Guest Heezay Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 I'm making this thread due to what happened just a few minutes ago... I called up my friends, who've been excited about a concert all day, making me want to go as well. I got ready to ask my dad, who's really strict about this kind of stuff, unfortunately. Anyway, as I asked him, I got shot down in seconds. My father wanted me to stay home and "study" and "not waste my time." Needless to say, I didn't get to go. Anyone have any experiences like this and tips for dealing with strict parents? (Especially on the matters of going out with friends at night and staying out late) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wrist cutter Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 Way to present a very one-sided story. What concert was it? Who were these friends? How old are they? What kind of kids are they? How late would it be? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Boba Fett Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 [color=green]What kind of parent lets their kid go to a concert on a school night anyway? Your dad is looking out for you and has your best interests at heart. I'm sure he didn't mean to ruin your day, or anything like that. Perhaps you should work with your parents to set ground rules for situations like this, so you'll know when you are allowed to go to extracurricular events.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Heezay Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 It wasn't a school night, but I see what you mean, Boba Fett. But still, I always have a lot of trouble doing anything with my parents around. Sometimes it really gets me angry, and I can't take it. I hardly have any privlieges. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Epitome Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 [QUOTE=Boba Fett][color=green]What kind of parent lets their kid go to a concert on a school night anyway? Your dad is looking out for you and has your best interests at heart. I'm sure he didn't mean to ruin your day, or anything like that. Perhaps you should work with your parents to set ground rules for situations like this, so you'll know when you are allowed to go to extracurricular events.[/color][/QUOTE] [color=orange][size=1]As much as I hate to say it, its true. I made a thread very similar to this not too far back, and its true. I used to play CS[Counter-Strike] so much and it drove me nuts that my parents banned me from it. But after a while, I kept sneaking onto the game and it drove me into depression, which I just found out not 2 days ago. The main reason it drove me into depression was because I kept getting caught and getting yeld at. So dont screw things up with your parents, itll only lead to worse things. P.S. Its still very one sided.[/size][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaos Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 That's overly strict? No, that's just them loving you. They want the best for you, and so they of course are going to say you can't go if they don't agree with it. How old are you, by the way, Heezay? And answer wrist cutter's questions. That might solve a lot of the confusion. If you're younger than I am, I can understand your parents not letting you out after, say, eleven, even on a weekend. I don't agree with it, yeah, and I think it sucks, but I can understand your parents' reasons. All in all, we all think our parents, at least at one point in our lives, are too stict. But when you get older and see how things work, you understand why they want you to stay away from so-and-so, or study so hard for the Chem test next week. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DeathKnight Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 [quote name='Epitome][color=orange][size=1]As much as I hate to say it, its true.[/size'][/color][/quote] [color=crimson]Not to oppose the charming, pro-parent rhetoric that exists in this topic, but your situation is much different from what we so far know about Heezay's situation. Of course, this statement could prove to be null and void once we understand more about what's going on. Tips on dealing with strict parents? Manipulate them if you are smart enough- but, you didn't hear that from me. Otherwise, you'll have to tolerate the authority in your household once reasoning with them fails- being overtly stubborn or argumentative usually just gets you in hotter water. Alright, back to the pro-parent lecturing. Carry on.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eleanor Posted December 2, 2004 Share Posted December 2, 2004 [color=darkslateblue] My parents are actually very loose when it comes down to me going out with my friends and such. I'm allowed to stay out as long as I like, and I'm only in 9th grade, but I do know they wouldn't let me if I didn't keep my grades up and etc. *shrug* But with my parents being a first generation immigrants, they don't let me do some very simple things, which gets me angry at times. So I've manipulated several times...>_>. Like Darkknight said. And I don't know a single kid dumb enough not to be able to do it. Or anyone who hasn't, for that matter. But mainly I deal with it. :) Makes you have things you can actually write about if you every write an autobiography.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
