kissing help

[Moi]

Alright, there's this girl that I like who likes me, so we always flirt a lot at the bus stop and stuff. But now we're at the point where I wanna make out with her and stuff, but I'm not too experienced at kissing and hickies and stuff, so I need advice on that stuff. Just tell me like how to french good and how to give good hickies, lol. I'm serious though, I do really need advice. I really love her, and I don't want her to think I suck at kissing, even if it doesn't matter that much, I want the best advice possible. And how do you give a real hickie, do you have to suck on their neck for a long time or just a second. I need info. Thanks. :smirk:

[Guest ArtloverB]

How old r u? Thats so funny, now I know how guys learn how to kiss!! Sorry can't help you though :babble: good luck :p

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[Moi]

Alright, stop with the criticism. I need advice, not criticism. If I wanted freakin critisicm I'd go talk to a teacher or something. Now can someone really help me out?
And I'm in high school, that's all I can say.

[Sui Generis]

[color=indigo] Well I gotta say this is an interesting post. Granted I haven't seen one of these around. Hm oh well...

It really depends on the person, just be adaptable.

I mean some girls love tongue, some girls hate it. Some girls love hickies some girls think its disgusting.

You should pretty much nonchalantly find this information out. I mean its the best way, you should be comfortable about talking about doing something before you actually do it.

Anyways hickies wise. Don't suck her neck off, be sensual about things.

Thats the whole key, don't think about what you're doing. Just let go and do it. Be sexual, be sensual, be yourself.

I don't know what to tell you, its kinda hard to tell people how to kiss, its more of a showing type of deal. ^_^

Good luck mate.[/color]

[Falkon]

Yeha I have to agree with that last post. When I first started kissing, I felt like I was in the same s**t you are. Then, I just told myself to pull it together and kissed my gf on the lips. Again, agreeing with Lalaith, its not something you can be "taught," its just something that comes naturally.

Of course, one peice of advice I can give you, that I have learned over the... um... past couple months-- close your eyes. It realy helps. Close them at the same time you touch lips. If you close em too soon, you risk "missing" and getting a bad kiss, if you do it too late, the girl thinks youre not serious and/or definitely dont know how to kiss, or that you dont have passion.

[Drix D'Zanth]

Don't worry moi. Seems like ArtloverB's post quality will be netting him a short stay on OB.

I love kissing, and I'm pretty sure anyone who has kissed for a good period of time will agree that it can easily pass hours; happily kissing away. As Lailath mentioned, a lot depends on the person you kiss. Kissing the same girl for a few months, and kissing a new girl can sometimes re-arrange the way you kiss, or your habits. There's no sure way to figure out what you like, it's mostly up to the two of you to decide. Hopefully you are comfortable enough to tell eachother when something isn't pleasent without hurt feelings.

A few ways to knock off the surefire bad kisses:
-Keep your breath fresh.. mints, gum (take it out before kissing), citrus fruit, mouthwash, maybe a quick swig of water could mean night and day... bad breath and nasty mouth is a real turn off.

-If it's your first kiss.. keep it soft and lips only. I'd say this to be on the safe side. If the other person starts slipping toungue, great!

-If the kiss involves toungue, don't jam it down his/her throat. I reccomend pressing it.. (i guess massaging kinda) his/her toungue, lips...

-Breathe through your nose, and take little breaks every once and a while.

-Swallow.. I know.. some of the spit is his/hers. If you're going this far, there's no going back. The worst possible scenario is you sending globs of spit into the other person's mouth. Slobber is probably the 2nd most devastating aspect to a bad kiss behind breath.

-Open your eyes. Thank me later. Sure, the first kiss eyes-closed is nice.. but looking into someone elses eyes is far more intimate.

-Kiss the body/neck/etc. Keep those hands moving somewhere... caress the neck, something. Move slowly, but vary what you do. This'll be hard early on, and keeping it to kissing only is perfectly fine; just.. spark it up a while.

