Undeterminable Sexuality

[EVA Unit 100]

[QUOTE=Hug Monster][COLOR=Purple]I don't have time to go through and snatch every quote that I want to answer so I'll just make a list

1. 14 isn't that young, I know plenty of kids my age who are in sexual relationships.

2. I am different, I don't even want a sexual relationship >_<

3. I disagree with having to have a stronger pull on one gender. I like to think of myself as right in the middle.

4. To anyone who thinks I'm probably just going through a phase, in all honesty I'd hate to think that I'm not bisexual...

5. Yes, psychology at 14. I have already saved several people online from killing themselves and I've helped some people with relationship problems.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

Wow. Are you me from 1.25 years in the future?

I seem to be going through some of the same issues. I'm a bit younger, though (13 in a few months), so the part about your peers having sexual relationships doesn't apply to my situation. Other than that, it seems as if we're thinking almost the exact same thoughts. Guess it's just something people think about when they're going through early puberty. For a bit of time I was certain that I was straight, but then a few months back I thought I had a crush on one of the boys at my school (I don't have it now, though). Now I'm extremely uncertain about my sexuality but in all honesty I don't really care since I'm so young. I'll give myself time to figure this type of confusing stuff out. Hmm, I wonder where the fact I used to think T.M. Revolution was female fits into this...

[wayofthreversed]

[QUOTE=sakurasuka][SIZE=1]
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I'm sorry, but I really dissagree. Every person has the right to thier own opinion. You do have the right to think it wrong, but that doesn't mean that people who are homosexual are confused. They found love. That's all there is to it.[/SIZE][/QUOTE]

Bravo I could not have said it better.

[2010DigitalBoy]

[QUOTE=EVA Unit 100]Wow. Are you me from 1.25 years in the future?

I seem to be going through some of the same issues. I'm a bit younger, though (13 in a few months), so the part about your peers having sexual relationships doesn't apply to my situation. Other than that, it seems as if we're thinking almost the exact same thoughts. Guess it's just something people think about when they're going through early puberty. For a bit of time I was certain that I was straight, but then a few months back I thought I had a crush on one of the boys at my school (I don't have it now, though). Now I'm extremely uncertain about my sexuality but in all honesty I don't really care since I'm so young. I'll give myself time to figure this type of confusing stuff out. Hmm, I wonder where the fact I used to think T.M. Revolution was female fits into this...[/QUOTE]

[COLOR=Purple]My only advice is... hell I don't know. I think my situation will change once I'm around people I can have a relationship with anyway. I like being bisexual. It's a lot funer and it gives me an excuse to be cute ^_^[/COLOR]

[Tical's Foxboy]

i kinda am bi, I dont talk about it much but might as well come out right. What made me realize was Kurama From inuyasa

[Saya]

So much for a psychological conversation on sexuality, oh well, thought it was worth bringing up. Someone, please feel free to bring it up later.

[quote name='Hug Monster']My only advice is... hell I don't know. I think my situation will change once I'm around people I can have a relationship with anyway. I like being bisexual. It's a lot funer and it gives me an excuse to be cute ^_^[/quote]With all due respect, I'm trying to figure out what you mean exactly so please don't take offense. But you're bisexual because it is "funer" and because it gives you "an excuse to be cute"?

What does that even mean? Does all or some bisexuals [i]act[/i] cute? Does any one of these terms have to [i]act[/i] a certain way at all? I mean no offense to you I'm actually trying to figure some things out.

It seems to me that a lot of people (in general not just on the forums) are saying they are bi, gay, or straight based on stereotypical reasons (bisexuals enjoying the best of both worlds, the ability for a guy to be feminine and cute and the ability for a girl to be rugged, and other [b]personality[/b] stereotypes that hold no place in determining sexual preference). I'm not entirely convinced that qualifies as bisexual as a sexual preference.