silpheedpilot Posted December 3, 2004 Share Posted December 3, 2004 Welcome to SilpheedPilot's School of Getting What you Want Out Of Your Parents... 1: Be direct, tell them that they don't let you do anything and you're ready to finally do something fun and they shouldn't hold you back. 2: Offer up some help. "Hey Mom, can I go to this concert? I'll help you around the house before I leave." So what if it ends up being rake the lawn, do the dishes and clean the gutters, you go to go, right? 3: Never try to out-smart your parents. Kids think their parents are freakin' stupid and don't know a darn thing about the world they live in! Chances are they've probably tried the same tricks you trying on them. "Hey Mom, could I go out tonight? I promise I'll be at a friends house all night, I won't go anywhere else." They know its bull and won't let you go. 4: DO GOOD IN SCHOOL! If you're doing well in school your parents will think that you deserve a little extra seomthing and will probably drop a destriction on your rules. 5: If all else fails, sneak out! Yeah, I know. It strays away from all of the above but sometimes it your only way of telling your parents they are way to restrictive. But be prepared to reap the whirlwind. Just remember those 5 rules and you should do fine. Good luck. Silpheed. P.S.: Ya didn't get ANY of this from me! You got it from...someone else..like..Mario, or Sonic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
poo62.2 Posted December 4, 2004 Share Posted December 4, 2004 Umm...SilpheedPilot those tips would only work in a perfect world were parents were mindless zombies and sip tea and eat crumpets all day like in rich parts of England! Or if we were all communist and as far as i know communism doesn't work, so your tips need some re-thinking :D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Garelock Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 Well...here it goes...It's like this, I was working at a college for some extra money during the summer about 2 years and a half ago. My boss was the nicest lady you'd ever want to meet, well, one day, she invited her little nieces and nephew over to be there. Well, I met one of her nieces, the oldest of the bunch and she was just a year younger than me so I went ahead for it. She's like a super model and I'm just a plain ol' guy. I don't know what the hell she saw in me but she wanted me like a cat wants a mouse. After just a week of us calling and seeing each other her parents give me the message that they dont' want me calling, writing, emailing, faxing and visiting is just out of the question. Now, you could say they are just concerned parents but she lives in Virginia and I live in South Carolina. They can't say that they're doing it because of her school work or the fear of pregnancy. Her school work has improved since I showed up in the picture and I can't send sperm through the mail. They have her in bondage, I'm serious, she can't go to slumber parties or any kind of gathering anymore just because her parents don't want her too. They're so strict to the point where I met up with her at a mall and after she got home and they found out, they locked her in a basement for 2 days straight like she was some kind of animal. So you see, this is a serious problem...things just haven't gotten better and they sure can't get any worse. Things haven't gotten any better in the last past 2 years and a half. For some reason, her parents seem to think that I'm trying to "play" her. Well, I have to the be the world's most patient player after almost 3 years of waiting... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onikage Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 [QUOTE]Well...here it goes...It's like this, I was working at a college for some extra money during the summer about 2 years and a half ago. My boss was the nicest lady you'd ever want to meet, well, one day, she invited her little nieces and nephew over to be there. Well, I met one of her nieces, the oldest of the bunch and she was just a year younger than me so I went ahead for it. She's like a super model and I'm just a plain ol' guy. I don't know what the hell she saw in me but she wanted me like a cat wants a mouse. After just a week of us calling and seeing each other her parents give me the message that they dont' want me calling, writing, emailing, faxing and visiting is just out of the question. Now, you could say they are just concerned parents but she lives in Virginia and I live in South Carolina. They can't say that they're doing it because of her school work or the fear of pregnancy. Her school work has improved since I showed up in the picture and I can't send sperm through the mail. They have her in bondage, I'm serious, she can't go to slumber parties or any kind of gathering anymore just because her parents don't want her too. They're so strict to the point where I met up with her at a mall and after she got home and they found out, they locked her in a basement for 2 days straight like she was some kind of animal. So you see, this is a serious problem...things just haven't gotten better and they sure can't get any worse. Things haven't gotten any better in the last past 2 years and a half. For some reason, her parents seem to think that I'm trying to "play" her. Well, I have to the be the world's most patient player after almost 3 years of waiting...[/QUOTE] does her parents know how you look like?? try spending time with her family, if they let you that is, and mybe then will they except you... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Garelock Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 Do you want to view the emails and letters I've been sending to them for the past 3 years and a half now? I've been TRYING to get to know her family but they simply don't want to get to know me. I'll conceal the identities of my name and their name but here's an email to prove my case...here's the constant response that I get when I try to get to meet her parents; they keep delaying EVERYTIME I try to get them to meet with me. They're playing games and anybody could see that. D, All I am saying is a simple lunch / dinner at this point with no strings attached, correct? It will have to be around the Oct timeframe. My work is real busy in Sep. Thanks, Mr. H D, I haven't talked to the wife yet but I am thinking around the last weekend in October. My schedule is a little uncertain right now but that is what I am thinking right now. Regards, Mr. H D, It looks like my schedule got put back to the Veteran's Day weekend. I have a fraternity brother in Orangeburg that I also want to see. It will probably only be me and my son coming. Maybe in the future the families can get together but right now I just want to sit down with you. If you would like for your parents to also be there with you then that is fine also. I apologize but my schedule often doesn't always allow me to read your entire email responses. Word of wisdom to you is that I am looking to feel comfortable with who you are as a person. I already know about S. Thanks, Mr. H D, I will need to delay our meeting until Christmas time. My schedule is rather hectic right now Sorry to hear about the passing. Regards, Mr. H There, does that prove my case? Do you see what I mean now? I can't reason with people who obviously don't want to be reasoned with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Onikage Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 dude man their really hopless, I have nothing else to say to help you man, goodluck \m/ :cool: \m/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gavin Posted December 10, 2004 Share Posted December 10, 2004 [SIZE=1]Interesting, most interesting. My parents have been pretty lenient with me for most of my teenage years, any time I want to head out with friends to a party or some form of social event they usually haven't any problems. I think that if you show your parents that you can be trusted to be responsible when you go out, then you shouldn't really have any problems. I've always worked hard and done well in school, taken care of my brother and sister when my parents want to go out (although that occurs only once in a blue moon) and generally just behaved. I can't say that all parents are the same, but as Dave said they will always look out for your safety, they'll always try and do their best, even if you don't feel that way.[/SIZE] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KarmaOfChaos Posted December 11, 2004 Share Posted December 11, 2004 [color=deeppink][size=1]If I really want something, I'll guilt trip my parents into letting me do it. ...but then I feel guilty afterwards. :rolleyes: Most of the time though, if they allow themselves to be guilt tripped into it, it probably isn't that bad. (Like spending the night over at friend's house when there's an older brother there.) They draw the line if I ask for something really ridiculous, and I listen to them. It's stupid to argue, you'll only make everyone angry and upset, and you still won't get your way. Still. Eighteen's gonna be fun. -Karma[/size][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jedite Posted December 11, 2004 Share Posted December 11, 2004 I see where you're coming from, because you want to go with your friends, and you don't want to left out, right? But, your parents didn't want you to go to the concert, because, they are worried about your safety. Sometimes parents do things that may piss us off, but, it shows that they care about you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest hellfire Posted December 11, 2004 Share Posted December 11, 2004 I HAVE THAT PROBLEM LIKE TODAY MY BROTHER FRIEND CAME OER WITHOUT EVER ASKING AND WHEN I ASK MY MOM IF MY FRIEND COULD COME OER IT WAS NO NO NO I WAS SO MAD SHE TOLD ME IT'S BECAUSE SHE WANTED TO SPEND TIME WITH ME I WAS LIKE WE SPEND TO MUCH TIME CAUSE IM ALWAYS HOME I CAN'T EVEN GO OUTSIDE IF NO ONES HOME. :flaming: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest sundara_1 Posted May 13, 2005 Share Posted May 13, 2005 [QUOTE=Heezay]I'm making this thread due to what happened just a few minutes ago... I called up my friends, who've been excited about a concert all day, making me want to go as well. I got ready to ask my dad, who's really strict about this kind of stuff, unfortunately. Anyway, as I asked him, I got shot down in seconds. My father wanted me to stay home and "study" and "not waste my time." Needless to say, I didn't get to go. Anyone have any experiences like this and tips for dealing with strict parents? (Especially on the matters of going out with friends at night and staying out late)[/QUOTE] Yea ... i know EXACTLY how you feel. My mother won't even let me go to my prom. She never gave me a good reason not to go. It's not even at a hotel ... it's at this party room in a science museum. So it's not like i'm gonna do anything sexual because i don't do anything sexual in the first place! She always makes excuses for me not to go anywhere. The only time that I can go out is with I'm with her. Which is stupid b/c sometimes she really get on my nerves and I just wanna slap her. And when I go to college, she plans to move close to the college that I'm gonna be going to!!!!! I should get like a restraining order or something b/c that is definitely pushing it. She always makes the excuse "I want to spend time with you." WTF?!?!?!?!?!?! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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