My Tiny Problem...

[Ai.sAkUrA.chan]

[COLOR=Blue][FONT=Franklin Gothic Medium]i hope this doesn't sound like the one below this thread!!
Well okay, i have been friends with michelle (frend ^^) ever since 3rd grade.
We're practically like sisters. One day she came to me and confessed her love for my best guy friend. I was really excited and decided to encourage her to tell him.
At first she was all shy and whatever, but then, she agreed to it. Comes Tuesday after school, i heard she already told him. so i look for her, to see how it went, and i found her crying in a restroom stall. I asked her what was wrong. all she did was yell at me, telling me i was the worst friend there could ever be. I felt hurt, and wondered what made her say this. I asked but she SLAPPED me,(it still hurts!).
I couldn't bring myself to ask her again and "ran" away. I didn't know why. Well, anyways, i had to go on the bus that day, when I saw my best guy friend, Bobby.
I felt furious at him, i thought he was the cause of michelle crying. and he was.
I asked him about the whole confession thing and he said, i don't like michelle..i like you. Right there i was so puzzled!!! I had no idea what to do, get mad at him, or what.
He had been my best guy friend since 5th grade!! I've been avoiding him ever since then. About michelle, i told her I knew why she was crying. She's been giving me the cold shoulder,and is telling my other friends to do the same,but they won't. What do i do??? If i do this, it'll mess up my friendship with my sister-like friend. If i do that, i won't ever be friends with bobby. PLease, i need help, i have never been in this position before!!!Plus, my other friends can't help...[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Panache]

Hmm well thats quite a pradicament. Kinda reminds me of some anime storys Ive seen. Starting off its not your falt so don't think it is. Michelle will come back to you eventually. Me being on the other side of the spectrum having a girl I like, like my freind I have expirience. Sure I was mad for a while at my buddy but eventually we were friends again. Shes in pain and she just needs to recover. The guy on the other hand is more complicated. You see you may want to stay away from him when your around her or her wound will be reopened. Also you can ask the guy what he likes about you and if they are qualities michelle has, tell him. Then maybe he will develop a crush on her instead of you. Thats it good luck! :catgirl:

[jigglyness]

I personally think that your friend was over reacting a little. She shouldn't have hit you for something that wasn't your fault. and trying to get your other friends to give you the cold shoulder was WAY overboard. But don't think that it's your fault. It isnt. Like avenged666fold said, just give it some time for her to recover. Although if I were you, I would be expecting an apology from her. Besides how can it be your fault when you were the one to encourage her to admit her feelings? Just wait it out and if she still gives you the cold shoulder still, then I wouldn't think she was a true friend. I wouldn't let something like that ruin a sisterly friendship like yours.

[Ai.sAkUrA.chan]

[quote name='jigglyness']I personally think that your friend was over reacting a little. She shouldn't have hit you for something that wasn't your fault. and trying to get your other friends to give you the cold shoulder was WAY overboard. But don't think that it's your fault. It isnt. Like avenged666fold said, just give it some time for her to recover. Although if I were you, I would be expecting an apology from her. Besides how can it be your fault when you were the one to encourage her to admit her feelings? Just wait it out and if she still gives you the cold shoulder still, then I wouldn't think she was a true friend. I wouldn't let something like that ruin a sisterly friendship like yours.[/quote]


i also thought she was overreacting, but somehow, she's just like that.
I'm kinda used to it, sort of. At first i was blaming it on myself, saying i was a trator (spelling?) but then i came to my senses and realized that it wasn't exzactly my fault.

[IceRose]

She shouldn't be mad at you, you did what any friend would do in that case which is encourage the friend to admit her feelings for the guy. She should be mad at the guy, well not really. My friend Catherine pretty much dragged me to tell the guy I liked that I liked him, well it didn't work out since he didn't like me back but I wasn't mad at Catherine for that, I mean how can the friends know how the guy feels??? Don't blame yourself, is not your fault that he didn't like her, its not your fault he liked you and pretty much you should feel guiltless. Besides, if she is going to begin acting like that for a simple thing such as a crush telling her that he doesn't like her, how is she going to react to real problems in life.

[Harry]

[quote name='IceRose']She shouldn't be mad at you, you did what any friend would do in that case which is encourage the friend to admit her feelings for the guy. She should be mad at the guy, well not really. My friend Catherine pretty much dragged me to tell the guy I liked that I liked him, well it didn't work out since he didn't like me back but I wasn't mad at Catherine for that, I mean how can the friends know how the guy feels??? Don't blame yourself, is not your fault that he didn't like her, its not your fault he liked you and pretty much you should feel guiltless. Besides, if she is going to begin acting like that for a simple thing such as a crush telling her that he doesn't like her, how is she going to react to real problems in life.[/quote]
A real friend would actually test the waters. The OP should've asked the guy friend if he liked her. Of course not just coming out with it, but being subtle.

But really the girl will get over it, and the guy will always have a crush on you so don't expect to ever talk to him again.

[hey_love]

[size=1]I see you've been caught in a love triangle.

Well, basically your friend was harsh for slapping you, overreacticing, so on and so forth.

As for this guy friend of yours, don't avoid him. It may be awkward, but you don't want him lingering on hoping that you might like him, but you're running away because you don't want to tell him type of thing. Be straight forward, saying something along the lines of "I don't like you", "You've been my best friend for so and so years", this and that, how you support the friendship you have right now and you haven't come to like him more than a friend. Apologize and hope to continue on as a friend. It may be much to ask from him, but if he truly is your friend, he should understand.

And if your girl friend is your friend, she should understand that you were supporting her all along.

But she'll eventually find out that he liked you all along, and that may lead to more problems, as well.

Good luck. [/size]

[The13thMan]

My thoughts: You need to ask yourself if you like your guy friend in the way he likes you. If yes, and this is assuming you don't have a bf, you should go out with him. Though, just because you do like him, doesn't mean you should. I guess what i'm trying to say is, ask yourself, do you want to go out with him? If yes, then go for it, if no, then don't. Either way, your friends will still be your friends, he/she/they just need some time. Also, if you do like the guy, don't go jumping on him so fast, wait for your friend to calm down first, and ask her if she's cool with it. If you're not interested in the guy, then let him down gently, just tell him you're not ready for something like that, and you just wanna be friends. Anyways, i wish you luck.

[Guest D. Resurrected]

heres what I think if your friend is going to not be friends with you over somthing you could not help then[sorry if im rude]she is very imature and does not deserve to be your friend.friends dont do that with ech other.also ask bobby out some time youll be suprised how good friends can be partners :animesmil