-Bad kissers can be turned into Good kissers!!! Just be honest, tell the person you'd like to see if they could kiss a certain way for you. I asked my last girlfriend if she'd ever been kissed (she hadn't), so I helped her learn how to kiss. Now she's a better kisser than I am!

-Don't freak out about the first kiss. Concern yourself with the tenth kiss.. or the third time you make-out, or something of that nature. Kissing only gets better the more you do it.

[chobit]

Hickies are so...ewww.If your parents see them,they give you the speech on abstinence.

You can't really be taught to kiss.You just sort of learn.Even if you make a "mistake" your partner will probably just laugh kindly.

If your lucky,your girlfriend may be more experienced then you,so you'll just learn along the way.

[Guest lavalamp]

[quote name='Drix D'Zanth']-Open your eyes. Thank me later. Sure, the first kiss eyes-closed is nice.. but looking into someone elses eyes is far more intimate.[/quote]

That can't be stressed enough. To me, it's not sexy at all if eyes are closed. It ends up feeling like an expo in some Drew Barrymore movie.

My advice is just to not think too much about it before doing it. There is no [i]correct[/i] way to kiss someone, or technique which can be learned from a group of anime fans online who likely will never kiss anything but their parents.

Just take control.

[James]

[color=#667F84]Kissing is a natural talent, I think. The main thing is, try not to eat her face off the first time you kiss her.

Be reserved, gentle and respectful. And then let things go from there.

You'll be fine, don't worry. I had no advice on kissing and when I first did it, it came completely naturally; it wasn't even a thought in my mind. It just [i]happened[/i].

If you put too much thought into it, you are going to be too unfocused, I think. I think the best advice would be "just do it".

All the other stuff just comes down to personal taste (except for having bad breath, but bad breath is always a huge no-no, whether you are kissing or sitting next to someone on the train).[/color]

[DeathBug]

If you really, really wanna' impress someone before you kiss them, here's what you do:

Suck on ice cubs for several hours prior to the smooch, so that your tongue is practically frozen. Then, rub olive oil on your lips.

Your partner will love it; I guarentee.

[Guest Sean]

[SIZE=1][COLOR=SlateGray]Ok when i looked at this i seen that you [B]WEREN'T[/B] actually dating/going/hanging with her, basically you were not attached together with a relationship. So before you even think about a kiss, why don't you think about asking her out on a date or something.

Subtle ofcourse, maybe to the cinema, park, something like that. Then when you think the time is right, ask her for the 'clichéd', to go study. Haha, sorry. I ask my girlfriend (3 Months baby!) out at her house when we were making pizza for a party we were having.

But before you rush into walking up to her and kissing her on the lips, then you should think about a relationship. Me and my girlfriend never 'frenched' till maybe a week of actually going out together.

Maybe you should start small with a peck on the cheek to tell her your feelings, hope that she doesn't knee you somewhere sore. And if she blushes then yay, lol.

Good luck with it though, and i wish you a great relationship.

P.S. You said you loved her and didn't want her thinking you were a lousy kisser. Well if she loved you back she wouldn't care that much, she would love you all the same.[/COLOR][/SIZE]

[Brasil]

Drix said pretty much everything I'd say, except the part about eyes open. Now, I'm not sure how this girl feels about it, but I'd actually advise against the eyes open thing. I'd agree that the potential to have a positive eyes open kiss is there, but I think the potential for it to turn out to be a negative or awkward experience is a tad stronger. I'd say just play it safe and do the romantic "sweeping-her-into-your-arms-and-firmly-but-gently-placing-your-lips-on-hers-in-a-sweet-eyes-closed-kiss" thing. That was a lot of dashes, heh. Sorry about that one, lol.

But yes. Further down the line, try the eyes open, but getting weirded out on a first kiss is never good.

