What to Do?

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[SIZE=1][FONT=Arial]Okay. :animesigh

I've wrestled for two years. Wrestling has been the only sport that I have participated in competition wise. And in those two years, I've received the following injuries:

Torn ACL and Meniscus in my left knee countless cracked ribs on my left side.

And that's all my first year. Some may not think that's much.
But try telling that to my Mother.-.-"

My second year injuries include a Left Hip Injury after being slammed onto it 3-4 feet in the air and God knows how many concussions.

I quit because I would've been kicked off the team due to fighting cause of the harassment I was receiving from my so-called "teammates" and the coach was doing nothing about it.Let's just say, it was so innapropriate that it wasnt even freakin' funny.I broke down twice after practice in the girls' locker room from it.I was taking the High Road, which is kinda like the same titled song by Fort Minor.

I didn?t wrestle from January First to February 26. Feb. 26 was Girls' Open State in McPherson,Kansas. I ended up with not finishing the tourney cause I got sent to the ER with possible c6 and clavicle injuries. I come out of it with torn muscles in my left shoulder from the base of my neck to somewhere in my shoulder.

All my injuries have come back clean from MRI's and CT Scans, but they always act up. (?fore I forget, my medical bill limit is like two grand, and I?ve passed it. Both years.) To the point of tears. And I hate to cry. I was literally beating myself up for crying at Girls' State in front of all those people, those little girls who look up to the older wrestlers and my two coaches who were mat side with me, trying to calm me down and were telling me it was okay to cry. Call me weird, but yes, I hate to cry. Only time I?ve cried and not beat myself up for it was when both of my grandparents died.

My mother is now telling me that I cannot wrestle anymore, and that she wants me to have nothing to do with it.

Now the question is, what should I do? I want to follow my mother?s wishes but, I can?t turn my back on wrestling. I may have only done it for two years, unlike others who?ve been wrestling since the age of five, but I still love it just as much as them, despite all the crap I've received from it. Fellow wrestlers will understand when I say that there?s a certain draw about wrestling. The adrenaline rush, just everything about it. Oh yeah, can?t forget the fact that it?s the only sport that encourages you to rub your opponents face into the floor. XD

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[Sojiro47]

I'm a Martial Artist, so I knw where you're coming from! Now, I have had serious injuries from Karate and I got right back up because it just makes us stronger! I don't expect your mom to understand were you come from, but you and both know where she's coming from! So I say this: If you're a casual wrestler, and it's not what you turn to when you're bord or need to vent, let it go! But if you live for wrestling, tel your mom and yourself this, "Pain is just the weakness leavng your body!" Say it to her and yourself over and over, then get up and start training again!

[visualkei]

Sounds like wrestling has made you suffered a lot, and your mother, too. I know you understand why your mother doesn't want you to wrestle. You also wrote most of your post on all the suffering you've had to endure in wrestling. But it also sounds like you don't mind the sacrifices you've made. If you want to keep playing this sport, you should already know what you're risking, and going against your mother. Is it possible to continue the sport without her to back you up mentally and financially?

Like [B]Soijiro47[/B] said, If you're a casual wrestler, just let it go. If you want to wrestle for fun, I think you can find a way to do it without agitating your mom. If it's the andrenaline rush you like, I think there are other sports you can check out. But if you're hardcore living, breathing, and dreaming wrestling, and willing to give up more for it, then do what you gotta do.

[TheResplendent]

I happen to be a very big wrestling fan in addition to being an otaku, profesisonal and ametuer. There is one very big decision you need to make which will end everything if your answer is a certain way. Wrestling is something that needs to be a lifestyle, you need to be extremely passionate about it in order to succeed. Decide whether it's something that your blood has stained already and if you want to continue to dedicate your blood to it. In other words, drive and dedication is the most important factor. If you have that, then nothing should hold you back.

To avoid injuries, learn to train your body in specific ways. Show your mother that your diciplining yourself further in order to prepare your body for the punishment. That's really the only thing you can do about injuries, keep in shape and be diciplined. Know your extents. If your getting injured from armbars and hammerlocks or other common joint locks than you may have a longer way to go but it isn't impossible. The cracked ribs however, if injuries like that happen too commonly than it deserves a lot of attention, especially if it's the same ribs. It's very hard to wrestle even with wrapped ribs, you become very short of breathe easier.

Everything is about what measures you take to avoid and solve the problems. As for your mother though, if it isn't enough for her...the decision has to be yours in the end. It's as i said, wrestling needs your unconditioned dedication.

