What do you think of the opposite sex?...

[Guest Heero yuy]

A question that's been asked for years, and numerous times over and over. But it seems like things get a little "general" when people answere.

What do you think when you see someone attractive?
And when you know someone, you realize that attraction of personality...what do you think?

[Boba Fett]

[quote name='Heero yuy']What do you think when you see someone attractive?[/quote]

[color=black][size=3][FONT=traybuchet ms]I'd hit that.[/font][/size][/color]

[quote name='heero yuy']And when you know someone, you realize that attraction of personality...what do you think?[/quote]

[color=black][size=3][FONT=traybuchet ms]I usually avoid forming relationships based solely on personality. I might befriend the person, but nothing beyond that.[/font][/size][/color]

[Shinmaru]

I avoid girls because they all have cooties.

[Swordsaint]

Nothing against Boba, But I think it's pretty sad when guys avoid forming relatioships based on personality. Don't get me wrong, looks do play a part, but like mr. Rodney Carington says:

"I'd rather be with a big woman who had a sense of humor than a B*$#$ that looked good."

Not the exact quote, but you get the point, now to actually answer the origional question:

If I see someone attractive, yes I do take notice that they look good/ dang sexy. I can't help it I'm human. However, I wouldn't immeadiately say that "I'd hit that". for a number of reasons.

1) I was brought up to have a healthy respect for woman, and wanting to hump a girl just cause she looks good ain't even close to being respectful. Granted, if both parties understood that it was going to be a one night stand/ relationship based on having relations, I can't say that it's wrong because both people know exactly what they're getting.
2) I already have a girlfriend with good looks, and a personality that makes her good looks glow golden! (She like anime and video games, nuff said)

3) Because of witnessing certain actions my father took, my beliefs regarding this have been reinforced further.

I hope that answered your question at least a little bit. if nothing else ye got a peek in my mind.

[NightmareVC]

When I see a girl that looks good, I think that I want to get to know her more. See if she is into some of the things I am. I would like to talk to her and all that stuff, like bonding. Although, most times, I've never gone up to accually talk to them. So that's that.

When I find that I like the personality of a girl instead of looks, I check to see if the personality out weighs the looks. I try to find out if I can live with the looks for the sake of personality. In most cases, the answer is no. Though that's beside the point.

If you would like me to go further into it, just ask some questions you'd like to know. I'll do my best to answer while still remaining comfortable.

[2010DigitalBoy]

Complicated, Most Complicated.

Being as how I grew up with two brothers and until like a year ago was uber-terrified of girls, I have a hard time with them. I now tend to make easier friends with girls, cuz I'm more... on their plane of existence then I am with guys. Habitually, I am constantly complementary of a girl's every feature (which I'm sure I get from my dad since he's like that with my mom, but I'm like that to all my friends).

As of yet I haven't been around this area long enough to make any real good friends with girld (in the place I last lived there was a... certain circumstance of prevention).

Yes, I think girls with hot bodies are hot. My cridentials for what makes a girl hot are very low, which I guess makes me a perv >_<. Also, I'm a fanboy, and all anime chicks are hot.

Currently, there is a girl who I am in love with (not a girlfriend mind you) who is extremely hot and cute and beautiful all at once, and I constantly remind her of that. She is also a great cosplayer and is in my sig and avvi.

[The_Mix_Breed]

I bend both ways so it's alot harder to fall for someone good looking only. Do you know how many possiable candidates would be avaliable for me? Yes, I think alot of people are good looking, some of em are really good looking, but that's like the first impression thing. "You never get a second chance at a first impression". Your first impression is seeing the person. It's the beauty on the inside that I look at. I try to make everyone my friend. Some in up staying my friend, some I end up dating, other's I never speak to agian. The thing is I don't leave anyone out at first. I have tons of people I don't like, I just got to know them first before decideding that. That's how I pick who's attractive in the oppisite/same sex. Inner not outer looks! :animesmil

[lea]

[quote name='Shinmaru']I avoid girls because they all have cooties.[/quote]

That's cause they got them from the yucky boys. Cootiefull things, boys are

I dont believe I think anything all too different when I see a guy. My mom didn't believe in playdates, and so I wasnt really exposed to other girls till I was tossed into kindergarten. By that time the only play mates I ever had were my two boy cousins and my younger brother.

