Alcohol and break-ups

[renayiiq]

Well, I've learned one thing: Alcohol is my friend. I've been dumped (again) today, and I've been feeling a need to release. Crying just makes my eyes hurt and strain. Alcohol makes me feel funny. I can't cut because I promised myself to never go back to that....ever. I can't punch my closet door anymore because it's ******* up my hand. I don't want to smoke weed because it tastes more disgusting and is even more illegal than alcohol.

Who here lkes alcohol?

[Starwind]

Alcohol is just a temporary escape from reality. If you can't get by without it then you won't get by with it. All it does is mask how miserable you are. You and everyone around you still knows how upset you are. If you don't want to feel pain you can either: seal yourself off from every thing and live a sad depressing life with no friends no love and total misery, but no pain. Or, you can take this experience and let it make you stronger. Face it down and look forward, look past it, and keep going. Moving forward instead of into a bottle.

[Saya]

[quote name='Starwind']Alcohol is just a temporary escape from reality. If you can't get by without it then you won't get by with it. All it does is mask how miserable you are. You and everyone around you still knows how upset you are. If you don't want to feel pain you can either: seal yourself off from every thing and live a sad depressing life with no friends no love and total misery, but no pain. Or, you can take this experience and let it make you stronger. Face it down and look forward, look past it, and keep going. Moving forward instead of into a bottle.[/quote]I agree... I mean I'm old enough to drink and do often? except I still think alcohol isn't the greatest solution especially when you're feeling down. You become dependent on it for support if you do that. Sure, it depends entirely upon the person as well as a bunch of other factors, and yet still it?s a risk I?d rather not take.

That being said I would try to shy away from drinking when you?re upset. I realize that?s easier said than done, because when I get upset I feel like? I?d do just about anything. But alcohol has a way of making you more depressed than you need to be, and from one forum member do another, it?s been my experience that such a combination could be deadly in unforeseeable ways.

Hell, I?d sooner suggest drinking for pleasure during social events rather than drinking while depressed or sad. I realize you might not have made the post expecting to get chastised and I don?t mean to be criticizing you, I don?t care how old you are or whether or not you plan on listening to my advice:

Just want you to know I am truly sorry you are upset, and I do truly hope you strongly consider finding some other way of chilling out when upset.

[Desbreko]

[quote]I love you more than I did the week before
I discovered alcohol
Oh alcohol, would you please forgive me
For while I cannot love myself
I?ll use something else[/quote][color=#4B0082]Personally, I can't stand the stuff, but I guess it has its uses. :beer:[/color]

[Transtic Nerve]

Maybe the reason you were dumped was because of the alcohol....

[Ikillion]

[COLOR=DarkSlateGray][SIZE=2][FONT=Times New Roman]Well I wouldnt really know what alcohol would be able to do to a person since I am to young to have Alcohol Legaly. However you may think that you are free from a break up. However all its going to do is pull you down further through that hole of lonliness after a break up. The best thing to do is to try and get back on your feet and look for another relationship.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Ezekiel]

[SIZE=1]Here's an idea: [U]get a puppy[/U].

I'm underaged, so I've never been drunk or anything. Personally I don't see the point; I've had alcohol, but only in small amounts. The thought of being drunk enough to 'escape from reality' doesn't seem all too appealing to me, what with the hangover, vomiting and splitting headache. [I]Very attractive[/I].[/SIZE]

[Raiyuu]

[color=DarkGreen][font=Trebuchet MS]The purpose of alcohol is to make everything seem funnier, thereby making a night out with friends better. It's impossible to 'drown your sorrows' as the cliche goes; the sorrows don't drown, they just hold their breath until you wake up the next morning and then they break the surface with as much noisy splashing as they can manage.

(Yay for extended metaphors.)

