Where have all the good single people gone?

[Guest kuroinuyoukai]

After my very recent stinging from an online realtionship-I began to ponder to myself. Where have all the good single people gone? All I seem to deal with are guys who like games and aren't really serious about anything.

Well guys and gals, where do you think they are? Where can someone find a nice guy or gal in this world?

[B]Thanks Great Bird indeed I shall.[/B]

[GreatBird]

I beleive that the good single people are hard to find in this world. But they are there so get out there and I'm sure you will find one soon. :D Just remember to not give up , because there is someone out there for everybody, and that someone is waiting for you.

[renayiiq]

The GOOD SINGLE people are usually not online (no offense). You usually have to dive into the real world instead of the graphic interface that is the internet.

[IceRose]

That is what I'd like to know, where can I find a nice guy? :animesigh I think all the nice guys are hidden somewhere or already with someone. I mean I know plenty of nice guys but they are already in relationships and I mean they do everything for their girls and stuff which is not fair because they take them for granted. I mean I'm not gonna give up on finding someone I mean there has to be someone out there for everyone

[Stark]

Oi. Rena-Chan. I'm technically single, and I'm here.

Kuro-Tan, if you look hard enough I'm sure that you can find a good single person you can have a relationship with. They could be anywhere from your college campus to the local burger joint....perhaps even on the OB.

You may want to look for similar interests first if you want to find someone you like. Perhaps that hot guy sitting across from you in a class you like? (Hypothetical situation.)

Perhaps join a club--you'll definently find friends there if your really interested in the subject.

Just look around. Pay attention to the people around you. You might find someone in the masses who's your 100% perfect boy.

[sakurasuka]

[quote name='kuroinuyoukai']Where can someone find a nice guy or gal in this world?[/quote]

[SIZE=1]*Raises hand* I'm here, beautiful, and SINGLE!

But... I'm not interested in dating right now. Pretty much 'cause I can't find anyone that really accepts me. Meh.

I think there's plenty of nice guys/gals in the world, you just need to know where to look.[/SIZE]

[Guest Heero yuy]

I think it stems from age, in pyschologic term, the stages, and what not, that determine maturity.

But then, there's a lot of single good people all over, spread out and what not.

...I don't know.

[Zen]

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This fine mass of man is already taken ladies... yeah... I feel sorry for my girlfriend too.


On the real though, there are alot of confusing things when it comes to love nowadays. I see on a daily basis people splitting and hooking up two days later, and it highly confuses me. I see girls get with guys and I'm like, didn't you see how just dumped that one girl!? And you still want that guy!? Come on!? And then I see a guy get with a girl who is known for just going against all relationships and I'm like "Dude! You already know she's like that, what are you doin'!?"

The determination if a person is 'good' or not depends on your deffinition of a good partner. And this is something that will vary from every person. You really just have to look, and with a stroke of destiny, your bound to find some one worth while. Ya just gotta keep an open eye and mind, and you might just find that people are different when you get to know them better.[/color][/size]

[Solo Tremaine]

[color=#503f86]I'm nice and single, although not through choice >.>;

I've had real trouble finding a girl my age who's into similar interests that I am. The problem I have is that I tend to be too particular about what I want now, rather than looking for someone who's just genuinely nice.

But the interests I have don't exactly lend themselves to great amounts of the 'right' social interaction-
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[*]Anime- serves my interests online; I don't know anyone outside my current circle of friends who likes it, and all of the girls I do know who do are either over an hour away, taken or lesbian. It's really bizarre. And I'm not one for long-distance relationships, unfortunately. If I was it'd be no problem...
[*]Writing- hardly a social practice.
[*]Acting- Since I'm mostly working with the Youth Theatre at the moment, not only am I on the outer rim of a very close group anyway, but they're all rather young.
[*]Historical Reenactment- Big, beardy blokes with weapons. Yeah...
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I've never been to University, and it's likely that I never will, which means I've lost out on a massive chunk of socialness already. I don't work (officially) currently, so it's not as if I can meet people that way, and I can't stand going out to nightclubs. Even if I did, I'll have had to drive their in the first place so I can't drink and I end up getting bored as hell waiting for something interesting to happen. Bleh. But I know my problems. I'm just reluctant to do anything about them right now.