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[COLOR=DarkRed][SIZE=1][quote name='Sojiro47']I'm a Martial Artist, so I knw where you're coming from! Now, I have had serious injuries from Karate and I got right back up because it just makes us stronger! I don't expect your mom to understand were you come from, but you and both know where she's coming from! So I say this: If you're a casual wrestler, and it's not what you turn to when you're bord or need to vent, let it go! But if you live for wrestling, tel your mom and yourself this, "Pain is just the weakness leavng your body!" Say it to her and yourself over and over, then get up and start training again![/quote]

I understand fully where you?re coming from. I turn to wrestling because it?s something I enjoy, plus it helps me vent, plus it keeps me in shape. (I dropped from size 18 in jeans to size 12. And that?s just in my first year.) I still have the ?wrestler?s diet?, the one in which you eat really healthy. I keep all my habits from wrestling. I still practice for the hell of it because I want to ?keep sharp?.

"Pain is just the weakness leaving your body!" I live by this quote during the wrestling season. I never let any of those guys on the team see me cry during practice. I wasn?t going to let them, no matter what they did. Only time they?ve seen me cry is when I got dropped onto my hip from 3-4 feet in the air and when I was helped off the mat. (My coach carried me cause I couldn?t walk.) You can try telling that to my mother ("Pain is just the weakness leaving your body!") >> and see how far you get thrown and how hard you get smacked.

[QUOTE=visualkei]Sounds like wrestling has made you suffered a lot, and your mother, too. I know you understand why your mother doesn't want you to wrestle. You also wrote most of your post on all the suffering you've had to endure in wrestling. But it also sounds like you don't mind the sacrifices you've made. If you want to keep playing this sport, you should already know what you're risking, and going against your mother. Is it possible to continue the sport without her to back you up mentally and financially?

Like [B]Soijiro47[/B] said, If you're a casual wrestler, just let it go. If you want to wrestle for fun, I think you can find a way to do it without agitating your mom. If it's the andrenaline rush you like, I think there are other sports you can check out. But if you're hardcore living, breathing, and dreaming wrestling, and willing to give up more for it, then do what you gotta do.[/QUOTE]

I don?t mind the sacrifices I?ve made for being in wrestling. I have, strangely enough, enjoyed the injuries I?ve received. Don?t ask me why, I just have. Entering this sport, I, as you said, know what I am risking. I knew that every day in practice. People call me crazy cause I still want to go back to it even though all the **** I?ve been through. I live in a small town , thus I don?t have options for many other sports to play. I love wrestling. It?s not only fun but I like the competition factor. I compete better against males. Yet again, don?t ask me why. And her not to back me up mentally is no problem. No one in my family backed me up both years. My step-father has flat out said he wont support me wrestling guys. I even wrestled in a all girls? tourney (the one I was injured in) and he didn?t go to that. I had parents of wrestlers from my school and others be cheering me on and being supportive. Hell, on Parents? night, my coach stood in my picture since my parents refused to be there. Financially supporting me is the only problem. She wont let me get a job yet. About the only thing I?d have to pay for it my physical with the doctor?s and my sports fee. And that total is about $75, but the insurance pays for my physical, but my mother would force me to pay her the 50. I know it.

And BKstyles, I have trained my body in ways so I don?t get hurt. I,everyday, train on flexibility. I?m still the only one on our team that can put both legs behind their head. Plus I can walk on my hands while doing it. xD
My mother knows I love this sport. She knows I?d give anything to still do it. I even asked her if I could go to more camps and such, because I want to get better. I want a varsity spot. I want to go to state. And the only way these ? Wants? can be turned into ?haves? is when I wrestle more and more, or as I have been told ?live and breathe? wrestling by my coach my freshman year.[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[eleanor]

[color=dimgray] First off I have to say... you're amazing. More power to you that you've gone to such lengths to continue in a sport that you love and that you're ambitious enough to keep on going.

As an outsider I'm not sure where I stand on where you should go with wrestling, and I don't want you to permanently injure yourself in some way. But if you really love the sport and you're willing to go all the way for it, give it your best. Good luck on everything.[/color]

[triblackfire]

On a personal level, I am truly impressed by your persistance in this sport! Even though you suffered quite a bit, you still like wrestling. I am a vollyball player and wanted to do wrestling, but I never did because non of my friends would take it with me (pathetic huh...) Well if wrestling is your true passion, then there is nothing to do but just go for it! I'm cheering you on!!:animesmil