Guest Mana Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 well, my girlfriend is a ... kind of a ...slut... and I need advice. She's 14, and listens to 50 Cent. She is bisexual, and she has other boyfriends/girlfriends. I think she wants to do me. Anyone have advice for me? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [COLOR=Indigo]Uh... Well first question: Does being bisexual make someone a slut? Since when does what someone listens to make them a slut? Man things have changed since I was fourteen...wait that was two years ago. If she's such a slut, why did you go out with her? Thats my whole issue, and if she's a slut and that bothers you dump her. She's fourteen, I'll assume you in the range of 14-16. You have time to find someone else. She has other boyfriends/girlfriends? Yet you're still dating her? Isn't that cheating? I think the only true advice you need is to either how to stand up for yourself more effectively (no offense), or who to pick as a girlfriend. No offense ment in that I'm just saying, pick someone that fits with your personality, not just any slut. [/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Purple Haze Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 First beat the other boyfrind/girlfriends ***,then dump her. Find a nice good lookin non bisexual slut that won't sleep everyone in the school. Or you could stay with her and get played and look like a fool when she kisses another man right in front of you. .And what's wrong with listening to 50 cent? You got somethin against rap or somethin. The best thing is to just get rid of her.You never know she might have a STD......j/k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissWem Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [QUOTE=Lalaith Ril][COLOR=Indigo]Man things have changed since I was fourteen...wait that was two years ago. [/COLOR][/QUOTE] [COLOR=DarkRed]XD I was just thinking that myself. Seriously, she seems happy and fulfilled doing what she does, so why don't you go out and get yourself a couple of new girl friends and have a go at getting a few boy friends too. That way you both have a future together since all your needs are fulfilled even if by other people!! 0_0 Excuse me for my apparent rudeness, but doesn't this at all strike you as being one of those made for tv soap opera stories which a lot of people like to laugh at because of how silly the situation is? No, okay, maybe it's just me :laugh: [/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dragon Warrior Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Definately. Many of my friends at school are bisexual. Bisexual is a good thing and even if you don't mean for it to be a trait of a slut, you probably shouldn't write like it is. And she has other boyfriends and girlfriends? Why are you still with her if you know that? Why is anyone with her? God, it reminds me of that girl on Eurotrip. "Scotty Doesn't Know!" ;) Oh, and if she does date other people unison to you, then she really isn't "your girl." My advice, Master Milz, is you think if she's really actually the type you want to date and if not, dump her. Simple. She has many other boyfriends/girlfriends so you dumping her most likely won't effect her. And if it does, all the better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zeta Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Wow, just wow. That is one of the strangest things I have ever heard. She has other boyfriends and girlfriends. What is the point in staying with her? A relationship(on terms of dating I am talking about) is a one on one thing, not a one on four thing, lol. Personally, I wouldn't even have to ask the question of if I should stay with her or not. No point in staying with someone who has other guys/girls in a relationship. Pointless situation if you ask me. Dump her and get it over with, lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaos Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 My advice? Use a rubber. That or find some other girl to mess around with. Don't need to worry if that little dot is a cold sore or the gift that keeps on giving; just find some ***** that doesn't do the hotfoot hop-around with everybody with hands. Sidenote: What's wrong with ole boi Fifty? Does listening to rap automatically make a you Menace II Society [I love that movie, by the way.]? Eh, you just give me a bad vibe, kiddo. Whine whine, she likes other people, whine whine, I have problems, whine whine, blame minorities, whine whine. Since when do I bother with relationship threads? Don't mind me at all, folks. Just passing through... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mana Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 RRRRRRR... you don't get it I love her, that's why. And what makes her a slut is everyone says he is, I am not sure, that's why i wanna find out myslef. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [quote name='MysticKnight']well, my girlfriend is a ... kind of a ...slut... and I need advice. She's 14, and listens to 50 Cent. She is bisexual, and she has other boyfriends/girlfriends. I think she wants to do me. Anyone have advice for me?