I was about to go on a huge rant about how a lot of girls I see end up with the most horrible-looking guys, but I don't think it'd be a good idea. But there's more to a relationship than looks. Even so, though...

I think they're always there if you look hard enough and are willing to wait. It sucks not being in a relationship but you can't push to be in one- all you'll do is cause yourself grief.[/color]

[Satoru]

Heh.

Don't look, let it happen.

With girls, its wierd, you don't have to have the same interests, infact that doesn't even help. You just gel together.

[Lady Asphyxia]

[font=Arial][size=2]Now, come on, Soley. I can safely say that girls love a guy in armour. ^.^ *huggles*

I've been in one relationship so far, and I've kind of gotten to the point where I don't really want another one at the moment. I'm about to move -- not just inter-city but inter-state, also, and without my family there either. And once there I want to concentrate on doing the best I can in my field -- so that's what I want to do.

From what I remember about my relationship [it was two years or so ago, lol.] the main thing that sticks out was that I was always nervous. I always worried that I wasn't good enough, and wondered what he saw in me. And I don't want to do that again. I've grown as a person since then and while I still have my baggage, I'm more confident.

But at the same time, I don't want to risk getting into that situation. When I get involved with anyone, all I want is a bit of fun, really. Laughter and messing around and just being stupid, rather than a deep commitment. I just don't think, at 17, that I'm ready for it. Lord knows I wasn't ready for it at 15. [img]http://otakuboards.com/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif[/img]

I think self-confidence has a lot to do with it. I've learnt recently that if you [i]think[/i] you look good, then you will. If you think you're the sexiest person alive, then in somebody's eyes, you will be. :)
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[nomad19]

[QUOTE=kuroinuyoukai]After my very recent stinging from an online realtionship-I began to ponder to myself. Where have all the good single people gone? All I seem to deal with are guys who like games and aren't really serious about anything.

Well guys and gals, where do you think they are? Where can someone find a nice guy or gal in this world?

[B]Thanks Great Bird indeed I shall.[/B][/QUOTE]

hmm, there are alot of em "good people" out there it's just a matter of where you look (like here on the OB), i agree that there are alot of guys who like games and or anime but arent serious about anything else, but this is a forum for games and anime so i would'nt expect anything "serious". there are guys who are already "taken" but you can always count on them as a friend right? hehe meeting people online is fun in a way that you get to share your thoughts and stuff......just wait you'll find someone soon ;)....just wait

[Shinmaru]

[quote name='Solo Tremaine][color=#503f86']I'm nice and single, although not through choice >.>;[/color][/quote]

Lord, ain't that the truth?

I think that my biggest problem is that every time I find a girl that I like, she's already with someone. I'm still friends with a lot of them... but none of them are available lol. It's incredibly annoying, let me tell you. I've basically given up on finding a girlfriend for now. It's too frustrating and depressing to think about. :animestun

[IceRose]

Well now its official, I have to give up trying to find a boyfriend because my brothers are sick, since both of my parents work all day and come around 10:00 pm I'm left to take care of them, my bad luck again at play :animestun I'll just have to wait until school goes back in session.

[Guest kuroinuyoukai]

My problem is that these guys here at the Uof M are cute and nice...but I am afraid I am out of their league. I am older than they are. Most people tell me "Man you're old!"

While I think 31 is not old I have to remember that a big majority of students here are at least a decade younger than me. I have found people my age -but they happen to be my professors.

I don't know where to find single men my age at all. I don't go to clubs because I don't like large crowds(anxiety atttacks). Somebody tell me where I can find bachelors my age? Please no dating services!!Help! :animesigh

[Sara]

[quote name='kuroinuyoukai']I don't know where to find single men my age at all. I don't go to clubs because I don't like large crowds(anxiety atttacks). Somebody tell me where I can find bachelors my age? Please no dating services!!Help! :animesigh[/quote][color=#333333][font=trebuchet ms]I'm hardly a guru, but I'd suggest finding a niche where you feel comfortable being yourself. If you're at a university (or a city that has clubs, heh), there are undoubtedly some small-to-mid-sized groups around. Poetry readings, book clubs, film clubs might all be free. You can probably take a ballroom dance class or something like that for about $30.

