Baby Boys or Baby Girls?

[DBZgirl88]

[COLOR=#004a6f]We all know that many societies prefer boys over girls when it comes to having children. And I think, or at least hope, the most of us would think this is wrong in a way.

But still, I have a question for otakus here who are planning to have kids in the future: If you plan to have only one child, do you wish it is a boy or girl, or it doesn't matter to you? If you plan to more than one child, would you like your first child to be a boy or girl? What about your youngest child? Would you prefer a greater number of boys or girls in your family? I know this a a weird question, and in the end it probably doesn't really matter what gender your kids are. I just think that different genders might affect the overall environment and "mood" of the home and family. Different people have different tastes, and maybe this kind of affects your preference for specific genders for kids. So, what do you guys think?

I personally, like boys and girls equally, but I would prefer that my first child be a girl. I notice that when a boy is the oldest, he sometimes seems to dominate over the other kids, at least this is what I've seen with many arab families I know. Sometimes they isolate themsleves from the family and bully the other kids, lol.[/COLOR]

[Syk3]

I do plan to have kids one day, but I don't really care whether I have boys or girls or a combination, at least at this point. As I grow older, I may come to prefer to have one over the other, but at this point, I think I can do fine raising either one. I did find it interesting, however, that my mom has told me that she was glad that she had two boys, rather than girls. lol As a woman, aparently she understood the amount of work that it takes to raise a girl, and felt that boys would.. I dunno, be easier maybe. :p

[Misaki Mitsu]

[FONT=Book Antiqua][COLOR=Red]i truthfully would love both. i do not care if it was a boy or girl, i would love each the same. i tryuthfully think that when wemon only want a certain sex for a child, i think that is very cold. and normally when they dont get the right one, they give it up for addoption, or mistreat the child.... i thinks its just wrong.... >.<. and if ya have a problem with my thinking :: rolls up sleeve :: i will take ya to Never Land. and if ur a girl... lets just say he will be rapin little girls now ^_^ :laugh: [/COLOR][/FONT]

[DBZgirl88]

[COLOR=#004a6f][quote name='Misaki Mitsu][FONT=Book Antiqua][COLOR=Red]i truthfully would love both. i do not care if it was a boy or girl, i would love each the same. i tryuthfully think that when wemon only want a certain sex for a child, i think that is very cold. and normally when they dont get the right one, they give it up for addoption, or mistreat the child.... i thinks its just wrong.... >.<. and if ya have a problem with my thinking :: rolls up sleeve :: i will take ya to Never Land. and if ur a girl... lets just say he will be rapin little girls now ^_^ :laugh: [/COLOR'][/FONT][/quote]Yeah I know that's really cruel, but I wasn't talking about preference in that sense. I said, I would prefer a girl as my first child, but even if I had a boy, I would love him just the same. I was talking about preference in relation to "mood".[/COLOR]

[elfpirate]

I already have a boy, and, although I could love a girl just as much as I love my son, I was glad that I had a son, because I think my personality is more like a guy's and I would probably screw up a little girl... because I just can't get into Barbie's and lace and crap like that.
I much prefer being able to take my son along skateboarding and sparring with him and things like that in comparison to dance recitals and tea parties... not that gender prevents anyone from doing those things, but society puts a lot of pressure on little girls to act like little girls...
And I should know- I was teased mercilessly for playing with my GIJoes and for hanging my one and only doll with a jumprope... after cutting off all her hair... and I got into many fights for taking up skateboarding and other "non-traditional" activities for my gender.

Having a son just makes it easier for both of us to bond... and to find activities that we both really enjoy. I think I'd have to tone down my aggressive nature a lot and learn how to do the more girlie things... unless my daughter ended up being a lot like me...

If I ever choose to have another child, it won't matter what gender they are, but I'll be glad to have learned to be a good parent with a son first.

[Panda]

[quote name='Chabichou][COLOR=#004a6f']I notice that when a boy is the oldest, he sometimes seems to dominate over the other kids, at least this is what I've seen with many arab families I know.[/COLOR][/quote]
I have grown up in a very similar situation where I have seen preferential treatment towards males than with females. Japanese culture is changing but my family seems to be more "old school" about the treatment of the different sexes.

I do not have any children yet but if I ever get healthy enough to have kids of my own I would like a boy then a girl. Two kids. That is the way I grew up and I loved being the little sister with a big brother to watch out for me. My husband, on the other hand, is one of two boys so he would rather have two boys. I really do feel that our preferences for the gender of kids are a directly influenced by our own childhood. No matter what we would love our children, boy or girl, they will be loved equally.