[/quote][size=1]This is one of the most bizarre posts I have ever seen. First of all, "slut" is an extremely derogatory term. I personally would not use it to describe anyone in passing, much less someone I considered a girlfriend (as applicable.) Secondly, any relationship involving a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" implies a certain amount of exclusivity. The idea that someone would have multiple boyfriends or girlfriends at a time (your post implies at least six people being involved in this bizarre relationship polygon, although I'm seriously hoping I read that wrong) is silly to me. Either you're giving this relationship far more weight than it actually has, or...well, that's pretty much it, actually. [b]You're giving this relationship far more weight than it actually has.[/b] [soap box]Fourteen year olds shouldn't be having sex anyway.[/soap box] I don't know anything about music, so maybe I'm missing something...but does her listening to 50 Cent have anything to to with, well...anything? You think she wants to do you. *wince* Another tender display of affection for your girl. Disregarding the soap box comment, this is all you can say about the matter? You [i]think[/i] she wants to "do you"? Ideally, this is a topic you might, you know, actually [i]communicate[/i] about. I mean, for goodness sake, it has to at least come up in conversation. You think she's a slut. You're not the only person she is currently involved with. You're not sure, but you [i]think[/i] she wants to "do you." And she's fourteen years old. Why would you even [i]consider[/i] this? Why are you still[i] going out[/i] with her? Even if you have strong feelings for her (and if you do, it's [i]really[/i] not coming through, buddy), it's clear that she doesn't feel the same way about you. [edit]Okay, you posted while I was posting. So with the scant new information we have, here's some more from me: Okay, you at least profess to love her now. That's something. For crying out loud, though--talk to her. If you have a question, [i]ask her[/i]. Calling her a slut behind her back because "everyone says she is" is horrible. How are you intending to "find out for yourself"? Why are you asking for advice here without having [i]talked[/i] to this girl you love so much? Am I going crazy, or is this maybe a good thing to do? Look, don't have sex with her. She's fourteen. There's no way either of you are capable of handling the possible repercussions, as unlikely as they may be, and as many precautions you can take, it's not worth it. [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaos Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Word to the wise; ph33r the soap box. Really though, I have to ask one thing; how old are you, pal? If you're as old or older than I am, which I doubt by your common "angst" errors, then you first of all shouldn't be going with a fourteen year old girl. If you're as old as her or younger, you shouldn't think you're in love. Just because she works your crank doesn't mean you're in love. I hate kids that do that. That "Yes, I'm only eleven, but I LOVE HER!" ****. Pisses me off. You can't claim to be in love without facing a couple of decades or so of trials and tribulations. In order to love you have to know what it is to fail. Because, by moral connection, love is what brings people above the **** world we're in. I, in no way, claim to know what love is or how it is obtained, but short of you being a middleaged dude going through a mid-life crisis, you shouldn't worry to much about what your balls think about this girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baron Samedi Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [size=1]What is this, fail-to-read-correctly week? He never says "Hey, she's one of them bisexual sluts" Or "my girlfriend is a slutty bisexual". He says that she is a slut, and later mentions that she is bisexual. It's English, everyone! Now, my advice for you. If you don't want to be 'done' then dump her. If you want to be 'done' but don't wanna feel like some tag-along shadow, dump her. If you want someone better than that, dump her. If you want to get 'done' and don't care about what she does, don't dump her. Easy enough.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest lavalamp Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 I think the fact that she does listen to 50 Cent holds a great deal of weight. By telling us this, he's telling us that shooting her is obviously out of the picture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
S9per Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Yikes dude! 14, wants to do it, and slut are terms that don't really go well together... And if she's got other boyfriends/girlfriends, then she's not really your girl at all. If it were me, I'd stay away from a situation like that and slow the hell down, but then again, I'm not really in that situation, nor do I think I have ever been. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poo62.2 Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Yikes indeed! Well she is not as slutty as this girl in my class called annie, she is 12 and already she has had sex with a boy and a girl, and rumor says that she is pregenent! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mage_Rikku Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [QUOTE=MysticKnight]RRRRRRR... you don't get it I love her, that's why. And what makes her a slut is everyone says he is, I am not sure, that's why i wanna find out myslef.