Problems at School

[EVA Unit 100]

Since now I'm having Spring vacation, now would be a good time to ask for help with an issue at school.

One thing I want to make clear in this thread is that I have Aspergers' Syndrome, a social communication disorder on the milder end of the Autistic spectrum. It's not that bad, but it's hard for me to control my emotions sometimes and to read other people's social cues. Because of this challenge, I only have about 6 or 7 friends outside of this and other message boards. This year a lot more kids have been nice to me, but I didn't really know them well. As a plan to get to know some of them, I decided to arrange a party.

This is where the problem started. When I was trying to get people's contact information for the party at lunchtime, two of the meaner boys were begging to go to the party even though there was no room for them. Since they sat at my lunch table, I got out of my seat and walked around the other tables. However, when I was asking one of my friends to come to the party and that friend said no, another girl volunteered. I didn't know her well, but I though she seemed nice. However, everyone else knew she was one of the meaner girls, and she gave me the wrong contact info. When I found out she gave the wrong information, I was upset and walked up to the teacher to ask for help. The teacher told me to go back in my seat. Since the mean boys were sitting with me while the mean girl was teasing me while I was out of my seat, I got really angry and had a fit. I didn't hurt anyone, but the fit was loud and scary and the lunchroom had to be cleared. The school then decided to send a letter home to the parents explaining that something happened at lunch, but the letter had two vital flaws: it didn't say what happened other than that the lunchroom had to be cleared due to a fit and it didn't say that I had AS. The sheer slopiness of the letter gets me worried that when Spring break ends next week that the parents will be against me without knowing the whole story and that the kids who I didn't know very well wouldn't want to be friends with me. I feel loney and scared, and I need some help badly. Is there any advice someone could give me to make my situation any better?

[Gelgoog Pilot]

Other than complaining to the school for almost commiting defamation, no not really.

You're in a tough spot really, I understand how you feel that it's not your fault since I too have a mental problem heh, nothing like yours however. I'd say just tough it out, you still have friends in the world. And so what if some social rejects can now say you have fits? They aren't that important.

But hey if it makes you feel better to have the disorder out in the open, get the school to send a notice in addition the the previous one. Having you parents on your side would help in this. I's almost illegal what they did, almost. So I'd say go into the school administration office, tell them that they made a mistake, that you're outrageously insulted and they should fix you up with something.

[Kamuro]

Well, number one, your only 12, what do 12 y/o's do at parties, play candy land? Anyway, I'm kinda confused as to why your trying to so hard. In the story you call these people mean but your still trying to be their friend. If they're ignorant, leave them be and they can be ***** by themselves. Point is, kids can be cruel, I know, trust me. But it doesn't stop, and its something you have to get use to. You seem smart enough and I'm sure people will come around eventually. Hang in there.

[Billy Shears]

[quote name='x kakashi x']Well, number one, your only 12, what do 12 y/o's do at parties, play candy land? Anyway, I'm kinda confused as to why your trying to so hard. In the story you call these people mean but your still trying to be their friend. If they're ignorant, leave them be and they can be ***** by themselves. .[/quote]

[COLOR=DarkRed][SIZE=1]Most 12 year-olds I know don't play Candyland. And you are talking about others being ignorant.

He's not trying too hard. He wants friends, so let him get friends any way he needs to, without somel fool critisizing him.

They are mean to you. I bet they know something isn't right, and they know how you tick. They push all your buttons to make a scene, and to make you look like an idiot. It isn't right, but it will happen.

I wouldn't be as concerned with the fact that this party didn't happen, but that they don't have your condition on file at your school. This is something to bring to your superintendent.

Did you get in any sort of trouble at school?

-the one and only[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[QuincyArcher]

Sounds like quite a tough situation indeed. not sure what advice i can give other than, just don't let it get to you. If people are being mean, either be mean back or just ignore it all together because once they know what they can do to push your buttons they wont stop. Trust me, at that age they'll eventually grow out of it and so will you. If you really wanna make friends just randomly throwing a party with some people you hardly know probably isnt the best idea. Try to find people with the same interests as you and just talk to them, thats always the best way to start out.

[Harry]

[QUOTE=Gelgoog Pilot]Other than complaining to the school for almost commiting defamation, no not really.
[/QUOTE]
HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Whatever you do, don't do that. As for your social problems, it sounds like you're trying a bit too hard getting friends. I know you have social problems but just try to get them normally, instead of arranging some big party.

Also candyland is awesome.

[Gelgoog Pilot]

[QUOTE=Harry]HAHAHAHAHAHAHA

Whatever you do, don't do that. As for your social problems, it sounds like you're trying a bit too hard getting friends. I know you have social problems but just try to get them normally, instead of arranging some big party.

