tachiKC Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 Dont put a person on a pedestal. Because if you put them way up high, you are bound to be crushed. You cant be blind with infatuation because you will only see what you want to see and not see that persons flaws, and when you realize them you will end up asking yourself "what was I thinking?" If you tell them everything, then there will be nothing left. There are two completely different mindsets from "Oh wow your so great I love everything about you, I want to be with you," compared to "You seem like a great person, and I do want to be with you, but I want to get to know you better before I commit or get serious." Having a decent amount of respect for a person doesnt hurt either. Just be cautious, but dont be afraid to take some calculated risks as well. If someone rejects you, dont feel bad. While it has some to do with you, its mostly them. You cant change who you are. It just wasnt meant to be. Move on. Just because you have one bad experience doesnt mean that everyone is like that. Get out, explore, meet people, get into relationships, date, have fun, break up, get hurt, live, and most importantly, learn. Get to know what type of things you like in a person and what types of people you like, and when you finally meet that special someone, you will know that they are the right person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neko Misty Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 hmmm... good advice. :animesmil except the part about if someone rejects you, don't feel bad. that's not even possible is it? :animedepr I just got thru picking up the pieces after a really crushing rejection... actually, I think I've still got some shrapnel stuck in me from when my heart shattered into a bunch of little tiny fragments... :( :rolleyes: oh, well... lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tachiKC Posted October 13, 2007 Author Share Posted October 13, 2007 Hmmm. Well everyone is different, but like I said, if you place a person to high, you are bound to be crushed. Were you already dating or did you ask them out and they refused if I may ask. And you SHOULDNT feel bad. Well sure you can be hurt, but dont beat yourself up over it. You cant do anything about it, you tried your best and hardest and its the other person who is having the issues, not you. And it obviously wouldnt have worked out, so just feel good that you finally know, if need be pull yourself together, and then move on. Unfortunately its all you can do. But in the long run its for the best because it frees you to be able to form new relationships. You live you learn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odin M Yggdrasi Posted October 13, 2007 Share Posted October 13, 2007 Be yourself. If they love you it will show, and in your love for them do so in a way that both respects them but also makes them feel special and important to you. Love is not always easy, many times the world will intervene to make your life difficult or even attempt to force you apart. Don't give up, love is said to be the most powerful force known to humankind. If you don't lose faith you will find a way. Be there for them. When they are feeling down, be there to comfort them. They will someday do the same for you, and in the process your love will grow. Don't look for sex in a relationship. Sex is not anywhere near as important in a lasting relationship as people try to make it seem. While it varies from couple to couple it is generally best to concentrate more on companionship than worrying about that all the time. In my opinion, it is best not to have sex until after marriage. Dates do go wrong. Any number of events can happen that would make it not end well, just be there for your loved one and finish it- the show must go on. After it is over you can pick up the pieces and try again, maybe the next one will go better. Today marks 6 months that Momishin and I have been together, and I hope for there to be a lot more. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
neko Misty Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 [quote name='tachiKC']Hmmm. Well everyone is different, but like I said, if you place a person to high, you are bound to be crushed. Were you already dating or did you ask them out and they refused if I may ask. And you SHOULDNT feel bad. Well sure you can be hurt, but dont beat yourself up over it. You cant do anything about it, you tried your best and hardest and its the other person who is having the issues, not you. And it obviously wouldnt have worked out, so just feel good that you finally know, if need be pull yourself together, and then move on. Unfortunately its all you can do. But in the long run its for the best because it frees you to be able to form new relationships. You live you learn.[/QUOTE] it was totally pathetic: I liked him from afar, didn't have the guts to ask him out, but was so pitifully obvious about my feelings that he finally felt obligated to tell me he wasn't interested just to put me out of my misery. :animedepr it's worth mentioning that this happened a while back, and I don't do the whole not-enough-guts-to-ask-him-out thing anymore. now, if I like a guy, I go for it, and before I get so emotionally involved. there's that window where you know you like somebody and want to ask them out, but you're not so hopelessly into them that you'll be crushed if they say no. I aim for that window. it's worked out so far... :animesmil I don't beat myself up though. some girls get rejected and go, "what's wrong with me??:animecry:" I'm more likely to think there's something wrong with the guy, lol, to go, "what do you mean no?? there's nothing wrong with me! I'd make a fine girlfriend! what is the matter with you?" :laugh: I'm kinda full of myself that way... :rolleyes: but what good is it to look for a relationship with someone else if you're not satisfied with who you are yet? I am pretty satisfied... and will continue that way until some guy sets me straight. lol. [quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi'] Today marks 6 months that Momishin and I have been together, and I hope for there to be a lot more.[/QUOTE] happy 6 month anniversary!! :animesmil Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TimeChaser Posted October 21, 2007 Share Posted October 21, 2007 Something that is especially important for younger people in relationships is not to submit to any kind of peer pressure. Only you can decide when you feel comfortable doing something, even if it's deciding when to finally go for a first kiss. Don't let others tell you what you should be doing. The relationship is the sole domain of you and and your boyfriend/girlfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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