Pave-Low Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 Well, im in a bad situation right now. Theres basically 5 people in my main little freinds group if you want to call it that. We are always together if we can be. Theres, Me, Justin, Tadie, Scarlett, and Amber. justin is going out with tadie, and I (painfully) just broke up with scarlett. Where all really good friends though. Anyway, Tadie (justin g/f) and I have been getting really really close latelly. I mean close. I have lioked her for a while but she has been dating justin. Like I said we have been getting close and I think she really likes me. Bad thing is, shes still going out with justion. Im not sure really what to do next. Im afraid word is going to get to justin about me and tadie before anything really happens, then hes going to start asking questions and i see our friendship in the middle of an atomic explosion. DOes anyone have advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lady Macaiodh Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 my advice is to back off. wait for them to break up on their own. & then if you still want her, you should ask your friend if he'd be okay w/ it first. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pave-Low Posted November 10, 2001 Author Share Posted November 10, 2001 Thats a good idea. Even if they break up first, i think it would still be really ackward. I dont know what to do........... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k9* Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 it sounds like you really care about your friends and how they feel, all i have to say is trust yourself, but don't rush into things Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Ghostfx Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 It really depends on their relationship now. I'd ask about them and if they are doing well as a couple then I'd leave her alone. If they were having problems then you should probably just wait until they break up and like Lady Macaiodh said ask if its ok with your friend...even if he does say its ok it'd still be awkward. You never know...it could just be a temp. thing with her, the best thing to do is just to wait it out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pave-Low Posted November 10, 2001 Author Share Posted November 10, 2001 Yeah, im gonna wait and see what happens. I dont want her to be with me while shes with him, or anything but i dunno what to do. I dont like hurting people. Im bored, so AIM me if your bored too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pave-Low Posted November 10, 2001 Author Share Posted November 10, 2001 Just wanted to clear things up: Tadie (justin g/f) and I have been getting really really close latelly. I meant we where getting close. Its more her than me though. Especially today. She is really coming on to me so like i said, i dont know what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Pave-Low [/i] [B]Well, im in a bad situation right now. Theres basically 5 people in my main little freinds group if you want to call it that. We are always together if we can be. Theres, Me, Justin, Tadie, Scarlett, and Amber. justin is going out with tadie, and I (painfully) just broke up with scarlett. Where all really good friends though. Anyway, Tadie (justin g/f) and I have been getting really really close latelly. I mean close. I have lioked her for a while but she has been dating justin. Like I said we have been getting close and I think she really likes me. Bad thing is, shes still going out with justion. Im not sure really what to do next. Im afraid word is going to get to justin about me and tadie before anything really happens, then hes going to start asking questions and i see our friendship in the middle of an atomic explosion. DOes anyone have advice? [/B][/QUOTE] [color=crimson][size=1]In this situation, you just have to do the right thing. Justin's your friend...and you can't betray friendship. The best thing to do is wait. If this girl started going out with you while she was with Justin...well...there is nothing to say that she wouldn't cheat on you if she had the chance. So the best thing to do in my opinion, is to wait for a while and see what happens. If she tells you that she likes you, tell her that she has to at least break up with Justin first. Otherwise it could get ugly [/color][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cecil Posted November 10, 2001 Share Posted November 10, 2001 Well, in the end you can do what you want, but I think that a good friendship is better than a wasted relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stormbringer Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 Don't give her any signals that you want something to happen between you two. Just keep developing the friendship as it is - Just a friendship. If your friend Justin questions you, just be honest with him (but leave out the part that you like the girl). If he's as good a friend as I think he is, he'll understand. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NorykoAngelcry Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 I had something like this happen to our 'group' about a year and a half ago. The girl is Steph, and the two men were Jay(her b/f, my best friend) and Darren. Simply put, Steph is a big flirt, that was falling for Darren (who was in love with her), while dating Jay. Jay was sorta oblivious to the whole thing poor guy, and though we tried, the rest of us really couldn't do anything to stop it, short of bringing an all out war to everyone. Well, one night at my college dorm, they went off to the 'vending machines' and three hours later, came back. That was it for Jay, and after that, all . . well, everything broke loose. Jay broke up with Steph, and the group sorta split down the line for the friends of Jay and Darren. It totally ripped us all apart, and I felt almost as bad as Jay did that this all happened. Well, all this time later, true friendship ruled over a girl, and Darren and Jay are getting back to being friends, and Steph is off on her own, ruining her life (she was heavy into drugs before meeting Jay and the rest of us, and is getting back into them I suppose. . too sad). It still is a soft spot that people can be like that at all. --My advice to you is to play it totally safe, and stay away from her until she expresses true feelings to you, and makes her intentions clear. Who knows, she could just be bored right now, looking for a bit of an escape. . but I believe you owe it to your friends to be faithful to the friendship you have, and not to try to ruin it-- Sorry. . . not sure if this is helping at all. . sooooo ^_^ *shuts up* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mornigndew Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 [color=blue] Back off for now, he's your friend. Don't betray yourfreind over a girl/guy. [/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VP-Master Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 I watn to go to the year 3000 just to see if the Earth exists. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Dark Man X Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by VP-Master [/i] [B]I watn to go to the year 3000 just to see if the Earth exists. [/B][/QUOTE] :D I think you took the wrong turn. lol Anyways, think this out before you do anything. Think about the consequences. If you back off from her, she'll think you don't like her and you'll never know if there was anything between you two. But if you move in right now, that's the end of you and that other guy. Why not just fight over her? Gladiator style. Or make her choose? j/k! lol... just think before you act! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Zidargh Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Pave-Low [/i] [B]Well, im in a bad situation right now. Theres basically 5 people in my main little freinds group if you want to call it that. We are always together if we can be. Theres, Me, Justin, Tadie, Scarlett, and Amber. justin is going out with tadie, and I (painfully) just broke up with scarlett. Where all really good friends though. Anyway, Tadie (justin g/f) and I have been getting really really close latelly. I mean close. I have lioked her for a while but she has been dating justin. Like I said we have been getting close and I think she really likes me. Bad thing is, shes still going out with justion. Im not sure really what to do next. Im afraid word is going to get to justin about me and tadie before anything really happens, then hes going to start asking questions and i see our friendship in the middle of an atomic explosion. DOes anyone have advice? [/B][/QUOTE] Right, if the relationship between Tadie and justin starts to get a bit scratchy, now's the time to step in. Comfort Tadie, aswell as Justin but be there for her. Then you'll start to get close. But, like me, you don't wanna hurt your friends. Explain to Justin that you like Tadie alot, and I'll bet he'll accept that. Dont worry, just patience ok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kyoofu Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 I think that you are a really good friend because you don't want to hurt anybody or maybe get hurt yourself. Backing off is a good idea because that way Justin doesn't get hurt by being cheated on or broken up with. Also he won't get mad at you and maybe let his fellings get in the way of his actions and then hurt you and maybe Tadie too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quatre's_gurl Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 [COLOR=seagreen]*waves* Hi Kyoofu!!! *ahem* I think that pretty much what everyone is saying is a good idea: back off for now. If Justin breaks up w/ Tadie, maybe then you could ask her out. Other than that, I have no advise. (I've never gone out w/ ne1 before, so I wouldn't know:bawl: )[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RyockoBabe100% Posted November 12, 2001 Share Posted November 12, 2001 What's your malfunction dude? I'm trying to make friends and your spazing out. We could go toe to toe. I got no problem with that, but with all due respect stop stepping on my toes and start kissing my *##:flaming: Bye kiddo we could have been friends. :smooch: :angel: . If you were just trying to help me out I take it all back:bawl: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gundamcat17 Posted November 14, 2001 Share Posted November 14, 2001 thats like the 5th or so newbie i have seen get banned in a couple of days thats just crazy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Harry Posted November 14, 2001 Share Posted November 14, 2001 well, just give her up then Pave-Low. If you dont' want to get rid of your cliche, then don't go out with her, period. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted November 14, 2001 Share Posted November 14, 2001 Was that "Ryocko" guy this Justin or something? Anyway, if it was he is obviously a jerk and doesn't deserve my name-sake. It sounds to me like you should go where you feel you belong. There is no way to predict where you should go, I'm just telling you what I would do... -Justin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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