When is Life Horrible?

[PainfulLife]

... I wasn't really sure on posting this and if there is already somethingout there like this I apologize... I really wanted to know some other people's veiws on their life maybe and why it seemed horrible and maybe how you recovered... I'm going through a hard spot in my life I guess and no offence but knowing other people suffer out there and not just me makes me feel so not alone... *_* So if I don't sound totally stupid I would really appreciate it if you would post your veiws good or bad.... :(

[Guest ScirosDarkblade]

Just remember, Batman has it worse than anybody out there. The man was orphaned at 9, and has spent all of his life since then waging a neverending war, day-in, day-out. I'm not sure if he ever sleeps, eats, or takes a crap. Ever. He must hate himself plenty, all things considered. Not to mention that he's actually lost a Robin to the Joker in the 1980s. That was a huge bummer for him.

My point is basically that never ever taking a crap would be hard on anyone, so I could totally understand Batman being super-grumpy.

I'm not sure if that's what you needed to hear, but I'm glad I was there to say it anyhow.

[aoi`]

[COLOR=Indigo]well i don't know if this is horrible but for me it's sort of horrible. hmm... I'm an only child well as far as I know, i had a sister but she died after she was born and my mom had a tumor in her uterus so when it was removed, her ovaries were also removed. so basically, she can't have babies anymore. for the past 21 years of my life I know that I was my mom and dad's only child. they called me "unica iha" which means "only daughter". my dad always tells me that he wants to have a baby boy because it would fullfil his life. i didn't mind him coz i know that he really loves my mom. my mom is working abroad and they haven't seen each other for 5 years now. my dad tells me that i have a little brother and always ask what would i do if i see my half brother. I didn't mind him because i know that he was only teasing me. I always tell him tht i would only believe him if I see the boy. then three weeks ago when we were at the mall, a girl carrying three year old boy approached us. then the boy said "Daddy!" I was shocked. I was speechless.

At first I thought that my dad was playing tricks on me. then i saw the boy's eyes, it was like mine, and his eyebrows were like mine too. i got them from my dad. i took a look at both of them. the boy was like the replica of my dad. mixed emotions filled me. i wanted to shout. i wanted to leave. but i can't. I've wondered what would my mom say. for three years my dad have lied to us. he had betrayed my mom! i was really mad at him. that's the most horrible time of my life. until now my mom still don't know about it. and i haven't told her that because i know that i don't have the authority of telling her. if there's someone who has the right of telling her is my dad. it took me a week for that event to sink in to me and now.

I'm not that mad anymore with my dad. maybe a little. well i'm not mad at my not so brother but sometimes i get jealous because i think my dad is paying more attention to him. well i don't blame him coz he's only 3 years old and I have accepted him as my not so or should I say half bro. well, i'm just hoping that this horrible event won't cause too much trouble when my mom gets home and knows all about it. coz if they decided to split up, i'll definitely go with my mom.

well I don't think if my experience helped but [B]ScirosDarkblade[/B] is right, there are so many horrible things that happen to everyones life you just hve to know how to deal with it. [/COLOR]

[Drix D'Zanth]

[QUOTE=ScirosDarkblade]Just remember, Batman has it worse than anybody out there. The man was orphaned at 9, and has spent all of his life since then waging a neverending war, day-in, day-out. I'm not sure if he ever sleeps, eats, or takes a crap. Ever. He must hate himself plenty, all things considered. Not to mention that he's actually lost a Robin to the Joker in the 1980s. That was a huge bummer for him.

My point is basically that never ever taking a crap would be hard on anyone, so I could totally understand Batman being super-grumpy.