But if everything we've said hasn't put you off the sauce, at least remember either to [b]drink a glass of water after each glass of booze [/b]or [b]drink eight to ten glasses of water before you go to bed. [/b]It's the only surefire hangover cure there is. You don't want a pounding headache and gut-rot to go with your blues when you wake up in the morning.
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[Retribution]

[size=1]Judging from your previous topics about having sex to "try your boyfriend out," or your poor family life, and now drinking alcohol to drown sorrows, I'd say that you need to get a hold of your life immediately. I hate to preach, but perhaps if you were to take life a bit more slowly next time, cut the angst, and be optimistic for once, things might look up. Maybe your parents aren't buddy-buddy with you because you act like the world is dark and depressing -- I don't know. Maybe if you stopped having all this sex and drinking, you'd have no reason to cut or punch or smoke.

Don't talk to me about how I'm "being judgemental" - what I'm saying still applies if you have a really crappy life in general. Being optimistic and aiming high can never hurt.[/size]

[Deadpool]

I tend to punch things whne i get mad, but I have somewhat cured myself of that. Drinking may take your sorrows away temporerly, but as soon as you come back to reality, you will be worse off then you were before

[Stark]

Drinking doesn't sound like a happy way to go. I don't really drink, save a little wine here or there around the holidays, but I am no stranger to depression and I don't think that alcohol can help much.

Logically, alcohol is a depressant. If you're already depressed, you may act out on your crazy thoughts and do something drastic. In the end, it probably won't go so well.

I'm not saying stop--do what you will, because you'll only hurt yourself-- but I understand your need for release. If those emotions need let out that badly, then do something constructive. Let those feelings out in some bold artistic way, like those chaotic abstracts that look so neat. Or, write some angry poetry condemning everyone and everything in general.

Even if you're not artistic, it may work.

Finding another relationship may sound good and all, but take a little time for yourself Don't rush around looking for another lover, because you could fall back into that same trap. . Get back onto your feet so that you can stand without any support, get your head clear of everything you dislike, and be content with living for a while.

Oh. Imi's right. A puppy really can work wonders.

[Retribution]

[quote name='Stark']I'm not saying stop--do what you will, because you'll only hurt yourself-- but I understand your need for release.[/quote]
[size=1]You've heard of those stories where the drunk person drives friends home and they all end up dead, right?

My point is that alcoholism not only hurts yourself, but others around you too. If you get drunk, you send messages to family and friends that you just don't care anymore. If you have younger siblings, you're making alcoholism an acceptable thing to do. Your parents will [probably] take action, and there you have it - a family life self-destruct.[/size]

[Shwa]

I'm not goning to say that I havn't drunkin before (5 times tota socially onlyl, yay). But using it as a way to get through your problems is just retarded, and acting like you need it to do so is even worse. Like the opthers said there are those drunk driving and drunk behavior commercials for a reason because the company wants you to know that young kids are reckless with the stuff. I'm not saying that we're the only ones but pretty much it's teenagers who over-use and let the drunken' effects take over them.

Later on your going to find out that you've just wasted a lot of money on something that brough you about 2-7 hours (if cronic) of "happiness".

[Shi no Tenshi]

I'm only just old enough to drink, but have been doing so since I was about 13 (hurrah for cultural differences within Western society). The point - it really isn't that amazing. Especially on your own. Or to drown sorrow (as I've heard sorrow knows how to swim).

Personally, I believe that posting those sort of topics here is useless. This is just a way to seek attention as a cry for help. We can't help you, we don't know you in real life. We can only offer advice that is pendant on you taking it. Get off the computer, go outside and have a hard think about what you are going to do to solve these problems rather than seek sympathy from online strangers. Seeing a counseller would be advisable and there's no shame in it (and a counseller is better trained to help you than a bunch of concerned teenagers at a forum).

How peculiar that I post this and yet I drunk a quater of a wine bottle last night for absolutely no reason other than I was thirsty, didn't want water and there was nothing else ;/

[Guest Sean]

[SIZE=1]Relationships end.

