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[oscarX]

I want to know what is with people dating online. Kids having girlfriends or boyfriends online is the dumbest and most pathetic thing i have ever heard of. Besides you dont know if that guy is a sex offender who wants your address.

EDIT

Im not saying stuff like eHormony when at first you intend to meet the person you talk to. And I intentionally put KIDS because thats is what is pathetic

EDIT 2

i am not talking about adults like umm up to 15 years old your still to young your parents still have custody of you they can still claim you

[SunfallE]

[COLOR=RoyalBlue][quote name='oscarX']I want to know what is with people dating online. Kids having girlfriends or boyfriends online is the dumbest and most pathetic thing i have ever heard of. Besides you dont know if that guy is a sex offender who wants your address.[/quote]Lets take this a bit further shall we? I want to know, what's with people dating at all? After all whether you meet them online or not they could still be a sex offender. Meeting someone face to face is no guarantee that they won't be say a molester, murderer or rapist. Take rape for example: 84 percent of those raped knew their attacker. Knowing them in real life didn't make it any easier for them to realize that their 'date' was a rapist. [URL=http://www.aaets.org/arts/art13.htm]Source[/URL]

There's nothing pathetic about meeting someone online, nor is it stupid either. Like any other aspect of dating it simply requires being more cautious since it's easier for someone you have yet to meet to lie to you. You don't have facial and body language to go on like you do when you meet face to face. And even those are unreliable. In the end if someone wants to meet or date someone they met online all they need to do is be aware of the potential dangers like is the person married? Or do they ask for money? You can easily find tips on what to avoid. [URL=http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/datingtips/onlinedatingdangers.html]Tips[/URL] Or you can simply avoid attempting to meet people online.

Remember, if being able to determine if someone is a sex offender was that simple, most of the crimes wouldn't occur since people would avoid those capable of such an act and never date or meet them in the first place. [/COLOR]

[eleanor]

[color=dimgray] Actually, I'm going to agree with oscarX because of the keyword 'kids'. As in, a couple of 13-year-olds who think they have a special special something because they both like the same anime.

Nothing against online dating, it's just that a lot of it is a pathetic case of teens who want a boyfriend/girlfriend.[/color]

[Guest Jake Wasp]

Online dating is rather pointless and a waste of time. you have no clue who the person you are talking to is actually like.

[Aaryanna]

[COLOR=DarkRed][QUOTE=Lunox][color=dimgray] Actually, I'm going to agree with oscarX because of the keyword 'kids'. As in, a couple of 13-year-olds who think they have a special special something because they both like the same anime.

Nothing against online dating, it's just that a lot of it is a pathetic case of teens who want a boyfriend/girlfriend.[/color][/QUOTE]Actually I'm going to disagree. Online dating may have started as a thing for the young, but it's since become far more that. It's moved way past being a thing for 'pathetic teens' looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend. A quick look here: [URL=http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11300388/site/newsweek/]Article[/URL] Shows that sites like PerfectMatch.com (63 percent are 35 to 60) is not just teens. And this site: PrimeSingles.net, is a 50-plus site whose membership grew 39 percent in 2005. That's quite a few people who are not 'teens'

The whole thing is a fast growing industry especially when according to JupiterResearch, 15 percent of Internet users between the ages of 45 and 54 browsed dating sites in 2005.

It might be a bit sad that a teenager feels that to get a date they need an online dating service. But to claim all online dating services are pathetic or online dating in general without really understanding just who uses a service or tries to date someone online is an over generalization at best.

Personally I have no interest in them, but I'm not about to make a broad uninformed statement that those who do use an online dating service or that the service itself is pathetic. And I don't think someone who considers online dating pathetic either. Perhaps in the case of the 'kids' too young, but hardly pathetic. ^_~ [/COLOR]

[AzureWolf]

[COLOR=maroon]Like all things, there are going to be ways a good thing can be used wrongly. I see online dating as a tool that can be used to make the more insecure and closed people of society a little more open. A step in the right direction if you will.

