True Love. . .or something opposite

[Sui Generis]

[QUOTE=Inuyasha7271]You are right Wiccan and you too Serena I have never thought of True Love or Fate being real love truly is blind.

Most Teenagers shouldn't even use the word love in Highschool, Middle School, or Elementary school relationships cause they really don't mean anything and barely last over 1 1/2 years I myself am a Sophmore in Highschool right now and know that love rarely means anything when someone says it.[/QUOTE]

[color=indigo][i]See this is what I disagree with, naturally because I disagree with way too much, but anyways.

Who are you (or who am I) to say what a teenager means when they say love? Who are we to decide what love means to someone else?

The simple fact is love is subjective, it means something different to every person, and that teenager could be saying love and mean it. Just look at this thread so many different people have views about love, how can you say that one is correct and one is incorrect? Theres no way to prove one is right and one is wrong.

I believe love is what you make it to be. It can find anyone. A child says he loves his parents, a child says he loves his friends, should he stop saying it because he's incapable of comprehending "adult" love?

Love is what love is. Each person has a different set of eyes, each person views it differently, how can you decide for them?

A person should say love if they believe they are in love, why put an age limit?

I think thats, a funny concept, to put an age limit on love, but hey thats just me.[/i][/color]

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[quote name='Inuyasha7271']Most Teenagers shouldn't even use the word love in Highschool, Middle School, or Elementary school relationships cause they really don't mean anything and barely last over 1 1/2 years I myself am a Sophmore in Highschool right now and know that love rarely means anything when someone says it.[/quote]

[QUOTE=Lalaith Ril][color=indigo][i]See this is what I disagree with, naturally because I disagree with way too much, but anyways.

Who are you (or who am I) to say what a teenager means when they say love? Who are we to decide what love means to someone else?

The simple fact is love is subjective, it means something different to every person, and that teenager could be saying love and mean it. Just look at this thread so many different people have views about love, how can you say that one is correct and one is incorrect? Theres no way to prove one is right and one is wrong.

I believe love is what you make it to be. It can find anyone. A child says he loves his parents, a child says he loves his friends, should he stop saying it because he's incapable of comprehending "adult" love?

Love is what love is. Each person has a different set of eyes, each person views it differently, how can you decide for them?

A person should say love if they believe they are in love, why put an age limit?

I think thats, a funny concept, to put an age limit on love, but hey thats just me.[/i][/color][/QUOTE]


LOL!!!! Believe it or not, you both are right. :laugh:

First of all, I just want to make it clear that "adult" love, and the love a child has for their parents are two completely different types of love. There are many different types of love out there. The love one has in friendship, the love for a family member, neighborly love (meaning the care you even show those you do no know) and of course, the love for a mate.

I agree with you Lalaith Ril, Each person has their own views on love. There is no one way to look at love, and there never will be. But I also agree with Inuyasha, where in the post he says that Most kids shouldn't even use the word. The word Love is definetely being thrown around too loosely today. You have young children who have barely lived and matured, thinking they have found their "only" one. And yet, some have and find out [i]when they are older[/i] how much that person means to them. I truly believe that only those who have matured, can comprehend love. Love is a very serious matter (the love one shows to a mate that is...) and shouldn't be thought as something every guy and girl should do when they reach 13 or 16 years of age.

I know a person who found love at 16 years of age, and is still very happily married to her husband. So do I throw my opinions out the window, just because one person found love under the age of 16? Absolutely not. Because like Lalaith Ril said, Each person has their own views on love. I won't change mine, simply because someone's relationship worked out. I truly believe for the most part that you must be mature in order to truly grasp the concept of Love. And maturity comes with time, and a long life of experiences.

[Erika]

[size=1][color=royalblue](Btw, I'm nineteen, lol, so I'm totally out of high school. :3)

My feelings for him are quite odd. They contradict each other. I'm not going to act on either notion, though--one side of me sees his attitude and everything that has followed and just cut him out of my life, because he doesn't act like he needs me anymore (if he has his gf, and [i]so many wonderful, supportive friends[/i], I see no point in continuing this rabble)--yet the other side is exactly opposite.

But we see each other as siblings...that would be the best way to describe our relations to each other. BUT, I have a younger sibling, and an older one, but for some reason, I just love him on a more extreme level. I certainly don't feel like a sister. I feel more like some discarded old shell of a friend. He never seems to take me seriously, even.

