I'm about to ask the woman i love to marry me

[Lightwing]

I'm going to ask the woman I love in three years, but I don't know how though. Can someone help me?

[Adahn]

Unless your birthday is down wrong, you're 14 years old. Before you ask this 'woman' to marry you, you'll have to get the permission from both your parents. I'd work on that before 'popping the question'.

[Bloodseeker]

Give her an RKO.

[DeathKnight]

[quote name='Adahn']Unless your birthday is down wrong, you're 14 years old. [/quote]

[color=crimson]I'm pretty sure that is what the "in three years" part was about. He plans on popping the question when he's 17 or 18 and is oddly concerned about it right now. I mean, I'm presuming that since.. otherwise he'd be pretty damn foolish.

Just.. do it your own way, dude. I'm sure that if you are still with your girl in three years [which would be amazing] you will have thought of something special or sentimental to do. Most of the people here are teenagers [eccentric ones, at that], so I doubt you'll get any real, practical advice. So, just do it in a way that would mean something to whoever you are with at the time.[/color]

[Lunai]

[quote name='DeathKnight][color=crimson]Most of the people here are teenagers [eccentric ones, at that'], so I doubt you'll get any real, practical advice. So, just do it in a way that would mean something to whoever you are with at the time.[/color][/quote]

[font=trebuchet ms][color=darkgoldenrod]And I'm sure that DeathKnight would agree with me, that even those of us who no longer fit into the "teenager" category, are still pretty heavy on the eccentricities.[/color][/font]

[Xander Harris]

[quote name='Lunai][font=trebuchet ms][color=darkgoldenrod]And I'm sure that DeathKnight would agree with me, that even those of us who no longer fit into the "teenager" category, are still pretty heavy on the eccentricities.[/color'][/font][/quote]

boo ya! Everyone is gloriously eccentric here!

The advice I would give, is find out if she wants to get married BEFORE you do the proposal thing. I'm sure if you have been with her three years you will know that by then. Once you know the answer will be yes, find a time when she is least expecting it to pop the question. Girls love a surprise.

[Gelgoog Pilot]

Oh God yes man....find out if she wants to get married...or if it'll even work out...Im mean love is truely awsome, but it may not work out at that time in life. No doubt do to whatever career choices either of you make. You may feel that your best chance is to go to college at one end of the country while she feels her best option is 100+ miles away from you. That would throw your palns out of wack.

I'd say congrats for wanting to put planning on it...even though the spontatious usually has the best results. I'm thinking fresh out of highschool isn't the best of times to just get married...try living with each other first...and see what the college education plans are...then you can think about popping the question more seriously

[Stuart]

[SIZE=1][FONT=Tahoma]Your still in highschool and your 14? Ok... A lot can happen in 3 years. Sorry just curious but how long have you "loved" this person? I can't picture myself marrying someone until LONG from now and I'm 16, but if thats what you wanna do...[/FONT][/SIZE]

[foxfire_2008]

Dude this is my advice, "JUST WALK AWAY, YOU WILL HAVE A BETTER CHANCE ON SOME NETWORK LIKE [U]'E-HARMONY.COM' [/U] !" :blowup:
have a great day!

[Kitty]

[quote name='DeathKnight][color=crimson]Most of the people here are teenagers [eccentric ones, at that'], so I doubt you'll get any real, practical advice.[/color][/quote] [color=blue][size=1] You're stating the obvious for the newbie, Ken. How nice. =P

With that aside, I can't really give you any advice. I have not thought about marriage at all at this point (my being your age), and I don't plan to until my late-college or post-college years. You must really like this girl to even [i]consider[/i] getting married at such a young age.

But I do remember an ex-boyfriend of mine that wanted to get married.. He turned out to be the stalker type. o.O;; Good thing I moved. *glances over shoulder* >>;[/size][/color]

[Iron_Inuyasha]

You two must know each other alot in order to take a big BIG step like that! :animestun Take your time...don't wanna have to rush these kinds of things...