For instance I have a friend that wears only designer clothing, very fancy, wears make up on a day to day basis to enhance his appearance (eye liner, the works), and engages in a multitude or seemingly strange hobbies (this kid is built like a football player and I?ve never met a more avid reader and collector of Hello Kitty dolls). He begs me to hug him every time I see him and is very ?touchy feely,? is he gay or even bi? No. He?s extremely straight and probably wouldn?t even consider bisexuality as an option.

I?m not saying this is the case with you Monster and didn?t mean to take what you said out of context (if it had any other context from the one I took it out of). Again, there are bisexuals and straights that like being ?cute? too, so don?t think I meant this solely for you. I just think it?s a good example of things people should [b][i]avoid doing[/i][/b] when making decisions about their sexuality or how to term it.

[sakurasuka]

[QUOTE=persocomblues]With all due respect, I'm trying to figure out what you mean exactly so please don't take offense. But you're bisexual because it is "funer" and because it gives you "an excuse to be cute"?

What does that even mean? Does all or some bisexuals [i]act[/i] cute? Does any one of these terms have to [i]act[/i] a certain way at all? I mean no offense to you I'm actually trying to figure some things out.

It seems to me that a lot of people (in general not just on the forums) are saying they are bi, gay, or straight based on stereotypical reasons (bisexuals enjoying the best of both worlds, the ability for a guy to be feminine and cute and the ability for a girl to be rugged, and other [b]personality[/b] stereotypes that hold no place in determining sexual preference). I'm not entirely convinced that qualifies as bisexual as a sexual preference.[/QUOTE]

[SIZE=1]I think you took his words a bit too literally. He was obviously reffering to the fact that bisexuals are generally more 'cutesy' than heterosexuals, but not necesarily in the pretenses in which you interpreted it.

It was already established that Tical is attracted to both sexes, so his sexuality is apparent. He was merely making a joke. A (somewhat) steriotypical one, yes, but a mere joke nonetheless.

By all means, Tical, correct me if I'm wrong.[/SIZE]

[Dagger]

[quote name='sakurasuka][SIZE=1']He was obviously reffering to the fact that bisexuals are generally more 'cutesy' than heterosexuals...[/SIZE][/quote]
But how is it a fact? I've never heard something like that before in my life, lol. I'm not trying to be PC here or anything--I'm just genuinely confused. From my perspective, it seems like a pretty random assertion to make.

~Dagger~

[sakurasuka]

[QUOTE=Dagger]But how is it a fact? I've never heard something like that before in my life, lol. I'm not trying to be PC here or anything--I'm just genuinely confused. From my perspective, it seems like a pretty random assertion to make.

~Dagger~[/QUOTE]

[SIZE=1]There are many steriotypes that apply to bisexual/homosexual men. 'Cutesy' and 'girlish' being two of them. They generally don't apply to most bisexual men, but they are steriotyped nonetheless.

They are just steriotypes, definitely not proven fact, and definitely doesn't apply to most.

But let's have Tical clear that one up. Isn't that what you were reffering to? And isn't that what persocomblues was reffering to as well? It's not just me.[/SIZE]

[2010DigitalBoy]

[COLOR=Purple]Ah, yes, the true brilliance of steryotypes and political correctness is that they are both observed by all. When strait people see a girly guy like me their first question is "you gay or something?" So then there is a fork in the road. I can take one path and say 'yes' and the politically correct portion of the opponent's mind decides 'oh, he's gay. Im creeped out, but I don't want to offend him. Ill just ignore him'. Then I could say 'no' and now they're thinking 'haha! Dude looks like a girl! Ill make fun of him!' Ya see? I've been in plenty of these situations. So, when I come in looking like a girl and someone wants to bother me about it, the answer 'Im bi' actually works to my advantage.[/COLOR]

[Dagger]

[quote name='sakurasuka][SIZE=1']There are many steriotypes that apply to bisexual/homosexual men. 'Cutesy' and 'girlish' being two of them. They generally don't apply to most bisexual men, but they are steriotyped nonetheless.[/SIZE][/quote]
Ah, I see. I didn't really take your statement as being a reference to men only. And speaking personally, I've noticed much more generalization about gay men (and women) than about bisexuals of either gender; I guess that's why it threw me for a loop...