I dunno what to do about it. If I just cut him off, then I'd be hypocritical, throwing away five meaningful years of friendship away, like he seemed to have done, albeit I know it's not the entire case.

I can't tell which side of me I should side with, because both have different notions, ideas, worries, and concerns, but in all, they both leave me feeling confused and reluctant.

I see love, and infatuation, as a kind of drug (and this's symbolic, not to be taken literally, lol). It's addictive, makes you feel good, etc., but leaves you feeling like total crap. Then you go searching for more to get rid of that dreg. It's just like some neverending cycle.[/color][/size]

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Okay, as I have said before? I actually went through the exact same situation? I?m going to say what I did, but again, this was my solution, I have moved on, and IMO, my life is better because of it.

I was this guy?s friend ever since we were born. We had seriously known each other for that long. Our mother?s were pregnant at the same time, we would do things together all the time. It wasn?t until about 6 years ago when things got serious. Anyway, I completely felt as if he toyed with my feelings looking back on everything now? I confided in him, just as much as he confided in me. We were that close. We still know each other better than any two people know each other at all. But you see, he didn?t want me? he chose some girl he met in Mexico, who is a minor I might add, and decided that she was the person for him. I was crushed to say the least, and I truly felt as if my world around me was falling apart. But after I got myself up again (and that in itself took me a long time?) I was able to get my mind off of him completely? are we still friends? Yes? but it will NEVER be the same? and I don?t expect it to. If I were to find that he ever had feelings for me now, and he wanted to go out with me?. Would I? Absolutely not. I learned a long time ago, when he took what we had and threw it out the window, that I was his second choice? and I NEVER settle for second in ANY relationship. I?m completely over him, he still tries to repair what we once had, but it will NEVER be the same. After telling him that, I was finally able to find closure, and have since moved on. I found someone new who makes me happy? happier than I?ve been in a long time? and I hope the same for you. You just need to really move on. A man who puts you in second, should never come first in your life. :)

[Erika]

[size=1][color=royalblue]Well yeah, no kidding, lol.

Romantically, I've over him. I don't really give a crap now. But I'm still confused as to why he did that (or why anyone would do that). Coming from me, it's just an honest thought.

But some people just have that effect. I just want to find someone who will always treat me opposite of what he's doing. Some people even change in a relationship, so sometimes it can't be clear as to whether or not they're true for them before that change is made. And the change isn't always a bad thing, lol.

I've accepted things, and I am moving on, but I still can't shut the door, let alone lock it. It's just the way it is: I always leave the door open just a crack, if anybody ever wants to come back home.[/color][/size]

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:) Maybe you should be keeping the door open for someone else, Serena... because I never thought I would ever be over him. I was actually in love with him... it wasn't an infatuation... he made me feel special... but when you do leave the door open for someone else, and that person does come along... I can guarantee that you will feel a lot better. Not only will you be thankful that he wasn't the man you picked in the end, you may even see that your friendship is repaired in a way, where you can "tolerate" his behavior a little more :) lol, the guy In my situation was a complete jerk... in more ways then I've even explained here... lol, just believe that there is a heck of a lot better guys out there who will treat you the way you should be treated. :) And when you find that someone, don't let them go ;)

[Lady_Rin]

Twenty one years ago I fell in love overnight. I have a beautiful home, family and a loving husband. Our feelings toward have each other have only deepend with time even through hardship, of which there has been a lot. It may be cliche but I love him as much or more as the day we met. We depend on each other so much that I don't think we could ever be serapate.

In my life; the only thing I can think of to thank my father for was to make me go to the ball where I met my husband.

[Erika]

[size=1][color=royalblue]The reason why he's like this is because we're not intimate anymore.

Anyways, I leave my door open a crack to anyone, even jerks. I don't get hurt easily, at least anymore. I rarely feel uncomfortable about talking about my problems, or taking in others, because I really don't have any feelings to protect, or anyone else's.[/color][/size]

[Burori]

[quote name='...'] A man who puts you in second, should never come first in your life. :)[/quote]

A quote I think is also a little false. It can easily work the opposite way as well. A man can put you first in his heart and the woman can just as well easily place him last in her life. The entire point is I figure love is more of a game of chance and not feelings. Those more or less come within the time you have with the individual.