But again, this can go too far. If they aren't using the internet as a stepping stone for socializing but instead a replacement, I can see the problems one could associate with it. Think about it: it'll be easier to handle a rejection online than in person, for both the dumper and the dumpee.[/COLOR]

[oscarX]

OKAY i made the edit im not talking like eharmony or perfect match

[Aaryanna]

[COLOR=DarkRed][quote name='oscarX']OKAY i made the edit im not talking like eharmony or perfect match[/quote]So you made the edit, so what? It's still the same, unless the kids, and you didn't specify what age you meant here, are we talking about teenagers or preteen? Anyway so long as they are old enough to date why should it matter how they decide to meet people? Again there is nothing pathetic about using any and all resources to meet people with similar interests since the dangers of meeting someone who would take advantage of you is the same. Or rather meeting them in the real world instead of online is no guarantee that they wouldn't be a sex offender or something worse. [/COLOR]

[oscarX]

[quote name='Aaryanna][COLOR=DarkRed']So you made the edit, so what? It's still the same, unless the kids, and you didn't specify what age you meant here, are we talking about teenagers or preteen? Anyway so long as they are old enough to date why should it matter how they decide to meet people? Again there is nothing pathetic about using any and all resources to meet people with similar interests since the dangers of meeting someone who would take advantage of you is the same. Or rather meeting them in the real world instead of online is no guarantee that they wouldn't be a sex offender or something worse. [/COLOR][/quote]
OKAY ILL MAKE ANOTHER EDIT OF WHAT I MEAN

[Aaryanna]

[COLOR=DarkRed][quote name='oscarX']OKAY ILL MAKE ANOTHER EDIT OF WHAT I MEAN[/quote]It's not necessary to edit the original post you know, you can simply explain what you mean by adding another post. Also, please do not use all caps since that's the same as shouting online. ^_~
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[oscarX]

[QUOTE=Aaryanna][COLOR=DarkRed]It's not necessary to edit the original post you know, you can simply explain what you mean by adding another post. Also, please do not use all caps since that's the same as shouting online. ^_~
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sorry well i mean

12 13 15 year olds having online dates and i dont go to chatrooms anymore because in like 5 minutes theyll starts saying how the feel about me even though i dont know them and if two people like you online and they meet IT GETS REALLY REDICULOUS well i cant telll you how many times i been asked to go out with people online

[Kirra]

[QUOTE=oscarX]sorry well i mean

12 13 15 year olds having online dates and i dont go to chatrooms anymore because in like 5 minutes theyll starts saying how the feel about me even though i dont know them and if two people like you online and they meet IT GETS REALLY REDICULOUS well i cant telll you how many times i been asked to go out with people online[/QUOTE]
[FONT=Comic Sans MS][COLOR=DarkSlateBlue] Did you ever think to just go away? Maybe blocking contacts? Or just not go to dating or whatnot oriented chatrooms. Maybe you haven't been, but still. I honestly don't see what the big deal is. I mean I would assume it's all a matter of preference. Some people just aren't the kind of people to like to fraternize with others in person, so what do they do when they want to converse with someone and maybe look for a mate? The go online don't they? Just because you don't like the idea of it, doesn't mean it's a 'no no' for all or that it's even a bad idea. Personally I think it's a rather good idea to have, but I would never date online. I simply believe it's a nice thing for people who are kind of anti-social. So, yeah...I disagree. [/COLOR][/FONT]
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~Did any of that make sense? I'm tired so my rant probably doesn't make any sense...~[/SIZE]

[DeathKnight]

[quote name='SunfallE][COLOR=RoyalBlue']I want to know, what's with people dating at all? [/COLOR][/quote]

[color=crimson]It has something to do with hormones or something. I saw a show about this "Dating" phenomenon on the Discovery Channel one time.[/color]

[eleanor]

[QUOTE=Aaryanna][COLOR=DarkRed]Actually I'm going to disagree. Online dating may have started as a thing for the young, but it's since become far more that. It's moved way past being a thing for 'pathetic teens' looking for a boyfriend/girlfriend. A quick look here: [URL=http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/11300388/site/newsweek/]Article[/URL] Shows that sites like PerfectMatch.com (63 percent are 35 to 60) is not just teens. And this site: PrimeSingles.net, is a 50-plus site whose membership grew 39 percent in 2005. That's quite a few people who are not 'teens'

The whole thing is a fast growing industry especially when according to JupiterResearch, 15 percent of Internet users between the ages of 45 and 54 browsed dating sites in 2005.