[MaineOtakuNo2]

I didn't bother to read most of the other posts but I have to put in my two cents. I'm in High School too (Sophemore), so I thought I'd know more than some of the adults. Yet before I do help you I have to tell the females out there that its a lot better for the guy if u make the move first. O.k. so your at the bus stop right, not the best place to randomly kiss her. Make your way to a movie, or if parents will allow it in a bedroom. I have to express that making sure she's comfortable is a must. Start kissing her cheek or if ur cuddling the top of her head. Over time (not months, maybe even in the same day) move your way to her mouth. It'll help her feel secure with you if you don't just barge in. When you do end up frenching her don't have a mouthful of spit, I screwed up there my first kiss. Most of the time you will have to make the first move so just play with her tongue/lips and such. It's nothing complicated especially if it's her first also. As time moves on be more daring. By the way I have all this information because my 3 best friends are all female... I am a lucky man ;) ;) .

[Inari]

[COLOR=DarkSlateBlue]Drix basically outlined this pretty well for you, so I'll be brief:

To initiate the kiss I would suggest putting your hand behind their head and pulling them close to you before the kiss. This helps your aim (missing her lips is never good, but don't freak, just adjust your position) and this also helps to warn her that your going to kiss her.

I would suggest eyes closed first, and after that I think it's a preference thing.

As far as hickies go... I'm not much of a fan for these... Just giving little kisses on her neck or blowing in her ears can do wonders. I personally would get too board while my boyfriend was giving me a hicky... But I think it depends on the person.

Last just be open with her about this. Don't be afraid to ask her what she did and did not like, as well as tell her when she is doing something undesirable. Communications skills are the basis of any strong relationship.[/COLOR]

[Hevn]

[COLOR=RoyalBlue][SIZE=1][B]Lol. This is a funny thread. Think ice cube and olive oil on your first kiss, or maybe blowing on a girl's ear. I don't think that's good.

I personally would go for lava lamp and James' advice along with Siren's kind of kiss and ignore the rest. Except maybe the part about the fresh breath. I'd say just go with the flow and in time, you'll just learn how to do it. I think some girls, especially experienced ones, wil know if a guy's following certain steps as to how to kiss because the kiss will turn out, like or not, fake.

And before touching or doing anything, don't be afraid to ask, if you need to, for permission. Just whatever you do, don't open your eyes while kissing. It's really rude to stare. ^_~[/B][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Oceanborn]

Well...
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Yet kissing is simply kissing, mon ami. I dunno what else to add here, especially something not already said.
Oh, and about staring. There's a difference, you can simply stare/glare at here with a dull look and there goes a romantic glance in th. eyes, I s'ppose that the atmospheres may be really different.
An easy high-school way to get yourself a girl is simply to hang out on her on a party. I'm graduating this year and I can remember a whole lotta parties with the entire class together. _At last_ - some really big birthdays, when some guy/girls invites almost everyone at the party/ some Halloween (Happy Halloween BTW!)/New Year parties, then there are usually some parties held during any possible vacations just because of the lotta free time 'n stuff 'n stuff 'n stuff. That's one simple way.
If you're easy with this (which I doubt because of the post itself), you can simply confess love. That's one way everything could be helped out... Or completely broken down, because (judging a usual girl) it has to be kinda romantic, so you hafta either be natural at these things, either plan out and arrange that.
Ans yes, you could always get here some nice flowers. Red roses are pretty pop, but the're a sign of love 'n stuff after all... ^^. Maybe she likes some special flowers... Like orchidae or something... Dunno!
Whatever, this was a long one.

[Xander Harris]

LOL!!! Deathbug, you rock my socks off...

This thread was so darn funny.

I'm a Freshman in college and I never kissed a girl or even had a regular girlfriend, for that matter. But if I were going to kiss a girl the first thing I'd do is try really hard to forget everything I read here... (swollow lots of her spit, suck on ice, kiss her head first, her HEAD!) yah, definately my first move would be to forget all of this, as entertaining as it was to read.

The only thing hickeys seem to be good for is comedic value.