~Dagger~

[2010DigitalBoy]

[COLOR=Purple]Until recently I never really took bisexuality seriously. I always thought 'bi, gay, whats the difference?' But then this guy I know who's bi will pretty much kill you if you ccall him gay. I mean, he REALLY gets emotional about it. I personally don't care, as my sexuality seems to sway with the wind though I don't care at all. It doesn't really matter right now, after all as I said the only kind of relationship I can have right now is an internet one. Which isn't bad, I just hope that there are people willing to have a long-distance realationship.[/COLOR]

[Starwind]

I am a heterosexual through and through. I'm not very affected by homosexuality or bisexuality. I actually have a friend that is bisexual, I'm not religious, so i don't think all bi and gays are going to burn in hell. As long as the guys don't hit on me I'm fine. Not that I'm that attractive anyway, but still, you get what I'm saying right.

[Attimus331]

[QUOTE=Hug Monster][COLOR=Purple]Wait... Solo, you're a guy? O_o

Anyway, Attimus while I respect your opinion, I am offended. I will love whoever the **** I want thank you very much![/COLOR][/QUOTE]

When the hell did i say you couldn't love a person? And when did love become a sexual thing? Go ahead, love who you want, i just don't think you should be kissing a guy just cuz you love him. Love him as a friend, a brother, a mentor, not a lover. I don't judge people for being gay, i believe in gay rights, go gay, whatever. I just disagre with being gay in general. God made two sexes, not one, deal with it.

Anyways, i stand by my confused bit about gays.

[QUOTE=Sandy]

To [B]Attimus331[/B] I'd just want to say that you don't really know any homosexuals yourself, do you? If you did, you wouldn't have that kind of an opinion. I have to admit that in my teen years I [I]was[/I] confused with my sexuality, but that was only because I am a homosexual living in a world where heterosexuality is a norm, ie. you are straight until otherwise proven. Nowadays my sexuality is very clear to me and everybody around me - not the least being my loving bf. ;D

Wether you like it or not, world is filled with all kind of sexualities, some more ethically questionable than others, but what is wrong with a mutual and equal affection between two humans, just because they share the same sexual organs?

You should learn to accept the multitude of life - your way is not the only way. ;)[/QUOTE]

You guys are taking what i said and adding what you want to it. I didn't say it was the only way, i don't care if you're gay or not, it's not hurting me.

Yes, actually i do now some gay people. I know some gay activists even, they are my friends. Don't fu**ing guess rather i have gay friends or not, you don't know me, do not judge me by reading one simple comment. Homosexuality is wrong in my book, that's all there is to it. I'm not forcing my ways on anybody, simply voicing my opinion. I can't stand it when people take what i say and add to it.

What's wrong with affection between two humans? Nothing, as long as it's not the wrong type of affection. Having sex with the same sex is disgusting and wrong. Once again, there are two sexes for a reason.

[QUOTE=Lix][size=1][color=slategray]
Side note: [B]Attimus[/B], you have every right to have your own opinions... but I just want to say... there is no "right" and "wrong" when it comes to someone's sexuality. Love has no bounderies when is comes to gender. And it never has. But since, naturally, a man and a woman are the essentials for mating, people have pushed that that pairing is the only right one. But people don't have a choice if they are gay/bisexual... it is a mix up in DNA/genes and it cannot be helped. I am wishing more people would realize this, because so many blame the people for being gay/bisexual, when it has nothing to do with their free will. But more people are becoming open with their sexuality, which is always great.[/color][/size][/QUOTE]

Why isn't there a right or wrong? There is in mostly everything else. Just because you want something to be so doesn't make it so. Just cuz you want to be gay, it doesn't make it alright. The DNA bit, i seriously doubt that, but seeing as i know nothing about it, i won't argue it.