I'm not sure if that's what you needed to hear, but I'm glad I was there to say it anyhow.[/QUOTE]

Don't forget the sexual tension of a house made up of about 3 virile males (you know Alfred is a closet Marvin Gaye). Last I checked, Batman doesn't really .... get any. Poor guy. Little site note to that, the '60's TV show actually created the Aunt Mary-something (I don't remember her name) because of the sexual message that was feared to be intepreted from an older male, middle aged male, and young male living in the same house. *shrug* I could've cared less as a kid watching this show, I just wanted to see the fighting and gadgets .. -_- Not only that, Adam West is the greatest epitomy of man since Gregory Peck. ;)

[PainfulLife]

*sigh* why has this thread all of a sudden turne into a batman one!? *pulling hair out* I guess I asked for it....

[Fyxe]

[size=1][color=darkblue]Life can be great, and it can suck. You just have to understand that everything happens for a reason and that no one's life is perfect. Everyone goes through a few, even a lot of hard times in their lives. Let's just say this, every dicision you will make will more than likely have a bitter-sweet result. Soemthing may go bad, but sooner or later a good thing will occur from that. And if a good thing happens, more than likely a bad thing may occur from that sooner or later as well. Picture this, life is just a never ending roller coaster, you just have to strap yourself in and get carried through the ride.
So, I find my life nutral. It's good. It's bad. It's life.

I don't know if that helps anything, it's just my viewing of things.[/color][/size]

[Marron347]

Look, you're definitely not the only one who has a hard life. I mean, I don't know what you're going through right now, but I know that everybody goes through hard times, some more than others. Sometimes bad things happen to people, and I understand why you want to hear about other people's problems, and that you just want to know that you're not alone. I'm telling you, you're not.

There's a lot going on around here too that would normally make a person crazy or depressed or something.(I'd tell you about it but I don't feel like causing a bunch of contoversy.) The point is, I just deal with it by trying not to care, and by focusing on other things.

Another thing that helped me, though was knowing that I wasn't alone, and even more, knowing that other people had it way worse than I do. I found this out by going to a prayer conference thing one weekend. I'd never been to one of these before, and when I went to it I didn't think I was really going to get anything out of it, but I went anyway because the other youth at my chruch wanted me to go.

Anyway, when I was there we had these get-togethers where people got up and gave their testimonies. There was this one girl who had to take care of her little brother and protect him from the time she was about six years old because she and him got kidnapped by their long lost father who turned out to be a pediphile.

There was another girl who's parents didn't love her and she started stealing stuff to get their attention. She couldn't stop stealing, then. Her mother left her I think, too, so it was just her and her dad. Then her dad started molesting her and stuff, so she always has to run away to get away from him.

There were more, too. They were really sad to listen too, but they gave me strength. Especially at the parts where each of them said that they started talking to God about their problems instead of trying to run away from them or get around them on their own. After they did this, things gradually started to get better. They said they were glad to know that they had a real Father who they could talk to anytime and he would always listen and he would always give them the strength to make it through hard situations. I talk to God about my problems too, and he always comes through for me. I've found that as long as I have faith in him, everythingturns out okay.

[Guest cowboy]

If you learn to not care about certain things, you will find yourself in a smoother mood. It's taken me 4 years to learn how, it's worth it though. No doubt.

think clear thoughts

cowboy

[Pumpkin]

[FONT=Verdana][SIZE=1] Hey, keep your chin up, things always get better in the end. Just think that, and it will make you feel a whole lot better. Everyone goes through hard times, sometimes for a long period of times. But in the end everything will be ok. As for the batman thing...you feel sorry for batman? Hah..I mean look at Robin..he was always in batman's shadow and furthermore is only played as a hormonal teenager on Teen Titans wearing skimpy green tights. Can anyone say Peter Pan look alike. Not exactly a fashion statement. [/FONT][/SIZE]

[PainfulLife]

(blinks) *sigh* I'm glad everyone is saying stuff... and it really has helped a bit... yet I still find myself falling.... I don't really know what to think what to do... so I don't I don't think I don't do anything... I am a shell right now... sounds silly don't it? Well my next question to you all is how do you get revenge?

[James P. Galvatron]

Wasn't the Second Robin the one who died the first Robin left Batman and Batgirl didn't he the First Batman became Raven or something like that wasn't he.

