Need Advice!

[Guest Hime_Otaku]

I know I'm fairly new to this site, but I need some advice from people similar to me who have maybe been in the same situation or just have some good advice.

I'm a female otaku, 20, skinny, fairly attractive (guys like me so I'm not a dog or anything), and I like another otaku.

He likes me too. He told me so. But he has a girlfriend. They've been together for five years. FIVE YEARS!!! And, according to him, lately, they just haven't been as close as they used to be. By lately I don't know if he means like weeks or months. I'm assuming months because he refers to things from a while back.

So after stuff hit the fan, they decided to take a break. He still calls her at night, but she yells at him if he doesn't call her right on time. I saw them at the mall the day that he told her that he needed time to think about stuff and she was just piling things up for him to buy. I hate it when girls do that.

I'm so jealous of her. This guy drops everything he's doing for friends. FRIENDS. I can't imagine what he does for her. On top of that, she treats him like crap. She doesn't even "finish the job" when they mess around (which, according to him, is never anymore. they don't even really kiss anymore).

Now he's kissing on me and we've been messing around a little bit. But it's mainly harmless stuff. And he's not the kind of person to lie, although I guess I could be described as gullible. I had 16/21 boyfriends cheat on me. So I've got this whole no trust thing going on.

I want to be with him. I would treat him so much better than she does. On top of that, we have more in common and I can give him what he needs and he knows that.

I'm just wondering what I should do. He's going to talk to her this weekend and see if she initiates any kind of cudling or anything like that. He said that, if she doesn't clean up her act then it's over and that he's going to come to me. I told him, "who said that I'll be waiting?" I don't know if I will be or won't be. I'm so hurt. But I'm really falling for him hard and I want to be the one who makes him happy.

Seeing him sad like this pains me.

What should I do? What if they break up completely and he wants to be with me right then and there?

[Delta]

[COLOR=#656448][SIZE=1]A reserve girlfriend, huh? I've a feeling that when you two hook up, you'll still be sharing his attention with his future ex. Once his girlfriend starts warming up to him again, I bet he'll come running back to her (5 years of companionship will do that to you). Sad, but it happens [i]alot[/i]

Sounds like you fall for boys too easily, too quickly. Get a makeover, go diving or whatever; take a break from the love-love scene, yeah? ^^[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Guest Hime_Otaku]

yeah, it so sounds like that.

And I'm ready to deal with that kind of blow. I was with the same guy for a solid year and a half and then he did this exact thing that she's doing to him... and then he cheated on me. and that royally sucked.

I know that he'll prolly go for her in the end and that hurts a little, but I've been trying so hard not to get attatched. I guess we'll see what happens at 11 tonight. Seems like such a long time.

He told me that, waiting to see me (when he waits for me in the game room before I get off work before I lost my job) it feels like an eternity because he loves hanging out with me THAT much. I told him that I wouldn't be waiting. But I think I would be for a time... Although, he's the only person I can even see having a relationship with - period. Other than that, I'm not even on the market. And that's driving a lot of my guy friends crazy because they have no idea what's going on.

Anyways, thanks for the advice, I'm going to take it and just leave everything alone. I'm not the kind to interfere. He's been coming to me, but... I think if this continues any farther, I'd end up getting really hurt.

Thanks!

[AlishaKitten]

[FONT=Arial][COLOR=Plum][SIZE=2]You sure you doing the right thing? I mean what if he is that right person? But then agian it might be like what Delta said he might end up going back cause he's been with her for 5 years. The bond might still be there. -_- Oh well... Im sure you'll find someone else who doesn't have someone like her in the first place and will treat you right.[/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE]

[Sandy]

Seriously, the guy seems like a big, whipped wuss. You sure you want to be with him?

If he doesn't have the balls to defend himself in front of his tyrant girlfriend, then how is he going to cope if you two got together and later had a fight? Would he seek a new girl to go to?

But obviously you know the situation much better than I, Hime, I'm going by what you said in this thread.

I think it's a wise decision to stay away from that pair. You'll find some one better, some one [I]available[/I] some day, trust me. ;D

[Guest kuroinuyoukai]

Ok here's my opinion. I agree with the others. Step back and look seriously at your situation. Is this guy damaged goods? He says he wants you, but he is waiting on his girlfriend. If she is treating him as crappy as he tells you-why is he still with her? I know if I stayed for that kind of treatment it would mean that I loved the guy. If he loves her, then it will be hard for him to forget her- which means you would probably be hurt. Am I making sense? If not, I apologize. Good luck,sweetie! :catgirl: