What to do around people you like...

[ryo_sagara]

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I have noticed that a lot of people need help with their 'love life' so I'm going to try to help you guys and girls out. I myself being a girl have had problems with relationships or even getting dates. The things below will help you build confidence:

First if you can't even talk to the person: Just start with subtle acts of kindness to build up some confidence, things like picking stuff up for them if they drop it, or getting things for them. (Papers work nicely if you're in school)

Second when you do finally talk to them: Compliments make people feel good about themselves try that, or talk about something casual. (Homework, clothes, prices of things, weather, etc.) This normally opens up a small window to your or the other persons personality so you can get a glimpse of if you still like them or if they like you.

Third try to be their friend: You should be able to be friendly though it will be kinda awkward...but then after that you should have enough courage to ask them out.

Yes I know it is a time consuming process...are they worth it? Feel free to ask me questions.
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[Queen Asuka]

[color=hotpink][size=1]I hope I'm not the only one on the OB to find it so amusing to hear you giving everyone relationship advice and then telling them that if they have questions to please ask you. But I don't mean that in a bad way, I just think it's funny. Your advice is pretty good, though. It sucks to be shy around the person you have a crush on. I really can't speak from experience too much, but I do not that I never liked eating in front of my boyfriends or guys that I knew liked me. I guess it made me feel gross, but I am SO over that now. I am always stuffing my face with something, whether my boyfriend is around or not. It's great. ^_^

I guess that would be MY piece of relationship advice to any girls out there: guys wont think you're gross for eating in front of them. It's NATURAL. And everyone has to eat. And not like rabbits.[/color][/size]

[Retribution]

[QUOTE=ryo_sagara][COLOR=DarkRed]
First if you can't even talk to the person: Just start with subtle acts of kindness to build up some confidence, things like picking stuff up for them if they drop it, or getting things for them. (Papers work nicely if you're in school)

Second when you do finally talk to them: Compliments make people feel good about themselves try that, or talk about something casual. (Homework, clothes, prices of things, weather, etc.)
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NO TALK ABOUT PRICES! I repeat, NO TALK ABOUT PRICES! Usually, talking about prices is alright if neither one of you have the item, but if one of you does... lay off. Things could get really awkward if it ends up they got their clothes from the thriftstore and their shoes from Payless, because they might be embarresed about that. Don't talk about your own things either like, "Yeah, I know, isn't this shirt awesome? I got it for $50 at ____." This could make the person feel poor or slightly less important that you if you flaunt your posessions. But innocent talk about something like "Yeah, I wish I had a Gameboy DS. How much do they cost?" if neither one of you has it. Point is be careful.

Me? Personally, I just try to befriend them just like I would with any other person that I'm not interested in a relationship with. The point where I want it to go a little farther, I tend to go the extra distance to try to please the girl, make them feel special, etc, without coming on too strong. Like buying her chocolate and you've only known her for a month.

[ryo_sagara]

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Thanks for that bit people should follow that guideline.

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[Retribution]

Yay! I contributed useful information somewhere ^.^

And a recent trend I picked up was that girls love chocolate. May I ask this intriguing species, why do they like chocolate?

[Godelsensei]

[QUOTE=Altron]Yay! I contributed useful information somewhere ^.^

And a recent trend I picked up was that girls love chocolate. May I ask this intriguing species, why do they like chocolate?[/QUOTE]
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[FONT=Courier New]Eating chocolate makes your body release endorphins, the body's natural "feel good" supplement. Basically, eating chocolate, like sun-bathing or laughing, makes you feel happy.

Additionally, it tastes good.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[MissWem]

[COLOR=DarkRed]Yea, what Godelsensei said ^_^

And if you can figure out which chocolates she prefers you'll score some really major points. Eg, I like the normal guylian belgian chocolates and maltesers. If someone should buy me either of those I'll be quite smitten with them for the rest of the day.

A good start is making the other person laugh, not with cheesy jokes or acting out right embarassingly stupid but I think a few well placed dry (or damp or however your humour works) comments about the immediate situation works. We often remember people who make us laugh right?

I just hope this doesn't end up like the last advice for relationship thread x^D[/COLOR]

[Retribution]

Goody! I'm obtaining intel ^.^

And how could I figure out which chocolates a girl prefers? Just asking outright? Maybe a little awkward... Maybe if the conversation went towards that topic it would'nt seem so out of place?