So yeah. A boy's a boy. Just have to be carefull 'bout catchin' them cootie buggers off 'em. ^_~

[Guest wanderer87]

well lets see girls ima guy which means looks count but i know im no beauty so i dont have any real standards but if she can listen to me complain awesome if she is beautiful i dont deserve such good luck and if i get week knees please marry me but umm... yea i always listen to my gut and i cant say i have been lead astray but i have good taste or atleast i think so and with this one piece of advice my old man gave me i'm pretty sure i wont be lead to far of my path dont lie to women its not worth the heck u just put urself in so smile!!!! :D :D

[Anakoni Stark]

[COLOR=Red] If she's hot, but acts like a prep: aquant myself. and leave it that way.

If she's hot, but is approachable: aquant myself, be nice, and become her friend.
^ if she likes me back: good for me. *sigh* -_____-
^if I dont like her: Sorry, I'll only go as far as being friends.


yup that's how i think.

thank you for your time.

Leon[/COLOR]

[Fasteriskhead]

[quote name='Heero yuy']A question that's been asked for years, and numerous times over and over. But it seems like things get a little "general" when people answere. [/quote]Generality is implied in the question, though. It asks how we react to other human beings whom we encounter who fall into a certain category (never mind for now how the category of sexuality is determined). Even under the best of circumstances, you're asking us to make a nongeneral statement about [i]half the people on the planet[/i]. I have trouble speaking in a specific way about just ONE person, let alone three billion.

As for the "seeing someone attractive" question (which is obviously very different from the one in the topic), I've talked at very great length about this elsewhere - see my articles on Saikano and Kasimasi. And I [I]still[/I] don't think I've hit on anything really fundamental yet. Well, I can make a few general comments, maybe. First, what I do or don't do after seeing someone hot (try to get a conversation started, whatever) is less important, at least initially, than WHY I find them hot in the first place (and also how that sensation is experienced - but I can't go there here). Second, the answer to this "why" does NOT necessarily involve any particular aspect of the given hottie - we are attracted to PEOPLE, not check marks on a list of physical and mental qualities.

I know I'm probably breaking the "be specific" rule, but I don't dare to throw off a haphazard answer to a question like this. I don't know what "being attracted" means yet.. or to be more specific, I DO know, but only in a completely tangled up and groundless way. Considering just how deeply our society is drenched in love, attraction, sexuality, dating culture &c., it constantly surprises me just how little of that stuff is understood explicitly. And all of this while we never think about the vague (but deeply-held) sense that it all got completely explained, solved, and brought out into the open back in the '60s or so, and that anyone who's been through middle school sex ed, read Romeo and Juliet, and can tell you what a "phallic symbol" is knows everything needed to know.

[Ka-San]

I try to keep an open mind when it comes to guys. I'm 17, and have yet to either kiss a guy, let alone go out with one. There''s a reaosn for that; I would rather be mature enough to handle a relationship with a man that I would want to be long-lasting.

I try not to assume all guys are cheating bastards too. I know there are good guys out there, it just takes a while to find them. So if I do get into a relationship, I want it to be long lasting, I don't want to have to go through twenty relationships to find "the one."

[sakurasuka]

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What do I think of the opposite sex? Well, they're humans. Like me.

There is only one outstanding difference I can think of at the moment.

Boys have a penis. Girls don't.

... Well, someone was bound to say it eventually.

But I'm sure that's not what you're looking for. So what is it? What do I find attractive about them? What confuses me about them? What's my general view of them? What?

As Fasteriskhead previously stated, that's a very general question.

[quote name='Ka-San']So if I do get into a relationship, I want it to be long lasting, I don't want to have to go through twenty relationships to find "the one."[/quote]

I'd much rather date, love, lose, hang out, and live life to it's fullest while it lasts.

You only get to live once. If you spend all your time being fixated on 'The One', then you just might never meet him/her, and you'll miss a bunch of oppourtunities. If you never take chances with guys, 'The One' might just pass you by.
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[Ka-San]

[QUOTE=sakurasuka][size=1]
I'd much rather date, love, lose, hang out, and live life to it's fullest while it lasts.

You only get to live once. If you spend all your time being fixated on 'The One', then you just might never meet him/her, and you'll miss a bunch of oppourtunities. If you never take chances with guys, 'The One' might just pass you by.
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I do get what you're saying. I don't know, the "Sex-In-The-City" lifestyle never really seemed all that fun to me. I mean, I might have my random relationships here and there, but I've never been a person to jump into a relationship too. I've seen many a breakup due to the person not knowing their current crush, therefore, I'd like to get to know the person too before I jump into a romantic relationship.

And also, I follow the rule of waiting until I'm married, so he's gotta understand that too. Which will make it all more harder I think in even finding one.

[Albert Flasher]

[COLOR=Sienna]Me and women have... nothing in common. Now, don't get me wrong - I love the ladies. They rev my engine, y'know what I mean? I just don't have anything in common with them. I have no interest in them in terms of relationships. I mean, when your girl friend says something stupid, you can't call her a retard or wrestle her to the ground - what's the fun in having girl friends if you can't spontanuously break into a fist fight? Honestly! I don't get this whole 'love' thing, it's a very alien concept to me.

So, in short, I don't really have an interest in women... they're like, a completely different species that I'm not interested in at all. I personally find the slutification of women offensive.[/COLOR]

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[quote name='Shinmaru']I avoid girls because they all have cooties.[/quote]

[color=#9933ff][font=lucida calligraphy]Well boys are dumb, throw rocks at them.

That said when I see someone of the opposite sex who I find attractive I secretly hope that 1.) They're single 2.) They like kids 3.) They aren't stuck up and 4.) They have more than just their looks going for them. Because like I say beauty is temporary but mind numbingly dull is forever.


As for attraction of personality. Whoopie! Finally someone who is just as crazy as I am... just not in a certifiable padded wall kind of way I hope.

And what do I think about the opposite sex? You can't live with them, and they don't like it when you throw your cell phone at their head.[/color][/font]

[[Sound_Nin]]

[FONT=Times New Roman]Original question:
Well, ummm... my pessimism usually gets the best of me, so when I see a hot girl or something I think "Oh she wouldn't like me anyway" and that's the end of that. Relationships for me are never sexually-based, I just like knowing that I'm loved which (here comes the pity trip) I have never known.
Oh and the cooties. I don't want to get cooties. Girls are cootie-infested stupid-heads.[/FONT]

[Ol' Fighter]

I see the opposite sex as humans who have emotions just like everyone else and when I see a hot looking babe I will casually walk up to her and politly ask her name and from there I'll try to find out more about her y'know like were she's from and everything but usually they are the ones who walk up to me and unfortunatly I happen to be a too kind hearted and I find myself giving my number to every girl in town, but my best friends a babe(I affectionately call her babe)and she happens to have a really nice personality so speaking personality wise if a girl has a nice personality I cosider her hot...but sadly to say looks do matter to me a little :animeswea

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[quote name='Lonley Fighter']I.but sadly to say looks do matter to me a little :animeswea[/quote]

[color=#9933ff][font=lucida calligraphy]I think that's the case with everyone.We need a bit of physical attraction with the person who we are attracted to and would like to have a relationship with or else all everyone would be is friends.

So you don't have to feel as though you're a shallow person just because looks matter a little to you. Because no one wants to be with someone who either doesn't take care of themself or it would take a lot of alcohol to be in the mood to do more than give the person a quick hug.

Of course if looks are the only thing that matter to you then you have a big problem.[/color][/font]

[wolf Toboe]

[QUOTE=GoldScorpion78][FONT=Times New Roman]Original question:
Well, ummm... my pessimism usually gets the best of me, so when I see a hot girl or something I think "Oh she wouldn't like me anyway" and that's the end of that. Relationships for me are never sexually-based, I just like knowing that I'm loved which (here comes the pity trip) I have never known.
Oh and the cooties. I don't want to get cooties. Girls are cootie-infested stupid-heads.[/FONT][/QUOTE]
Girls are NOT cootie-infested stupid heads! I do agree with the rest of what you said though, except it would be a hot guy. I've never known love from anyone other than my family before.

[kalon]

I think both sexes have their faults on a general level. Under no circumstances would I want to be a guy. As ChibiHorsewoman said:[quote name='ChibiHorsewoman][color=#9933ff][font=lucida calligraphy]Well boys are dumb, throw rocks at them.[/color'][/font][/quote] Just kidding. Most guys are okay, but they can be hard to understand sometimes. I think on very general level, men are taught that they are better than women and see themselves as such. It's common in American culture for women to objectified and men encouraged for women to be this way. Which is wrong and misguided.

