love them, just copy an Alicia Keys' video or something. Chasing people isn't sexy at all, though. You should bring your assets to the table, play hard-to-get for however long it takes for you to catch your bass, and then just flat out tell him you love him after you realize you two aren't compatible whatsoever. And you're pathetic, Reise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 You're not in love. You have a school girl crush. Maybe you should look up the word love before you go proclamining your false love to some unsuspecting person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Albel the Wicked Posted October 6, 2004 Share Posted October 6, 2004 Hey don't feel embarassed, I felt the same way about a friend of mine that was a girl. (Hint: that means I'm a guy) Well, I didn't really know that I truelly loved this girl, until I relized that I couldn't stop thinking about her. I was more upfront about it in MY approach. Since we both had the beauty of MSN messenger :) I could tell her. It is SO much easier saying on messenger, since you shouldn't be nervous, since you don't hear their voice or they're not with their other friends. I sent her anime greeting from the Otaku. Those love and dating ones. I would send her a lot of them. In fact *runs off to send Love anime greeting* But those are the choices on if you have internet. I'd say, for you, the best thing to do, would probably to just you know, see if he would go to a movie. Then, like get ever closer to him, as you two go along. HOPEFULLY, he starts to really like you as well. I think that he will, since friends first, turn out to be one of the best realtionships. Well, I got to leave. This has been one of the many uses of Captain Jack Sparrow. I am asker-questioner, an RPG taker and creator, a thinker, AND a pocket knife. For the low low price of making me a banner, you could get this entire collection, PLUS, attomatic making into his RPGs, FOR FREE. How can make this deal any better? I CAN'T! So, PM now, for this once in a life time offer. Whoa! This would be a really cool/ funny signiture. In fact *runs off and changes this to signiture* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Japan Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 [COLOR=Navy]Keep your feelings to yourself. You don't love him and you'll end up forgetting about him in a couple of weeks anyhow.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PainfulLife Posted October 7, 2004 Author Share Posted October 7, 2004 [quote name='Japan_86][COLOR=Navy']Keep your feelings to yourself. You don't love him and you'll end up forgetting about him in a couple of weeks anyhow.[/COLOR][/quote] How could you say that! I've known him as a friend for a long time now! I find all of your advice pretty helpful but some is just plain mean... I really wish love wasn't so complicated... A school girl crush, infatuation, or whatevre you want to call it I really don't care as long as he knows that I at least have those feelings for him... I find it unfair to just forget or not do anything because what if it is meant to be? Maybe not right now but later when we are older! *_* I really don't know what to do with some of you people... :angry2: :twitch: :nono: :nope: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lavalamp Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 [QUOTE=PainfulLife]How could you say that! I've known him as a friend for a long time now! I find all of your advice pretty helpful but some is just plain mean... I really wish love wasn't so complicated... A school girl crush, infatuation, or whatevre you want to call it I really don't care as long as he knows that I at least have those feelings for him... I find it unfair to just forget or not do anything because what if it is meant to be? Maybe not right now but later when we are older! *_* I really don't know what to do with some of you people... :angry2: :twitch: :nono: :nope:[/QUOTE] I know how it feels, but if it was truly meant to be, would you have to ask for advice on a message board on how to program your crush into accepting you? If you really are into him, just ask him to do something with you one night. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Japan Posted October 7, 2004 Share Posted October 7, 2004 [QUOTE=PainfulLife]How could you say that! I've known him as a friend for a long time now! I find all of your advice pretty helpful but some is just plain mean... I really wish love wasn't so complicated... A school girl crush, infatuation, or whatevre you want to call it I really don't care as long as he knows that I at least have those feelings for him... I find it unfair to just forget or not do anything because what if it is meant to be? Maybe not right now but later when we are older! *_* I really don't know what to do with some of you people... :angry2: :twitch: :nono: :nope:[/QUOTE] [COLOR=Navy]It is called being 18 and having experience. Every time I thought that I liked a guy, or had a crush on a guy...whom I've known and are my friends...I told them.... I either lost my friendship with them, or they teased me. I'm just saving you some trouble. You can't say love because...look at it this way. Do you truly believe and feel that you'll be with the guy the rest of your life, and that he'll feel the same about you. Also, there is a major chance that he'd just see you as a friend and nothing else even if you don't scare him off. Seeing you as more than a friend would have the guy feel weird. [B]Don't go looking for love, have it find you![/B] Don't do anything about it. Just continue to be the best friend you ever can be to the guy. If it turns out to blossom to something more, then it will come. If not, just be a good friend. If you tell him how you feel now, then there is a major chance that you'll scare him off and ruin any chance of being with this guy...or continue being his friend. That, depends on how mature he is. I'm just saying that for your own good. Whether you take my advice or not is up to you. [/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PainfulLife Posted October 7, 2004 Author Share Posted October 7, 2004 I am very apreciative for all of you who have put in your veiws and have worked out what I am going to do.... So thank you all who helped me and well thanks just all of you for responding... I really apreciated it and have really learned more than I even may now for right now.... I have now requested for this thread to be locked by Panda so don't be mad because this thread has no more real use here and to all of you nice hearing your imput on the subject! :love: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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