What does this mean?

[Dhampir]

Alright, this guy and I have been best friends for over a year now. When I first met him, I was crushing a little, but by now it has grown into real feelings. Before I let him know about this, we were very affectionate, but still as just friends. He would talk to me about anything and always make sure I got a good hug before he left for home. Then, I told him of my feelings and he told me: "It's not likely to happen, but there is still a chance." I really diddn't want to take that as a good answer, so I persisted. I kept telling him of how well it would work out and that if it looks like it won't work we can stop right then. As I was doing this, he talked to me less and less and showed me a lot less attention. Finally I told him "I give up", and all of a sudden, things are back to normal, and he is showing me even more affection than was usual.

The purpose of that life story is to ask you all, exactly what is he trying to put across? I'm lost here, and I really need some advice...

[Raquel]

It may be that he feels that you're like a sister to him and that he loves you but not in the dating way. He probably got uncomfortable when you kept asking because he cares for you and doesn?t want to hurt you feelings by saying no. Now that you've stopped he's being more supportive because some people become withdrawn after rejection and he dosen't want to loose your friendship which appears to be very important to him.

Remember not to put too much faith in what I say.

[Gavin]

[SIZE=1]Interesting, most interesting.

I think Raquel hit it dead on the nose with this one, you probably freaked him out by going over and over about the whole relationship thing and now that you've stopped he assumes that you guys are OK and back to where you were before. He's happy are you are now, probably valuing the affection he can give you without having to affect your relationship together. Maybe I'm wrong but I think chances are he cares for you, but not in the way you're looking for.[/SIZE]

[Starwind]

I think it has more to do with him being nervous it sounds like. The closer you try to get, the further he pushes himself away. I believe deep down he shares similar feeling for you, but doesn't know how to act on them, and when you started to act on them it sent up red flags for him. I think you just need to wait and take it slow and easy. In part I can understand this, sudden out show of these new emotions is sometimes frightening. I'm currently in a similar situation, and all one can do is be patient and loyal to that person. Let him find his feeling for you and once he comes to terms with them, he'll be more willing to except them from you. If he didn't ahve any feelings he probably would have appeared more repulsed, which is not what happend, he simply became distant. That's why I believe he really does hold some manner of feeling for you. Just wait for him, and if nothing ever comes of it then it wasn't meant to be. Just remember, even if he doesn't return them to you, the reeling you have for him are still just as real and they never have to disappear. I know even if I don't end up with her, my feelings for her will never change or go away. Just stay strong and remember, if nothing comes, then nothings changed. I hope I helped.

[Japan]

[COLOR=DarkRed]What does this mean?

You scared him off plain and simple. You can never really force anything. Maybe he doesn't want a relationship now, or...he only sees you as a friend or little sister and nothing else. Don't go looking for love, let it find you.[/COLOR]

[Guest The Assassin]

It's possible that you caught him by surprise. He didn't know you felt that way about him, so when you told him, he didn't know what to say. It's also possible he only sees you as a friend.

[Shane12_01]

[quote name='Starwind']I think it has more to do with him being nervous it sounds like. The closer you try to get, the further he pushes himself away. I believe deep down he shares similar feeling for you, but doesn't know how to act on them, and when you started to act on them it sent up red flags for him. I think you just need to wait and take it slow and easy.[/quote]

I would agree I had a friend that was in the same boat as him. He told me he got nervus and did not know how to react. It was all nerves, but dont rush it he probably wants to make sure that he has the same feelings and to keep a good friendship going. I'm sure he'll come around just give him time to admit his feelings when he is sure of them. And dont worry if he has to think about it, that just shows that he cares and wants both of you to be happy. :animesmil

[Riku]

[QUOTE=Ryli][COLOR=DarkRed]What does this mean?

You scared him off plain and simple. You can never really force anything. Maybe he doesn't want a relationship now, or...he only sees you as a friend or little sister and nothing else. Don't go looking for love, let it find you.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

[FONT=Comic Sans MS][SIZE=1][COLOR=Navy]I totally agree with Ryli and with what she said at the end.

I think that you kinda scared him off by repeatingly telling him how it would work and why you two should go out. You should have just accepted the answer that he gave you and realize that either he doesn't want to go out with you or he might not be ready to have a realitionship in any way, shape or form.

Another thing I agree with everyone else on is that he might act that way because he thinks of you as his little sister. Everytime someone does or say something nice to/for you doesn't mean that he automatically likes you, it's just that your his best friend or he thinks of you as a younger sibling. When you stopped asking him, he probably felt that you understood what he meant. I think I might be wrong, so don't do anything drastic because of my reply.

In the end, don't rush love because he might either be scared to ask you or there might not be anything at all. Maybe you're looking for love in all the wrong places[/COLOR][/SIZE].[/FONT]

[Ikillion]

[COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=2][FONT=Times New Roman]I would have to go with what Raquel said on this account. He really did probaly think of you as someone as a sister. He proabaly though you may have though in the same way. However when you said that you really do like him, he was probaly really taken back from the account. Then he probaly paniced not wanting to say no and not wanting to say yes at the exact same time. Si he gave you that answer instead. Now however he may think that You dont like him at all anymore and is now and is giving you extra attention so you can be like how you started. Thats the best I can try and explain it.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR]