idiotic things that people say about relationships

[foreverinfinity]

Sometimes people can say really stupid things about feelings or relationships that just don't make sense. Like today on IM me and my friend were playing truth or dare and I asked him who he liked. He says "I don't know. I have a lot of friends who are girls. I can't choose" or something like that. I consider that extremely stupid. I don't believe you "choose" who you like, it just happens. My friend is going to kill me if he finds this post :D . he doesn't like being called stupid... But I'm getting off topic. What have you been told or told someone about relationships that was stupid or made no sense?

[Lady_Rin]

You can start with the thread on getting chicks. Most of the idiotic things that have been said in relationships were said there.

Laura L. told me that I was really to young to have a long term relationship with Ranger. She also once asked Ranger didn't he think I was a little too young for him. I heard that and I told her that we had been going together since I was 14. You should have seen the look on her face. That wasn't too smart on my part as Laura started this whole thing about me and in a small town that can be a problem. Good thing Laura and Todd have only been here 2 years, nobody believed her.

[Excel]

I told a friend of mine that hes relationship was not gonna last, well it made no sense to me beacuse wel.... it turn out to be right.

[wiccansamurai]

When my friend Rachel said her boyfriend is a perfectly nice guy, who would never hurt anyone. One month after he pratically molested me.

Also, my mom keeps saying stuff to family like "At least he's not like the last guy she went out with. He was (I'm 16) 18 and had a pnoytail." She fails to mention to family that my current boyfriend is also 18 and has a moehawk. :rolleyes: (well, actually, I think I may have put her under the impression he's 17. :angel: ) And my last boyfriend, if my mom had given him a chance, she would have really like.

Oh, and then the guy who friggin molested (Not to be confused with the guy that pratically molested me that was mentioned earlier) said I shouldn't date John. Like he has the right to say that.

[Baron Samedi]

[size=1]Your friend's statement makes perfect sense. I like several girls, and can't choose between them....where is the difficulty in that statement?[/size]

[Lunai]

[QUOTE=Lady_Rin]You can start with the thread on getting chicks. Most of the idiotic things that have been said in relationships were said there.

Laura L. told me that I was really to young to have a long term relationship with Ranger. She also once asked Ranger didn't he think I was a little too young for him...[/QUOTE]

[font=georgia][color=purple]Was this in recent years? Are you kidding? You guys are way past the initiation into grown up age! What was she thinking!??!?!

I had an ex boyfriend from high school who once emailed me through a friend's email account and called me a skany hoe, and alot of other things (none of which had proper grammar or spelling) about 3 years after we had not seen each other. Does that count?

Also, my friend the great flirt keeps trying to suggest that maybe being with someone who is on active duty might be too much of a strain on me:

[quote name='Flynn'] well when um i mean if you change your mind...give me a call[/quote]

That's idiotic, in my book. I mean, I love the boy, but I'm pretty happy at the moment.[/color][/font]

[cinnamon]

[SIZE=1][COLOR=YellowGreen]Well, for starters Baron, it's not very romantic. Going up to someone and saying "I like you... and her and her and her..." Doesn't put past quite the right impression...

^_~

Still, not being able to decide who you like just means the right person hasn't come along yet. It's not that idiotic.

But if you're going out with someone, and you like all these other people, it's kinda mean, like you don't respect the person you are going out with, and have made a commitment (of sorts) to. Its like cheating on them ^_^

Pathetic stuff...?
Well, my friend had a crush on 12 different people at one time. But we were 11, so it doesn't really count ^_^ [/COLOR][/SIZE]

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]Let's see, idiodic things people have said about relationships. Well, this isn't exactly idiodic, but it is kind of funny. When I tried to hook my best friend up with Lincoln (my husband) the first thing she said when she saw him was 'He looks like one of my brother's friends' then after she had dropped him off she told me that I should go out with him.

My best friend barely dated him for 2 months and they decided that they'd rather be friends than boyfriend and girlfriend. So guess who ended up with him next.

I haven't thought of any other ones, but I'm sure I will sooner or later.[/color]

[WaterSprite]

Yes, in fact it's practacaly on 'my to-do' list!:rotflmao: :fart:

[Solo Tremaine]

[quote name='cinnamon][size=1][color=yellowgreen]Well, for starters Baron, it's not very romantic. Going up to someone and saying "I like you... and her and her and her..." Doesn't put past quite the right impression...[/color'][/size][/quote][COLOR=#503F86]Ah, but there are different kinds of affection, and different people show different qualities that you may develop a crush on. In one case, someone may be incredibly bubbly and happy, and the other may be shy but very very sweet. If you had a crush on both and were asked to identify which you preferred, it could be difficult. Generally, one tends to stand above the others for whatever reason, but it's not always intentional, heh.