[quote name='Salty Bob']You disgust me.[/quote]
You're a loser. That post wasn't worthy of being posted, i'm surprised it hasn't been taken off. But really, you're a di*k. ^_^ Have a nice day.

[Sandy]

But Attimus, you simply can't say that something is wrong "because it's [I]wrong[/I]"! That is a very lame excuse for homophobia.

I think you have gained the level of homophobia, where you think that us homosexuals are just humans like the rest, but you still seem to think that we are a bit nutty or perverted, when all that we are really doing is what nature intended.

Not [I]everybody[/I] are suppossed to have kids, there are already too many people spoiling this planet as it is.

I don't think it's very respectful towards your friends to act approving, and then say behind their backs that what they [I]really[/I] are is disgusting... :/

Oh, and please do not resort to flaming (ie. calling people names), we're trying to have a decent conversation here.

[Saya]

[quote name='Dagger']But how is it a fact? I've never heard something like that before in my life, lol. I'm not trying to be PC here or anything--I'm just genuinely confused. From my perspective, it seems like a pretty random assertion to make.[/quote]That's exactly my point, it is a pretty random assertion, and it is in such thinking that one can easily confuse personality types with sexuality types. In a thread meant to aid those in need of finding their sexual preference, such statements regarding personality traits (sterotypical or not in nature) should be left out of the conversation all together.

[quote name='Hug Monster']Ah, yes, the true brilliance of steryotypes and political correctness is that they are both observed by all. When strait people see a girly guy like me their first question is "you gay or something?" So then there is a fork in the road. I can take one path and say 'yes' and the politically correct portion of the opponent's mind decides 'oh, he's gay. Im creeped out, but I don't want to offend him. Ill just ignore him'. Then I could say 'no' and now they're thinking 'haha! Dude looks like a girl! Ill make fun of him!' Ya see? I've been in plenty of these situations. So, when I come in looking like a girl and someone wants to bother me about it, the answer 'Im bi' actually works to my advantage.[/quote]I understand what both of you (Hug and Sakurasuka) are trying to say and yet at the same time even in jest mentioning personality traits commonly associated with various preferences can, in my opinion, only lead to confusion. I did not take Hug's post too seriously, I took it as would anyone randomly reading through the thread. I think it should have been left out of a sexual preference conversation.

That was my [i]only[/i] concern, I'm not here to argue what is or isn't a sterotype or how those sterotypes effect the relationship between gay and straight individuals, merely pointing out that there is a distinction between sexual preference and personality as a whole (in jest, one reading your post earlier might confuse the two, that was what I was hoping to clear up: for example, one reading the thread might think he or she is gay, bi, or straight based on how they like to act and or present themselves, ie, hugging, cuddling, and confiding in one of the same gender).

While it might seem a bit far fetched, I'm venturing to think [b]many[/b] young/confused individuals might confuse the two.

(Since I see the topic as shifted somehow, I'll leave it at that.)

[Raiyuu]

[color=DarkSlateBlue][font=Trebuchet MS]Attimus, I can't do anything about the opinions you hold and the way they're clashing with other people here. But I can tell you to [b]lay off the offensive language.[/b] I know Salty Bob was effectively spamming, but now you've gone and done the same thing by launching a personal attack on him. Shall I quote it? I think I shall:
[quote name='Attimus331][/font][/color]But really, you're a di*k. ^_^[color=DarkSlateBlue'][font=Trebuchet MS][/quote] And here's another quote you might find useful:
[quote name='The Spam List][/font][/color]Swearing and offensive words, in any format, are considered spam at our site ... Any form of threat, insult or inappropriate behavior towards a member or staff member is viewed very seriously by OtakuBoards.com.[color=DarkSlateBlue'][font=Trebuchet MS][/quote] Sandy, Tical and Lix don't agree with your opinions, but at least they disagree in a civil manner. The least you can do is afford them the same courtesy.

