Hardest Break up

[Mythologicly]

I just want to know what was your hardest break up and what made it so hard and hwo did you deal with it.

What brought me to do this thread is obvisly i just go dumped by my 20th to 30th love of my life.

The story meet girl like her only know her for a month ask her out we start being bf and gf. go out for three weeks fall in love for that period of time tells me she wants to have my kids, marry me, and will alway's love me then dumps me.

How do i deal with it i dont know cause getting dumped has become aa regulare in my life. the only thing that makes it hard is I excually belived every word she told me.

[Cicatrice Du Adieu]

For the future; don't trust so easily.

For the past; If she dumped you, she isn't worth your time.

Just keep that in mind and your heart will mend in no time. (or it orks for me.) I don't have much of a love life but lots of my friends turn against me eventually.(don't ask.)

[Sojiro47]

I'm with Lostvoice. If she dumped you, she wasn't worth it. But keep this in mind, you can't just give your heart out. Replay your last relationships and see what went wrong, then learn from it. The greatest knowledge comes from mistakes. It's just how we learn.

[Cicatrice Du Adieu]

Yeah, I learned that when your friend starts a fight with you, con't beat the **** out of her! Don't beat the **** out of her!! And also don't go home and smash whine glasses against the wall. It solves nothing.

[DeadSeraphim]

[FONT=Arial][COLOR=Indigo][SIZE=1][quote name='lostvoice']Yeah, I learned that when your friend starts a fight with you, con't beat the **** out of her! Don't beat the **** out of her!! And also don't go home and smash whine glasses against the wall. It solves nothing.[/quote]
Wow. Issues.

My hardest breakup was with my gf/then-fiancee of a year and a half. In retrospect, it was unavoidable, but it still hurt like hell, not the least because we were engaged. Learned a lot though, so there you go.[/SIZE][/COLOR][/FONT]

[Sojiro47]

Uh...right. I think. Anywho, just try to find out if it was you or her. This time, she dumped you, so what? Try again. But my advice would be to wait a little longer than a month before you ask her out. It's an old-school approch, but get to know her first. I mean [i]really[/i] get to know her. It's not wse to dive into a pool if you don't know how deep it is. Here's another approch. A wise man once said, "If you're never happy alnoe, then you'll never be happy with a woman at your side." So I would try taking a break from the dating scene for a while. Find comfort in solitude, then achieve happiness in company.

[SIZE=1]Whoa! I just had a Buddha moment.[/SIZE]

[Cicatrice Du Adieu]

[QUOTE=DeadSeraphim][FONT=Arial][COLOR=Indigo][SIZE=1]
Wow. Issues.

My hardest breakup was with my gf/then-fiancee of a year and a half. In retrospect, it was unavoidable, but it still hurt like hell, not the least because we were engaged. Learned a lot though, so there you go.[/SIZE][/COLOR][/FONT][/QUOTE]

Yeah, well I am not the most proper girl in the world. I have other issues but my temper is my worst. I failed anger management! That's pathetic! Yet, my theripist didn't do anything but frustrate me more so....... I'm not so sure were i'm going with this. I'm more chilled know, though. The theripist said I might acually be getting better! Oh,well. Ive served my perpose I'll leave now. Sorry for this wasted post.

[Sojiro47]

Well, I think I'll throw my toughest break-up out there. If anyone has seen the Who's Most in Your Life thread I started, you'll know that my best-friend and I dated. This relationship was the thoughest because we didn't want to break-up, but had to for the sakes of our friends. Not cool. It was tough getting over her. In fact, I'm still not over her. But I realize now that I can't have her, and so I'm moving on. But I still love her. No doubt.

[nomad19]

all i can say is that don't trust so easily, three weeks is practically nothing, a relationship is always tested for about a year after that you can start trusting the person completely...the first year is always crucial in a long-term relationship...

i myself had just gone through a break-up about 3 weeks ago, i went out with her for about 2 years, i started to make plans for the furture and stuff....i really loved her, but things got really complicated and we had to break-up, same as sojiro we didnt want to do it but had to, it comes to show that when you love someone i guess you just have to let go...i still get in touch with her, we're still very close...i still love her too.

[Semjaza]

My hardest one was only actually hard because, for whatever reason, the girl was completely infatuated with me. I think she decided we'd get married, have 40 kids and move down to Florida when we're old to die before she even met me.

So basically, when I finally decided that this thing really wasn't going anywhere (and that she was at least partially crazy) I had to end it. What made it hard is that she kind of went totally bonkers and yelled and cried her eyes out and asked the same two questions over and over. After so long all I could do was just hang up the phone and go do something else.

She tried to interject herself into my life in a "girlfriend" way several times from now on. In fact, she bothered a later girlfriend (who she was friends with way back) with ideas that her and I would somehow eventually get back together.

Yeah, right.

So, yeah, more for sheer weirdness than actual pain on my behalf.

[Sara]

[quote name='Mythologicly']What brought me to do this thread is obvisly i just go dumped by my 20th to 30th love of my life.[/quote][color=#b0000b][size=1]I can't help thinking that you have rather low standards for that position.

I broke up with my boyfriend in March, after a year of being in a relationship. It was messy, and frustrating, and difficult for both of us, I think. I was still very much in love with him at the time, but had finally recognised the fact that being in a relationship with him was making me miserable.

If I were to change one thing about what happened, I would have broken up with him several months earlier. It would be nice to be able to remember our relationship as mostly good, instead of half good and half disaster. Either way, though, I learned a lot about him, about myself, and about the way I interact with people.

It wasn't all bad.[/color][/size]

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=#9933ff][font=lucida calligraphy]I have to say that my messiest break up is my divorce.

Oh man where do I begin? I have been left with a bill for a laptop computer over two grand that was pawned a month after he got it without ever paying for it. Emails from his new wife saying that I'm the reason he cheated and now an on-going custody battle. Then there's the case of all the household supplies that my family and friends bought that were either sold or kept and he never split anything with me along with all my pictures (photos of my friends and I dating back to when we were all still in diapers and a painting from my great aunt who died when I was twelve) and a wall hanging that one of my aunts bought me in Venezuala and various other belongings of mine that I left in Texas back in 2003 because I assumed I'd get them back. So yeah, nearly five years of my life were a lie and I'm missing a lot of stuff and I'm in debt.

I really do feel for you all and your break ups because it hurts like hell to be dumped. But then you realize that whatever loser gets them now probably deserves everything they get and really they weren't the one for you since you deserve much better. Or at least that's what your friends will tell you while you all sit around your best friend's apartment eating and insulting your ex's. Maybe you and your friends will even compare stories. Perhaps while you gorge and get drunk.[/color][/font]

[Mythologicly]

I would like you to know that I am taking a break and doing a little me time thats why i work out even more than what I use to. Also I'm going back to boxing and getting my grades up and being a flirt. I've also learned from this in many way's and even though she still tells me she loves me I'm okay and i know shes not worth all this wasted time over.

I would like to thank you for your help and maybe one day we can all share a drink.:beer:

[Guest Phaedrus]

My hardest break-up was with my left hand Suzy. But then, I asked the bed post out, so now my tears are satiated.