I suppose one of the most idiotic things someone said about their relationship was a friend of mine's ex three years ago, who told me that she was still seeing him [i]and[/i] that they'd had sex at least fifty times in the last three weeks. Yeah, right.[/COLOR]

[Gavin]

[quote name='Baron Samedi][size=1']Your friend's statement makes perfect sense. I like several girls, and can't choose between them....where is the difficulty in that statement?[/size][/quote]

[SIZE=1]I know the feeling, a few years back in school I couldn't decide between two girls for a date, there was nothing underhanded about my not being able to decide it was just too difficult to pick one.

I think the most stupid thing I've ever heard somebody say about a relationship was when a cousin of mine was dumped by his girlfriend, she had been cheating and he caught her with the other guy. In the aftermath when I asked him how he felt his response was this "[I]Never mind, if she was any worse in bed I've have slept with her sister more often[/I]". [/SIZE]

[Ezekiel]

[COLOR=SlateGray][SIZE=1]This thread is actually quite amusing ^_^;;

I think the most stupid thing anyone has said to me was my old boyfriend, Joe (name and shame!).

I remember when I was going to a theme park with him, we were sitting in the back of his mum's car and I remembered a picture message that he had sent to me the day before. Now, he never usually shows any emotions and hardly ever told me he loved me or anything so when I recieved a simple image of a heart I thought it was the sweetest thing in the world.

So I hold his hand and he loks at me all weird and I said, [B]"That message you sent to me yesterday was so sweet, thank you."[/B] and I'm all smiles and he just rolls his eyes and shrugs saying,
[B]"Yeah, but I thought it only cost me 12p, if I knew it would have cost me more I wouldn't have sent it."[/B]

You can imagine my reaction.[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Baron Samedi]

[size=1]Aah, but my dear Cinnamon, I didn't say I'd go up to a girl and tell her I liked her...that would involve me having chosen and placed this girl on the top. I don't think that being interested in other people if you're in a relationship is a crime....as long as you don't do anything, and don't plan on doing anything. I think something like this could just be a difference between males and females...because most of the guys in this thread have agreed with me, but the girls seem to think that there is something wrong with it.

I guess it's just one of those things ^_^

[quote name='Kane][size=1]I think the most stupid thing I've ever heard somebody say about a relationship was when a cousin of mine was dumped by his girlfriend, she had been cheating and he caught her with the other guy. In the aftermath when I asked him how he felt his response was this "[I]Never mind, if she was any worse in bed I've have slept with her sister more often[/I']".[/size][/quote]

o_O Geez.

And question for you Lady Rin...what is the age difference between you and... 'Ranger'?[/size]

[Pumpkin]

[QUOTE=Baron Samedi][size=1]Aah, but my dear Cinnamon, I didn't say I'd go up to a girl and tell her I liked her...that would involve me having chosen and placed this girl on the top. I don't think that being interested in other people if you're in a relationship is a crime....as long as you don't do anything, and don't plan on doing anything. I think something like this could just be a difference between males and females...because most of the guys in this thread have agreed with me, but the girls seem to think that there is something wrong with it.

I guess it's just one of those things ^_^



o_O Geez.

And question for you Lady Rin...what is the age difference between you and... 'Ranger'?[/size][/QUOTE]

[FONT=VERDANA][SIZE=1] I'll tell you why girls find it so offensive. For a guy, its just considered flirting, hey what is that? nothing right? i mean your not doing anything sexual so that makes it okay. Wrong. One lesson with girls, they read WAY too much in anything. So basically your saying "I have a girlfriend, but I like you too" that is the message you send to a girl. I know this because it happens to me all the time, and often gets on my nerves. IF you have a girlfriend, you can look, but dont get too flirty , it gets really really annoying to me because it sends wrong signals. It also makes girls think that your interested and sadly messes with their feelings. You could really make someone like you, and then its almost like you dont like them anymore it feels like your being dumped. Doing that to a girl, could possibly make them hate you. Its okay to flirt and like a bunch of girls when your not in a relationship though, thats perfectly okay. But when you have a girlfriend I think she should be your main focus. There is a fine line between liking and looking. Warning to those who like many girls and have a girlfriend...it usually ends up bad. [/FONT][/SIZE]

[Baron Samedi]

[size=1][quote name='Me']I don't think that being interested in other people if you're in a relationship is a crime....as long as you don't do anything, and don't plan on doing anything.[/quote]

That includes flirting. When I have a girlfriend, I don't flirt. I'm not some cheating 'playa'. If you're in a relationship with someone, you shouldn't be making moves on anyone else, no matter whether you happen to still like several other people.[/size]

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[quote name='Kane][SIZE=1] II think the most stupid thing I've ever heard somebody say about a relationship was when a cousin of mine was dumped by his girlfriend, she had been cheating and he caught her with the other guy. In the aftermath when I asked him how he felt his response was this "[I]Never mind, if she was any worse in bed I've have slept with her sister more often[/I']". [/SIZE][/quote]

[color=darkviolet] :eek: I'm not really sure what to say to that except I guess it's true that when you mess around on people kharma has a way of kicking you in the proverbial balls.

I had a very strange conversation with an ex of mine, and this is idiotic. I called him up to ask him how he was doing and he started complaining about how his mom thought I was mean to him. And that I should try to be nicer to him. Uh yeah, who forgot who's birthday and was cheating on them with another girl because I went to school out of town and wouldn't find out. Yeah, I should be nicer to him...I wonder if Halmark makes cards about 'Thank you for being such a jerk I ended up dating your friend-by the way he's great in bed![/color]

[Lady_Rin]

[quote="Baron Samedi"]

And question for you Lady Rin...what is the age difference between you and... 'Ranger'?[/quote]

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From the view point of etiquette and manners you never ask a woman her age or ask her to make a reference to it. You can offend many women this way. On the other hand they are women and am a girl.[/i] If I was a woman I wouldn't be here.

Ranger is 58, I am 41 the difference is 17 years. He still calls me a "cute and adorable young woman" and "my little girl".

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[Harry]

[quote name='foreverinfinity'] I consider that extremely stupid. I don't believe you "choose" who you like, it just happens. [/quote]You'll find out how very wrong that is sooner or later (most like sooner).

As for stupid statements, I used to have a friend that beat his girlfriend. I found out about this and talked to him about it. He said something along the lines of "it's ok she's a slut" or something like that. Unfortunately a week later I had to have a "talk" with him that ended our friendship.

[Her Black Wings]

[size=1]Hrm, I've heard a lot of not too-intelligent things regarding relationships, one of the more frequent being 'Oh, well you're only -Insert Age Here- years old, its nothing big.

Which isn't true at all because my grandparents dated from 9th grade up until now, and they're married and happy. Which isn't the case for most relationships but, no matter what age you are, it still hurts when it ends, and you still have the feelings, right?

So technically, it does matter. :) [/size]

[desertranger]

The dumbest thing? Baron Samedi asking Rins age. I'm surprised she didn't put you into time out.

the next dumbest was a biker about 11 years ago who wouldn't leave Rin alone. I'm not going to repeat what he said. when she told him to "get your filthy paws off of me" he made the mistake of threatening her and later followed Rin to the parking lot and cornered her by my truck. Mistake! [SIZE=3]Big[/size] mistake! the bikers give her lots of space now and don't bother her any most of the time but every now and then there is one so they have to be reminded; Mess with Rin, answer to me.

Most recent dumbest is 6 months ago. laura, todds wife, for some reason she want's me and I have absolutely no interest in her. She's a knockout tho' a definite hottie. The dumbest thing she ever said was to proposition me at the Alamo where a dozen people heard her. it took 1 light-second for Rin to hear about it and react. the result was a slap in the face and a pitcher of ice cold water dumped over laura then Rin telling todd to "keep your whoring wife away from my husband" loud enough so everybody heard it, even over the band. Rin [i]never[/i] uses coarse language, she doesn't even say damn or hell. todd and laura don't come to the Alamo anymore, unfortunately they live in our road and she still makes passes at me, usually when she's drunk. I really don't like either one of them.

[James]

[QUOTE=Harry]You'll find out how very wrong that is sooner or later (most like sooner).

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[color=#707875]So...you can choose who to fall in love with and who to be attracted to? This means you have no attraction to anyone, you pick someone from the crowd and say "I think I'll fall for that person today"? Wow, you'll have to show me how to do that. ~_^

I'd have to agree with what Lady_Rin said about age differences, though. It's not for other people to decide. Nobody should sit there and say to you "Your relationship can't work for whatever reason". I mean, perhaps if something very serious is going on (ie: physical abuse), there would be reason enough for someone to step in.

But in general, I think it's pretty unreasonable to try to mess with people's relationships. Ultimately, everyone has their own taste...and each person is going to have a slightly different idea of what is or isn't acceptable in a relationship. As long as you're happy, then that's all that matters -- relationships shouldn't be about pleasing those around you, or servicing anyone other than the two of you.

Oh, and as for the age thing...that wasn't dumb. Most people on OB are teenagers. So I doubt that Baron knew he was asking an adult woman about her age. C'mon people, let's use some common sense. lol[/color]

[Guest ScirosDarkblade]

James, I think you [i]can[/i] to a degree choose who you fall in love with. You can definitely talk yourself [i]out[/i] of love (I know [i]I[/i] can), so your wisdom (as opposed to your "heart" or what not) does have something of a say in it.