[lea]

[quote name='Lunai][font=trebuchet ms][color=darkgoldenrod]And I'm sure that DeathKnight would agree with me, that even those of us who no longer fit into the "teenager" category, are still pretty heavy on the eccentricities.[/color'][/font][/quote]

Eccentric all the way. ^_~

Ergh. I think a good time to consider even popping the question is when you can legally have champainge at your own wedding.

Live your own life a bit before you think about settling down.

Just an opinion, though.

[ForgottenRaider]

[quote name='Lightwing']I don't know how though. Can someone help me?[/quote]
Hehe, no need to worry. I can tell you now you wont like the same girl by the end of highschool, in fact I'm owed $50 by some one who wouldn't believe me when I pointed that out to them. Over the few years you change so much personality wise which makes long lasting relationships nearly impossible.

Though some advice for when you do get older. I wouldn't do anything you've ever seen before, if you are planning some thing big to pop the question, be original. Personally I hate big fusses so I can picture myself just asking with a ring on one knee etc. Though knowing how strange the sort of people I'm falling for at the moment that idea might get a lot stranger before I do every propose. Hehe.

Out of interest how do others expect it to happen?

[James P. Galvatron]

Your 14 and thinking about being married and I'm 15 and couldn't see myself in a truly commited relationship either you are a very loving and caring individual or you are insane in the brain and need to rethink your prorities.

Cause unless you two have unwavering love I don't think you willl last 3 years I mean we are teenagers most relationships are lucky if they last 3 and a half months, but 3 years impossible unless you put alot of time into that relationship just forget about it.

[Shadow Blade]

Three words: "Expensive Wedding Ring !?!"

[SunfallE]

[QUOTE=Xander Harris]boo ya! Everyone is gloriously eccentric here!

The advice I would give, is find out if she wants to get married BEFORE you do the proposal thing. I'm sure if you have been with her three years you will know that by then. Once you know the answer will be yes, find a time when she is least expecting it to pop the question. Girls love a surprise.[/QUOTE]


[QUOTE=Gelgoog Pilot]Oh God yes man....find out if she wants to get married...or if it'll even work out...Im mean love is truely awsome, but it may not work out at that time in life. No doubt do to whatever career choices either of you make. You may feel that your best chance is to go to college at one end of the country while she feels her best option is 100+ miles away from you. That would throw your palns out of wack.

I'd say congrats for wanting to put planning on it...even though the spontatious usually has the best results. I'm thinking fresh out of highschool isn't the best of times to just get married...try living with each other first...and see what the college education plans are...then you can think about popping the question more seriously[/QUOTE]


Okay I'm totally impressed here with the suggestion to see if she wants to get married. *my opinion of just how cool people here are just increased exponentially. I mean I was already impressed, but now even more!* Anyway, I would definatly make sure she is interested in marriage. Speaking from experiance I know lots of girls who want careers and want to work on achieving goals before they become married or have kids. Myself being one of them. I've said no to proposals to get married because my boyfriend just couldn't understand why I wasn't happy with just being a Mom. Nothing personally against mothers, I just don't want to be one. And I do like kids, so long as they are someone else's kids. :animeswea So I agree with [B]Xander Harris [/B] and [B]Geloog Pilot [/B] definately see how she feels about marriage. :animesmil

By the way-I'm not a teenager-But I'm definately eccentric ^_~

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=darkviolet]IF I read this right, unless I'm having an onset of dislexia and I'm not I'm thinking you're jumping the gun a bit ok, a lot.

You know this might just be me, but I think that getting married, or even thinking about getting married at 14 is a bad idea . Yeah, I know it probably worked out just fine in the Middle ages and even for immigrants in the turn of the last century. But not now. We have a higher life expenctancy now it's just not neceassary to consider marriage at 14 anymore.

Wait until you're much older and have a steady job... like the military. Then you can ask the girl you love to marry you properly. Like say asking her to put up with your crap for the rest of her life.[/color]

[sbrebaby]

I mean it when i say that dont do it yet or even then. Make sure your in love and are ready to make that commitment. Try to date some one else for a time period. dont jump into things to quickly. Idid and i am screwed. :animesigh

[PWNED]

As overs have said, Give it some time. A teenager cannot hope to stay in a relationship for three years.