[Marron347]

I don't get revenge. Revenge is for the Lord. You would do well to keep that the last thing on your priority list.

Forgiveness will give you more relief than revenge.

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]You know who has is worse than Batman? People in those daytime Soap Operas that's who. They're always losing their memories or dying of some strange disease or getting shot at. Or aomeone's kid falls off a horse and breaks her arm and now they're about to get sued. I sure wouldn't want to be one of them.


At some point and time in our lives it's inevitable that it will indeed suck. Sometimes someone's life will suck more than yours or will suck less. The point is that you have to learn to take the good with the bad because with out the bad stuff in your life you can't appreciate the good.[/color]

[Soliel]

[COLOR=GREEN]Alright, why did some of you people start talking about Batman, of all things? I think PaifulLife was asking for real experiences with pain, not the experiences of a fictional character. Okay, I just had to say that before I continue.

So you wanted to know about painful experiences. Well, heres one for you. Probibly one of the most prominant ones in my life was when my parents first got divorced. I could hardly believe they were doing this, and I couldn't figure out why. I guess I really didn't take to change all that well, because the thing that scared me the most was the fact that everything would be different. This was also the first time I got really depressed, or at least had a reason to be. I guess the best way to deal with situations like this is to look at the positives. For instance, in my situation, I get twice as many Christmas presents and I got an older brother whose actually pretty cool. So yeah, that's what I have to say.[/COLOR]

[PainfulLife]

[quote name='ssjSolarPrinces][COLOR=GREEN']Alright, why did some of you people start talking about Batman, of all things? I think PaifulLife was asking for real experiences with pain, not the experiences of a fictional character. Okay, I just had to say that before I continue.[/COLOR][/quote]

Thank you very much for pointing that out... yeah I hear all of yuand such... yet I am not all that sure... i can't figure out my problem I would tellyou what happened but I'm kind of embarresed so i will have to leave that out I'm sorry if I seem vauge...

Please I still need help in dealing with REAL life you know where all the pain and drama is real.... I just don't know what to do with myself nowadays....
:(

[Adahn]

Everyone always talks about some other force driving whether they feel bad or good. They say, "things will get better eventually" or "you should talk to God about it, you'll feel better." First of all, things won't get better until you let them get better. You can't just expect good things to come to you and take your pain away. When you talk to God, you're really only talking to yourself, because He's inside you, not far off in a distant Heaven. Essentially, the truth and the answers you seek are all inside yourself. Those who separate themselves from everything that matters to them and embrace monotony are ripping their hearts out of their chest. You will find yourself with some choices. You can wait for the wound to heal, you can remove whatever is wounded, or you can try to understand why it hurts. Everyone has their problems, and they can either blacken your soul or make you stronger. Take care of what you can control, and leave nothing to fate, because fate is out to screw you. It's easier to find good things in life if you look for them.

If it helps you to hear people's problems, then I guess you can hear mine. When I was a kid, I was very unpopular and made fun of constantly. This went on for 10 or so years, and now my perspective on life is that everyone who meets me and doesn't know me very well hates me. I can trust a select few people, but everyone else talks about me behind my back and has a very unfavorable disposition towards me. I can sit here and tell you that it may not be true, but as far as living is concerned, I have as much faith in that as I do anything else. It doesn't really bother me, though. It's like losing an arm. You will miss it, especially when you need it, but on a day to day basis, it doesn't really bother you.

Nobody here can make you feel better, you have to do that by yourself, within yourself.

