Car wreck

[sbrebaby]

Yesterday me and a friend came apon a car wreck. It was so scary. No one else was there. I caled 911 and then some trucker guy stopped to help. I can't sleep now. I was trying to sleep and then I would see the wreck. I kept my head and helped the woman who was in a great deal of pain. She had her back split open so you could see her spine. The guy died on impact and he was all mangled and such. :animecry: I don't know how to feel and now i am scared to blink in case it comes back into a flash back. Has anyone else come apon something like this? If so please help me i am FREAKING out. :animedepr :(

[Gavin]

[SIZE=1]The first thing I would advise you to do my dear is to look to speak to a councillor as soon as possible over what you have seen, if it has had this bad a psychological effect upon you. It is not surprising, given the no doubt horrific scenes which you witnessed at this accident and for it to manifest itself as you try to sleep means that you need to speak to someone about it.

While perhaps it may seem easier to speak to friend or parents over what you have seen, I really would recommend someone who is trained to help people in these situations. As for your feelings, you probably have never witnessed a scene as horrific as this before and you're in a state of shock even now, in time you emotions will return to normal and you will feel a plethora of them, which makes it all the more important to see someone who can help you work through them.

I myself have been lucky enough never to witness a car crash, nor ever see someone severely injured or dead from critical injuries. In such situations I would hope I could draw the courage enough to be able to properly aid those injured from the accident, because seeing someone terribly injured and in pain is often enough to cause people to get so fearful they cannot summon the will to help people. [/SIZE]

[SunfallE]

I?m with Gavin, definitely seek professional help as most councilors are well trained to help you sort out the psychological impact of dealing with such a tragic accident. Also, give yourself a pat on the back. Why? Cause what Gavin says about people seeing someone in a wreck who is horribly injured and in pain is enough to have lots of people to afraid to even move let alone help them. It takes tremendous courage to force yourself to become involved when inwardly you are terrified by what has happened.

It has been awhile but I?ve seen some pretty terrible accidents myself. One of them I couldn?t get the images out of my mind. In addition to regular councilors there are ones who do what is known as cogitative therapy. This type of therapist works with you in understanding why you are thinking a certain way and how you?re thought processes work. I mention it, as they can be very effective in helping you understand why an image won?t go away or why one would flash back to you.

Both types are very helpful as one can help you deal with the emotional aspect and the other can help you process the memory so to speak so it doesn?t come back in a flash. I?ve been to both types after an accident and both were really quite effective. One other thing to keep in mind is that if you go to one and you don?t really care for them then look for another. I say this as I am not religious and I got a councilor who tried to tell me church was the answer. So if you feel uncomfortable with a councilor then he or she probably isn?t the right one for you.

[visualkei]

I agree with SunfallE. You deserve a big pat on the back, pal. What you did was not only helpful, but very responsible, too.

I can only imagine how difficult it is to get those images out of your head. Like the others, I also recommend that you just sit down and have a talk with someone. I don't think it's necessary to talk to a professional, just talk to anyone you think would be understanding or has experienced something similar.

One time I was crossing the street on campus, there's a lot of traffic and bikers, and pedestrians, and I heard a loud noise, and right in front of me a car hit a biker. I was standing in the middle of the street, stunned, and stupid, with my hands covering my face because I didn't know what to do. Then [B]ONE [/B]person out of the crowd of people had the sense to come aid the biker. So, yeah it's tough approaching that situation.

You know, you did a really good thing. Just give it some time and the images will fade. I think no one would mind you lamenting about something so traumatic. so talk to someone. =]

[AnimeFront]

[QUOTE=Gavin][SIZE=1]The first thing I would advise you to do my dear is to look to speak to a councillor as soon as possible over what you have seen, if it has had this bad a psychological effect upon you. It is not surprising, given the no doubt horrific scenes which you witnessed at this accident and for it to manifest itself as you try to sleep means that you need to speak to someone about it.

