grlfriend help

[Moi]

Alrlight, I'm no geek or nerd or anything, but I was wondering if someone could give me a little help. You see, the girl I was talking about in kissing help, we're going out as of tonight. Tomorrow morning I'll see her at the busstop and maybe walk with her to the busstop. I also ride the bus with her. What do I do? I've had girlfriends, but I need help so I can actually be a good boyfriend this time. So girls and guys give me advice. Do I hold her hand or put my arm around her? Do I kiss her as soon as I see her? Please give me a general walkthrough of how to handle a girlfriend. (PLEASE DON'T GIVE ME THAT CRITICISM STUFF THIS TIME) Thanks a lot.

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[Billy Shears]

[QUOTE=Moi]Alrlight, I'm no geek or nerd or anything, but I was wondering if someone could give me a little help. You see, the girl I was talking about in kissing help, we're going out as of tonight. Tomorrow morning I'll see her at the busstop and maybe walk with her to the busstop. I also ride the bus with her. What do I do? I've had girlfriends, but I need help so I can actually be a good boyfriend this time. So girls and guys give me advice. Do I hold her hand or put my arm around her? Do I kiss her as soon as I see her? Please give me a general walkthrough of how to handle a girlfriend. (PLEASE DON'T GIVE ME THAT CRITICISM STUFF THIS TIME) Thanks a lot.

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Depends on the girl, really. Trying to kiss her on the first day may make her happy or mad by "you going too fast". Holding hands usually doesn't piss off a girl the first day, it usually works for me. I usually wait 3 or 4 days before I try to kiss.

[Epitome]

[size=1]Yeah... just take it slow. Hold her hand on the way to the bus stop, sit with her on the bus, walk her too her class, etc. Trsut me, youll be fine. And plus, youll know when the first kiss should be made.[/size]

[Skye]

[size=1][font=veranda][color=indigo]Hmmm? I, personally, would be extremely flattered if a guy decided to walk with his arm around my waist.

On the other hand, kissing her right away may be a bad plan. Hold her close, and body-to-body, but no kiss yet. Unless it?s on top of the head, but not the cheek. Not the cheek because it seems sort of? whimpy. On the head shows affection, and it tells her, ?ready when you are?. So she can choose the pace. It seems to me your willing to let her do that. Heh, I guy I like(he likes me, too, but we?re three years apart and it makes him nervous) likes to play with my hair, so maybe you should try that. It makes me feel comfortable around him and helps me remember I can trust him.

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[Delta]

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[quote name='Rhian][size=1][font=veranda][color=indigo]Heh, I guy I like(he likes me, too, but we?re three years apart and it makes him nervous) likes to play with my hair, so maybe you should try that.[/size][/font'][/color][/quote]
Am very particular when it comes to my hair and get pissed off when somebody touches it. Besides, the girl might have spent a lot of time fixing it; you don't want her to go to school looking disheveled now do you? Ah well, a light touch then.

Don't kiss her... yet. Waay too fast. Don't wring her hand when you hold it and most importantly... smile.

Love and Peace!
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[Guest Midnight Rush]

Play it by ear dude. There is NO set formula or anything, just go with it and have fun.

[foreverinfinity]

I'm no expert on boyfriend-girlfriend junk, considering I have never had a boyfriend, but I know what I would want the person I like to do if he ever became my boyfriend. The best thing to do will probably not be the same for every girl, but a friendly hug is always nice whenever you see her, hold hands when your walking together, sit by her on the bus or in class when you can, that type of stuff. But give her a little space. If she wants to sit with her friends for once, respect her wishes and find someone else to sit with(just not another girl).

[MaineOtakuNo2]

[quote name='foreverinfinity']If she wants to sit with her friends for once, respect her wishes and find someone else to sit with(just not another girl).[/quote]
Haha, I wouldn't worry about that in most cases, as long as you dont do anything dumb then don't worry. From my experience having friend-girls (my school calls em that) is a good thing. If your girlfriend gets upset tell her that your just friends and your friend-girl will tell her the same.

[Xander Harris]

To have a successful relationship with a GF you need to do several thing...

1. Place gothic love poetry in her locker every day. Y'know, stuff like "Your lips cut my soul and my agony bleeds out upon the dark black rose of my existential angst..."

2. Mock her friends and family. Chicks dig a bad boy.

3. Drive REALLY, REALLY fast with alcohol on display, and when the cops pull you over, tell them she was helping you drive. That way you can spend a touching night in the slammer together.

4. Kiss her frequently in public, in between bouts of yelling "I love you so much I'd paint myself green for you!!!" at the top of your lungs.

5. Steal things from her, and refuse to give them back once you break up.

6. Make sure you forget everything you read here...

[Anime`babe]

one of the major problems my old boyfriend had was that he held my hand to much. Not once in our relationship did he put his arm around me. Its good to hold hands but not all the time. My old boyfriend was too shy and never really got around to kissing me. By the time we actually got around to trying it, we had broken up. The one 'kiss' he did give me wasn't really a kiss at all. I'm not even sure we did kiss, thats how lightly he touched my lips. If your going ot kiss a girl, make sure its a sure-footed kiss, not a weak, barely there kiss.

[Meggido]

I'm probably not one to give suggestions about how to go about things with a girl, but my suggestion is pretty much the same as everyone else's. Take it slow. Don't rush things, but also don't take things too slow as she may lose interest in you. That's as far as my advice extends.