It might be a bit sad that a teenager feels that to get a date they need an online dating service. But to claim all online dating services are pathetic or online dating in general without really understanding just who uses a service or tries to date someone online is an over generalization at best.

Personally I have no interest in them, but I'm not about to make a broad uninformed statement that those who do use an online dating service or that the service itself is pathetic. And I don't think someone who considers online dating pathetic either. Perhaps in the case of the 'kids' too young, but hardly pathetic. ^_~ [/COLOR][/QUOTE]


[color=dimgray] Yeah, I was just talking about the kids. Since oscarX used the word 'kids' and not 'adults'. You're arguing over something that was never presented.[/color]

[Aaryanna]

[COLOR=DarkRed][quote name='Lunox][color=dimgray'] Yeah, I was just talking about the kids. Since oscarX used the word 'kids' and not 'adults'. You're arguing over something that was never presented.[/color][/quote]Not exactly since online dating was originally meant for 'kids' ^_~ My argument is that it has become far more than just for kids. And my statement that even if it is kids it's not pathetic, still stands. [/COLOR]

[DeadSeraphim]

[QUOTE=oscarX]I want to know what is with people dating online. Kids having girlfriends or boyfriends online is the dumbest and most pathetic thing i have ever heard of. Besides you dont know if that guy is a sex offender who wants your address.

EDIT

Im not saying stuff like eHormony when at first you intend to meet the person you talk to. And I intentionally put KIDS because thats is what is pathetic

EDIT 2

i am not talking about adults like umm up to 15 years old your still to young your parents still have custody of you they can still claim you[/QUOTE]
[size=1][color=indigo][font=arial]Custody? What does that have to do with anything? Does that mean no one should date under 15 in your cracked worldview, or do you operate under the assumption that these 'relationships that never even meet' are somehow impinging on the custody of the parent? Either way, you're a crazy mofo.[/font][/color][/size]

[Nerdsy]

[quote name='SunfallE][COLOR=RoyalBlue]Lets take this a bit further shall we? I want to know, what's with people dating at all? After all whether you meet them online or not they could still be a sex offender. Meeting someone face to face is no guarantee that they won't be say a molester, murderer or rapist. Take rape for example: 84 percent of those raped knew their attacker. Knowing them in real life didn't make it any easier for them to realize that their 'date' was a rapist. [URL=http://www.aaets.org/arts/art13.htm]Source[/URL'] [/COLOR][/quote]

[color=deeppink]Ah, you beat me to it. :cussing: [/color]

[quote=lunox]Actually, I'm going to agree with oscarX because of the keyword 'kids'. As in, a couple of 13-year-olds who think they have a special special something because they both like the same anime.

Nothing against online dating, it's just that a lot of it is a pathetic case of teens who want a boyfriend/girlfriend.[/quote]

[color=deeppink]I had an internet relationship when I was 14. Did I think it was something special? No. I realized we were two kids who had never actually met. What we had was [i]nice[/i], don't get me wrong, and if I could go back and change it I wouldn't.