[Gelgoog Pilot]

[QUOTE=ChibiHorsewoman][color=darkviolet]IF I read this right, unless I'm having an onset of dislexia and I'm not I'm thinking you're jumping the gun a bit ok, a lot.

You know this might just be me, but I think that getting married, or even thinking about getting married at 14 is a bad idea . Yeah, I know it probably worked out just fine in the Middle ages and even for immigrants in the turn of the last century. But not now. We have a higher life expenctancy now it's just not neceassary to consider marriage at 14 anymore.

Wait until you're much older and have a steady job... like the military. Then you can ask the girl you love to marry you properly. Like say asking her to put up with your crap for the rest of her life.[/color][/QUOTE]


LOL! Spoken from the lips of someone who knows! Heh I know what popping the question really means as well. "I love you and you love me, but...do you think you can stand me for the rest of your life?"
Ah....but love rocks...*gives high-five to chibi for awsome post*

[Shadowlight]

Boy how i was surprised to see this thread and see the person who was asking was 14 years boy! I don't mean to be rude but heh i think your a little young to even think about it, i'm 20 years old and i don't think about it :animeshy:
Uhmmm i really don't know if i'm right but it seems this was your first crush and i DO believe you love her much to even think about asking her that, but like some people said here, you are a teen and we do change a lot in just a few years so i do think its to early to pop out with that important question, i'm sure she will be quite surprised if you do, (i would! :animeswea ), anyway just enjoy your her company and her love, and wait until both of you are old enough and a good job, then think if is really what you and her want...
Well I'm a bit old then you so i know how much things changed and especially our personality changed, so i do think its better for you to settle down, grow up, enjoy the teen fase and then think about that ;)
Well i just wish you the best of luck!!!^_^

[Lightwing]

well, i think i can make the relationship last becuase i am turning 15. thanks for the advice everyone. I truely appreciate it.

[Havokio]

[COLOR=Indigo]I agree with ChibiHorsewoman. You're going WAY too fast. I'm engaged to be married on my 21st. birthday. I'm 19, and my life will be in order by 21. Even then, It's still too early.

Anyway... You shouldn't try to plan something life this at so young an age. Trust me, You may love this person now... but temptations are everywhere. For the both of you.

If you both are serious, then give it WAY more time. But don't rush.

Love and marrige is like a house. If you rush, it'll hold for a week or two, but when it tumbles, "That's your *** Mr. Postman!!!" (quote from the movie, Firday)

Give it time.[/COLOR]

[Kamuro]

[QUOTE=Havokio][COLOR=Indigo]I agree with ChibiHorsewoman. You're going WAY too fast. I'm engaged to be married on my 21st. birthday. I'm 19, and my life will be in order by 21. Even then, It's still too early.

Anyway... You shouldn't try to plan something life this at so young an age. Trust me, You may love this person now... but temptations are everywhere. For the both of you.

If you both are serious, then give it WAY more time. But don't rush.

Love and marrige is like a house. If you rush, it'll hold for a week or two, but when it tumbles, "That's your *** Mr. Postman!!!" (quote from the movie, Firday)

Give it time.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

spoken by a man who well...thinks you deliver mail? lol ;)

but hes right and so is chibi, and gelg, even though he never gives me high-fives, cause he doesn't like me, anyway, your moving to fast, especially at such a young age. It takes a long time for older men and women to choose a mate for the rest of their life, so I can only imagine its twice as rushed and unsure for you. If she feels overwhelmed she'll push you away, which ruins your chances at having anything with her, let alone marriage.

[Queen Asuka]

[quote name='ChibiHorsewoman][color=darkviolet']Wait until you're much older and have a steady job... like the military.[/color][/quote]

[color=hotpink][size=1]Yeah, what a GREAT steady job that is. "Hi, hon, I love you, so let's get married. In the meanwhile, I'll go overseas for months at a time, leaving you all alone, and with a very high risk that I'll be killed." Sorry if I sound bitter, but yeah.[/color][/size]