[Lady_Rin]

Does love of that kind have to be for one person only? Can't love be shared? Do yo walk up to your friends and go" hug hug kiss kiss". The upscale set are good at doing that, "Hi, luv you too!".

I try very hard not to do anything I don't mean. If I hug you or give you a kiss I mean it. Most of what I write here is about compassion and love for others. Sometimes I get written up for it at work because I gave a hug to someone and someone else (Mrs H the dept head) interprets it as sexual harassment.

I have only been here a short time. I find some of you stuckl in the mud and others freewheeling but I have some fondness for all of you.

So this hug is for all of you, I have a whle bag of them and taake as many as you like. And please share them with others.

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[COLOR=DarkOrchid][FONT=Lucida calligraphy][SIZE=4]Lady Rins Bag O' Hugs[/SIZE][/FONT][/COLOR][/center]

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[Adahn]

[b][font=Trebuchet MS][color=darkolivegreen]I have one thing to say to all of you. Love is not so predictable that you can be sure of finding it while you're looking for it. It is possible that love will find you. If it does, don't push it away because you think you're too young. True love is ageless.[/color][/font][/b]

[Lady_Rin]

[quote name='Adahn'] I have one thing to say to all of you. Love is not so predictable that you can be sure of finding it while you're looking for it. It is possible that love will find you. If it does, don't push it away because you think you're too young. True love is ageless.[/quote]




He can be taught, Adahn finally gets his gold star and a big hug and kiss.

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[Guest sweetrevenge814]

[QUOTE=kenshinsbabe]People speak of true love and that everyone's got their own true love. Can they really hold to it? I mean, if God really does hate someone, wouldn't they be granted a lifetime without true love (one of those "there are things worse than death" things) ? Well, here's kind of an example:

At band camp, I met this guy. I had feelings for him and I kinda wished that he'd had them for me. We went our separate ways and, about a half a year later, I learned (through a long process of events that I'm sure you don't want to hear cuz it's long, complicated and boring) that he had the feelings that I'd hoped he had. Unfortunately, he lives across the state from me and I'm going to be moving after I'm done with school this year.

Does it seem that fate has it in for some people? I mean, surely some of you have worse stories to tell than that, but that would mean that we're all in the same boat and that we can share those stories, give and recieve advice and comfort.[/QUOTE]

Of course not! Everything that happens is for a reason. God would never deny you true love. God doesn't hate anyone. Remember? We're all God's children? I don't mean to sound cheesy or anything but... yeah. I'm sure that later on you'll be happy that you didn't become his girlfriend when you find your true love and get married to him! :love2:

[Erika]

[size=1][color=royalblue]I believe love is something that shouldn't be used loosely. There are different kinds of love. There's romantic love, brotherly love, and the kind of love/respect you have for your parents/mentors, etc.

The only thing that all this shares is selfless concern/meekness for others. Not just pleasing them BECAUSE you love them, but also because you're willing to, without really expecting anything in return.

I'm kind, not a pushover. I'm forgiving, and generous. I hate it when people see these things and use them for their own benefit.

[b]EDIT:[/b] Oh, there's free hugs?! That's odd--I'm not used to getting any, lol. *nabs one* X3 Oh, yeah...*gives a bunch to random members in turn*[/color][/size]

[Lady_Rin]

DarkSerena: [color=royalblue]I believe love is something that shouldn't be used loosely. There are different kinds of love. There's romantic love, brotherly love, and the kind of love/respect you have for your parents/mentors, etc.[/color]
[color=deeppink]
Love either is or isn't you can't quantify it. [size=1] haven't we been here before?[/size][/color]

DarkSerena: [color=royalblue] The only thing that all this shares is selfless concern/meekness for others. Not just pleasing them BECAUSE you love them, but also because you're willing to, without really expecting anything in return.[/color]
[color=deeppink]
Absolutely 100% correct. A hug and kiss for Dark Serena.
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[color=royalblue]
I'm kind, not a pushover. I'm forgiving, and generous. I hate it when people see these things and use them for their own benefit.[/color]

Dark Serena: [color=royalblue] Oh, there's free hugs?! That's odd--I'm not used to getting any, lol. *nabs one* X3 Oh, yeah...*gives a bunch to random members in turn*[/color]
[color=deeppink]
You may have as many as you want. I can fill you with kisses too. *proceeds to do so until they fall on the ground* Here take these and put them in your pocket and when you need one you have it.[/color]