Alcohol won't change that, ever, yes I do enjoy a drink now and then, in a controlled environment with some friends, but not to drown sorrows, not to act hard, not to be cool, I like the taste, heh.

But alcohol isn't what it's made up to be, I would sometimes rather have a bottle of Irn-Bru in my hand than a can of Beer.

To get over a relationship, I recommend you put it behind you, again, relationships end, it's human nature to have feelings for other people. Yes, you get the cases where it's one person only, and that's it, and that's great for them. But others like to look at the bigger picture. And really, I don't think my now or next girlfriend will be my life partner.[/SIZE]

[Transtic Nerve]

[QUOTE=Retribution][size=1]Judging from your previous topics about having sex to "try your boyfriend out," or your poor family life, and now drinking alcohol to drown sorrows, I'd say that you need to get a hold of your life immediately. I hate to preach, but perhaps if you were to take life a bit more slowly next time, cut the angst, and be optimistic for once, things might look up. Maybe your parents aren't buddy-buddy with you because you act like the world is dark and depressing -- I don't know. Maybe if you stopped having all this sex and drinking, you'd have no reason to cut or punch or smoke.

Don't talk to me about how I'm "being judgemental" - what I'm saying still applies if you have a really crappy life in general. Being optimistic and aiming high can never hurt.[/size][/QUOTE]

Well that about sums up this little thingy right here I'd say

Look, renayiiq, you're just a little screwy inside that noggin of yours. That's all. Nothing to worry about. Happens to the best of us, sorry kiddo. When you grow up in a bad life, you tend to lead a bad life. There is only one thing that can change all of that, and it starts with a Y and ends in OU. YOU have to take that initiative or else you'll end up like all the other trash in America. HAVE FUN! :)

[IceRose]

I guess I agree with Starwind that alcohol just a temporary escape from reality. When you wake up you will still be miserable, believe me, happenned to me once on my last break up a year ago. Vodka is not good and the feeling in the morning is even worse. Get a puppy, they will give you as much love as a boyfriend and they will not break your heart, I know having a boyfriend is good at times but I guess what I'm trying to say is that there are too many things less painful than a break up. :animeswea

[renayiiq]

[quote name='Transtic Nerve']Maybe the reason you were dumped was because of the alcohol....[/quote]

Nope. That wasn't it.

[The Newfie]

[COLOR=SeaGreen]I drink beer but that's about it... I'm a hoser ( [url]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hoser[/url] ) so I have a natural immunity to alcohol, I don't remmeber when I was drunk (As in SMASHED). I, quite frankly, love beer. The taste, the feeling, everything - and I never get drunk so no hangover which means no hard-to-explain mornings. I can't say that I have a love of vodka or any other hard alcohols, but that's because most are pretty tastless and are just around to get you smashed...

My beer-of-choice is La Fin de Monde (Which means, literally, The End of the World), a 11% beer made by Unibrou and is found almost exclusvily in Quebec (Which makes it hard to get my hands on.) It has a great taste and is pretty hard stuff, but, like I said, I'm a hoser so I can usually have a few a night without any ill affects, eh...

But if you're drinking just to drown your sorrows... ain't gona happen. Gona wake up with a headache and the problems will be worse than before. If you can't handle it don't drink it... I remember one kid from when I was younger, he snuck two 36 oz. bottles of vodka into school. He skipped class and drank both bottles in about 5 min. Bet you didn't know that alcohol is a paralizent - when you drink as much as that kid did, than the part of your brain that subconciously controls breathing is paralized... the kid didn't die but he suffered permanent brain damagwe

'Da Newf

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[Saya]

[quote name='renayiiq']Nope. That wasn't it.[/quote]With all due respect I'm curious to know whether or not you've read the countless responses from forum members on here to your initial post. Again while the intention of your post might not have been for forum members to "judge" you or your way of life, I think the advice thus far has been pretty solid.

As I noted before I don't think alcohol is a proper escape because it does get you more depressed and it isn't a good thing to become dependent on it. What are your thoughts on that? A few forum members have said how it is an escape from reality, how do you feel about that? Do you have any intention on changing how and when you drink?

