Friends one day, enemies the next, has that ever happened to you?

[Aberinkula]

[COLOR=DimGray]Recently one of my best friends has become one of my worst friends. It all started when he got a girlfriend. She was great for him, and she was my friend as well. Yet he changed. His attitude got worse towards me. Then a couple of weeks ago we become friends again. We were playing in a band when he suddenly hated me again. Now we are still friends but more of acquaintances. He kicked me out of the band for no apparent reason.[/COLOR]

[COLOR=DimGray]But right now I?m trying to right any wrong that I have committed to become friends with him. [/COLOR]

[COLOR=Blue]So have you ever had a friend one day, then him/her hated you the next?[/COLOR]

[COLOR=blue]Plus is there any tips for anybody to help restore the friendship?[/COLOR]

[Retribution]

[size=1]I have a hard time believing a true friend would treat you like that. If the story is as you say it, then there's really nothing you can do to restore it, considering you did nothing to destroy it. I would suggest confronting him about his behavior and just talking about how you feel.[/size]

[Aberinkula]

[quote name='Retribution][size=1']I have a hard time believing a true friend would treat you like that. If the story is as you say it, then there's really nothing you can do to restore it, considering you did nothing to destroy it. I would suggest confronting him about his behavior and just talking about how you feel.[/size][/quote]

[COLOR=Blue]Thanks, I'll try.[/COLOR]
[COLOR=DimGray]Last year we were tight. But hey sometimes things change. So what ere you supposed to do about it.[/COLOR]

[OMNOMNOMALY]

[QUOTE=ForgotteÑ-HerÖ][COLOR=Blue]Thanks, I'll try.[/COLOR]
[COLOR=DimGray]Last year we were tight. But hey sometimes things change. So what ere you supposed to do about it.[/COLOR][/QUOTE]


[COLOR=DarkOrange][FONT=Trebuchet MS]That's totally the thing you gotta keep in mind, people change and grow apart. My best friend of NINE YEARS and I aren't even on speaking terms anymore. And you know what? It was his choice. I disagreed with his lifestyle (incessant drinking and doing drugs) and he just flipped out and that was about it. It seemed really sudden and I wanted to talk to him about it but.. yeah. Not to mention he didn't like my boyfriend at the time, so I couldn't ever see them at the same time. Talking? Didn't happen. Lots of other people got mixed up in it, and now, from what I know, he said quite a bit of bad things to his new friends behind my back. Maybe not anymore. Hopefully, anyway =/

All I can say is that if he's still talking to you at all like an acquaintance, pull him aside and ask him whats up. Explain your point of view, tell him what you told us "it seems like you've been doing ____ lately, have I done something wrong?" If he denies it, or gets angry or just ignores you.. he's probably not worth keeping around.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Sandy]

You know, I have a strong belief that it takes two to tango, so there must be [I]something[/I] in you that irritates your friend - no matter how small an issue that is.

I think you should do a little self-searching before confronting your on-again, off-again friend. Who knows, maybe you'll find something that you could try to improve in yourself... (and I'm saying this as a person who does not know what you are like to the least, so I'm not trying to offend you, ForgotteN-HerO.)

[Aberinkula]

[QUOTE=Sandy]You know, I have a strong belief that it takes two to tango, so there must be [I]something[/I] in you that irritates your friend - no matter how small an issue that is.

I think you should do a little self-searching before confronting your on-again, off-again friend. Who knows, maybe you'll find something that you could try to improve in yourself... (and I'm saying this as a person who does not know what you are like to the least, so I'm not trying to offend you, ForgotteN-HerO.)[/QUOTE]

[COLOR=Blue]Oh Sandy, I know what you mean. [/COLOR]

[COLOR=DimGray]Maybe if I just stay away for a little while I will stop anoying him. Or maybe if he ever callls tommorow I can talk to him privately.[/COLOR]

[Rachmaninoff]

[quote name='Sandy]You know, I have a strong belief that it takes two to tango, so there must be [I]something[/I'] in you that irritates your friend - no matter how small an issue that is. [/quote]I don't agree. But then I'm talking from experience. I've run into the issue of having a great friend who about literally turned and hated me the next day. I went months trying to figure out what was going on, how I might have offended them. And in the end, they had gotten into illegal drugs and joined a gang. It had absolutely nothing to do with me. Later when he hit rock bottom and started trying to turn his life around, I found out that the problem was he hated himself for getting into the mess in the first place and that I wasn't the only one he was snapping at.

