Women issues.

[Aberinkula]

I'm currently in a bit of a rut. I don't know the real way to get a girl!! So far I've tried the you look beautiful walk away method. And it got me a thanks. Almost there! Kid-ding. But I'm really being serious. I have this uber crush on this girl. In front of all my friends just her name makes me blush.

My friend says it's true love.

2 Questions. Is it? And could I get some pointers on "how to get the girl"?

Thank you all a lot ahead of time.

[Cicatrice Du Adieu]

My Boyfriend asked me through two of my close freinds. You could try the same. Of corse before that he talked to me as a friend. He asked for my myspace and put me on his top 8 so it left me to beleive something was up. My friends acted as middle men/women throughout the whole thing.

That should help with question 2. Question 1 is above me.

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=#9933ff][font=lucida calligraphy]My advice is that you attempt to tell this girl you're crushing on that you like her. She might be flattered and either admit to liking you too or just be like whatever. Either way you tried. Girls like it when guys crush on us. Okay yeah that's like a no duh statement, but really we like it. We like it even more if it's the guy we like and it turns out he likes us back that way.

And please excuse the disorganization of this post. I'm tired and I need a shower. But hey your thread helped me realize that I should probably post to get some help myself.[/color][/font]

[Guest Imple]

be confident, dont freak out and get clamy palms.

[Aberinkula]

[QUOTE=lostvoice]My Boyfriend asked me through two of my close freinds. You could try the same. Of corse before that he talked to me as a friend. He asked for my myspace and put me on his top 8 so it left me to beleive something was up. My friends acted as middle men/women throughout the whole thing.

That should help with question 2. Question 1 is above me.[/QUOTE]

Her friends think I'm weird. Except bergundie!!! Oohhh thank you thank yopu! All I need is a plan to exacute!

[John]

[img]http://img213.imageshack.us/img213/6522/beartraptw0.jpg[/img]

Couldn't help myself. :D

But seriously, if you're looking for an easy way out of this, you won't find one. If you want to, then just plain ask her out. If she says no, the worst that'll come is just gaining a little more experience in life.

[MissWem]

[QUOTE=John]
Couldn't help myself. :D

But seriously, if you're looking for an easy way out of this, you won't find one. If you want to, then just plain ask her out. If she says no, the worst that'll come is just gaining a little more experience in life.[/QUOTE]

[COLOR=DarkRed][FONT=Arial]Excuse my ignorance, but is that a bear trap?

Though I have to say, there are some pretty interesting answers here. Yet somehow I feel directness and simplicity is the best here. Much like John described except aside from experience you'll also experience a number of things like rejection... and shame.

If you get someone else to ask her out for you then you look cowardly and she'll be confused as to why you didn't do it yourself e.g "doesn't he like me enough to face me?". Just suck it up, go up to her and to not pressure her, don't say "would you like to go out on a date?" try something like, "Would you like to have lunch/watch a movie sometime?" She won't feel pressured and it'll give you two a chance to get to know eachother a little bit before you think about being in love.

PS. When you ask, for the love of all that is sane... please please don't stare at her feet. Nervous guys are cute to a point but there is a limit. [/FONT][/COLOR]

[Ezekiel]

[SIZE=1]Along with what everyone else here is said, I'll give you something to think about:

If you tell her and she says yes, that's fantastic.

If she says no, but is flattered, you could still be in with a chance further down the line. Try and befriend her and get to know her better.

If she says no, throws it back in your face and laughs, it obviously isn't worth it and you should just move on, lest you become her little lost puppy.[/SIZE]

[John]

[quote name='MissWem][color=DarkRed][font=Arial]Excuse my ignorance, but is that a bear trap?[/font'][/color][/quote] That's how they did it in the old days. :d

[Gavin]

[SIZE=1]Interesting, most interesting.[/SIZE]

[quote name='John']But seriously, if you're looking for an easy way out of this, you won't find one. If you want to, then just plain ask her out. If she says no, the worst that'll come is just gaining a little more experience in life.[/quote]

[SIZE=1]That's pretty much the only advice than can be given, you like the girl so just bite the bullet and ask her out, as John said the worst that can go wrong is she'll turn you down. If you don't she'll end up going out with someone else and you could lose you shot altogether.[/SIZE]

[Sara]

[color=#b0000b][size=1]If you can't ask her out, it's probably not true love. ;)[/size][/color]

[Ellerby]

[COLOR=DimGray][FONT=Tahoma]I'll tell you what I do.

Step 1) Walk up to the girl.

Step 2) Say to her "Hey, would you like to see a movie sometime?"

Step 3) ...well that's it, actually.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Roxie Faye]

[color=#9933ff]Well, everyone's pretty much said their bit about asking her out (which I agree with).

I would like to say that it's not true love, though. I mean, I'm not saying that to deflate you or anything, but this isn't like you're going to stay with this girl forever, or marry her. (If you think you are, I suggest you take some time to digest the fact that you won't be.) People change. Your priorities change from age 15 to age 20, and what you thought was important at 20 changes when you get to 30. If you get together, you'll both change eventually and then move on. But that doesn't mean it was a failure, and that's no reason not to enjoy the good times with this girl.

