Boyfriend to Best friend

[dd protector]

[COLOR=Indigo][SIZE=2][FONT=Arial]Have you ever had your best friend become your boyfriend (or girlfriend) and then try to go back again.
What i mean is i was in a serious relationship with one of my best friends. WE've been that way forever and we both thought that it only strenghtened our relationship. But lately we broke up and now he expects us to be the best of friends again.
He thinks is likely. I think its impossible. I can't be around someone who has caused me so much painbut on the other side hes suck a large part oif my life..
I was wondering if anyone had anythoughts on this, or maybe had been in a similar situation.[/SIZE] [/FONT][/COLOR]

[Shinobi's angel]

My Best Friend Alex Became my Boyfriend Thursday and i agree he probbably cant be your BEst Friend Again
[URL=http://blueelfelfgurl.piczo.com/?preview=y&g=18370156&cr=1&rfm=y] Krysie & Alex[/URL] :catgirl: :catgirl:

[IceRose]

Well it depends on the both of you people. In my case, my friends were the ones that became a couple (only 2 friends, caught in the middle), well they broke up after a while and then they are back to being friends. If I were to have a best friend who would turn into my boyfriend and then we broke up for some reason I would try to be his friend again

[Annie]

[size=1]I guess it would really depend on the stability of the existing relationship, and the relationship you had when you were dating. I would find it harder to be friends with an ex-boyfriend if we had a wonderful relationship. It would be very hard for me to adjust to being "just friends" after having a special bond with someone that you can't get from friendship. It would be uncomfortable, and I wouldn't be sure of how I were supposed to act/treat the other person.

Then again, if they were a complete and utter jerk, I might have trouble looking at them the same way again. That could also work out to an advantage. There are just some people you adore as friends, but wouldn't be able to carry out a relationship with. Some of my guy friends I just absolutely love more than anything, but I couldn't find myself dating them because I know how they treat other girls, or I just know some disgusting habits that I find funny..but wouldn't be so funny if they were dating me, lol.

So, it is possible to be friends with your ex's. However, I will say that it can be very tough to achieve a friendship, and there could still be some tension. But I won't say that it's impossible. It really depends on what was said and done in the relationship, and what type of person you and the other partner are. If you're able to say "Oh well, that was then. This is now.", then you've probably got a pretty good chance of working it out. [/size]

[Pumpkin]

[SIZE=2][FONT=TimesNewRoman][i]Well, Goddess pretty much summed up what I was going to say. Besides all that, I think it can work if you give him some time. It's possible to be friends with an ex even if it ended badly by getting some space first. Don't see eachother for awhile and then maybe when your not hurting over the past, you'll be able to talk again. I know that's happened to me before, I went a year without speaking to an ex and only recently have we become friends again.

Time is the best healer that not even money can buy. Give it time and space. The more your around eachother after the breakup, I think the most awkward its going to get. And most of all don't stress about it, if you keep the attitude that "yeah one day it's going to be like old times" then one day, it will. [/i][/SIZE][/FONT]

[Gavin]

[SIZE=1]Interesting, most interesting.

I had the case back a number of years ago where a good friend of mine, not a best friend mind you but close enough, became a couple. Her name was Fiona and she was very beautiful, incredibly intelligent and wonderfully kind, we went out for the better part of six months very happily before deciding that we were better friends than a couple. At first I was very saddened that we wouldn't be together and it affected my relationship with her for a while, but I did realise eventually that she was right and that it was better that we were friends.

That was a number of years ago and to this day we are still good friends, though since she has gone on to college I've lost contact with her. So yes I do think people can go from a couple to best friends again without too much difficulty, so long as not too much changed. [/SIZE]

[sakurasuka]

[CENTER][SIZE=1]I think that (Depending upon the circumstance) you should certainly try to be friends with him again. If he was your best friend, you should try your hardest to keep that relationship alive.

The most imprortant thing I can tell you, though, is NOT to rush anything, and don't do anything that feels really uncomfortable.. It could be awhile before you're both ready to be friends again. Even if he's ready and you're not, don't force yourself. If he's really a good friend, he'll wait for your heart to heal.

Yeah, I was in a relationship with a guy that I really loved (And still do, as a matter of fact). He's my very best friend, and I wouldn't give him up for anything. That doesn't mean I'm gonna start dating him again anytime soon, I think I learned my lesson the first time. Besides, we're both more comfortable around each other and our other friends when we're more casual and friend-ish.