So yeah, don't automatically assume it's your fault. If you really can't think of anything, it's possible something else is going on.

[TheResplendent]

[QUOTE=Sandy]You know, I have a strong belief that it takes two to tango, so there must be [I]something[/I] in you that irritates your friend - no matter how small an issue that is.

[/QUOTE]

[font=tahoma]This is most definitly not true. It's an idealistic way of thinking in order to alleviate the blame from someone else solely, but the truth of the matter is that people don't need a reason to change who they associate themselves with. People can be naturally vindictive, but ultimatley people are mostly in it for themselves. People change, and a good majority of the time it's not within your power to take their lives in your hand and try to change them back. That's how people are, you cannot have everything go your way when something like free will gets in the way.

Back in high school I had a friend who stabbed me in the back simply because he was a jack ***. Me and my girlfriend at the time were having some problems. I was a few months into trying to get over another girl but not once was I ever unfaithful to her nor were we even all that bad off. It was a simple fight over why I didn't call her a certain day when i was too tired and just went straight to bed. She calls this friend of mine and starts complaining so he goes ahead and tells her that the only reason I'm going out with her was to make the other girl jealous. This was a load of crap because not only was it just plain not true, but it would have been impossible to achieve that if i wanted to because the issue wasn't that the other girl wanted to be with me and therefore I wanted to get at her, but that I still had feelings for her. So making HER jealous would have been an act in futility.

I confront my friend about this and he goes "Look, I just wanted her to stop bitching and I don't really care what happens". We were through after that. I don't need a friend who lies behind my back about something that doesn't even concern him, and then doesn't care that he interfered wrongfully. That's how people can be, and you have to accept that or else you'll sink into your own ignorance.

The only way you can go about trying to restore or help the friendship is by simply talking it out with him/her. That's all you can really do because again, you cannot hold the situation solely in your hand to fix. Whether it's worth trying or not is a different story, but if your that adamant then give it a try. But as a warning and a heads up for the future, choose your friends very carefully.[/font]

[Guest NIKI12345]

[QUOTE=ForgotteÑ-HerÖ][COLOR=DimGray]Recently one of my best friends has become one of my worst friends. It all started when he got a girlfriend. She was great for him, and she was my friend as well. Yet he changed. His attitude got worse towards me. Then a couple of weeks ago we become friends again. We were playing in a band when he suddenly hated me again. Now we are still friends but more of acquaintances. He kicked me out of the band for no apparent reason.[/COLOR]

[COLOR=DimGray]But right now I?m trying to right any wrong that I have committed to ecome friends with him. [/COLOR]

[COLOR=Blue]So have you ever had a friend one day, then him/her hated you the next?[/COLOR]

[COLOR=blue]Plus is there any tips for anybody to help restore the friendship?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]
The funny thing is the same thing happened me in a way. Well I have a friend named Jesse and she is way overprotective. So one day at school I decide to hang out with my other friends and a few minutes latter I have five people coming up to me telling me that Jesse hates me. She is like my best friend and she goes around telling people that. The reason she started to hate me was because I hung out with other people. Here is the wacky part after she goes around telling people that I?m a ***** she suddenly wants to be my friend again. She got so desperate she offered to pay me 50$ to be her friend again, but she did a lot of messed up things so I don?t think I want to be her best friend any more. I mean she use to hit me when she was made or I made a joke and the way she talks is so loud my ears actually bleed. It?s just the way she talks. I would come home with burses all over me from my best friend. Now that?s ****** up. So stand your ground or try and solve the problem. Ok. Just don?t let him mess with your mind. Mind my language I turned it black.