I LOVE YOU, Right?

[fire_fly52]

The reason for this post is to get your oppion on saying i love you. I mean are they just words or when you say them do you all feel them. And how do you know when to say them. Love is such a tricky feeling and so scary i mean you do not know if they well say them back. so with going tough many relationships do you still mean them.

My oppion is If you say those words you sould feel them and mean them. It is not nice to play with someones emotions. I think though in society they have lost there meaning, but not to all people. I have had 3 boyfriends and i have lived by that. The boyfriend i have now I love, i know this becuse I can feel it. and he says he has the same feelings (as i love my family) All other people that are around i care about. So to answer my question is those words mean so much and sould not be taken lightly. words are nothing with out meaning. Shi no Tenshi is right there are diffrent kinds of love.

[renayiiq]

I think that love is mostly an illusion. The words don't really have much of a meaning to me anymore. When people say it to me, I shrug it off mostly.
My friends know, and everyone around me knows, that when I say, "I love you," it means, "I care about you." When I tell someone "I love you," I make sure that they know that I don't really LOVE them, but it's a less tacky way of saying, "I care about you."

[Guest Madd]

Well i beleive that u should feel them when u say them. but like im more like renayiiq
about actually saying that, but im a guy that really doesnt get very many girls that are attracted to me so like o like never have the chance to like feel that way.

[Retribution]

[size=1]I don't really understand all this talk about how the world "love" doesn't mean anything anymore, and it's all thanks to big, bad society.

If the word doesn't mean anything to you anymore, it's because of you and your views on love. I don't really think society plays much of a role in taking away the meaning of words (well, maybe 1984). Many people say "I love you" when they don't really love the person, but is there anything wrong with that? I don't really think so. It's something nice to say to someone else, and now everyone's complaining about it. It's much better than hearing "I hate you" all the time.[/size]

[Shi no Tenshi]

I say it all the time, and I mean it everytime I say it. And why the hell not? I tell my family I love them, my friends and my boyfriend. Love has more than one meaning ranging from sexual love to motherly love.

With my boyfriend it tends to be a series of actions and phrases we have that basically mean we love each other (like in the film 'Ghost' when the guy says 'Ditto').

Speaking of love, I better go express my love for snack crackers.

[Starwind]

I think one should only say "Love" if they mean it. It's not something to he taken lightly, but as previously stated there are many different kinds of love. What people need to do is to discern the different kinds of love there are. To often does one confuse the kind of love one feels for there friends and the one that is shared between an intimate couple. This can lead to problems in the relationship, or even to something drastic(I don't feel I have to say it. If you think on it, you'll know what I'm getting at)

Anyway, This is the problem I think is setting off all these "Society" banners. I think it has less to do with the lose of love and more to do with the confusion on what kind of love you might share with a person. It's hard to tell sometimes I'll admit and youd on't want to jump the gun. Sometimes when you think it's a romantic love you can find that it's more of a friendly love, which only makes things seem akward later. Or what you think is friendly is romantic, which can also create a lot of tention.

[Onazuma]

I might just be a random guy but i say: Does he KNOW you love him? If no, hold back until he admits he loves you... Im just a radom bystander... You don't HAVE to take my advice... You can dump it somewhere on, like, a nerd or something... It's not like i have feelings :animedepr ... Ok... Im going WAAAAY off topic, but still, take my word for it

[IceRose]

I repulse people who say those words and don't mean them. If a person doesn't feel them why use them, unless they are used on family members or really close friends. I mean if the words don't have the emotion to back them up they are hurtful and scornful words and cause disasters.

[Goodbye, Face]

[font=trebuchet ms]I never say "I love you" unless I really mean it, or if they say it first. Me and one of my friends made a vow to not say we love eachother ever again unless we fell back in love, lol. It got us into some trouble last year.

As far as the word "love" losing its effect, I can't say that's entirely true. For me being loved is pretty much the highest honor I can recieve, some people in this very thread know this by now, heh.

And if knowing whether a random "I love you" is true is a problem, you need to know these people better before you even think about love. :-/[/font]

[sakurasuka]

[SIZE=1]I've said 'I love you' to someone when I didn't mean it. It wasn't intentional. I was caught up in the moment, he had told me that he loved me, and I just said it. We were [and still are] best friends. Saying those three little words almost obliterated our entire relationship. I'd promised myself not to get involved with him like that. We dated a little while, even though I didn't know what I really felt for him. I sort of un-intentionally led him on. I know he'll see this, so I'd just like to apologize.

Once I realized that I did love him--but as my best friend, not lover--I broke his heart. Three little words can be the most desrtuctive things there are.

The only other non-family members I've told that I love them are my boyfriend [because I really do love him with all of my heart], and my best friend Amanda. But I love her, too. Not in a romantic way, of course, but she's basically the greatest thing since sliced bread. Everyone loves her =][/SIZE]

[ozmos]

I am one of those persons who REALLY have a hard time telling somebody I love you. First of I need to get in the mood (which isn't all that easy) and then I have to muster up the courage to actually say it...

Anyway if somebody were to tell me that they loved me and I felt the same for them then it most likely would be a bit easier however if I didn't feel the same way (of course?) I wouldn't say it however to prevent hurting anybody (even tough I'd say thats colse to impossible in this situation) I would most likely start rambeling all sorts of stuff trying to make it as painless as possible.

I hope this was what I was supposed to be writing here, I didn't read the earlier postes all too well...eeeh.. sorry 'bout that ^_^

[WindFox17]

I have a hard time saying those words because thouse words are very sacred to me. But that is me but I rarely say it to my family and they know how I am....(kinda) But I don't say those words unless I REALLY mean it.