You don't necessarily have to answer[b] any [/b]of these questions. I gather everyone here answered from their heart and because of which, you don't owe anyone [u]anything[/u]. But one reply reflecting upon some of the things mentioned would be [i]nice[/i]. I'm curious to know whether or not the solid, helpful advice I've read so far has fallen on deaf ears or not ? whether or not you care about the responses you?ve read, and what your expectations were.

[b]If[/b] our responses are falling upon deaf ears I'm wondering as to why you bothered making this post to begin with, for surely you must have known by and large people find what you had to say disturbing. And yet even still, I found most of the advice here helpful instead of condescending.

(Perhaps if people know whether or not you took this thread seriously they could decide whether or not to continue to reply here, I think that's pretty fair to ask.)

[SunfallE]

[COLOR=DarkOliveGreen]Honestly Alcohol is no one?s friend. It?s just a temporary release from reality and once you are sober again the reality still exists. Like Retribution said based on your previous topics it sounds like you have having a really hard time. It?s hard to know just what you are looking for with your initial post as other than explaining a bit of what is going on your only question is ?Who here likes Alcohol?? It doesn?t really leave much room for discussion other than a yes I do and no I don?t reply.

I agree with what a lot of the others are saying, alcoholism not only hurts you, but others around you, even strangers you have never met. Not only are you risking killing yourself if you drive you also run the risk of killing others as well. There's also the risk of Alcohol poisoning or getting permenant brain damage or even dying from having too much at one time. I?d try to find other escapes like games, scrapbooking, writing poetry, etc. If you keep trying different things you are bound to find something you enjoy doing. Counseling might be a good idea to help you feel better too. You?ll never know if you don?t try it.

I also agree with persocomblues in respect to the lack of response to this thread. If it?s not helping you in any way then like persocomblues said why did you start it? You don?t have to answer, but I am curious.

As for the actual question in your initial post about ?Who here likes Alcohol?? My answer is I do not. I?ve lost a family member because someone was driving drunk. Do you really want to come back to reality and find out that you killed someone? I?m not saying that you do drive after drinking, but it?s something you might want to think about the next time you want to escape from reality using Alcohol.[/COLOR]

[Satoru]

Fact: Alcohol = Depresant (No matter how fun it is when your at a party..)
I'm sure there's more than one male in your world.
We're young, you're young, there's alot more to come.

He dumped you, so try to think; "Meh..^_^ nothing THAT sepecial" Yt'know?
But I've been told girls think differently when it comes to things like this.

[Transtic Nerve]

[quote name='persocomblues']With all due respect I'm curious to know whether or not you've read the countless responses from forum members on here to your initial post. Again while the intention of your post might not have been for forum members to "judge" you or your way of life, I think the advice thus far has been pretty solid.[/quote]

That and what I said had a strong satirical meaning behind it.

[DeadSeraphim]

[size=1][color=indigo][font=arial]"There's nothing like a depressant to cure depression!" Lenny, The Simpsons[/font][/color][/size]

[Saya]

[quote name='Transtic Nerve']That and what I said had a strong satirical meaning behind it.[/quote]Yours might have been, I was actually trying to be as truthful and as direct as possible... I think the intention of my post was clear as day, insulting or not, you know... I'm a helpful sort of person like that. Not a lot of people tend to see it though. :)

[quote name='DeadSeraphim']"There's nothing like a depressant to cure depression!" Lenny, The Simpsons[/quote]Erm, I'm glad I said "thus far" earlier. ;)

Since bumping isn't allowed, I'll have to do this since I certainly don't want it to be overlooked:*[quote name='SunfallIE']I also agree with persocomblues in respect to the lack of response to this thread. If it?s not helping you in any way then like persocomblues said why did you start it? You don?t have to answer, but I am curious.[/quote]* There you go, Transtic, I aim to please.