I am also certain that you can choose what you are attracted to, but again to a particular (and likely superficial!!) degree. Clothing, hair styles, etc. You really can talk yourself into believing you like one look more than another. You do it every time there's a big shift in fashion and you go along.

Note, however, that I do not mean you have complete personal freedom over your tastes and attractions (that would mean homosexuality is a choice, wouldn't it?). I mean you have [i]some[/i].

I wish I could just "think up" italics tags and not have to type them so much.

[Endymion]

[COLOR=Navy][SIZE=1]What's the topic of this thread again? Oh, right, idiotic things that people say about relationships. Sometimes its not things people say that are idiotic, but the things they don't. Say for instance...I had a relationship that lasted about 2 years. In the last two months or so, my loyally devoted girlfriend was seeing another person. It was common knowledge to everyone, well with the exception of me. Even friends I've known longer than her, didn't let me on the bandwagon about the whole charade. I knew my one buddy for about 7 years, we had classes together, double-dated, and were in the same boy scout troop. But his loyalties were more to her than me, as if saying what she was doing was right. I have no clue. She didn't even have the courage to tell me she was cheating. She fed me the classic lines of lieing mumbo jumbo about how she's only been in a couple serious relationships instead of having many fun-type ones, the list of reasons she gave me went on and on. I didn't find out about this other guy until her graduation when I stopped by with her birthday and graduation gifts. When I was some distance away in the sea of people, I see her and the other guy wrapped around eachother like a twizzler. At that point I was frozen in place. It was kind of silly for me to act that way though, as it felt as if I were Julius Caesar and she Brutus. Theatrically at that point a spotlight would've hit me and I could've said 'et tu megan' and died. Anyway...prior to that I despised liers, and afterward I REALLY despised them. The girl that didn't want serious relationships has been with the guy she's cheated on me with have been together almost a year now...news courtesy of her best friend that seems to like to torture me. [/SIZE] [/COLOR]

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[SIZE=1]I suppose I'm still childish because it's hard for me to trust people, especially females, aside from my close contingent of friends...[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[James]

[QUOTE=ScirosDarkblade]James, I think you [i]can[/i] to a degree choose who you fall in love with. You can definitely talk yourself [i]out[/i] of love (I know [i]I[/i] can), so your wisdom (as opposed to your "heart" or what not) does have something of a say in it.

I am also certain that you can choose what you are attracted to, but again to a particular (and likely superficial!!) degree. Clothing, hair styles, etc. You really can talk yourself into believing you like one look more than another. You do it every time there's a big shift in fashion and you go along.

Note, however, that I do not mean you have complete personal freedom over your tastes and attractions (that would mean homosexuality is a choice, wouldn't it?). I mean you have [i]some[/i].

I wish I could just "think up" italics tags and not have to type them so much.[/QUOTE]

[color=#707875]Yeah but...I think you're kind of missing my point.

Either someone will do it for you or they won't. You'll see someone in the street and find them attractive, or you won't.

If I show you someone who isn't your "type" or whatever, you can't "choose" to find them attractive.

And that's the whole point. Attraction is about love and not logic. And love [i]isn't[/i] some kind of scientific, quantifiable thing that can be measured.

I know that I can't go around and just manually select who I want to be attracted to, lol. The very concept goes against everything that anyone has ever experienced of their own accord (which is why people are hurt when someone rejects them -- nobody would ever be hurt, if they could simply "switch off" their feelings, which we know is not possible for those of us who are mortal lol).[/color]

[cinnamon]

[quote name='Baron Samedi][size=1']Aah, but my dear Cinnamon, I didn't say I'd go up to a girl and tell her I liked her...that would involve me having chosen and placed this girl on the top.[/size][/quote]

[COLOR=YellowGreen][size=1]Good point... I didn't really think that through, did I? Sorry if it seems like I'm bashing you about your relationships, I'm sure you wouldn't do something that stupid ^_~[/size][/COLOR]

[quote name='Baron Samedi][size=1']I don't think that being interested in other people if you're in a relationship is a crime....as long as you don't do anything, and don't plan on doing anything. I think something like this could just be a difference between males and females...because most of the guys in this thread have agreed with me, but the girls seem to think that there is something wrong with it.[/size][/quote]

[COLOR=YellowGreen][size=1]No, it's not [i] really[/i] a crime, it's just that in most girls perfect worlds, her guy will be totally committed to her, because he loves her absolutely for who she is. When other girls come onto the scene it makes her feel insecure and unattractive- like she isn't good enough. That's why being dumped for someone else is so hard on lots of girls- they feel like they just don't meet the standard. Thats also why we girls generally take a lot more pride in our appearance than guys... it feels like it really counts. Actually, in this world, with these social standards... it probably does.

Ok, so I've just made a hell of a generalisation... so shoot me.

I supose it [u]is[/u] just one of those things ^_~[/size][/COLOR]