Let's not let this thread go to that place where most of the O. Lounge's sexual orientation threads go, 'kay?
[/font][/color]

[sakurasuka]

[QUOTE=persocomblues]That's exactly my point, it is a pretty random assertion, and it is in such thinking that one can easily confuse personality types with sexuality types. In a thread meant to aid those in need of finding their sexual preference, such statements regarding personality traits (sterotypical or not in nature) should be left out of the conversation all together.

I understand what both of you (Hug and Sakurasuka) are trying to say and yet at the same time even in jest mentioning personality traits commonly associated with various preferences can, in my opinion, only lead to confusion. I did not take Hug's post too seriously, I took it as would anyone randomly reading through the thread. I think it should have been left out of a sexual preference conversation.[/QUOTE]

[SIZE=1]Uuuuuhhhh... Excuse me? I wasn't steriotyping ANYONE. I think I was just trying to clear some things up for YOU. Yes, Tical admitted that he was steriotyping. Yes, I was admitting that steriotypes are quite a common part of homosexuality in most people's minds. Was I, myself steriotyping? I think not.

Maybe Tical's post shouldn't have been brought up. But then again, why not? It was just a statement, I don't really see why you're so bent on bashing it.[/SIZE]

[quote=Dagger]Ah, I see. I didn't really take your statement as being a reference to men only. And speaking personally, I've noticed much more generalization about gay men (and women) than about bisexuals of either gender; I guess that's why it threw me for a loop...

~Dagger~[/quote]

[SIZE=1]Oh, my appologies! You're right, I definitely didn't specify. Sorry for any confusion =D[/SIZE]

[Saya]

[QUOTE=sakurasuka][SIZE=1]Uuuuuhhhh... Excuse me? I wasn't steriotyping ANYONE. I think I was just trying to clear some things up for YOU. Yes, Tical admitted that he was steriotyping. Yes, I was admitting that steriotypes are quite a common part of homosexuality in most people's minds. Was I, myself steriotyping? I think not.

Maybe Tical's post shouldn't have been brought up. But then again, why not? It was just a statement, I don't really see why you're so bent on bashing it.[/SIZE][/QUOTE]I'm not bashing anything. It looks like you missed the intention of my post entirely. What I was simply saying was that personality stereotypes even in jest should be left out of a conversation regarding sexual preference completely so as not to confuse the issue at hand. For example whether or not someone is bisexual or heterosexual has nothing to do with what society or the individual commonly associates with bisexual or heterosexual. Are they concerns when making such decisions? Sure, but they are not logically related to the decision making process they are merely concerns of worrisome minds.

Why would I make the distinction? Because some people feel compelled to decide their sexual preference based on what society thinks, based on what they think of the terms "bisexual" and "heterosexual." This is faulty thinking, one which is common when deciding something so important.

Is stereotypes important in the minds of homosexuals, heterosexuals, and bisexuals? Certainly. It's also important to wombats, school girls, what kind of cleaning products to buy considering certain misconceptions about them, politics, and so on... all of which holds no relevance when discussing sexual preference.

[b]Clarification[/b]~ If you mean where I referred to the stereotypical assertions used when regarding sexual "personalities," it wasn't an insult to you. Assuming (joking or not) that gays, straights or bisexuals [i]act[/i] a certain way is a stereotypical personality trait mistakenly thought to be a true personality trait for those of a certain sexual preference. I never once said you were trying to stereotype anyone. I was trying to make sure that in the future we separate personality traits (stereotypical or not) from [b]preference[/b], especially since this thread deals with preference.

[2010DigitalBoy]

[quote name='persocomblues']I was simply saying was that personality stereotypes even in jest should be left out of a conversation regarding sexual preference completely so as not to confuse the issue at hand. [/quote]

[COLOR=Purple]Hey it's my issue Ill say what I want >:O And it wasn't a joke, I was serious, I really have been in many of those situations. I was mearly being satyrical.