While perhaps it may seem easier to speak to friend or parents over what you have seen, I really would recommend someone who is trained to help people in these situations. As for your feelings, you probably have never witnessed a scene as horrific as this before and you're in a state of shock even now, in time you emotions will return to normal and you will feel a plethora of them, which makes it all the more important to see someone who can help you work through them.

I myself have been lucky enough never to witness a car crash, nor ever see someone severely injured or dead from critical injuries. In such situations I would hope I could draw the courage enough to be able to properly aid those injured from the accident, because seeing someone terribly injured and in pain is often enough to cause people to get so fearful they cannot summon the will to help people. [/SIZE][/QUOTE]



Getting a couselor maybe overdoing it a little. If youhave a problem looking at or coping with death in such away as a car wreck, then talking to friends and family maybe be best. When my next door neighbor was murdered by her boyfriend in her driveway, I was the first to find her, here was a lot of blood but i didnt really get so mixed up inside, I was like ok a dead body. But that is just me. I didnt need to talk to anyone because death in gruesome ways just doesnt bother me. Talking to people may be the bst solution, but paying for a counselor is a little overdoing it. Also you might want to look at pictures at Rotten.com, not to be sick and morbid but they may help you cope with gruesome death.

[Horendithas]

[COLOR=Indigo]First off I agree with [B]SunfallE[/B] and [B]visualkei[/B] as a pat on the back is what you deserve. It is extremely difficult to be faced with such a situation and yet still help them.

There are several ways to deal with this. One is to talk with either friends or family members as it can help you to feel less freaked out over what you dealt with.

Another is to do as others have suggested and seek professional help. Especially if talking to friends and family hasn?t helped you to feel less freaked out. There is nothing wrong with needing someone to help you. What upsets and frightens someone is different for each person.

Such things no longer freak me out, but I?ll never forget how horrible it was when my brother was murdered, as I was right there next to him when it happened. I did end up getting counseling for that event but not for other things that I have seen.

Most important is to do what you feel is best and to not worry over what others might think.

Also I?m going to disagree with [B]AnimeFront[/B] a bit here as looking at more pictures that deal with gruesome death may add to the problem instead of helping it. So I would recommend not doing that, at least until you have had a chance to deal with the issue so you feel a little less freaked out. At least that is what I think.[/COLOR]

[legndarybatosai]

[quote name='sbrebaby']Yesterday me and a friend came apon a car wreck. It was so scary. No one else was there. I caled 911 and then some trucker guy stopped to help. I can't sleep now. I was trying to sleep and then I would see the wreck. I kept my head and helped the woman who was in a great deal of pain. She had her back split open so you could see her spine. The guy died on impact and he was all mangled and such. :animecry: I don't know how to feel and now i am scared to blink in case it comes back into a flash back. Has anyone else come apon something like this? If so please help me i am FREAKING out. :animedepr :([/quote]
im not sure how to help but i hope you will be ok and i know what your talking about. if you ever need help or reassurance send me a private messege.i see things like that in my dreams.it freaks me oout to so dont worry. :nervous:

[Ikillion]

[COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=2][FONT=Times New Roman]I do have to agree what has been afore mentioned that you should atleast go and see some kind of a counsler that specificly deals with these kind of problems. As much as it feels better if not safer to talk with you parents about it they dont know what to do to really make these things better for you. Those that have expirenced such car crashes such as myself, at times can really affect you from time to time in the following days of the accident.

As for you even being able to help the person inside of the car, that is something major all in itself. Alot of people today think that when they see something like that, that they will instantly go in and help the person inside of the car. The reality of that is you can just be so scared to even be able to move an inch towards it if not run away for that. You should be very very pround of youself just to be able to do that.

