Is he worth it?

[Elk]

I currently like this guy named Justin and my friends say he is a jerk and doesn't deserve anything. Today's his birthday, and I gave him a calender and a wallet. My friend Jessica says that he is not woorth it because a while back he had been basically ignoring me. But I can't help myself and I just had to give him something. He was happy and gave me a hug, so I don't think he's a jerk. But is he really worth it is what I'm always asking myself. There are times I feel like he deserves everything and oother times when I think he's so considerate. For example, on Valentine's Day, I bought him a bunch of things and a big ballon. He said he had no where to put the ballon and asked me if he could pop it. I said okay with out really thinking. When I came home and told my mother, she said that that was a mean thing for him to do because I had gone to HEB and taken my brother and sister with me and had looked for the ballon, just for him to go and pop it. So, I'm not so sure anymore. So I ask the question to myself, is he worth it?

And what are your experiences with guys and girls that aren't worth it or who are. How could you tell and what did it feel like?

~Blurr{Boe.Lover}

[ChibiHorsewoman]

[color=#9933ff][font=lucida calligraphy]I'm with your friends and your mom. The guy sounds like a jerk. If he's only paying attention to you because you give him stuff who needs him?

As for my experiance with guys and relationships... I don't think we really have the time to cover everything. But my last relationship ended up in a divorce and now he's nearly gotten himself arrested and commited tax fraud to get back at me. Now he's just done the latest- claimed I violated a support order. Needless to say both my lawyer and I are like what the hell. He can't even get the court right! :animesigh I'm so glad he's someone else's problem now.

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[Guest NIKI12345]

Well if he really likes you and you like him you should let him know. See if it works out, but make sure that he isn't just being nice to you and being being a jerk to others. Yeah you could listen to your friends, but I'm not them I believe everyone deserves a chance, but don't get me wrong your friends could be right. If he doesn't like you then yeah its not worth it. Just give him a chance and see how it goes. Hope it works out.

[Roxie Faye]

[color=#9933ff]No offense, honey, but he seems inconsiderate, IMO. I don't know if I would classify him as a jerk, per se, but definitely inconsiderate.

I don't mean to burst your bubble, or sound cruel, but regardless of being a jerk or not, it just sounds like he doesn't like you. If he liked you, I think he'd be more responsive to what you've been doing for him.

I know it hurts a lot to think that he doesn't like you. I [u]know[/u] how that feels, and I'm sure everyone else on this board knows how that feels, too. But what's the alternative to thinking he isn't interested - making excuses for his behavior? How good can that be?

If you need to know whether he's interested or not, talk to him, but be prepared for either answer, yes or no.

And you know what? If he doesn't like you, please remember it honestly has nothing to do with you. Most of the time the person we like doesn't like us in the slightest (again, I know the feeling). You sound like a sweet, attractive, considerate person, and you deserve better than someone who doesn't care for you.[/color]

[2010DigitalBoy]

[COLOR=DarkOrange]no offense, but I'd go so far as to call you stupid if you kept trying. He's a jackass, and don't you dare try to downplay his meanness because THERE IS NEVER an excuse for that. If you keep trying, your going to hurt yourself, and your utterly wasting your time. Leave your hopes behind, and even if he came onto you, stay away. [/COLOR]

[Sazumechan]

well if your friends think he is a jerk then they must have a good reason.here is something to think about.people act different around certain people.to you he might be nice to but to others he might be a jerk.so watch out! i thought it was kinda rude for him to pop the balloon but thats my opinion.i hope everything works out for you and if you ever need to talk feel free to pm.

[Goodbye, Face]

[font=arial][size=1]Any time you have to ask yourself "Is s/he worth it?" the answer is usually "no."

I think that's something everyone will agree with on some level.[/font][/size]

[Rachmaninoff]

[QUOTE=RiflesAtRecess][font=arial][size=1]Any time you have to ask yourself "Is s/he worth it?" the answer is usually "no."

I think that's something everyone will agree with on some level.[/font][/size][/QUOTE]I most definitely agree.

And as a guy myself, he does sound pretty insensitive, I mean honestly, doesn't have room for a balloon? I've never heard anything so silly before. Unless the thing was some huge monster balloon.

RifelesAtRecess already said it, but if you even have to ask this question, then it's obvious on some level even you are wondering if it's worth it. So I'd definitely say, based on what you have posted, that the answer is no he is not.

[Kenshin DX]

Pssht teenage drama. You are like 14 am I right? You shouldn't be chasing boys to begin with. At this age they are all self conscience, hyperactive, jack-assess. Boys are really immature but usually with age they get better and so does dating and having a relationship. Unfortuantly some teens don't grow out of it and act like 8 year old idiots for the rest of their lives.You are better off waiting a couple of years.

[Lt.Zero]

[COLOR=Navy]I agree with Kenshin DX. All of us teenage boys are, without a doubt, self conscience, hyperactive, jack-assess. And it would be best to wait a little while. I also agree with the people that said that if he only pays attention to you when you give him stuff, then he's not worth your time.[/COLOR]

[Elk]

I see. Yeah, I guess if I do ask myself if he's worth it then he's probably not. I see it for all of your points of views. I guess he isn't worth it. lol. I think I just needed to talk about it with someone, so I feel better now. Perhaps he's not worth it, and if he is not, then I shouldn't worry about it. Thank you guys for the advice. =] And I am only 14, so I have the rest of my life ahead of me. No time to worry about guys and their jerkiness. [no offense to any guys reading this]

[Minako]

Well, before I jump to the conclusion that he's a jerk (which it almost sounds like, but I'm giving him the benefit of a doubt), has [I]he[/I] given [I]you[/I] anything? Does he talk/hang out with you? Would you consider him a friend? Would he consider [I]you[/I] a friend?

I mean, I've bought stuff for my guy friends before because I felt like it. Especially around Christmastime, once, I found something that was PERFECT for my friend's boyfriend (also my friend), and I bought it for him. He felt bad that he didn't get me anything, but I wasn't offended, I was just happy he liked it.

And plus, are you sure he liked the balloon before he popped it? I mean, I've had friends fill my locker up with balloons so that I couldn't fit anything in there for my birthday once, but I still made an effort to keep as many of them as possible, because it was a sweet gesture, ya know?

[Fyxe]

[quote name='Lt.Zero][COLOR=Navy']All of us teenage boys are, without a doubt, self conscience, hyperactive, jack-assess. [/COLOR][/quote]

[size=1]That's why I promote lesbianism. ;)[/size]

[vegeta rocker]

He doesn't like you, he is playing with you. It hurts, but move on.