What's the reason in trying, if you don't have any chances...

[Guest Heero yuy]

...Long distant relationships anyone?

...I'm trying to develop a serious relationship, but the girls is far away...

5000 miles apart, and it hurts...

[Goodbye, Face]

[font=trebuchet ms]I have a friend who tried to have a long-distance relationship with an OBer. I was good friends with the girl who lives a few states away, my 'real' friend couldn't spell and was overall rather dull (he's improved over the years), so any conversation he had with her was easily beaten by the simultaneous conversation I was having with her at the time. Basically, this girl was in need of attachment, and wasn't afraid of being in an internet relationship, so my friend asked her 'out.' This relationship of having no conversation besides "*kisses you*" and random questions from time to time was a dumb idea. My friend started cheating on her and after a few months of this going on, I told her about it. Obviously, they broke up.

In summary, I really don't believe a long-distance relationship could work, especially over the internet. What's the point in being more than friends when that's all you can be?[/font]

[2010DigitalBoy]

[COLOR=Purple]I think any relationship, long-distance, close-distance, no-distance (this of course requires one of the lovers to be on anoter plane of existance in which you and they occupy the same space) will work. I don't see how they couldn't unless one doubts that they can.[/COLOR]

[Guest Heero yuy]

[QUOTE=RiflesAtRecess][font=trebuchet ms]I have a friend who tried to have a long-distance relationship with an OBer. I was good friends with the girl who lives a few states away, my 'real' friend couldn't spell and was overall rather dull (he's improved over the years), so any conversation he had with her was easily beaten by the simultaneous conversation I was having with her at the time. Basically, this girl was in need of attachment, and wasn't afraid of being in an internet relationship, so my friend asked her 'out.' This relationship of having no conversation besides "*kisses you*" and random questions from time to time was a dumb idea. My friend started cheating on her and after a few months of this going on, I told her about it. Obviously, they broke up.

In summary, I really don't believe a long-distance relationship could work, especially over the internet. What's the point in being more than friends when that's all you can be?[/font][/QUOTE]

True, I had one. But I know this girl, we used to hang out together, and we both attended highschool together. So, it's a littled different than a relationship over the internet. And I think we'll be attending the same college, if things follow through.

[Ikillion]

[quote name='Heero yuy']True, I had one. But I know this girl, we used to hang out together, and we both attended highschool together. So, it's a littled different than a relationship over the internet. And I think we'll be attending the same college, if things follow through.[/quote]

[COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=2][FONT=Times New Roman]Well if that is the case it would seem to be a safer idea. However the fact still remains that you dont know everything that she whould be doing though. I mean she can say that she is going out with you. However if she wanted to, she can be seeing some other person instead. It wouldent hurt to lie to a person over the internet than it would to a person right in there face. or atleast that is a way that I feel about it.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Hevn]

There have been threads like this with more helpful replies to them. Here's one that might be of help. :)

[URL=http://www.otakuboards.com/showthread.php?t=50166][B]Online Relationships[/B][/URL]

[Guest Heero yuy]

[quote name='sand dragon 19][COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=2][FONT=Times New Roman]Well if that is the case it would seem to be a safer idea. However the fact still remains that you dont know everything that she whould be doing though. I mean she can say that she is going out with you. However if she wanted to, she can be seeing some other person instead. It wouldent hurt to lie to a person over the internet than it would to a person right in there face. or atleast that is a way that I feel about it.[/FONT][/SIZE'][/COLOR][/quote]
She's not that type of person, she would dump me, than cheat on me. She's just that type of person...who's either straight with it, or just get out of it...there's no cheating in her mind.

[Morpheus]

You should get webcams. Not the same as being in the same room, but a lot better than just text.

[Boo]

[size=1]Depends on how long is "long distance". My brother has a girlfriend in Germany which is our neighbouring country. They call and SMS way too much (he's getting poorer by the second by the huge phonebills), but she also comes to The Netherlands every now and then. It works quite fine, although I think her SMS messages are starting to annoy ¬.¬

I'm not so fond about relationships across oceans though. At least not when you met eachother on the internet and never in real life. People are different over the internet, in one way or another that is.

[quote name='Morpheus']You should get webcams. Not the same as being in the same room, but a lot better than just text.[/quote]

Quite true. Get Skype or atleast just a microphone while you're at it.
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[Guest Heero yuy]

[QUOTE=Heero yuy]...Long distant relationships anyone?

...I'm trying to develop a serious relationship, but the girls is far away...

5000 miles apart, and it hurts...[/QUOTE]

I should of made it clearer...We're friends, we both attended school together. I just moved to a new state. We've been friends for a year and an half.

[Gavin]

[SIZE=1]Interesting, most interesting.