[Xander Harris]

Another good bit of advice: learn how to spell 'girlfriend' before you ask someone to be one ;)

[Charles]

[quote name='Xander Harris']Another good bit of advice: learn how to spell 'girlfriend' before you ask someone to be one ;)[/quote]
And yet some more advice: Stop trying to be funny because it's not working. ;)

Now, being a good boyfriend isn't just attributed to physical gestures, such as holding hands or kissing. Don't completely consume yourself with high expectations of molding yourself into a "good boyfriend." If you're looking at yourself negatively and adjusting your behavior according to critical self-doubt, things will probably go awkwardly. You'll probably stilt whatever you say or do. It won't seem natural. Just be at ease and your reactions will come intuitively. So, instead of focusing on making a move on her, just concentrate on making good conversation and being a fun person to be around. Yes, being an interesting person is surey preferable to rushing to hang all over her.

[Baron Samedi]

[size=1]Charles has hit the nail on the head. Xander Harris isn't funny.

Oh, wait, that wasn't it. Well, it was, but...

Being an enjoyable person to be with is more important than whether or not you should hold her hand or french her. Physical comfortability will come with time. Just wait. You'll know.[/size]

[Harry]

[QUOTE=Moi]Alrlight, I'm no geek or nerd or anything, but I was wondering if someone could give me a little help. You see, the girl I was talking about in kissing help, we're going out as of tonight. Tomorrow morning I'll see her at the busstop and maybe walk with her to the busstop. I also ride the bus with her. What do I do? I've had girlfriends, but I need help so I can actually be a good boyfriend this time. So girls and guys give me advice. Do I hold her hand or put my arm around her? Do I kiss her as soon as I see her? Please give me a general walkthrough of how to handle a girlfriend. (PLEASE DON'T GIVE ME THAT CRITICISM STUFF THIS TIME) Thanks a lot.

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How about you ask her if she wants you to put your arm around her?

[SilverCyclone]

Oi...girlfriends are difficult to figure out...especially the coy ones. I personally have completely given up on trying to figure them out, but as for your question:

Dont kiss yet, unless she makes the first move. You never want to get that *yank the head away with a 'what are you doing?!' look*
Holdings hands and around the waist is probably fine. Unless she's trying to keep it a secret, I doubt she'd get mad for that. In fact, she would probably feel a bit more comfortable around you.
And definitely *and I cant stress this enough* smile and be happy! After all, you've got someone to like you *and maybe, if all goes well, love you* and theres nothing better then that in life!
Oh, and for the love of all that is holy and true do NOT listen to Xander Harris!
Good luck!

[Akieen Cloud]

Okay I'm no expert at this kinda thing but I've had my boyfriend for a year and a month now, it's not how you act or what you do or anything like that. Out of all this that I've read very few people have said what's the MAIN thing you should do...BE YOUR-SELF! Don't try to impress anyone. Talk to her and find out the things she likes to do, tell her things about you and let her get to know you more. You have to build a relationship. You can't just take off and run with it. As for what to do...follow your gut with that. If it feels right, do it! And that is NOT pants realted. I'm talking about the holding hands and kissing thing. When you hold her hand, kinda bring it up and kiss it now and than, not every time you hold her hand, but once in a while, my boyfriend does that and it shows in a very small way that he loves me. ALWAYS hug her before you leave her, as in classes and home and stuff. Hug her when you see her. Small stuff. It's the small things that really count. Taking it slow is a good thing, like I said get to know her and let her get to know you better. TALK that is the BIGGEST key to a good relationship. talking. DO NOT say I love you to soon. Say it if you REALLY mean it. and I mean REALLY REALLY mean it. And I have to say one thing that Xander Harris said. It is a good idea to sneak things into her locker. NO POETRY! Maby and flower or just a conversational note here and there, just to let her know you DO think of her. DO NOT smother the girl whatever you do. That scares us away. FAR away. Trust me I have had a smothering BF they are not fun. Let her hang with her friends when she wants, let her choose the pace of the relationship, and TELL her that. tell her 'I want you to pick the pace so I don't screw up and do something stupid' That tells her you care and you want to make it last as long as possible. Listen to her when she has problems. I know I seem to be saying ALOT but this is what I've learned by having a BF for as long as I have. NEVER talk about breaking up, EVER, over the phone. If a problem arises, take it face to face. And most importantly. HOLD HER! If you see her in the mornings before class, and she gives you a hug or you give her a hug, hold her, let the hug linger, let her break the hug. Move at her pace. And if you absolutly MUST kiss her, kiss her forehead, or take both her hands, put them together and kiss the tops of them. I know it sounds weird, but I've had alot of girls say they wish that hteir BF did that for them. So just do litle things, Maybe a little laer down the line get her a small stuffed animal or surprise her at school and send flowers to the office and have them call her up to get them, leave a note in her locker, just a short conversational letter, one she can write back to. Just be your self and take things one step at a time, like I said let her set the pace and tell her you want her to, it shows that you respect her, and want to make her feel comfortable.

[Lady_Rin]

You can always ask her if you can hug her. You might ask her for a hug. It's something to trade, it feels good to both of you and it usually can't be taken as an advance like that first kiss.