[/QUOTE] If you love her and you REALLY care about her (which I don't see why,I mean sluts aren't meant to be girlfriends) Anyways, why can't you just go talk to her yourself? And ask her if she's really doing what people said she's doing.Besides that she is your gf...don't you know her at all? Well that actually depends on how long you 2 have been dating. Okay here's the easy thing to do. Go talk to her if she's a slut..Then dump her..But if she isn't a slut and people are just saying that and YOU believe it...Then work on trusting each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Mana Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Thank you all for your "criticism." Only like one of you is normal, and that is Baron Samedi. You guys should grow up to be critics, seriously. You take like everything too seriously. Only Baron gave me good advice. LOL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mage_Rikku Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Well that's good for you, and I don't appreciate you calling me not normal or anyone else, you should really consider that for yourself, at least I am not the person asking for relationship advice. Oh yeah,another thing the topic doesn't work with the thread, She's not your girl...She's EVERYONE'S girl XD! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sui Generis Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [quote name='MysticKnight']Thank you all for your "criticism." Only like one of you is normal, and that is Baron Samedi. You guys should grow up to be critics, seriously. You take like everything too seriously. Only Baron gave me good advice. LOL.[/quote] [COLOR=Indigo]Atleast with how you presented the situation how are we supposed to give you good advice? Did you mentioned that you "loved" her? No. Did you mention that she was a slut? Yes.... Did you mention she wanted to "do you"? Yes.... (As people have said, first off: "Do you?" If you cared for her, wouldn't you use maybe a more gratifying and passionate term than "do you" and second off: You're 14. What are you a freshmen at best? All most of us our saying is you're young, you don't need this crap, frankly I think its too young for you to be "doing" anyone, or for a girl to be "Doing" anyone as well. Theres too many responsibilities that you won't be able to fess up to if something goes wrong. Of course according to you, we need to grow up? Frankly the fact is, if someone takes time out of their day to even think about giving you advice you should thank them, even if you don't agree with it. Second off; don't ask for advice when your mind is already set on certain advice, then you're just trying to get someone to back you up, not actually help you. Grow up[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezekiel Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [quote name='Lalaith Ril][COLOR=Indigo']Grow up[/COLOR][/quote] [COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=1]Exactly. I've been reading through this thread and I think the advice given has been really good, but you obviously think otherwise. You obviously don't love her, one, you're too young to know what love is and two if you did then you wouldn't have called her a slut to start off with...regardless of the situation. Besides, if she's able to get in with people at this age, more power to her, she'll just end up regretting it when she's older, so don't let yourself fall into that trap.[/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Skye Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [QUOTE=Crucifix][COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=1]Exactly. I've been reading through this thread and I think the advice given has been really good, but you obviously think otherwise. You obviously don't love her, one, you're too young to know what love is and two if you did then you wouldn't have called her a slut to start off with...regardless of the situation. Besides, if she's able to get in with people at this age, more power to her, she'll just end up regretting it when she's older, so don't let yourself fall into that trap.[/SIZE][/COLOR][/QUOTE] [size=1][font=veranda][color=indigo]*sigh* Despite myself being bisexual, and having multiple gfs/bfs who all get along just fine(grr), I have to agree with Jamie. I am pretty sure you wouldn't go around calling someone you loved a slut - label or no label. Sorry, Jer, but if you can't handle what other people think, or her sexual preferances, then - point blank, you shouldn't be going out with her. Rant over.[/size][/font][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [QUOTE=poo62.2]Yikes indeed! Well she is not as slutty as this girl in my class called annie, she is 12 and already she has had sex with a boy and a girl, and rumor says that she is pregenent![/QUOTE][size=1]Rumors make someone neither a slut, nor pregnant. They're harsh, unkind, and often extremely hurtful--whether they're true or not has nothing to do with whether they should be passed around. They shouldn't. "If you cared for her, wouldn't you use maybe a more gratifying and passionate term than "do you"?" Thank you, Bryan. I couldn't think of a way to word that thought properly. [quote name='MysticKnight']Thank you all for your "criticism." Only like one of you is normal, and that is Baron Samedi. You guys should grow up to be critics, seriously. You take like everything too seriously. Only Baron gave me good advice. LOL.