Any WTH is this thread still operationg for? My problem is solved, so who cares about the rest? :animeswea [/COLOR]

[Saya]

[quote=Hug Monster]Hey it's my issue Ill say what I want >:O And it wasn't a joke, I was serious, I really have been in many of those situations. I was mearly being satyrical.

Any WTH is this thread still operationg for? My problem is solved, so who cares about the rest?[/quote]An arrogant remark, there are other people on the forums other than you. And while the advice given was to aid you, it was also to help others. As I said earlier I was trying to keep "personality" remarks out of it that way whoever read this, if they too had problems figuring out their sexuality then they wouldn't be confused and think that the things we commonly refer to as personality types didn't influence their decision regarding their sexual preference.

A lot of people took their time and laid out their own personal feelings regarding sexuality, many people also came forward and admitted they had problems. And you think this thread was solely about you?

[quote name='Hug Monster']Any WTH is this thread still operationg for? My problem is solved, so who cares about the rest?[/quote]I care about the rest. Discovering one's sexuality is a big thing, if I were them I'd be taking offense to your comments. I surely wish we'd get back on track and hopefully people would discuss sexuality more, and when the topic goes dead that's when it ends not when your "problem" is solved. Unfortunately it just looks like you ruined the thread for all involved because you couldn't hold a serious conversation.

[Attimus331]

[QUOTE=Sandy]But Attimus, you simply can't say that something is wrong "because it's [I]wrong[/I]"! That is a very lame excuse for homophobia.

I think you have gained the level of homophobia, where you think that us homosexuals are just humans like the rest, but you still seem to think that we are a bit nutty or perverted, when all that we are really doing is what nature intended.

Not [I]everybody[/I] are suppossed to have kids, there are already too many people spoiling this planet as it is.

I don't think it's very respectful towards your friends to act approving, and then say behind their backs that what they [I]really[/I] are is disgusting... :/

Oh, and please do not resort to flaming (ie. calling people names), we're trying to have a decent conversation here.[/QUOTE]

I apologize for getting pissy, but in my defense, i didn't start it. That's all i'll say.

Nature did not intend for you to be homosexual. In all of nature have you once seen a gay animal? A gay dog, a gay monkey, anything? The only difference between the animals and the humans is rational thought, so rationally it must be this that has caused homosexuality, therefore it is a choice, not a genetic flaw. But i'm not positive it's not a genetic flaw, maybe you should show me proof.

So people who aren't supposed to have kids should be gay? And why aren't they supposed to have kids?

You rather me agree with everything my friends do/say? If a friend was payed money to eat something gross, wouldn't you say it's disgusting? Of course you would. And i never said i act approvingly, i just don't act disapprovingly. Once again, it's their choice, not mine, and i respect a person's ability to make choices.

[2010DigitalBoy]

[QUOTE=persocomblues]Discovering one's sexuality is a big thingQUOTE]

[COLOR=Purple]But why, why do people get so... emotional about these things? If your regretting it or freaked out by it why the hell are you... it? People act like they have no choice or power over their sexuality but I think thats total bull. We have control over everything we do.

Also I want the thread to die so no more bullcrap gets started, though I guess I started some in that same desire... oh well.[/COLOR]

[The Newfie]

[COLOR=SeaGreen]Hug Monster - love who you want. Love is love - one of the last pure things left here.

[QUOTE=Attimus331]When the hell did i say you couldn't love a person? And when did love become a sexual thing? Go ahead, love who you want, i just don't think you should be kissing a guy just cuz you love him. Love him as a friend, a brother, a mentor, not a lover. I don't judge people for being gay, i believe in gay rights, go gay, whatever. I just disagre with being gay in general. God made two sexes, not one, deal with it.

Anyways, i stand by my confused bit about gays.

