What should I do?

[evillilwinch]

I am madly in love with the guy that my friend likes too. But he has no interests in her. I mean me and him flirt all the time and I think it bugs her, but I'm afraid that if I tell him I like him, that he'll back off or somethinf I dunno what to do. Help me please! :( :( :( :( :( :( :confused: :confused: :love: :love: :love:

[Kawaii Naru]

[quote name='evillilwinch']I am madly in love with the guy that my friend likes too. But he has no interests in her. I mean me and him flirt all the time and I think it bugs her, but I'm afraid that if I tell him I like him, that he'll back off or somethinf I dunno what to do. Help me please! :( :( :( :( :( :( :confused: :confused: :love: :love: :love:[/quote]

This is tough. First off, I suggest you back away from this guy. If you and your friend both like him, you, him, and your friend are all headed for rough waters.

Does your friend know that you like him? If she doesn't, I suggest you tell her now. There's no point in keeping secrets from her, because it will just cause more hurt feelings in the end.

Like I said before, back away from the guy. If you start making moves on him/dating him/whatever, your friend is going to be hurt. If you want to risk the friendship, fine, but if you don't, taking my advice would be best because guys come and go. Friends are priceless.

However, if you want to ask her if she doesn't mind you dating him, you can do that. If she says that she doesn't care, then it would be ok for you to go out with him.

Hope it helps.

[Delta]

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Advice from the14th dimension: Kill your friend and live happily ever after.

I agree with KN. Tell your friend that you like the boy too. If she can't take it, break your friendship with her and run off with the guy. In any case, do not let your happiness be hindered by her.

Now if he breaks up with you 2 weeks into the relationship, see if you can still mend the bonds between you and your friend (if she's as petty as your will-be boyfriend, don't bother. Hook them up and hope for the best. You deserve to be in the company of better people).

Love and Peace!
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[wrist cutter]

My first suggestion is that you use less smilies. Your friend might better cope with the situation then.

[Chaos]

Fourteen and madly in love? Yeah, right.

Screw your friend. If you like him, go for it. Then again, men are pigs, aren't we, so are you so sure you really want him?

Now, if you'll excuse me, I must smirk at the irony of this...

[Xander Harris]

Don't persue it. Back off. I've been in so many blasted situations where I and a friend both liked one girl, and nothing good ever comes of this sort of rivalry. It's funny in cartoons, but a waste of energy in real life.

[Miryoku]

Hi it's me miryoku I talked to you earlier and he sounds great. I think you should do whats natural I don't know your friend so I can't tell her reaction I think if you realy like this guy go for it hopefully your friend will understand but if it is just a lusty thing hold back if you can't make that destinction let it set for a while stop thinking about how much you like him and think more about the possibilitiy of just being friends for a while also. if your friend would freak don't do it unless your ready to loose her but thare is the reality that your friendship would probably last longer than your relationship with this dream guy. still its up to you do what you feell is best also if he backs off he probably doesent like you as much as you like him or you think he likes you. but I'll just shut my mouth now

[Retribution]

Hehe. Reminds me of those elementery school days of playing matchmaker. Ah... the nostalgia. Anyway. I think you said that this guy doesn't like your friend. First of all, you need to do some serious recon on him, and see if he likes you back enough to go out with you.

If the answer is no... well then bail out and stop reading this post -- If yes, keep on reading. If you are still reading, that means that he likes you, and you should seriously tell him that your friend likes him, and ask him if he could tell your friend off VERY subtly, but with NO hint that you put him up to this. I'm serious. Don't act any differently, or be seen talking to him alone by gossipers or your friend, or else the jig is up -- she'll acuse you of doing it, and your friendship will be damaged. ([B]Hint[/B]: You might want to just call him -- no chance of being seen then.)

If you haven't been seen, good! And if he actually did this, much better than good! This means that your friend will have something to tell you. Probably that she just got told off subtly by her crush. While this is really mean, it gets you want you want.

[B]Caution![/B] Be sure not to put the moves on him too soon after her rejection, or else she'll be UbEr pissed. Let her simmer, maybe for a week or two -- before moving in for the 'kill' heh.

OR!

You could just put the moves on him, screw your friend and hope she'll cope. If she doesn't forgive you, you didn't need her as a friend anyway, someone who can't forgive or always holds grudges.

OR!

Acknowledge what happened to the last couple who were actually madly in love at 14 -- Romeo and Juliet -- and see what happened to them. Dead.

[ice-kitsune]

if your really seriouse about this guy then go for it. if you and your friend are really friends then she should understand. i mean, its first come first serve right? its not like youve got something against her. nothing personal, its just that youve got the guts to go for it while shes chickening out. not to be mean to your friend or anything like that. if you really believe itll work out between you and this "guy" then youve got nothing to loose. (just make sure you dont end up breaking up with in a week and now your friend is mad at you which leaves you no where. not to bring your hopes down or any thing)