Just remember to listen to what your heart has to tell you.[/SIZE][/CENTER]

[otakufan]

Well, actually I did go through a relationship like that a few weeks ago. I broke up with him because.... well let's just say he wanted something he couldn't get. He kept on begging me to come back and be his girlfriend but I kept on refusing and said no all the time he tried. Now, him and I are still very good friends except we try not to bring up the break up situation or any of the stuff like "Is there still any hope for us to be together?" or something shnit like that.

Now, I'm dating another boy and he actually is more respectful than my ex. Oh, and well yeah, I'm going to have to agree with sakurasuka. Just listen to what your heart tells you.

[BurnerMan]

Yes. See a few of my replies on love stuff. ;)

[2010DigitalBoy]

If I had a best friend who became my girlfriend and reverted back, I wouldn't mind. In fact it has happened to me before... I was also once turnedd down by a friend, but we are still friends. I don't see what the bug deal is, the only difference between a friend whos a girl and a girlfriend is sex restrictions, and I don't see what the big deal about that is. Perhaps I should stop reading 1984...

[Outlaw]

I had a pretty similar situation, but in my case, my best friend became more of a summer fling, and then we went back to just being friends. It was a lil' weird at times, just cause we went from hanging out to making out than back to hanging out. And it got especiialy weird when I all of a sudden found myself having real strong feelings for her, which she didn't recipricate. She even began dating, and still is, my best friend. Obviously, you can see why this became weird.

Thank god for us all going to college and getting a chance to cool our heads, and our hormones. They stayed together, and I got over her after a freshman year full of booze and one night stands. Now days, I feel like my buddy definatly came out on top, with a really cool chick, and me with noone permanant, but hey, I still got my health.

[wayofthreversed]

I can not say that kind of thing has happened to me the whole being best friends to boy/girlfriend and back but I have told my best friend that I like her IN a more than a friend way but she said that because we live far apart and that we are such close friends and that it has not worked in the past when she dated friends that she did not want to date me :animedepr I hate that. But to try and make sense as to way I said that was to say that if you truly want to stay friends then just wait a while and then try to be friends again if you are important to each other then nothing should stop your friendship.
~peace and love

[BurnerMan]

My best friend is my true love. Of course, she doesn't like me back, but She will eventually (her hormones haven't developed and we're in high school)

[Boo]

[quote name='BurnerMan']My best friend is my true love. Of course, she doesn't like me back, but She will eventually (her hormones haven't developed and we're in high school)[/quote]

[size=1]Can I just laugh in my fist for a moment? *laughs in his fist* Okay that was a relief.

No really now, you sound like an egocentric idiot, saying that. I'd find it quite hilarious if she would tell you [i]"Hey, I really like you, but only as a friend"[/i].[/size]

[sbrebaby]

My bestfriend in the whole world became my secret lover. I was in a bad bad relationship and he brought it to an end by saving my life and in return i slept with him. We were in love from day one. We had been bestfriends for seven years before we made love. We slept together and became lovers instead of saying "lets go out" we lpromised we would love each other but not be linked well that didn't happen instead we becam lifebond. Then he died. He is the same one who left me that katana. If you have read that thread started by me on how to use it. He is the one that made life easier for me and now he is gone. we never went out but we were lovers hope that counts. :animesmil

[stardust]

I'm sorry to say I've never managed to stay friends with ANY of my ex's. It's just hard to have a conversationw ith somebody you had a physical relationship (well,whether you did or not it's still weird.) I'm dating a guy now I've been close friends with for over 2 years and I couldn't imagine us going back...

[Guest Heero yuy]

[QUOTE=dd protector][COLOR=Indigo][SIZE=2][FONT=Arial]Have you ever had your best friend become your boyfriend (or girlfriend) and then try to go back again.
What i mean is i was in a serious relationship with one of my best friends. WE've been that way forever and we both thought that it only strenghtened our relationship. But lately we broke up and now he expects us to be the best of friends again.
He thinks is likely. I think its impossible. I can't be around someone who has caused me so much painbut on the other side hes suck a large part oif my life..
I was wondering if anyone had anythoughts on this, or maybe had been in a similar situation.[/SIZE] [/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Nope, I try to avoid that, but depends on how long we were friends...if like a year of friendship, I would go for the date...but if it's over three years...no way..