Also candyland is awesome.[/QUOTE]
Why...what's wrong with that. The school should know already about his condition, it's their mistake for not mentioning it as well as for making such a big deal about it...The last time someone went psycho in my cafeteria the teachers just took him out not empty the whole damn room...that's just ridiculous.

No, I think the school needs to apologize.

[shinji172]

I also have Aspergers' Syndrome and I know exactly what your going through. It can be tough to make new friends but The best thing that you can do Is to try to get to know people with similar interests. If you try hard you should be able to make new friends soon. As for those people you were trying to be friends with (not the mean ones) try telling them about your condition and apologise for any misunderstandings. If they are truely nice they wont have judged you purely on this one incident. Im not sure what you should do about the letter that hasnt already been suggested but I hope things work out for you.

[Harry]

[QUOTE=Gelgoog Pilot]Why...what's wrong with that. The school should know already about his condition, it's their mistake for not mentioning it as well as for making such a big deal about it...The last time someone went psycho in my cafeteria the teachers just took him out not empty the whole damn room...that's just ridiculous.

No, I think the school needs to apologize.[/QUOTE]
Well his parents should know his condition also, so they really shouldn't need to have it mentioned in the letter now would they?

[Kamuro]

[QUOTE]Most 12 year-olds I know don't play Candyland. And you are talking about others being ignorant[/QUOTE]

It was a joke * looks for something uncomfortably sticking from your *** * oh well, yeah, his parents should definitely know already about the problem he has so they should somewhat understand how he was feeling at the time

[Sara]

[quote name='Harry']Well his parents should know his condition also, so they really shouldn't need to have it mentioned in the letter now would they?[/quote][font=trebuchet ms]I think he was referring to a letter that was sent to the parents of all the students at school. Certainly his own parents wouldn't need to be told.[/font]

[EVA Unit 100]

In case you were wondering, my parents know. The school knows. However, for some odd reason the school doesn't want any kids other than to know that I have AS or that it even exists. Really crazy if you ask me, and seems that the school is just trying to *** kiss to stupid and intollerant parents. So I'm not worried what my parents think, but what other uninformed parents think.

And by the way, Candyland sucks!

[Panda]

I am not sure but maybe the school has to follow HIPAA-type laws which will not allow them to discuss the heath status of students. In my home state you cannot discuss anyone's health history without their or their legal guardian's (if under the age of 18) written approval. If the school were to send out a letter telling everyone the health status of a student they could be liable to lawsuits for disclosure of confidential information. More than likely the school could not legally put health information like that into a letter being sent to the parents.

Just something to take into consideration.

[Gelgoog Pilot]

[QUOTE=Panda]I am not sure but maybe the school has to follow HIPAA-type laws which will not allow them to discuss the heath status of students. In my home state you cannot discuss anyone's health history without their or their legal guardian's (if under the age of 18) written approval. If the school were to send out a letter telling everyone the health status of a student they could be liable to lawsuits for disclosure of confidential information. More than likely the school could not legally put health information like that into a letter being sent to the parents.

Just something to take into consideration.[/QUOTE]
*slaps forehead* Oh crap...I forgot about that...Yeah you're right they can't do that legally.

However...if it really bothers you that much (I don't know why they're jsut parents) Then you can try and give them the right to send that information out if you happned to have another episode.

Also I'd suggest kicking that mean girl in the ovaries! :animesmil

[EVA Unit 100]

[QUOTE=Panda]I am not sure but maybe the school has to follow HIPAA-type laws which will not allow them to discuss the heath status of students. In my home state you cannot discuss anyone's health history without their or their legal guardian's (if under the age of 18) written approval. If the school were to send out a letter telling everyone the health status of a student they could be liable to lawsuits for disclosure of confidential information. More than likely the school could not legally put health information like that into a letter being sent to the parents.

Just something to take into consideration.[/QUOTE]

My parents have been campaigning for a neurology unit in class that would explain AS ever since 4th Grade. The school refused to commit their requests. I don't even know why.

[Havokio]

[COLOR=Indigo]I don't think throwing a party would be the best idea. Anyone would go to a party, even if ther hate the host. You could definitelly do without some of the more annoying people you see.

You have about 6-7 friends, right? That's a great start. (I hadn't more then three before high school, and I couldn't care less) What you should do, it to be introduced to your friends'... friends'. You have something in commoon with your friends'. Their friends' have something in common with them. You've gota have SOME common ground to work woth, right?

I was known as someone who used to spaz out randomly. The friends I have now don't seem to mind or care.[/COLOR]