Was it because of anime? Yes, but only because we found each other through OB; we never really talked about anime in any great detail. We merely connected.[/color]

[Roleni-Chan]

[QUOTE=SunfallE][COLOR=RoyalBlue]Lets take this a bit further shall we? I want to know, what's with people dating at all? After all whether you meet them online or not they could still be a sex offender. Meeting someone face to face is no guarantee that they won't be say a molester, murderer or rapist. Take rape for example: 84 percent of those raped knew their attacker. Knowing them in real life didn't make it any easier for them to realize that their 'date' was a rapist. [URL=http://www.aaets.org/arts/art13.htm]Source[/URL]

There's nothing pathetic about meeting someone online, nor is it stupid either. Like any other aspect of dating it simply requires being more cautious since it's easier for someone you have yet to meet to lie to you. You don't have facial and body language to go on like you do when you meet face to face. And even those are unreliable. In the end if someone wants to meet or date someone they met online all they need to do is be aware of the potential dangers like is the person married? Or do they ask for money? You can easily find tips on what to avoid. [URL=http://www.onlinedatingmagazine.com/columns/datingtips/onlinedatingdangers.html]Tips[/URL] Or you can simply avoid attempting to meet people online.

Remember, if being able to determine if someone is a sex offender was that simple, most of the crimes wouldn't occur since people would avoid those capable of such an act and never date or meet them in the first place. [/COLOR][/QUOTE]

She has a major point on this dilemma. There are people who are closest to you who can be offenders and they are just waitng for the right time to strike.
And Love of course, I think it has been exploited with such ridiculous remarks these days. I think people are taking advantage of love in any way. Online dating is something people shouldn't do...what happen to the classics days where people take there time and meet the person face to face, am I wrong?

[Anakoni Stark]

[SIZE=1] I just find online dating a sad excuse for having someone by their side 24.7.365

But I do understand, if someone has a close [not romantic but [I][B]very close[/B][/I]] relationship with someone else, and they try to talk with them as much as possible.

what I dont understand: why cant these kids wait?! o_0'[/SIZE]

[Horendithas]

[COLOR=DarkRed][quote name='oscarX']I want to know what is with people dating online. Kids having girlfriends or boyfriends online is the dumbest and most pathetic thing i have ever heard of. Besides you dont know if that guy is a sex offender who wants your address.[/quote]Why? Why is online dating dumb? Or rather why do you think it is? And I don't buy the bit about the ones that annoy you in chat rooms. A handful of irritating kids is hardly enough to base an opinion of they are all dumb and pathetic on.

Also, it's already been addressed but sticking to only meeting people in real life doesn't guarantee that the person you are dating is safe. If anything, a strictly online relationship and such a young age, especially if no information as to where you live and such is given out is probably quite a bit safer than a normal one. It's a little hard to assault someone through a screen and if they get verbally abusive you just ignore them. Much easier than dealing with one of those sex offenders if you were dating them face to face.[QUOTE=Lunox][color=dimgray] Actually, I'm going to agree with oscarX because of the keyword 'kids'. As in, a couple of 13-year-olds who think they have a special special something because they both like the same anime.

Nothing against online dating, it's just that a lot of it is a pathetic case of teens who want a boyfriend/girlfriend.[/color][/QUOTE]Again, why pathetic? Why are we limiting these teens to have only relationships with people they can meet face to face? Why are we labeling them as pathetic? And at the age this thread is referring to finding friends or dating someone with similar tastes even if it's online is pretty normal. Especially if you live in a community, say like mine, where a lot of parents believe anime is nothing but porn. So finding someone online who likes it too is a big attraction to a lot of kids around here.[quote name='Jake Wasp']Online dating is rather pointless and a waste of time. you have no clue who the person you are talking to is actually like.[/quote]The same is true of a person you meet in real life. People cheat, steal, rape and murder. Meeting them face to face is no guarantee that you really know what they are like.

Honestly, if kids are dating online at a young age, so long as they aren't giving personal information such as addresses and real names and such out. I just don't see what the fuss is. Even if they are bugging you in chat rooms. Just find another chat room or take advantage of the handy ignore button or block sender function that many of them have. [/COLOR]

[2010DigitalBoy]

[COLOR=DarkOrange]As one who has been in a few online relationships, and even now has some friends online that are closer than most of my outside-world pals, I think I can give an inside view on the situation.

