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[Ol' Fighter]

Okay, I haven't really had anything to contribute here lately but I am badly in need of help...

My problem or situation I should say is my girlfriend has told me that she could very possibly be pregnant, now this hit me like a bomb shell and I'm still kind of shell shocked by it but I'm also just very nervous right now and I care about her very deeply I'm just extremly nervous about a lot of things pertaining to this and my question is...

1) What's the things I should do if she's pregnant?
2) If she's not what should I do?
3) If she is how do you break something down like that to your parents?
4) I'm pretty damn nervous right now so what the hell can I do to ease this feeling besides my under-age drinking?
5) Could this be a bad thing or good thing?

And I'm just 17 by the way...

[eleanor]

[color=dimgray] 2) Never have sex again without a condom. [/color]

[Guest NIKI12345]

bAD THING. sTILL DID YOU DO SOMETHING WITH HER THAT COULD HAVE CAUSED THIS AND IF SHE IS GOING TO HAVE A BABY YOU CAN'T JUST LEAVE HER AND NOT GET INVOLVED. I THOUGHT THEY TAUGHT KIDS NOT TO HAVE *** BEFORE THEY WERE MARRIED. mE i DON'T KNOW WHAT YOU SHOULD DO. MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL A ADULT LIKE YOUR PARENTS. DID YOU EVERY THINK OF THAT. hOPE IT HELPS NOW YOU KNOW YOUR TO YOUNG TO BE DOING THESE THINGS.
[INDENT][COLOR=RoyalBlue][B]NIKI12345[/B] please do [I]not[/I] use all caps when posting, no one likes to be yelled at or to have others jump to conclusions when they ask for help, so please tone it down a bit here. Thanks. ~SunfallE[/COLOR][/INDENT

No I didn't yell at him my computer was acting up and the button got stuck. So no I wasn't yelling at him. It was the computer *Smile*]

[DeathKnight]

[color=crimson]First of all, did you have unprotected sex or did a condom break? Or did some other bad luck hit you? If you had unprotected sex then, uh, I mean this is why everyone tells you not to. Even with condoms there is a slim chance that you can get a girl pregnant with improper use, you know?

If she is then is she going to get an abortion? Adoption? Since you are 17 I presume she is young too so I doubt that you guys could support a child. Your parents will weigh in on this as well. You have a few options so you'll have to make a decision, one that will probably be influenced heavily by your parents.

If she isn't then if you have sex again do so safely. I don't know if NIKI is naive or religious (maybe both) but if you make the choice to have sex then you make that choice, I don't have any reason to say it's "wrong" but there [b]are[/b] risks involved with unprotected sex. With protection those risks are dramatically lessened.

Breaking it to your parents.. I have no idea. If you have an open, honest relationship with your parents then I guess just be honest. I don't know your situation with them. It will be difficult no matter what though.

I'd say in general that teen pregnancy is usually a negative thing but there are, of course, exceptions to that.[/color]

[pooperson]

[SIZE=1][COLOR=RoyalBlue]I have to go, but I will answer as quickly as possible and definitely edit later.


I think it is only a bad thing if you make it that way or if you handle the consequences in an immature fashion. However, you can make it a really good thing as well. If she is pregnant, it's obviously going to be very difficult to deal with, and if she's not, that could be emotionally upsetting as well.

This is when I leave and come back later. I promise![/COLOR][/SIZE]

[Johnny Justjohnny]

[SIZE=2][COLOR=Gray]1) Tell your parents. It won't be fun, but it will be one hell of a lot more fun then trying to raise a baby at your age without any help... BTW, how old is Mrs. Lonley Fighter? That's kinda important.

2) Pretty straightforward... don't send your trooper into the breach without body armour next time.

3) That I can't help you with - no matter what, it will be pretty damn akward. If you have relogo-nut parents then it might be a little more difficult, but if you're parents care for you they'll be supportive and try and help you anyway they can... putting it off and sloughfooting them will only make things worse. Be upfront about it, that's the only advice I can offer you.