The only time I would ever even think of advising talking for large lengths of time about something like this is after you have seen a counsler first. The counsler can help you deal with most of the major things wile your parents, since they are closer to you than a counsler would be. Can be able to fully calm you down. It could all just stop in a couple of weeks. Wile it could also haunt you the rest of your life. It just depends on what kind of psyche you have.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Corey]

[quote name='AnimeFront']Getting a couselor maybe overdoing it a little. If youhave a problem looking at or coping with death in such away as a car wreck, then talking to friends and family maybe be best. When my next door neighbor was murdered by her boyfriend in her driveway, I was the first to find her, here was a lot of blood but i didnt really get so mixed up inside, I was like ok a dead body. But that is just me. I didnt need to talk to anyone because death in gruesome ways just doesnt bother me. Talking to people may be the bst solution, but paying for a counselor is a little overdoing it. Also you might want to look at pictures at Rotten.com, not to be sick and morbid but they may help you cope with gruesome death.[/quote]

[size=1]Not everyone is as stong in mind as you.
You saw a dead body. Something completely lifeless and unable to hurt you in any way, shape, or form.
sbrebaby saw a living, breathing person utterly mangled.
It's a completely different situation.

sbrebaby, I truely hope you get through this.
You are a rare person to stop and help like that, and because you did, you are truely a pinnacle individual of humanity.[/size]

[Drifting soul]

I was in a car crash a few years ago. it wasn't very serious (the worst thing was probably the car mirror flying 100 feet) but I was only 13 and very shaken up. But I was really thankful for all the people who were there to help. I may never see them again but I'll always remember them and their kindness. If it wasn't for them I wouldn't be half as strong as I am today.
I'm sure the woman you helped feels the same way about you so there's no reason at all to feel down. I hope this helped a bit.

[sbrebaby]

[QUOTE=Drifting soul]
I'm sure the woman you helped feels the same way about you so there's no reason at all to feel down. I hope this helped a bit.[/QUOTE]
Thanks but she died last night, I felt totally helpless. I held her hand and spoke to her and she died. :animecry: :animedepr That is now even more of a hurt. I am going to see a councilor this week. My parent and i both descussed it last night. I am now running on two hours of sleep. I talked to some really trusty friends yesterday and feel a little better but i still feel like crap. :( I have been throwing up and still havnt eaten anthing since suday. I can barly consintrate at all. i just feel bad.

[Gavin]

[quote name='sbrebaby']Thanks but she died last night, I felt totally helpless. I held her hand and spoke to her and she died. :animecry: :animedepr That is now even more of a hurt. I am going to see a councilor this week. My parent and i both descussed it last night. I am now running on two hours of sleep. I talked to some really trusty friends yesterday and feel a little better but i still feel like crap. :( I have been throwing up and still havnt eaten anthing since suday. I can barly consintrate at all. i just feel bad.[/quote]

[SIZE=1]She may have died last night Sbrebaby, but thanks to your intercession she had the opportunity to get medical attention and probably say goodbye to her family. If you hadn't helped her she'd probably have died alone and never had the chance to say goodbye to those she loved. You did that woman a great service and never forget that, so long as you live never forget that you saved that woman's life, even if it was only for a few hours.

I'm very glad you're going to see a counsellor, these people are trained to help you through these dire emotional situations, and I promise you that given enough time you will be able to make peace with what you experienced on that day. It will take time, I know this from personal experience, but you will get better and you must never forget the great thing you did for that woman, both in helping her and being there for her when she passed away.[/SIZE]

[sbrebaby]

[QUOTE=Gavin][SIZE=1]
I'm very glad you're going to see a counsellor, these people are trained to help you through these dire emotional situations, and I promise you that given enough time you will be able to make peace with what you experienced on that day. It will take time, I know this from personal experience, but you will get better and you must never forget the great thing you did for that woman, both in helping her and being there for her when she passed away.[/SIZE][/QUOTE]

[COLOR=Blue]I definitly feel better about helping her now that i have seen a councilor. Thanks for all your help i need that now more than ever. I feel like i will never be able to let that woman out of my mind but mabey thats all i need to know how my feelings aregoing to be affected by her death in a possitive way. Thanks every one maybe soon i will see the sun. :p [/COLOR]