Miryoku Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 . Okay its a long story. My friend lets just call him Bob and i started going out over thanksgiving. He broke up w/me after 3 and a half days, i don't know if the reason is that i'm a guy too or that it went too fast paced, we were only going out for 2 hours and we were in my bed making out.is that too fast? He seemed comfortable w/ the whole thing and we were realy open w/each other, wich is weird cuz he's the quiet emo punk/goth type who does'nt open up to any one. then it was a saturday i think he was supposed to come over to my house. He was'nt thare on time but i did'nt think anything of it cuz he was at my house the night be fore until 11 . But then i looked at the clock and it was 6 pm. so i called his house his mom said that he had left to go to my house. well i was realy worried so i called my friend cecily who lives behind another one of my friends, beka. well she told me he was at beka's house. she then called thare and told Bob to come over to my house. when he got here he said he needed to talk. He then said he did like me but that he was'nt ready for a relationship. Every time i bring up the two of us he freaks out. I can't help it, i love him more than anyone else. I can't help but flirt when i'm around him. what should i do? I'm so afraid of waiting for him to be ready. what if he falls in love w/some one else during that time period? i know i'm realy young im only about 16 but i realy feel that he's the one. What if he is the one but he does'nt want me? then I'll be alone forever.:( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Heezay Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 My god, that's so gay.....Oh, wait a minute. You are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miryoku Posted December 20, 2004 Author Share Posted December 20, 2004 [quote name='Heezay']My god, that's so gay.....Oh, wait a minute. You are.[/quote] actualy I'm Bi but close enough. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArunueShekamari Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 [font=Book Antiqua][size=1][color=seagreen][b]Kid, love is a f*cked up emotion, trust me. If he isn't ready and/or doesn't want you, find someone else, move the hell on. There's nothing better to do, if you just hound him and stalk him and push yourself onto him, he'll definatly not want you and end up avoiding you and hating you. So give him space and if he finds someone else, you do to. There is no such thing as "The one" or "The perfect match". You can find someone you can comply with anywhere, and falling in love is one of the easiest things in the world. Move on, find someone else, maybe a pretty girl, maybe another guy that might be more open to homo sexuality. The guy...."bob"...might have thought he was fine with it for a while, but then realized he wasn't up for homosexuality. Maybe it was confliction with morals. If he doesn't want to talk about it, don't puch it on him, give him space and if he finds someone else, you need to too. I can't stress it enough that there are tons of people that would easily comply with you. Just keep looking and try to find someone that isn't perfect, because no ones perfect, but someone that you can really open up to and someone that feel comfortable, someone that can help you, someone that you enjoy being with. That's almost all there is to love. It's not as complicated as people make it seem to be, though it is screwed up. I hope that helps any.[/b][/color][/size][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Xander Harris Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 O.k. Moving on to the next thread.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 [color=#811C3A]What's with the spam? Heezay and Xander, I'm looking at you. I think that Bob has basically given you his answer. Either he's worried about commitment, or he's simply too young for a relationship. Unfortunately there isn't a lot you can do -- it's best just to attempt to move on, I think. The more you dwell on these things, the worse you'll feel.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ArunueShekamari Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 [font=Book Antiqua][size=1][color=seagreen][b]Exactly what I said only in fewer words....[/b][/color][/size][/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezekiel Posted December 20, 2004 Share Posted December 20, 2004 [COLOR=Green][SIZE=1]I don't think there was any need for what Heezay and Xander said, guys, be a little more tolerant of others. Anyway. Maybe I can speak for the other side of this. I was going out with my friend Melissa for about 3 months. She was my first proper kiss and I was hers. When we came out in school that we were together it shocked our friends and a few people were disgusted with us. It was after a while of her being really affection and telling me she loved me and even talking about us living together that I got freaked out and realised that I obviously wasn't as enthusiastic about being with her as she was about me. I told her that I thought I was going through a phase as a teenager and she seemed to accept that, it was only a week or so later that she broke down crying and told me how much that statement had hurt. Now it took me a few months to realise that a same sex relationship was not for me, you said that in the first few hours of your going out you were kissing. Maybe you did move too fast and 'Bob' realised what I did. I don't want to dampen your spirits, really I don't, but I don't think you should dwell on it. I was talking to Melissa only an hour ago and she told me she still had feelings for me despite the fact that she has had numerous boyfriends since we split up. I told her that I was sorry and she knows I am very much in love, maybe that's the wrong expression to use but you know what I mean, with who I'm currently dating and she accepts that, I just told her to stop thinking about it because I wouldn't want her getting hurt of me. I think you should talk to 'Bob' and if he jerks you around, then he isn't worth it. Maybe I should have started with that statement ^_~ Good luck with whatever you decide.[/SIZE][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yume Tenshi Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 [COLOR=RoyalBlue]MOVE ON he dosen't like you the way you do then o well you don't have to be alone and once you find someone else and he see you he'll be sad cause your happy and he is not. It happened to me i moved one..... i think its weird i was sitting alone he came over and said im sorry that i looked at you before and i was like ok and he got his friend to ask me if i like him i said yeah just so she would shut up then i started to really like him and then she told he hated me cause i liked him[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest JianRyuki Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 I have to say either A- he doesn't really like you and doesn't feel the same or B- he just wanted to get something and go and we all know what that something is. AS far as sticking around I say to hell with him and find someone who'll actually give you more than 2 hrs to whoo them. I have been around and around that little bandwagon called dating and let me tell you that happens alot, most guys being too scared to break it off themselves for fear of the woman making them seem like immature boys, or having their friends ridicule them. So he's probably saying I have a girlfriend and yeah, with you waiting around for him he does. I say dump the jerk and move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Baron Samedi Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 [size=1]Maybe he began to have doubts about how he felt going out with another guy...maybe something happened [ie teasing, bullying] that made him dump you. Maybe he got too worried about the possibility of being bullied, or maybe his parents didn't like it. Maybe he decided you were too much, maybe he decided you were too fast. Maybe he likes someone else, maybe he's not ready for commitment, maybe he want a Platonic relationship, maybe he wants a physical one. Lots of maybes, and no answers. My advice is to try and move on. Further pushing at the issue will only drive both of you further apart, maybe making an irreparable gap.[/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest tinkbeetle Posted January 9, 2005 Share Posted January 9, 2005 I find it very unfortunate that you are in a situation where A) You're 16 and gay B) You have been victimized by what seems to be someone who wanted to experiment with [U]your[/U] sexuality and C)you feel as though you are in love with this guy and that life won't go on. Here's what I'd like you to know A)If you're really sure that your homosexual and that being in same sex relationships is what your life will consist of I wish you the best in the trials you will encounter in your lifetime, B) There are guys (men and boys) who will take advantage of you because they are too cowardly to address their sexuality and own up to who they are. These men/boys will be in relationships with unknowing women and girls and they will use you for their own pleasure. Be wise and always make sure you are on the same page! And finally C)Whatever you find your sexuality to be you will find someone who will love and care for you if you don't allow yourself to be stunted by some idiot who thinks that guys give better BJ's than girls. Hope this helps:) Keep your spirits up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Panda Posted January 10, 2005 Share Posted January 10, 2005 [quote name='LokiTheAssassin']no the problem is over dont post hear any more no more just stop[/quote] Loki, your response is not adding to the discussion at hand. Telling people to stop responding to a thread you did not start is not helpful to the author who is asking for advice. In addition please work on your grammar when responding to a thread. Because of it's incoherent nature I am deleting your thread. ~Panda Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delta Posted January 10, 2005 Share Posted January 10, 2005 [COLOR=#B33D79]My... a three-day old relationsip gone very [i]very[/i] wrong. Maybe you should stay off dating for a while. Do something else. You've the rest of your life to fall in love yet only in this year can you do 16-year old stuff.[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Miryoku Posted January 10, 2005 Author Share Posted January 10, 2005 [QUOTE=Panda]Loki, your response is not adding to the discussion at hand. Telling people to stop responding to a thread you did not start is not helpful to the author who is asking for advice. In addition please work on your grammar when responding to a thread. Because of it's incoherent nature I am deleting your thread. ~Panda[/QUOTE] pand please listen to him the problem is over, he has as much right to want this thread closed as i do (wups i probably should'nt have let that out). so please close it if you can Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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