James Posted October 10, 2004 Share Posted October 10, 2004 [color=#707875]As far as I know, MysticKnight doesn't even truly know if this girl is sleeping around or going out with other people. It seems to me that he's simply listening to heresay or whatever. I tend to agree with Sara. "Slut" is a highly derogatory word in and of itself, but coming online and basically complaining that your girlfriend is a slut -- behind her back -- definitely doesn't show respect or love for her. My recommendation is simply to confront her and find out what's going on. If she's going out with other people (male or female, it's irrelevant) then you have to decide if you find that acceptable. Remember, you're only going to be treated like you allow yourself to be treated. If you make it clear that cheating is unacceptable, then you have the power to end the relationship. Chances are, if she actually is cheating, then she will either continue to do so, or she'll try it again at some point. And if that's the case, you have to decide whether or not you are willing to put up with it. In addition, I do tend to agree that you shouldn't be worried about sex at 14. And you definitely shouldn't be worrying about a girl who is potentially sleeping around on you or something. At the very least, you need to find out what's going on once and for all. I think it's better to be direct about it, rather than slandering her on the 'net.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Midnight Rush Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 My entire...perplexion with this whole thing is the fact that he calls her "my" girl. Dude, listen to me: If she is doing other guys (and at this point I am assuming you aren't swingers), she IS NOT your girl. I hate to point that out, but from what I can gather out of this, you love her, and she loves your dick... Go to your local mall and find a new girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ChibiHorsewoman Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 [quote name='Midnight Rush']Go to your local mall and find a new girl.[/quote] [color=darkviolet]And while you're there picking up a new girl could you pick me up a few new manga as well? I need to get ARIA and Priest. It's kind of amazing for me to say this, but for once in his life, Midnight Rush is right. *waits patiently for the sky to come crashing down*[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pinewoodpine Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 You really need to 'work out' with this thing. If you care for her and love her, try to 'change' her then. The fact that she's 14 meant that she might be a bit wild and if you really don't like her attitude and all, please dump her and find yourself a new girl friend. Bisexual is not a... bad thing actually (I got a couple at my class, and both are girls. They're happy and don't have sex though. They say it's bad for their health(?)), but having more than 1 or more boy and girl friends are a bad thing. Remember that. Added this: Please be reminded that having an 'every-one's girlfriend' is even worse... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the running man Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 dude you should talk to your girlfriend's girlfriends and other boyfriends and see if they knew if she was like that... do they even know if they're being played by her. but if they did and their down with it maybe you should try to for a while too... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chobit Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 [quote name='MysticKnight']well, my girlfriend is a ... kind of a ...slut... and I need advice. She's 14, and listens to 50 Cent. She is bisexual, and she has other boyfriends/girlfriends. I think she wants to do me. Anyone have advice for me?[/quote] This is the stupidest post I have ever seen. a)Being bisexual is not slutty in either way. b)Is 50 Cent suddenly a music listened to by every whore on the planet(er,actually I have no clue,I've never heard one of his songs) c)She wants to do you?Ok,well go out and either do it or don't. Now dump her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezekiel Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 [QUOTE=Midnight Rush]My entire...perplexion with this whole thing is the fact that he calls her "my" girl. Dude, listen to me: If she is doing other guys (and at this point I am assuming you aren't swingers), she IS NOT your girl. I hate to point that out, but from what I can gather out of this, you love her, and she loves your dick... Go to your local mall and find a new girl.[/QUOTE] [COLOR=DarkSlateBlue][SIZE=1]Dear God, Chibi, I agree.....Midnight Rush has totally summed it up in what could only be described as one of the most honest and brutal ways possible. Hopefully that point gets through to him, someone who cheats is not worth it, so find someone else to lay your claim to and hope it stays that way.[/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baron Samedi Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 [size=1]Holy hell people. Once again I must re-iterate my point, is this fail-to-read-correctly week? He never once in any way, shape or form implies that being bisexual is a sluttish trait, nor that 50 Cent listeners are sluts. [i]Never[/i]. If you take the time to read the actual words, you'd find that to be so. Obviously, unless you're just in it for sex [which at 14, ya really shouldn't be], the fact that she may have multiple partners [or at the least is very flirtatious] is obviously a bad thing, and you should dump her. It comes down to what values you have and what kind of treatment you can live with.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jim_Hawking Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 Look, my opinion really dosen't matter, but if she "claims to be a bisexual," "has many other boy/girlfriends," and you call her a slut...I don't think you're really looking at all the facts. A) She's 14, that's way too young to declare yourself anything. B) Has the thought, "Maybe the boyfriends are just friends who happen to be boys," crossed your mind? If not, you're a bit too suspicious of her. C) What does the kind of music she listen to have anything to do with anything? D) You're calling her a slut with no obvious evidence, just because she has other boy friends (note spacing) doesn't mean ****. E) You "think she wants to me", wrong. At 14, you should have other things on your mind. Sex can wait, trust me I've been waiting 18 years. I don't know, but if you actually have these thoughts in your head, maybe you should just try talking to her. Explain your thoughts and feelings, and go from there. If you break up, you break up. There are others out there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James P. Galvatron Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 I find this thing strange and wonder why no moderator has closed this thread yet it should not be allowed to go on any longer just a waste of space. Dude im 15 I mean I was 14 just 2 months ago I turned 15 August 18, 2004 and I have never heard anything like you just said that is totally freakish not that she is bisexual or listen to 50 cent but that she "may" be dating other boys and girls and whats to have sex with you not Do you grow up young man. I mean if she wants to have sex with you then if she is dating other boys and girls I am not saying she is cause you most likely have no proof and are going by rumours and your own intution and boys have none what so ever I know, but if she is doing this dump her I mean if she has sex with these so called other bf's and gf's by you having sex with her you are putting yourself at risk. I am not saying you should practice abstinence or anything but you should have sex with someone who you can trust and won't talk about behind their back and what makes it more shameful online telling other people on a site asking their advice for something so trivial and personal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chobit Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 [QUOTE=Baron Samedi][size=1]Holy hell people. Once again I must re-iterate my point, is this fail-to-read-correctly week? He never once in any way, shape or form implies that being bisexual is a sluttish trait, nor that 50 Cent listeners are sluts. [i]Never[/i]. If you take the time to read the actual words, you'd find that to be so. Obviously, unless you're just in it for sex [which at 14, ya really shouldn't be], the fact that she may have multiple partners [or at the least is very flirtatious] is obviously a bad thing, and you should dump her. It comes down to what values you have and what kind of treatment you can live with.[/size][/QUOTE] But why does he mention that then? :confused: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted October 11, 2004 Share Posted October 11, 2004 [quote name='chobit']But why does he mention that then? :confused:[/quote] [color=#707875]Exactly. He's implying that all of these things relate to her being a slut. lol Geeze Louise ~_^ Anyway, I agree with the member who posted before you...time for a closure. I hope that Mystic Knight is able to make use of some of the advice in this thread.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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