I've never had much faith in online relationships, I suppose it'd down to the fact I'm an old fashioned guy at heart and mightn't be able to stick not having the person within physical distance. I think in order to maintain an online or long-distance relationship and have it flourish, both persons involved would really, really have to the sheer willpower to have the relationship work.

I mean I've been involved with a few girls in my time and cared for them very deeply, but the thought of trying to channel that same feeling when I couldn't have physical contact or even see or speak to the person would sour me to the idea of a relationship. I'll admit there are people who would be able to make such a relationship work, but all to often the lack of contact causes the relationship to weaken to a point where it is untenable for both parties involved. [/SIZE]

[quote name='Heero yuy']I should of made it clearer...We're friends, we both attended school together. I just moved to a new state. We've been friends for a year and an half.[/quote]

[SIZE=1]In all honesty Heero, the fact that you've only known her for eighteen months, now live in a different state and are five thousand miles apart aren't the greatest building blocks for a relationship. I personally think you'd be better off to remain friends who keep in touch with one another and both of you pursue relationships with people you can actually meet regularly. It is of course your decision in the end, but think for a minute if the relationship didn't work out, you could very well lose contact with you friend altogether, seeing as how you couldn't really just go over to hers and try and work it out. [/SIZE]

[Guest Heero yuy]

[QUOTE=Gavin][SIZE=1]Interesting, most interesting.

I've never had much faith in online relationships, I suppose it'd down to the fact I'm an old fashioned guy at heart and mightn't be able to stick not having the person within physical distance. I think in order to maintain an online or long-distance relationship and have it flourish, both persons involved would really, really have to the sheer willpower to have the relationship work.

I mean I've been involved with a few girls in my time and cared for them very deeply, but the thought of trying to channel that same feeling when I couldn't have physical contact or even see or speak to the person would sour me to the idea of a relationship. I'll admit there are people who would be able to make such a relationship work, but all to often the lack of contact causes the relationship to weaken to a point where it is untenable for both parties involved. [/SIZE]



[SIZE=1]In all honesty Heero, the fact that you've only known her for eighteen months, now live in a different state and are five thousand miles apart aren't the greatest building blocks for a relationship. I personally think you'd be better off to remain friends who keep in touch with one another and both of you pursue relationships with people you can actually meet regularly. It is of course your decision in the end, but think for a minute if the relationship didn't work out, you could very well lose contact with you friend altogether, seeing as how you couldn't really just go over to hers and try and work it out. [/SIZE][/QUOTE]

You state a valid point...

[renayiiq]

Long distance, especially over the internet, relationships are a waste of time. Over the internet long distance relationships aren't real. It's real when you see them, when you REALLY know them in person. Someone who is your online lover could turn out to be a total flake. I've run into this soo much, so I just stick to real relationships now. My boyfriend may be a member on here (but he hasn't been on here in a long long long time), but I met him at school. It's totally different. We see each other...at the least, once every three days...at the most, 4-5 times a day. I don't mind it. I think he does slightly, but he never says anything.
My relationship in person with Korey -> REAL
My past relationships with people I'd never met and probably will NEVER meet -> WASTE OF TIME.

So there you have it. And girls, internet guys usually turn out to be total losers and jerkfaces. Not worth it.

[Pumpkin]

[quote name='renayiiq']So there you have it. And girls, internet guys usually turn out to be total losers and jerkfaces. Not worth it.[/quote][SIZE=1]Not all I would like to think. But sadly, I can't back up this statement because my x-boyfriend that I met online was a total loser and a waste of time lol. I think an online relationship might be able to work only if your 18 or over, have a license, and live fairly close to eachother. Otherwise, well, it might just be a waste of time but it's your decision to make. As for a long distance relationship, they can work but it depends on how long you have to wait to be together again and how often you see eachother.

I recently knew a guy who had a long distance relationship after his girlfriend moved to Arizona and ended up cheating on her. It's a risky deal because you never really know what they could be up too, but then again thats what trust was made for right? It takes a lot of willpower and strength to keep up a long distance relationship but it can be done. I just warn those that are about to get into one to think about the consequences and if they think they can handle the pressure. [/SIZE]

[Guest Heero yuy]

[QUOTE=renayiiq]Long distance, especially over the internet, relationships are a waste of time. Over the internet long distance relationships aren't real. It's real when you see them, when you REALLY know them in person. Someone who is your online lover could turn out to be a total flake. I've run into this soo much, so I just stick to real relationships now. My boyfriend may be a member on here (but he hasn't been on here in a long long long time), but I met him at school. It's totally different. We see each other...at the least, once every three days...at the most, 4-5 times a day. I don't mind it. I think he does slightly, but he never says anything.
My relationship in person with Korey -> REAL
My past relationships with people I'd never met and probably will NEVER meet -> WASTE OF TIME.