[/quote]

How can you believe in gay rights, equality etc, the whole time saying 'Homosexuality is wrong'? Seems a tiny bit hypocritical. And you're welcome to believe that there are two sexes for a reason - but if you're opinion is likely to offend somone, wouldn't it be best kept to yourself?

[quote]

What's wrong with affection between two humans? Nothing, as long as it's not the wrong type of affection. Having sex with the same sex is disgusting and wrong. Once again, there are two sexes for a reason.

[/quote]

Where did you get the moral high horse? Love is love - and love involves sexual activities. Ya know, there are a lot more creepy, heterosexual types of sex than sex between two people of the same sex. (Wow I said sex three times in that sentence... four times if you include heteroSEXual) You can't pick-and-choose what you like and what you don't, in this case - either you're cool with gays or you aren't. You can't 'believe in gay rights' if you think that somthing that, inevitably, does happen between them. As I said - where'd ya get the moral high horse.

[quote]

Why isn't there a right or wrong? There is in mostly everything else. Just because you want something to be so doesn't make it so. Just cuz you want to be gay, it doesn't make it alright. The DNA bit, i seriously doubt that, but seeing as i know nothing about it, i won't argue it.

[/quote]

Well, actualy (And I don't have the source on me so don't ask), there were studies taken on corpses by some obscure university. They examined the corpses of homosexual and heterosexual men, and homosexual and heterosexual women. They found that a small, small portion of the brain in the homosexual man was closer to the size of the same part of the brain in the women examined. The same part in the homosexual women was closer to that of the heterosexual man.

What does this all mean? Horomone levels control more or less every development in you're bodies. This part of the brain produces horomones (Come to think of it, it might have been the pituitary - but don't hold me too it). The size determines the level of horomones. We don't understand it all that much yet, but, basically, homosexuals are homosexual for a reason - they don't just get confused, the level of horomones in the body (apperently) determines the sexuality of a person (To an extent).

'Da Newf[/COLOR]

[Saya]

Well I hope you see my logic in our last minor argument we had, as I certainly did not mean to offend anyone, merely stick to the topic at hand. Thank you for not continuing with it.

[quote name='Hug Monster']But why, why do people get so... emotional about these things? If your regretting it or freaked out by it why the hell are you... it? People act like they have no choice or power over their sexuality but I think thats total bull. We have control over everything we do.[/quote]Because it is such a big thing, you yourself said you were confused by it. It's an emotional situation. I agree that people do have a choice, I just think often times people (more over young people) fail to see they have a choice and go with those things I previously called "stereotypes" of what "X" sexual preference [i]should[/i] act like or seem like, if you get my drift.

I think it's a tough thing for anyone to admit that they have a lot more control over their lives than they previously thought: it's frightening, means more responsibility, more time needed for introspection, more time needed for lengthily discussions like this in hopes of finding their true selves. It's a quest... and a stressful one, so I think it goes without question that it could very well be an emotional ride from hell.

To be confused by it is to admit it holds some sway over you... some control over you. I believe that this isn't true, nothing takes away from our freedom to choose, and yet I think people confronted with such complex decisions feel confused/powerless because of it. That alone is reason to keep the topic open, IMO.

[Guest kuroinuyoukai]

[QUOTE]The size determines the level of horomones. We don't understand it all that much yet, but, basically, homosexuals are homosexual for a reason - they don't just get confused, the level of horomones in the body (apperently) determines the sexuality of a person (To an extent).[/QUOTE]


Maybe to an extent with some people. I happen to have a crazy hormone level for a girl. I have too many male hormones. I have a deeper voice,my weight is distributed like a male's,have a high libido, and tend to put on muscle mass like men. But I am as heterosexual as they come. Don't have any homosexual feelings whatsoever. So while hormones may decide some sexuality I feel as though a majority of it is a mental thing. This is my opinion.Not that any one's opinion is wrong-I just wanted to comment.