If I can comment on my own gender, though, I dislike most things associated with girls. I hate make-up, high heels are absurd devices of torture that ruin your feet, and I see no reason to have 20 pairs of shoes. I really hate when girls wear short shorts that say "Porn Star" and shirts that are small enough for a two-year-old and then complain about guys looking at them like pieces of meat. You cannot have it both ways.

EDIT: For the original question, if a guy is hot, then he's hot. I could care less about the outside. All I need from a guy is a good personality, a love of Nintendo and gaming in general, and for him to be as nerdy as I am. Any guy with good programming skills is hot to me. If I find someone attractive in terms of personality, I just let things flow naturally.

[The13thMan]

[FONT=Century Gothic] [COLOR=DarkOrange]The opposite sex is awesome. If i could choose between having a friend that's a guy or a girl then i'd choose a girl. Of course...that's only saying if the "friend" had the same general personality minus a couple of gender things. On the whole i'm more compatible with a guy as far as a friend would go. Haha, i don't know what i'm talking about.

Bottom line: girls are good, especially hot ones.

Bahahahaha. ^L^

Later.

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[[Sound_Nin]]

[quote name='wolf Toboe']Girls are NOT cootie-infested stupid heads! I do agree with the rest of what you said though, except it would be a hot guy. I've never known love from anyone other than my family before.[/quote]

Hey, wow me too. Unless someone wants something from me, then they [I]pretend[/I] to be interested.

So... what's up? -wink wink- Just kidding. (Maybe...) ;)


Yes they are cootie-infested stupid-heads! :p

[quote name='The13thMan']Bottom line: girls are good, especially hot ones.[/quote]

I totally agree.

[QUOTE=Chibihorsewoman]And what do I think about the opposite sex? You can't live with them, and they don't like it when you throw your cell phone at their head.
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I don't have a cellphone. Or any phone for the matter...
If a girl throws something at a guy, it's because he deserved it. If a guy throws something at a girl, it's abuse. See the hypocrisy in that?

[Magus]

[quote name='Shinmaru']I avoid girls because they all have cooties.[/quote]
LOL..... This have made my day. I haven't heard nor seen the word cooties in a long time.

In any case. My opinion about the opposite sex. Meh, it's no different than my opinion about the same sex. I'm the type that is about equality so... "shrugs" However I do have more respect for women than men these days simply because of the past few months, from what I've been witnessing (news, environment, internet) lately, the egos. Bah, the ego's are crazy coming from guys. I can with a women that's stuck up better than a male that's full of himself.

As far as attraction between me and women..... "shrugs" I haven't been looking because I'm pretty much just trying to get a few months of privacy. (I rarely get any at all so....) But whenever I do look for a girl and whatnot, I want the total package. (brains and looks... although, most of those are your stuck up females) Well, that's what I want, (what guy doesn't) but in all honesty, I'll settle for an average women with a brain.

I had more I wanted to say, but I can't think right now.

[jigglyness]

Well, since I was raised alot differently than most of my friends, I tend to expect alot out of people, male and female. But since this is about the opposite sex, I guess I'll have to talk about guys. I live in a city where there aren't very many "hot" or "handsome" men around, so looks don't matter all that much to me. I personally think [most] guys are way too superficial these days, especially with the increase of these 'stick-like' girls nowadays. And being the high school kids we are, [in my school] they all tend to think that being 'wangsta' will get them ladies. I find that really pathetic. I also think that the girls at my school are quite pathetic too to think that acting stupid is attractive.

Maybe it's just my school. It's probably lead my to not even thinking about the opposite sex at all.

anwyays. I think that personality is probably the most important thing in a relationship whether it be hetero's or homo's. Personality and compatibility is most important. Just think of the looks as a bonus if they are somewhat attractive. I mean think about it. If you had a sexyhott BF/GF without personality, wouldn't more people try to hit on them and have a chance to take them away?

but personally I'm really against middle school/high school relationships. It's pretty rare to see high school sweethearts stay together for a long time. It's pretty much useless cause once you get into college, you meet new people and there's always that chance where you would meet someone even better for yourself. And did I mention it also affects school work alot. Don't deny it. And besides, you truely don't find your true self until you start becoming an adult. I might be thinking this a little too far but that's just how I am. I'm not gonna waste my time with useless stuff like that.