[/quote] I think that's a bit exclusive as to what "good advice" is, don't you? For goodness sake, [i]Chaos[/i] gave you good advice in his first post. If you don't pay attention to [i]any other post offered[/i], at least listen to him. I gave you advice, and listed my reasons, as based on your first and second posts. Honestly, that's all anyone can do here, buddy. [b]You're asking for relationship advice on an anime message board.[/b] And I have to admit that's it's something of a time-honored tradtion here, but there are some glaring limitations to the help anyone can offer. All we have to go on is what you give us, and what you've given us here has given people the [i]overwhelming[/i] impression that breaking up with--or at least, not "doing"--this girl is the best thing you can do in the situation. There may be more to the situation--and judging by the fact you consider her your girlfriend, I believe (or at least, I hope) there is. But none of us is aware of it, so whether or not there is another facet to this little drama, you cannot expect us to take it into account while giving you advice. [/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zeta Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 Look at it this way. You are with a girl who has other boyfriends/girlfriends. That my friend is not normal. You asked for advice and we gave it. The best advice given was for you to dump her if she has other boyfriends/girlfriends. What is the point in staying with her then? Obviously if she has other, she doesn't feel the same way about you, heh. You my friend are the one who isn't normal. Never heard of a guy going out with a girl who has other boyfriends/girlfriends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epitome Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [quote name='MysticKnight']Thank you all for your "criticism." Only like one of you is normal, and that is Baron Samedi. You guys should grow up to be critics, seriously. You take like everything too seriously. Only Baron gave me good advice. LOL.[/quote] [size=1]You can't critique someones criticsm's(sp?), it just cant be done. When YOU asked for the advice, people gave you THEIR advice, and no advice is bad advice. People were giving you advice based on what you presented, and personally Lalaith Ril is definatley right, you do need to grow up. If your going to make an advice thread, then dont say there is bad advice... [EDIT]: I mainly only looked at the 1st post and some of the second... I then saw Choas' and Lore a.k.a Saras post. Both Chaos and Lore gave you EXCELLENT advice... and I agree with you Chaos, rap doesnt make someone a slut or bisexual. Also for my advice, tell her off, embarass her, and get the hell out of the relationship...[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [quote name='MysticKnight']well, my girlfriend is a ... kind of a ...slut... and I need advice. She's 14, and listens to 50 Cent. She is bisexual, and she has other boyfriends/girlfriends. I think she wants to do me. Anyone have advice for me?[/quote] [color=darkviolet]Okay is she a slut because everyone says she';s a slut or is she a slut because she's a girl and sleeps with more than one person or is she a slut because she listens to 50 cent? Or is she a slut because you think that since everyone says she's a slut that suddenly everyone is right or is she a slut because...damn it I ran out of reasons! Would you still consider her to be a slut if she were a guy and sleeping around or is it okay to sleep around if you're a guy? All I've got to say is for the love of teenage love affairs you're only 14. It's not like you two were engaged or anything. You weren't were you? Because I do know in some states all you need is parental consent to marry. She's obviously happy doing what she's doing and isn't letting some stupid rumors get to her. If you can't deal with someone with more experiance than you then maybe you should just walk away from the whole situation and that way you'll save yourself pain, humiliation and a ten year dependancy on Prozac. And just curious, how bad is your relationship that you're worried about sleeping withher? Just say no! But man, things have sure changed since I was 14 a mere 9 years ago :faint:[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 I've read through this thread and I wasn't going to reply but I'm wondering something here. Is being bisexual a new fad? I find it hard to believe that people already discovered themselves as "bisexual" already when they're 20 or younger. So I'm going out on a limb here and assuming the person claiming this is doing it because she thinks she's cool like that. Now when I was growing up in the homophobic 90's this would immediately label people as evil lesbians and to be avoided or something like that. I never participated in that because I was too busy with my own problems (not really, just didn't care) but when did this "bisexual = cool" thing occur? As for the original poster, your girlfriend is a slut. If she has multiple boy friends and girlfriends, that makes her a slut. I mean really I don't know why so many people are freaking out over you calling her a slut. She is one. Dump her. Or have sex with her, either one is good. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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