[Shugo54]

I used to feel like you. i never had a GF (until now) i hated everyone,i didn't have a social life, my dad is 80, my mom is a psychopath (i threatened her with a knife once), i wanted to kill everyone including myself, everyone hated me and made fun of me and they didn't want to talk to me. but somehow i overcame all that **** and found love i actually found out that love was what i needed to get myself out of the darkness. I am not evil anymore(well sometimes) at least someone loves me and that is all i needed to overcome all my problems. well you didn't state your problem so i dont know how i can help you. i hope my life story helped you ^_^

[wrist cutter]

[quote name='Shugo54']i hated everyone,i didn't have a social life, my dad is 80, my mom is a psychopath (i threatened her with a knife once), i wanted to kill everyone including myself, everyone hated me and made fun of me and they didn't want to talk to me. but somehow i overcame all that **** and found love i actually found out that love was what i needed to get myself out of the darkness.[/quote]

Are you living in a soap opera or something?

[Shugo54]

[quote name='wrist cutter']Are you living in a soap opera or something?[/quote]
maybe i am but why should you care. it is my life i dont need people critisizing it. that is why i was always angry at the world...because of people like you critisizing others about their problems.well i really dont care what you think.it is my life and i should keep it in control.

[wrist cutter]

[quote name='Shugo54']it is my life and i should keep it in control.[/quote]

You don't seem to be doing a very good job of it. You just about killed your mother before you "fell in love". I'd hate to think what you would do when the relationship ends.

[Shugo54]

[quote name='wrist cutter']You don't seem to be doing a very good job of it. You just about killed your mother before you "fell in love". I'd hate to think what you would do when the relationship ends.[/quote]
yes i know i cant control my life.....but at least even for a few moments i feel like i have control over my life. even though i wouldn't know if i could control it but for right now i have control of it. no matter if its only for a day or 40 years at least i have control of it at least for one day.thats all that matters right now.

[chobit]

Er,my life is not...especially painful.I'm like spoiled princess biatch extrodinair.But anyways,when my life does seem horrible,I just talk it over with my friends,and its all good.I'm sorry for all the people that have many problems.Good luck with that.

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]the important thing to remember is that no matter how crappy your life is there is always someone who has it much worse.

Just read your local paper or watch CNN or some other news show. Or you could watch Jerry Springer and tell yourself that at least your mom didn't sleep with your boyfriend and your dad isn't on National TV wearing women's underwear.[/color]

[Soliel]

[QUOTE=ChibiHorsewoman][color=darkviolet]the important thing to remember is that no matter how crappy your life is there is always someone who has it much worse.

Just read your local paper or watch CNN or some other news show. Or you could watch Jerry Springer and tell yourself that at least your mom didn't sleep with your boyfriend and your dad isn't on National TV wearing women's underwear.[/color][/QUOTE]
[COLOR=GREEN]ChibiHorsewoman makes a good point. You really shouldn't get too bogged down in your own sorrows, doing that only causes you to forget the things that really matter, but I can personally relate to where you're coming from with all of this; myself spending the majority of high school in a depressive state (whoever said that high school is suposed to be the happiest years of your life, was crazy because it absoluty is not true) :(

Anyways, another thing you can do to help get your mind off your pain is to distract yourself with things you enjoy. For example, I really like listening to music, so every time I got really sad or angry (or both), I would go in my room, pop in one of my favorite CDs and crank up the volume. Mind you, this theropy would normally piss off my parents, but I was usually mad at them to begin with so I guess there was a bit of a revenge factor to this :devil: [/COLOR]

[PainfulLife]

*sigh* Ok people I guess I really was still asking for that... but still I can think of worse things than my Dad on national telly or my mom going off and cheating on my dad.... I really could think of worse.... Ok so ... well... I reallly don't feel I should post this to everyone but I feel I am brave enough to face you all now... Ok so you all listen really good... I was raped Ok guys that's my bigo secret and thing I'm stressing over I feel horrible Ok Now you all know.... I have no I dea why I'm telling you all but i guess I feel the need to be I dunno slaped or something I wouldn't mind bashing or anything I really don't not anymore... I should have just come out with it in the beggining ok... so there you all go.... Please just respond and stuff if you wan't to I am posting this because I'm ready... ready for the worlds veiw of myself.... so give it your best shot people!!!!!!!!!!