Good places to meet the more subdued people in the world.[/color][/font]

[wayofthreversed]

I don't know what to tell you. I am haveing just as hard a time as the rest of you are in finding a girlfriend. But I would like to know why do you women not say anything when you like a guy I mean we are not mind readers I hate it when I am talking to a girl who says that when we firts met ( and they were single) she liked me :animedepr ..... well that does not help at all, now does it .

[IceRose]

We don't tell the guys we like we like them because we might be too nervous or afraid of rejection. Have you guys ever though of that?

[Guest kuroinuyoukai]

[quote name='wayofthreversed']I don't know what to tell you. I am haveing just as hard a time as the rest of you are in finding a girlfriend. But I would like to know why do you women not say anything when you like a guy I mean we are not mind readers I hate it when I am talking to a girl who says that when we firts met ( and they were single) she liked me :animedepr ..... well that does not help at all, now does it .[/quote]

Maybe we don't tell guys sometimes because some of you use it to crap all over us. Some of the guys that I have liked turned it into a joke and hurt fest!! And what Ice Rose said of course. Not you though, way of the reversed, I think you are much tpoo sweet for that! :catgirl:

[king_monkey]

I Find That If You Keep Your Head Up Some One Will Come Along And
Sweep You Off Your Feet And People On Ob Are Well Um You Can't Really Judge Them Be 4 You Know Who They Really Are Can You? Im The Type Of Guy Who Like's To Be In Love But I Dont Let Love Hurt Me You Have To Learn How To Compose Your Deep Emotions And Regulate Your Love Life. It Doesn't Matter Anyway Whats The Rush.

He/she Who Has A Hasty Step Towards Love Will NOT SEE The Pile Of Doo-doo

[color=DarkSlateBlue][b][size=1]king_monkey, I've deleted your double post. Please don't post straight after yourself, either wait for someone else to post in the meantime or use the EDIT button instead. Also, ALL CAPS (as in the post I've deleted) is the online equivalent of shouting in someone's face - considered very rude, as I'm sure you can imagine!
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[wayofthreversed]

[quote name='IceRose']We don't tell the guys we like we like them because we might be too nervous or afraid of rejection. Have you guys ever though of that?[/quote]

True. But that is not a one way street. We get the same feelings that you do; I just find it unfair that we are expected to be the askers.

[Shadow Blade]

[size=1][color=slategray]Have no fear because Dr.Phil is here.

Nah. Just kidding. I'm no romance master. But wish I could be. Like most of you here I'm a victim. I just can't seem to find the right person. But hey, just be patience is all I can say to the young and the restless including myself, except you kuroinuyoukai of course. I can't tell you to be patient, but I can tell you that despite the crummy, younger, idiots there is someone waiting for you I'm sure. I mean there's always someone for somebody right?

[quote name='IceRose']We don't tell the guys we like we like them because we might be too nervous or afraid of rejection. Have you guys ever though of that?[/quote]

[quote name='wayofthreversed']True. But that is not a one way street. We get the same feelings that you do; I just find it unfair that we are expected to be the askers.[/quote]

You know IceRose I hate to admit but Wayofthereversed really does have a point. All guys have feelings too. The most worst and embrassing feeling a guy could have is rejection from the chick they admire. It's a total, utter, bitter, horrible feeling you get in the pits of your stomach. It kinda makes you ashame, really.



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[Starwind]

I've never had to face rejection because I'm kind of a self sabotager. When i think theres something there, I always find a way to screw it up. I just get nervous, I can't feel comfortable in a situation with people I don't know well, as such, I have a hard time finding girlfriends. I've been on a few blind dates, all turned out poorly or went know where. It's not that I'm not a nice guy, I just have a hard time getting comfortable around girls, esspecially considering most of them share no interest of my own. When your an anime nerd out here it's hard to find friends, let alone girlfriends. I'm just a hopeless single and I can't help it. Is there no love for this poor nerds soul.

[The Newfie]

[COLOR=SeaGreen]All 'da go'd singles er' out on 'da ocean fishing fa' cod!

I never really concerned myself with love or whathaveyou - so I've never had to face rejection. Lonlieness doesn't bother me, but that's probably because I spend so much time at sea.

Trust me though, the good people are there.

*starts humming Where Have all the Good People Gone*

'Da Newf[/COLOR]

[Shane12_01]

If the ladies are looking for a good single man then I'm the one your looking for, look me up in Trukee Ca...jk
ummm... face to face rejection never had one, but always looking for love. :animeswea