So there you have it. And girls, internet guys usually turn out to be total losers and jerkfaces. Not worth it.[/QUOTE]
Understood, but we're going to go to college together...

And I know her, personally. But I know I'm just reasons for rational.

When we were going to highschool together last year, it was a blast...just being me and her.

I liked her last year as well, didn't do anything. But I felt, moving five thousand miles away from each other, brought us even more together, realizing we took our time for granted and our "love"...I guess.

[Guest Domon05]

[QUOTE=kuroinuyoukai]You know what they say-distant makes the heart grow fonder. One thing about a long distance relationship is you're not in each other's faces 24/7 and the relationship isn't purely physical. You get to know her by the ways she acts and not the way she looks. Of course at some point you need to meet and go from there,but I see no harm in a long distance relationship. Of course I don't speak from experience and i am sure every relationship will be different. :catgirl:

Hmmm..RiflesAtRecess, you have a good point. Maybe I should think about this more?[/QUOTE]


Hi yeah that makes perfect sense your ears on that face remind me of something cut and furry and "A CAT"

[Drifting soul]

Jerks and losers arn't the only people who use the internet. Nice people [I]do[/I] use it too. I know from experience that online relationships can work as long as you're compatible and there's a possibility of a future. I live in the Uk and I met this guy from Finland through e-mail and fell in love with him through his words. If I had known him in real life first then I probably wouldn't have seen how wonderful he is inside.

[sakurasuka]

[QUOTE=renayiiq]My relationship in person with Korey -> REAL
My past relationships with people I'd never met and probably will NEVER meet -> WASTE OF TIME.

So there you have it. And girls, internet guys usually turn out to be total losers and jerkfaces. Not worth it.[/QUOTE]

[SIZE=1]Wow... I don't think so. 'Internet' guys don't just exist online, they have lives, too. It's just that it's EASIER to lie on the internet, because you don't know said person. If you know them, or have met them, it's quite a different story.

I generally try not to get too close to people online (I've had some problems with internet stalkers), but my online friends and relationships have (more times than not) turned out more genuine than my 'real' friends.

And if you think love can't survive distance, you're wrong. I love my best friend (He lives in MI and I live in GA) as much as I have ever loved him, maybe more. The only change between us is a few miles.

And my dad lives in MI, as well. Along with my three brothers, step-mom, and my little sister. I love them just as much as my mom, step-dad, and little brother who live under the same roof as me.

Love isn't about distance, age, steriotypes, gender, looks, or anything physical. Love comes from the heart. You can love someone 5000 miles away just as much as the person sitting next to you.[/SIZE]

[IceRose]

I had only one internet relationship well I would not call it relationship. I mean its cool to have one because you really get to know the person like someone said before its not purely physical. My ex was from Mexico city, well he was nice and I really got to know him but then college came for him and we lost touch. I would tell that is great to keep trying in an internet relationship, in the long run its great because when u meet the person you really really love them

[Guest kuroinuyoukai]

[QUOTE=RiflesAtRecess][font=trebuchet ms]I have a friend who tried to have a long-distance relationship with an OBer. I was good friends with the girl who lives a few states away, my 'real' friend couldn't spell and was overall rather dull (he's improved over the years), so any conversation he had with her was easily beaten by the simultaneous conversation I was having with her at the time. Basically, this girl was in need of attachment, and wasn't afraid of being in an internet relationship, so my friend asked her 'out.' This relationship of having no conversation besides "*kisses you*" and random questions from time to time was a dumb idea. My friend started cheating on her and after a few months of this going on, I told her about it. Obviously, they broke up.

In summary, I really don't believe a long-distance relationship could work, especially over the internet. What's the point in being more than friends when that's all you can be?[/font][/QUOTE]

You know what they say-distant makes the heart grow fonder. One thing about a long distance relationship is you're not in each other's faces 24/7 and the relationship isn't purely physical. You get to know her by the ways she acts and not the way she looks. Of course at some point you need to meet and go from there,but I see no harm in a long distance relationship. Unless the other person plays on your feelings.Of course I speak from experience and i am sure every relationship will be different.

Hmmm..RiflesAtRecess, you have a good point. Maybe I should have thought about this more?

[Guest Heero yuy]

[QUOTE=kuroinuyoukai]You know what they say-distant makes the heart grow fonder. One thing about a long distance relationship is you're not in each other's faces 24/7 and the relationship isn't purely physical. You get to know her by the ways she acts and not the way she looks. Of course at some point you need to meet and go from there,but I see no harm in a long distance relationship. Unless the other person plays on your feelings.Of course I speak from experience and i am sure every relationship will be different.

Hmmm..RiflesAtRecess, you have a good point. Maybe I should have thought about this more?[/QUOTE]

Just depends on the people, I know if she wants it..as much as me, then we can last. But seriously, thinking about giving up...