It may not be 'true love,' but that doesn't mean it can't be great. But before ya even get to the "going out" part with this girl, you gotta ask her, of course. Good luck! =)[/color]

[Ol' Fighter]

Like others said before me just straight up ask her out you know, but then again if your doing a bold move like that you should atleast be friends with her if not befriend her, but don't make friends with her just to be able to go out with her in the future befriend her just for the act of being friends with her ya' get my drift.

[monipo1928]

First of all ask yourself these questions: Is it really worth the effort if she just says no? Is there anyone else? Does she even know i exist or in other words does she acknowledge you?. If they are yes ask her. But there is no easy way out. Girls like it if you stay calm and cool while you ask them. Try not to stutter(Girls hate it),Get clamy hands and sweat excessively(Girls also hate it) and try not to look nervous. Girls will take that as a sign of weakness. If you follow these steps you will have a girlfriend in no time ;););)

P.S~Im a girl so i should know!Lol

[eleanor]

[QUOTE=White][COLOR=DimGray][FONT=Tahoma]I'll tell you what I do.

Step 1) Walk up to the girl.

Step 2) Say to her "Hey, would you like to see a movie sometime?"

Step 3) ...well that's it, actually.[/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

[color=dimgray] We should end the thread now.[/color]

[John]

[quote name='monipo1928']Try not to stutter(Girls hate it),Get clamy hands and sweat excessively(Girls also hate it)[/quote] Girls do love them some gender stereotypes, though!

[QUOTE]Girls will take that as a sign of weakness.[/QUOTE] I do have to agree with you there. Girls will often kill and eat their mate if they detect imperfection or weakness in him during the mating dance.

[monipo1928]

[quote name='John']Girls do love them some gender stereotypes, though![/quote]
Yeah some though!
[quote name='John']I do have to agree with you there. Girls will often kill and eat their mate if they detect imperfection or weakness in him during the mating dance.[/quote]
I soooo totally know!

[Raina]

[COLOR=Blue]All I can say about getting a girl is this: DON'T USE A PICK UP LINE!
Why do guys use them anyway!? I hate it!
Here's the funniest pick up line I've heard:
[I]"Guy- Can I borrow 40 cents?
Me- Sure. Here you go.
Guy- Thanks... I promised my mum that I was going to call her after I talked to the girl of my dreams.
Me- ...
Guy- ...
Me- ... Um... If you want to call your mum, you can use my phone...
Guy- ... Uh... No, that's alright..."[/I]
What!? What was I supposed to say? How do you reply to pick up lines? ... I wasn't interested in him anyway...
If you really have to use a pick up line, make sure she can reply to it. But still, just try to avoid pick up lines. [/COLOR]

[nomad19]

haha to be honest man, you don't need to go online for girl advice. just let it come naturally :animesmil you know that it's love when you just be yourself and the girl likes you, don't change who you are because of her, that's not love that's uhmm obsession.


it's the first step that's always the hardest man, and that step is...walking up to the girl haha! after that just talk to her casually, talk about books, music,life the usual topics, no "ASL?" crap here haha...

after sometime,(give it a week but honestly the longer the better ) of getting to know her,let her know how you feel, who knows right? she might be feeling the same way. lastly, don't miss any oppurtunities make your move. don't wait too long either another guy might cut into the action...

believe me after the hard part, all the romantic stuff for dates,etc. kicks in naturally

goodluck man and godspeed....*haha i can be a date doctor.......or not*

[Darktactic]

Try not to think too much about it, relationships shouldn't be forced. What I mean is, if you walk up to her out of the blue and ask her," Wanna go see a movie?" she'll think you're some creep. You really don't have any choice but to wait for an opportunity to introduce yourself and get acquainted. Anyway, if she's not interested in you there's really nothing that you can do about it. These things take time.

[Jayna]

I agree with the just asking her out on a simple date. Maybe it's just me but I'd freak out if a guy came out all strong with, "I like you, will you go out with me?" Just NO, I'd be flattered but if I didn't know the guy too well I'd be scared...

So just ask her out. Take it slow. Enjoy her company. If you like this girl so much, take the time to get to know her. =o Who knows? You might find out she's a complete she-devil and your crush will dissolve into nothing. Or she could be an angel and you two may become an item. You never know until you try.

Oh I should warn you, don't try to be her friend. I mean be nice to her sure, but once you fall into the 'best friend' category it's hard to get out. Asking her out on a date is a nice subtle way of telling her, "Hi! I'd like to get to know you better!"

Good luck. ^^ Hope it works out for you.

[Mythologicly]

I've been in this situation before. First get to know her by hanging out find out what she likes to do, then find a common thing you share and do that togather after that you can be a close friend with and if you still like her wait a while but if you cant let her know and hopfully she'll say yes.

[Starwind]

As far as whether or not it's true love is hard to say. That's kinda something you have to feel on your own. Noone can really give you that answer.

As far as how to approach her, just try being yourself. Become familar with her.

Or you can just do what I did and be up front and straight forward with her. That works sometimes too.

In the end, though, it's all up to you how you handle it. The best thing you can do is try, because if you don't then it'll never happen. If you fail it'll hurt for a little while, but if you never try it'll hurt for a very long time, trust me on this.

[kumi-chanmi]

Plain out ask her and please do not use corny pick up lines. Believe me not all girls like to hear them. If you want to be all secretive and romantic write her a little note telling her you like and you want to go out. Most of my guy friends have done this and all of them have girl friends or they'll ask their friends to help.