First of all, I'm tired of all the ------- imbeciles who bash this medium of dating without knowing anything about it. I personally applaud internet dating. After all, people go into dating blind half the freaking time IRL; they get all into it and end up screwing some broad then falling out 6 months later only to realize your having someone's kid --- dating is a freaking monstrosity.

So, in that light, internet dating can be a lot safer than offine at times. So you say your blind to what the other person is? Well, really, if you take into account that for it to even become a relationship it takes a certain trust that you have to deepen between each other. Trust me, it isn't to hard to tell if someone's a fake. And besides, if you're looking for a serious relationship, honesty is where it's at, no?

Most of the people I've seen 'internet dating' fall into 2 categories.

1. People who aren't taking it seriously: these people aren't really effected by any of it. Theor joking around with other internet goers, prolly cybering their heads off and jking around...

2. People who are taking it serously: Who tend to be honest people who are good friends with someone else and it works it's way to the point of being romantic. I know i've been in this position before.

In the end, for most younger folk internet dating leads to nothing but guess what? There's NO CONSEQUENCE! So it's not like you can bash it for being inneffective -- it's just like regular dating only without sex! And anyway there are lots of people - usually older ones - who find longstanding partners through the internet.[/COLOR]

[oscarX]

I just find it an excuse for them not able to get dates.

[quote name='2007DigitalBoy][COLOR=DarkOrange']So it's not like you can bash it for being inneffective -- it's just like regular dating only without sex![/COLOR][/quote]
you know not evryone has sex on dates whats the point of being romantic with them if your not going to meet them

[Raiyuu]

Welcome to OtakuBoards, oscarX.

Double posting is not allowed here. You'll see I've merged your two consecutive posts into one. If you want to add something and no one else has posted yet, you can use the EDIT button. I also snipped down that quote a bit - there's no need to quote an entire massive post, just trim it down to the bits you're replying to.

Finally, your post quality is below OB standard. Just look around at some of the responses to your posts and you'll see the kind of quality we expect. Capitalisation, punctuation, correct spelling and grammar, all are a must here.

I suggest you take a look over our [url=http://www.otakuboards.com/rules.php?][u]Rules [link][/u][/url] - I assume you haven't already, since you've broken a fair few in your first thread.

Hope you enjoy your stay at OB,

Raiyuu.

[The Heart]

I'm really nervous about saying this, so please don't flame me... :animeblus

I have an online boyfriend myself, and I do love him very much (I'm 16 years old, and he's 17). I take our relationship seriously, and in a year or two I plan to take a good friend with me to meet him, just in case anything bad happens. I know what's happened to other kids who this has happened to, and I promise not to let myself get hurt.

[Aaryanna_Mom]

Considering the topic I am a bit surprised to hear some of you referring to online dating as pathetic. For a parent, especially if you know your kid is not giving out personal information, such an environment is far less worrisome than if a child that age was out with a real person on a date. And in many ways there's nothing wrong with kids feeling connected to other kids. Because in the end at this stage it isn't real dating or rather dating that will lead to more adult behavior at this point. Certain things just aren't possible through a computer screen.

Moving to the next phase where the kids are a bit older and actually do meet, in many ways chatting online is no different than an older method of getting to know someone who didn't live close, simple letters as well as love letters. There's a certain charm about getting a letter in the mail from a close friend or boyfriend. And finally getting to meet the person or see them again is quite different since at that point, unlike a first date you know from the letters/e-mail/chat a little about the person.

There's really no need to bring up the point about lying since as others have said, online or off line, is no guarantee that you are getting the truth. Using a little common sense applies to both situations. If anything knowing someone in real life is a bit more risky since usually the person knows where you live where online you can meet in a public place without ever giving them your address.

Online dating as I see it is merely the next phase. We've gone from men raiding other villages to obtain women, to elaborate courtships to arranged marriages and such. The customs of dating have changed quite a bit over the centuries and online dating is in my opinion merely one of the customs for this time and era, especially since the internet became readily accessible to the population.