The best way to tell a guy your not interested

[Lennex3]

[FONT=Century Gothic][COLOR=DarkRed]What are some of the best ways to lets the guy know your not interested? Because some guys just dont get it! :animeangr

Arigatou[/COLOR][/FONT]

[Retribution]

Well, I'm not a girl, but I'll attempt to answer your question.

I suppose you could tell a guy off by being direct, simply telling him you're not interested in a relationship with thim. Maybe try to spend less time with the person, or drop subtle, obvious hints. Maybe stress that he's [i]just a friend[/i]. Girls have a way with shooting down guy's hopes by doing that stuff.

Any help?

[Juu]

[size=1]Well, from my erm, experience on the opposite end, I've always found it easier when a boy would tell me directly that he just doesn't like me [b]that[/b] way. It's a bit of a stab at first, but hey, I get over it. It's a lot better than feeling confused of where I stand and having that terrible feeling of being let on over and over. Subtle hints can be a bit confusing, and if they're stupid and optimistic like me, it just won't work, lol. It might hurt him at first, but it's a lot better in the long run. Things will be back to normal faster, and you can just put an end to it while it's erm... cook..ing. o_o[/size]

[Sara]

[color=indigo]"I'm not interested."

Be straighforward. Be honest. Be kind, if you can.

[i]Don't[/i] let him continue to think he has a chance if he doesn't. That gets messy, and it can end up being painful for both parties.[/color]

[Kuraineko]

I know if I didn't like a guy and he did. The things I do are ignore him, but not in a bad way to were I stop talking to him completely. Or get on his nerves then he'll get tired of ya and leave you alone. That works for me. But if you still wanna be friends then introduce him to someone else and make him like them. But that's just me. :animeswea

[Lennex3]

[quote name='Kuraineko']I know if I didn't like a guy and he did. The things I do are ignore him, but not in a bad way to were I stop talking to him completely. Or get on his nerves then he'll get tired of ya and leave you alone. That works for me. But if you still wanna be friends then introduce him to someone else and make him like you. But that's just me. :animeswea[/quote]

Are you trying to hint at something? :D

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]Well, a restraining order and a police escort away from you are two very direct ways to tell a guy you're not interested in him. Come to think of it, so is going out with his best friend.

Barring that I'd say that if you tried telling him you aren't interested and he didn't get the hint, maybe you could ignore him. Writing a very blunt to the point letter works too. So does sending your friends over in a Godfather like fashion to explain to him that you aren't interested. But go with the letter first.[/color]

[DeathBug]

[quote name='Homer Simpson']And if that doesn't work, just remember these six words: 'I'm not gay, but I'll try.'[/quote]

Any questions?

[The Vampire: Ed]

[COLOR=Red][FONT=Comic Sans MS]Well, I don't know much about this obviously as a straight male, but as a guy on the receiving end I would like straight forward honesty. You lie, and it kills a lot of trust. That is if the guy you are talking about is like a friend to you. But if he's not really a friend, honesty is still the best policy.

Listen to Lore also. That's very good advice. [/FONT][/COLOR]

[Panda]

I am with Lore and Ed on this. Honesty is the best policy. Be upfront and honest. Tell him you are not interested. Ignoring him may lead him to think you are playing hard to get. Just be straight forward and tell him that you are not interested.

[AzureWolf]

[FONT=book antiqua][SIZE=2][COLOR=blue]Wait, no one has explained to me why having sex with a guy isn't the best way to break up. Trust me, it'll go down softer if you have sex with someone you are breaking up with - well, the fact that you are breaking up with him will be softer, not... <_<

So, yeah, that's my recommendation.
[QUOTE]Just be straight forward and tell him that you are not interested.[/QUOTE] You brought up being straight. Just out of curiosity, a girl once told me that the best way to break up with a girl is admitting that you are gay. I don't think this opposite holds true (i.e., girl is gay), but is that true? Is that the best way to break up with a girl? Provided you are gay, of course. And then explaining why would be oh-so helpful.

Just to add to the discussion, heh.[/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT]

[elfpirate]

[b]Well... I thought that honesty was the best policy, and I was as straightforward as I could be with this latest one, but he's [i]still[/i] being persistent.

[b]I even went as far as to tell him that if he wanted to avoid being hurt and having his head messed with, he'd better turn and run away ASAP... but even that didn't deter him...so I tried to convince him that I was one of those psychotic females that would destroy his life over nothing... that didn't work, either... [/b]

[b]I'm beginning to think that he's a masochist or something, because I've been kind of mean about the whole thing lately, and he thinks I'm as cute as ever... no matter how many times I tell him I'm not interested...[/b]
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[b]I unfortunately don't have the option of seeing less of him at this point, either... [/b]

[b]So- as long as the guy is somewhat normal (and not bizarre like this one) I'd have to say that honesty is always best. But if he's a little strange and doesn't seem to be bothered by rejection at all- then it may not work... in which case, I'm not sure what to do...obviously...:animeswea .[/b]

[Kuraineko]

[quote name='Lennex3']Are you trying to hint at something? :D[/quote]
I don't know am I? But it works. Also acting very retarded and childish works when over the age of 12. :animesmil

[Zombie_Nosh]

[RIGHT][COLOR=DarkGreen][SIZE=3][FONT=Garamond]Heh, yeah, honesty [I]is[/I] the best policy! Just tell them straight, "No!", and if that doesn't work - sometimes, you have to be cruel to be kind. And whatever you do - NEVER lead them on.

So, basically, I've just repeated everyting that's been said so far. [/FONT] [/SIZE] [/COLOR] [/RIGHT]

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]If the restraining order doesn't work, you can always try to shoot him. :animeswea

But seriously I'd try to be straight forward like other people have said and if he doesn'tget it just walk away. But walk away backwards so he can't do a sneak attack[/color]

[Viper0529]

I dont know if it was just this one girl, but I found out she [U]really[/U] wasnt interested me when she smacked me upside the head, kicked me in the shin, then ran. Maybe it was a little agressive, but that sure got me off her trail.

[Biida]

[QUOTE=elfpirate][b]Well... I thought that honesty was the best policy, and I was as straightforward as I could be with this latest one, but he's [i]still[/i] being persistent.

...

So- as long as the guy is somewhat normal (and not bizarre like this one) I'd have to say that honesty is always best. But if he's a little strange and doesn't seem to be bothered by rejection at all- then it may not work... in which case, I'm not sure what to do...obviously...:animeswea .[/b][/QUOTE]

Two words, elf: restraining order. :)

Like most people here, I've always found honesty to be the best policy. Although I admit I sometimes go overboard. I mean to say "I'm not interested, sorry," but something along the lines of "CRAZYPSYCHOGIRLSAYSNOROAR" usually comes out.

Isn't it just great being a spaz?

[elfpirate]

[quote name='Pyro Kitty']Two words, elf: restraining order. :)[/quote]
[b]Yeah. I would've considered that if he [i]weren't [/i]one of my best friends... or if I didn't know that it would take me about a second to render him unconscious.:smirk: [/b]


[left][b]Seriously, though- he's not scary... he's just... um... strange. No matter how mean I can be at times, he still "loves" me. That's why I think he may be a touch on the masochistic side...[/b][/left]






[center]On a side note- it seems wrong to shorten my name to just "elf"... so...[/center]
[center]prepare to be boarded...[/center]

[Semjaza]

As said several times, I'd just say I wasn't interested repeatedly. If that wouldn't suffice, a kick in the nuts probably would.

[r3vival]

i'm not a girl but id have to say i would want a girl to flat out tell me that shes not interested if its the case. I mean if i did like them id probably feel pretty crummy but its not nearly as bad as not knowing and getting mixed messages from the person you like so if he doesnt get it just BE DIRECT but hey go easy on the guy its one thing to say i dont like you like that its another to say I HATE YOU lol im sure u get it

[Heaven's Cloud]

[color=indigo]Yeah, the [b]best[/b] way to tell a guy that you don?t want to date them is to simply say ?I?m sorry, I?m not interested in dating you?.

However, I have asked out quite a few girls, and I have been turned down by roughly half (maybe a little over half) of them, yet I can count on one hand how many of them just replied with a ?no thanks?.

The problem with saying things like ?I?d love to but?? is that you really build false hope for the guy. I know that I asked out this one girl in high school three or four times and she kept turning me down by saying things like ?If I wasn?t dating so and so?? or ?I just don?t want to date [i]anyone[/i] right now??. I probably wouldn?t have wasted so much time doting on her if she had just said ?no thanks?, although we did end up dating for a little while, so I guess my perseverance wasn?t all a waste (even though I have a feeling she asked me out because I had pretty much given up on her and wasn?t paying her any attention).
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[Guest Death Rose]

The best way is a simple yet nice reply saying "NO i don't like you but we can still be friends if we are). ( im soo nice)