4) Try not to pull your hair out until you're sure she's pregnant, first off. If she is, well, it's going to be pretty stressful no matter what you do - and don't try the drinking yourself away thing, I highly doubt that'll help...

5) In a word? [B]Eeeeeek...[/B][/COLOR][/SIZE]

[SunfallE]

[COLOR=RoyalBlue][quote name='Lonley Fighter]My problem or situation I should say is my girlfriend has told me that she could very possibly be pregnant[/QUOTE]For starters, why does she think she may be pregnant? Besides the obvious issue of unprotected sex, has she had any type of pregnancy test? Or other signs like missing a period? Personally I think finding out just why she thinks she may be pregnant is important as well as actually making sure. If she is then your questions would apply:[QUOTE=Lonley Fighter]1) What's the things I should do if she's pregnant?[/QUOTE]Most importantly, don't hide it. In the end people are going to find out. You don't have to run and tell everyone, but your parents and her parents are going to need to know since I'm assuming that like you she is under age. [QUOTE=Lonley Fighter]2) If she's not what should I do?[/QUOTE]Make sure you're more careful in the future, if you weren't using protection, then do. Or better yet, don't have sex as then you can't get her pregnant. Once you're a little older you can decide if you want to risk a pregnancy again.[QUOTE=Lonley Fighter]3) If she is how do you break something down like that to your parents?[/QUOTE]There's no easy way to do it. And I don't know how your parents and hers would react. So obviously the best way is to simply tell them and see how they take it.[QUOTE=Lonley Fighter]4) I'm pretty damn nervous right now so what the hell can I do to ease this feeling besides my under-age drinking?[/QUOTE]Find out for sure if she actually is pregnant since drinking won't change a thing in the end. She either is pregnant or she's not.[QUOTE=Lonley Fighter']5) Could this be a bad thing or good thing? [/quote]I'm inclined to say it would be a bad thing, due to your age. It could turn out good, but to be frank, everyone I've know who got pregnant in their teens had nothing but problems. At the same time if she is, there are options like adoption or finding a way to take care of the kid with your parents help. Hopefully if that is the case they will be understanding and do their best to help both of you come to a solution. Either way, best of luck. [/COLOR]

[RobinWH]

i got pregnant at 17 (because i was stupid and had unprotected ***)

i made the best (in MY opinion) of the situation and gave my son up for adoption.
it was the hardest, but smartest thing i have ever done.

before you worry about anything else, you need a true answer to q. 1.
pregnancy tests are pretty cheap, buy one and have your girlfriend do it.

if she'd not...hopefully this will scare you enough to never have unprotected *** or maybe just not have it until you are in a LOVING, long time, COMITTED relationship.

if you want more info/advice, or have any more questions...feel free to send me a private message.

[Rachmaninoff]

In response to the title of this thread, if she is indeed pregnant then my answer is bad. If she is not, then my answer is good and steer away from having sex until your a little older. Ya know like when you aren't considered jail bait.

As for the parents, if you live in Utah or a highly religious area, good luck, because you're going to need it when you tell them you got your girlfriend pregnant. And definitely steer away from the drinking since it won't change a thing. Well other than getting drunk.

[Ol' Fighter]

Thanks everyone for the advice especially the part about buying a pregnacy test I'm definatly going to have to do that.

I told my step-dad about this and I was surprised at how relaxed he was about it and he told me a lot of crap, but good crap,but I just can't tell my step-mom yet until I'm 100% sure and I'm happy my step-dad won't either he's pretty cool, I think she would try to kill me if she found out...but thanks again for the advice about that.

And I know I shouldn't even be having "you know what" but I mean, things happen when you like someone right?

Oh yeah Big Sky, she's the same age as me and my "relaxer" I should say isn't drinking anymore it's now going to sleep, it's so simple and doesn't have any side effects accept me being very tired.

One more thing, trust me, I'll be sure to put a plastic over me wee.