The Otakuboards Proverbs!

[Bloodseeker]

Use this thread to give out wise sayings of advice... your OWN advice. I don't want to see the golden rule unless you can give an example of how its relevant to a life experience of yours.

Also, if you can, give an explanation as to what that saying means and how it applies to life, and possibly examples. I'll start.

[b]Sometimes helping others means allowing them to help themselves.[/b]

The surest way to learn and get better at life is to solve your own problems. Some people have idea that solving other people's problems for them removes a load from them and helps them get back on their feet. This is the bleeding heart idiot's mistake. On the contrary, if you "help" someone solve their own problems too much, there's a good chance that they're going to become reliant on you. And that means more stress on you and more pain and hardship for them when you're not around to pull them through.

A good example of this is my aunt Kathy. When she was in her early 20s, she decided to ditch college. Why should she go to college when welfare and her grandparent's aid could get her by just fine? Well, about 15 years later, her grandparents got tired of giving her free money and furniture to help her live more comfortably, and as some of you already know, current laws will only give you welfare for so long before you have to go out and get a job. So here she is, 45 years old, living in an old beat up house, eating nothing but bread and ramen, and just now going back to college using student loans. Now what would have happened if aunt Kathy hadn't have been able to fall back on free money? True, she might have done the same thing that she did back then, but chances are that she would have stayed in college out of fear of being booted to the streets. And who knows, maybe she might have gone on to be successful in whatever field she entered, maybe even making six or seven digits a year by the age of 40. But that's not what happened, due in part to the fact that she had an easy way out through unearned "aid".

[Tatsubei Yagyu]

[COLOR=Navy][FONT=Comic Sans MS]I have a couple I think I made myself...(or read on a fortune cookie :D kidding)

[B][I]"Don't give everyone a reason to hate you, and everyone will have a reason to love you."[/I][/B]
It means, if you don't give them a reason to hate you, and they will have a reason to like you, get it? ;)

[B][I]"I trust until given a reason not to, though in the in I may still..."[/I][/B]
Meaning that I will give everyone a chance before I deem them unworthy of my trust. *Giggle*

[B][I]"You can't spit it out with out putting it in your mouth first..."[/I][/B]
Meaning you can't really said you don't like something with out trying it first. :D

What do ya think?[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Bloodseeker]

I've got to dissagree with the first two.

[QUOTE=Tatsubei Yagyu][COLOR=Navy][FONT=Comic Sans MS][B][I]"Don't give everyone a reason to hate you, and everyone will have a reason to love you."[/I][/B]
It means, if you don't give them a reason to hate you, and they will have a reason to like you, get it? ;)[/font][/color][/quote]

That's not true. When I was in school, I generally kept to myself (aside from group of 20 friends or so), but that didn't stop those beaners from jumping me because I was friends with some of the people that they hated. Also, if you have an irritating personality, people might just hate you for being yourself. Just because you're nice to people doesn't mean that they're going to like you.

[quote=Tatsubei Yagyu][color=navy][font=comic sans][B][I]"I trust until given a reason not to, though in the in I may still..."[/I][/B]
Meaning that I will give everyone a chance before I deem them unworthy of my trust. *Giggle*[/font][/color][/quote]

That used to be my philosophy, but I've been burned by it too many times to keep it. I used to have a best friend named Nick; we hung out together for the first half of fifth grade. However, that was before I learned to shut up when I had nothing to say, and a lot of people found me annoying back then. I was probably the least popular person in my class. He eventually attacked me and told me that we weren't friends anymore. My guess is that the other classmates didn't want to hang out with somebody that hung out with me, so they gave him an ultimatum. I've been put into a similar situation myself where I was told that I either had to beat the crap out of a kid or get a beatdown along with him. (that wasn't a hard choice, seeing as how I didn't like the bastard either) That wasn't the only time that I've been ditched by my friends, either. That's why I have to be cautious when making new friends. Well, if anything, I've learned to be a better judge of character from it.