I guess my only concern is since my mom is a twin and my husband's family has a long line of multiple births is that I would end up being the woman who has a "litter" of children. A baby is hard enough to care for but having multiples would be insanely difficult!

[Juu]

[size=1]I used to prefer babysitting baby boys, just because the majority of the ones I've 'sat' for a day were friendlier. But just last year, my aunt (stepmom of my cousin) had her first baby girl (Somi), and I'm completely in love with her. x.x; First time in ages I spent a good three hours just making odd noises and puppeting around a stuffed animal to keep an infant entertained. ^_____^;

Hmm. Asian families seem to prefer baby boys, but I'm just speaking for uber-traditional families. My grandparents pressured my mom to have a son even after they divorced, and now they're pressuring my dad to find a new wife as soon as possible because they want a son to 'carry on the family name' and crap. Ah well. I wouldn't mind having a sibling, though. Somi's wonderful, and I love taking care of her. [/size]

[Fyxe]

[size=1][color=slategray]If I have children when I am older, I wouldn't really care whether it would be a boy or a girl. I enjoy being around both genders, and I think no matter what, I would try to be a great mother, no matter what gender my child is. I find it horrible that people would actually mistreat their child because they didn't have the gender they wanted.

But, if anything, it is harder to raise a kid when they are getting older, such as the pre-teen and teen years. That's when hormones take over and they are harder to understand. Plus, being a teen myself, I know that I hate having people hanging all over me, so I am a little difficult to communicate with.... toward my family anyway. ^^;;

If I had a boy, I would love to be able to teach him how to play sports and do those kind of activities with him... since I would probably relate to that stuff better. But if I had a girl, I would respect what she wanted to do. And, hey, since I love to cook.. maybe I could pass that on to my daughter if I had one. Who knows.

All children develope differently, so you don't know what you are stuck with until you have one. But that should be an enjoyable experience, no matter the gender. I already love little kids, and normally they like me, so I hope I can be a successful mother and such. ^_^[/color][/size]

[future girl]

[size=1]I've been helping my sister and brother raise their children since I was ten years old. Five boys basically born back to back, so it's safe to say that my experience in child rearing is pretty much dominated by the male sex. Because of this I prefer boys. I'm not going to lie and say I like them both equally. I think boys are a lot cuter and they love me more. They're a lot easier to raise, too. I mean, if I were to ever get pregnant, god forbid and I had a girl, I'd love her because she's my baby and how can you not love something that intimately a part of you. Still, I know it'd be a lot harder than raising a boy because girls are whores. I know, I am one. Sometimes I wouldn't mind a girl because you can dress her up and stuff. I know it'd be hard and that just freaks me out, but I imagine myself raising me and I'd shoot myself from the stress heh.[/size]

[Angelus_Necare]

[size=1][color=darkred]If I were to ever become preagnant and give birth to my very own rug monkey I imagine a boy would be to my liking. I suppose it comes from me taking care of my younger brother, and watching other younger boys growing up.

The hormonal issue also comes to play in here. The reason I would prefer boys over girls when they became teens would have to be puberty. I mean, i know how I was growing up a teenage girl, and I put my parents through utter hell. The again, I'm not exactly sure myself how I would handle my son as he progressed though his journey of life.

Regardless of sex, I would care for my child as best as I could, giving them plenty of love, a shoulder to cry on and hopefully plenty of hints that I'd never want to live in a nursing home.[/color][/size]

[Hevn]

I need help raising babies, regardless of their sex. u.u

Anyways, we need boys to pass on the family's last name, lol. And baby girls are fun because we can dress them up and make them cute and pretty with ribbons and pigtails and pink dresses and err..yeah, heh.. I personally enjoy being a girl. ^_^

Also, I'd like my first baby to be a boy... maybe because they tend to have a more sense of responsibility or something. Plus, they can protect their little brothers or sisters. But really, I don't care. If they were my babies, I'll love them unconditionally for sure. (Even if my baby boy wants to be a girl or vice versa >.<)

[Annie]

[color=darkslategray][size=1]I personally only want two children. I'm from a large family of seven; me being the fifth child. And I really don't want to have too many children.

I really don't care what gender of child I want. Just as long as they are healthy and are birthed without complications. But...for the sake of this thread, I will admit that I would like to have a boy and a girl. However, if I am graced with two boys..I'm good to go. Boys, I found, have been easier to take care of. So energetic, playful, and easy to please. Girls are evil, and are so difficult to please.

It would be nice to have a boy and girl. But like I said, whatever happens happens.[/color][/size]