And do roses work on a girl for valentines day/birthday?

[wiccansamurai]

Oh, I've got a good idea! Bring some chocolate or candy or whatever to school. Use it to start a conversation about favorite sweets. And share if she happens to have the same likes.


I'm horrible at relationships. Ummm, here's something. I'm not saying this is true in all cases. If a girl who once went out with the guy you are or are about to date tells you something like "He's gonna cheat on you!" or "He's just gonna use you for sex!" keep that in mind. If several friends go up to you and tell you that kinda stuff, be very careful. I wish I had listened to my friends about John. And Rachel should have listened to me about Sean, cuz he was cheating on her.


Roses are nice, but it depends on the girl.

[Retribution]

Well, I'm not a relationship hotshot either. That's why I'm asking these questions. And I'll take your advice on the warnings.

[Delta]

[COLOR=DarkRed][SIZE=1][quote name='wiccansamurai']Roses are nice, but it depends on the girl.[/quote]
I myself prefer tulips.

Yes, eating chocolates does make me feel good. (From Discovery Channel: ) A recent study in Italy found out that serotonin carrier proteins levels in the blood of people who are in love are comparable to that of people diagnosed with obsessive-compulsive disorder. Chocolate messes up with your serotonin levels and (they say) produce the same feelings as love. In short, love really is a madness and chocolates help amplify it (to the giver's advantage!)

Giving roses on a girl's brithday does work... that's assuming that you two are already an item. If you're not, I suggest you give her a less Valentines-y flower, like a gerbera.

Love and Peace!
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[Retribution]

The wealth of knowledge... ah yes. Too bad I'm too chicken to ask a girl out, and girls probably hate that. A guy who doesn't ask. I guess most girls are old fashioned -- no shame in that. Ahh well, I don' think I'll need this information anyway, considering the girls I [i]think[/i] like me already go out w/ someone else or like someone else.

[B]Curse my bad luck![/B]

[MissWem]

[quote name='Altron']The wealth of knowledge... [/quote]
[COLOR=DarkRed]*chuckles* you are so loving this.

You don't have to actually ask the girl out out. You could just ask her to hangout, and then if you find that just hanging out and doing stuff eg. lunch is actually enjoyable and not so awkward you could trip over the atmosphere.. then you could work your way into the dating category.

Mmm.. no you wouldn't generally get roses unless you were an item, the symbolism behind it is much too inflexible. Although any other flowers are good I suppose. Not carnations though, they're a mother's day flower.. or in fact, just ask the florist ^^"

A sly way to find out what chocolates she likes, other than working it into the conversation straiht out is to offer her some chocolate you're eating.. [i]then[/i] ask her what kind she likes, heh. That could work. I should try that.[/COLOR]

[Endymion]

[COLOR=Navy][SIZE=1]Around girls I like, I sometimes talk to fast. As i'm speaking I won't look them in the eyes either, I'll glance in them for a second and be like 'omg!' and turn away(well my eyes anyway). Sometimes if i'm asked a question, that I sure as hell know the answer to, I'll draw a complete blank. Making myself look busy, or working at a faster pace in front of that person happens as well. I guess I'm wierd lol. Most of the girls I know have some similar interests, I just need to find that one that plays video games(and has heard of Harvest Moon), likes watching movies and anime, and likes going on picnics ^_^;;[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Retribution]

[QUOTE=DerelictDestiny][COLOR=DarkRed]*chuckles* you are so loving this.
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Yes I am. ^.^ I guess going out to lunch with a girl wouldn't be too bad if any lived close by, and it could happen 'spontaneously' and not look like a date. Since all the girls I know live far away, I'd have to plan ahead of time, ask her at school, make arrangement. *sigh*

It would be really bad. :(

Darn my neighborhood.

[MaineOtakuNo2]

I only have one tip, and it's short, but very helpful. Out of all the guys I know, all of them want the girl to make the first move. No one wants to screw up, but a guy can screw himself up mentally if he asks at the wrong time. I don't want to include sexual relations in this but I guess I should with so many young people getting laid nowadays. It sucks being a guy in a relationship, you all need to realise that. A guy is usually expected to make the moves, and if he goes too fast it can ruin the moment/day/month/year/life/relationship. So lady's, make the first, and every other move, show the guys when your ready, cause no guy wants to be a failure.