[Billie_Forever]

I say "I love you" to people sometimes...but they know that i dont mean..."love" in [I]that[/I] way (as in a way a girl would love her boyfriend) but it means i really care for them....

When i say it to some friends it means that i would do anything to help them or make them feel better...and when i say it to other friends it means i love you like family...as a brohter or sister...

I think Ive only ever said i "loved" someone in a more serious way once...and ii almost died when they told me they didnt like as more than a good friend.. my heart broke into lots of little pieces and i haven't bothered to repair them after that...so i haven't be able to love that way since...

I may only be young...but...im not one to get confused easily about this issue..i know what i mean and what i feel....

But as for the efect of those words "I love you" being said...Ive had them said to me before and I've told the guys who have said it i was sorry but i just couldnt think of them like that...they were like family..and it was only after it happened to me that i realised how much it hurt...and i had to find them and apologise fully...Anyhoo..i think that it is rather silly saying that you love someone straight off the bat (as many of my friends do about their new bf's and gf's) as i think that the people who it is being said to may actually feel that way and when it all ends...it would be like a big lie....

Hehe...i dont remember what this topic was about now..Oh yeah..I think those words CAN mean alot..but only when they are used in a certain way and if you know that you really feel it...

[Linkk]

Well, I think it's unfortunate that some people say " I love you" and it means nothing. They say it to say it. There's all kinds of love. Loving your family, love your friends, love your pets, love your fav band. But personally when I say I love you to someone or to the person I love ( weather it be family,a friend, love of your life, my cats...) I truly do mean it. I don't just say it to say it. But since there are all kinds of love saying I love you can be misleading at times. They are just words but feelings and emotions and other factors are involved when you love someone it's more than simply saying " I love you" That's how I feel anyways. Love is another word to say how you feel. It can be expressed in more than one way and word. That's what I think.

[2010DigitalBoy]

I am freaking scared out of my mind of those three words. As soon as I here them my mind is juggling "Do they mean it?" "Are they just being funny? Sarcastic?" "Should I love them too?" And before I know it theres a snowball effect. First I hear it, then I can't get it out of my mind, and before I know it, I realise that all I've been thinking about is that person who said those words to me, and I had love meant someone who your always thinking about, who is all you care about, who is constant on your mind, and next thing I know, Im in love with them, too.

It has never ended well. And so I have become terrified of those three words, when I hear them I just have to dismiss them and forget about them. If I fall in love with someone of my own bidding, then I can share those words.

[Guest kuroinuyoukai]

For me I don't want someone to say I love you to me unless they mean it. I don't want to get hurt and I don't like to be lied to. I would rather know that they just care but say they love me if they really do.

[Sage Kaley]

Honestly? I find myself saying it often. It has a deep meaning for me though. I love my friends very much and enjoy telling them this. I'm sure I have said it without meaning it but not to a person, I hope. Maybe I'll say something like "I love oranges" but it's different obviously. ^^

I don't tell all my friends that I love them, even if I do. I think it would make some of them uncomfortable...but it's a general feeling I have for my closer friends.

I don't think love ever loses it's effect, unless you've made it do so in your own mind. It hasn't lost anything to me, I still feel very happy to hear it from a friend or family member.

[dot]

[QUOTE]I've said 'I love you' to someone when I didn't mean it. It wasn't intentional. I was caught up in the moment, he had told me that he loved me, and I just said it.[/QUOTE]

I've done that too.. i wasn't thinking. It was like i didn't want to disappoint him, but i didn't feel the same way until i realised i said it. I couldn't take it back because then it'll hurt him. I'm a person who doesn't want to hurt anybody.

[QUOTE]I am freaking scared out of my mind of those three words. As soon as I here them my mind is juggling "Do they mean it?" "Are they just being funny? Sarcastic?" "Should I love them too?" [/QUOTE]

I remember that feeling, now I believe that if somebody says 'I love you' just don't take it to seriously. If you are unsure, ask them. Don't be afaid. It's better to get things right then wrong.

People take these words for granted that's why it has lost its meaning for some people.

[Zenriek]

Finally, something I've been wanting to get off of my chest.

It's great when you can say it to your friends, as a friend kind of love. And it's always fun to joke too.

But then there's the serious kind of relationship love. That is something I don't like being messed around with, because then it gets all messed up, people get mad and leave, and you're left wondering what just happened.

I've been told I was loved before. Really, by a potential boyfriend. I turned him down though. I didn't like him that way, but he still (after a year) insists. I'm tiring of it. Yes, I know that sounds horrible, but if you were in on some of the things that has been said, you would too.

All I'm saying is. Be sure of it. Don't rush to say it, because it's serious. What if you say it, but realize later you were wrong?

And, after that complete load of crap... I'm leaving well enough alone. :animesigh

[Kanariya]

[size=1][font=georgia]Nice topic.

When I say 'I love you', I usually don't mean it. If I say 'I love you' to one of my 'friends', it's usually sarcasm, because my 'friends' and I have a friendly-hate relationship. One in particular gets pissed at me just because I have different views, which is utter bull to me. Minus one person, who's actually a friend, whom I talk to on the phone everyday, and share lots of things with, when I say I love you to her it's to mean I really care for her and that I am thankful and glad she's there.

But as for serious relationship, I don't use the term. I don't know what love is (the kind of love you feel for a special someone, I know, I love the romance), and I don't believe I'll reach that point as for really 'loving' someone until I can understand it better. Crushes are different from love to me.[/size][/font]