P.S. I'm a 15 year old guy, all my friends are around that age too.

[Sara]

[quote name='That Godel chixx0r']Eating chocolate makes your body release endorphins, the body's natural "feel good" supplement.[/quote][size=1]I feel so...manipulated.

Flowers and chocolates, heh.

I think the primary appeal here is that you're letting the gal know that you're thinking of her. Girls tend to like that, heh. Particularly if they are attracted to you. Not so much if they're trying to avoid you...heh.

One February 14th, after several months of unwanted attentions from a certain member of the male gender, I was absolutely terrified of going to school. I did not want to go--I didn't want to have to deal with him on Valentine's Day.

I dressed all in black, and (after a quick Google search) found a different holiday that took place on the fourteenth....Ferris Wheel Day. My sister and I made little 'Ferrintines' and a couple "Happy Ferris Wheel Day" signs. I braced myself and went to school.

It wasn't...that bad. He did approach me and give me a rose (with attached poem), which freaked me out quite a bit. It was a sweet gesture, though. I guess. I hung the flower up in my room to dry, so I still have that somewhere...for what that's worth.

Anyway, I think I had a point to this, and it was...Hm.

Intimidation is bad. If you like a girl, please, don't stalk her and freak her out. Showing up with gourmet chocolate and her favorite flower, while [i]tres[/i] romantic, is going to scare most sane gals to death.

Be casual, heh. Reese's Peanut Butter Cups work just as well as any other kind of chocolate. (Unless said person is allergic to peanut butter. That's something you should try and be aware of. heh.)

Roses are generally very "serious" flowers. Either you're good friends and you can both handle some teasing, or you're actually dating. I know my high school used to sell carnations for Valentine's Day, and those worked very well.

all you need is love,
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[wiccansamurai]

[QUOTE=MaineOtakuNo2]I only have one tip, and it's short, but very helpful. Out of all the guys I know, all of them want the girl to make the first move. No one wants to screw up, but a guy can screw himself up mentally if he asks at the wrong time. I don't want to include sexual relations in this but I guess I should with so many young people getting laid nowadays. It sucks being a guy in a relationship, you all need to realise that. A guy is usually expected to make the moves, and if he goes too fast it can ruin the moment/day/month/year/life/relationship. So lady's, make the first, and every other move, show the guys when your ready, cause no guy wants to be a failure.

P.S. I'm a 15 year old guy, all my friends are around that age too.[/QUOTE]
Well, tha same goes for girls. The thing I figure is, you need one of each. One person who'll start stuff and the other who doesn't. Or both who start stuff, but it may end up going really fast. The first boyfriend I had, he wasn't the type to start anything, and I sure as hell am not. Nothing ever happened. It lsated a long time, but went antogonizingly SLOW. We never, in 7 months, even kissed.

Now then, skip to now, and my current boyfriend made the first move, the second move, and he'll continue making moves and that's fine with me. Its all how personalities click.

[foreverinfinity]

[QUOTE=Altron]Yay! I contributed useful information somewhere ^.^

And a recent trend I picked up was that girls love chocolate. May I ask this intriguing species, why do they like chocolate?[/QUOTE]

Did you seriously just ask why we like CHOCOLATE?!!? It's becuse it's sweet, tasty, and sometimes shaped like little hearts. And also it sometimes has peanut butter or cream or even MORE CHOCOLATE inside. I'm getting all my friends chocolate for holiday presents.

[Sara]

[quote name='foreverinfinity']Did you seriously just ask why we like CHOCOLATE?!!? It's becuse it's sweet, tasty, and sometimes shaped like little hearts. And also it sometimes has peanut butter or cream or even MORE CHOCOLATE inside. I'm getting all my friends chocolate for holiday presents.[/quote][size=1]Well, yes, but haven't you ever noticed--to a girl it's CHOCOLATE!!!, while to a guy it's...Chocolate. Heh.

I once saw a list of reasons why it was better to be male than female and one of the reasons was "Chocolate is just another snack food."

it's tough to be a god,
Sara[/size]

[Guest hellfire]

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