Guest uzi890 Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 well theres this at my school we sit next to each other in english. and we talk together etc but i nocticed when we're not talkin she giv me these looks like:animeblus or ;) what should i do should i take the quik route and ask her or wait longer?like till high school? ps thats the only class i hav with her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Metalcore501 Posted October 14, 2007 Share Posted October 14, 2007 I've been in that situation before, I would'nt wait too lonbg as in highschool if your in middle school but yeah. Give it some time see if she does other things. If you dig this girl go for it ,but if you don't break her heart let her down easly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Goodbye, Face Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [font=arial][size=1]Your first post at an anime message board is asking for advice on women? These are whiny nerds that you're asking! GIRLS DON'T LIKE US. As far as an actual response goes, you never said if you liked this girl or if you're creeped out by it. If you like her, it's better that you let her know as soon as possible (but not if you JUST met), if you don't, they'll quickly find someone else. It happens all the time.[/font]][/size] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odin M Yggdrasi Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Goodbye, Face']Your first post at an anime message board is asking for advice on women? These are whiny nerds that you're asking! GIRLS DON'T LIKE US. [/QUOTE] [color=red] What are you talking about? Hot chicks love nerds, we just don't know how to tell them we love them too. It isn't really that hard to learn you know. Seriously, just go for it. After you've been talking to her for a while (preferrably a few weeks, seem interested but don't get quite crushy) then make your move- ask her. Above all be yourself, if she likes you she will be drawn to you, if not then it wouldn't work anyway. I would aim for frienship first, if that works out then you can try for something more. Either way, don't be crushed if it turns out she was only looking at you because she hadn't seen you before and she really is dating somebody else.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eleanor Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi']What are you talking about? Hot chicks love nerds, we just don't know how to tell them we love them too. [/QUOTE] [font="trebuchet ms"] Only if the nerd is cool.[/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odin M Yggdrasi Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Lunox'][font="trebuchet ms"] Only if the nerd is cool.[/font][/QUOTE] Not true. I think a lot of times girls are drawn to nerds but we're ignorant of that fact, and end up chasing them away with the less beneficial nerd tenancies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2010DigitalBoy Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi']Not true. I think a lot of times girls are drawn to nerds but we're ignorant of that fact, and end up chasing them away with the less beneficial nerd tenancies.[/QUOTE] [COLOR="DarkOrange"]Sing with me, all, in a chorus of resounding truth. You know the tune - as once stated by the great Dr. Cox: [SIZE="4"]WRONG[/SIZE] [SIZE="2"]WRONG[/SIZE] [SIZE="3"]WRONG[/SIZE] [SIZE="1"]WRONG[/SIZE] - [SIZE="2"]WRONG[/SIZE] [SIZE="3"]WRONG[/SIZE] [SIZE="4"]WRONG[/SIZE] [SIZE="3"]WRONG[/SIZE]! ...your wrong! Actually, I've got a nerdy friend with a GF who took his virginity :O So maybe there's hope! Though I don't get along with her, so maybe not for me XD[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odin M Yggdrasi Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='2007DigitalBoy'][COLOR="DarkOrange"] Actually, I've got a nerdy friend with a GF who took his virginity :O So maybe there's hope! Though I don't get along with her, so maybe not for me XD[/COLOR][/QUOTE] There is definately hope, and I can't be that far wrong when I too am a nerd and am currently blessed with a GF, I believe I mentioned it already in another thread. Though I don't see why you would mention the virginity deal in a thread like this, when picking out a GF that should be the last thing on your mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eleanor Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi']Not true. I think a lot of times girls are drawn to nerds but we're ignorant of that fact, and end up chasing them away with the less beneficial nerd tenancies.[/QUOTE] [font="trebuchet ms"] I think we're thinking of two versions of a 'nerd'. :p [/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandy Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi']There is definately hope, and I can't be that far wrong when I too am a nerd and am currently blessed with a GF, I believe I mentioned it already in another thread. Though I don't see why you would mention the virginity deal in a thread like this, when picking out a GF that should be the last thing on your mind.[/QUOTE] Man, you're in dual denial. [I]First[/I] you claim that girls lust after nerdy boys, but they are just too blind to see it. In the words of the Great DB: WRONG! Girls - especially the better-looking ones (or the ones who think they look better when they dress up like hoes) - usually have this distaste towards anything that's smelly, sweaty, pimply and dresses like a clown (ie nerdy guys). [I]Secondly[/I], you say that sex is the last thing guys should have in mind when they're searching for a partner. Again, WRONG! Sex is the very first motive of countless straight guys to do pretty much anything with a girl - even if they know they can't have it immediately, it's always patting the path for the future. This might sound degrading, but that's just how it is for us guys. Emotional bond with the partner comes later than the thought "I want to have sex with that person", but when it does come, it can every bit as strong as women have. ;D Few exceptions don't make a rule. ;P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odin M Yggdrasi Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Sandy']Man, you're in dual denial. [I]First[/I] you claim that girls lust after nerdy boys, but they are just too blind to see it. In the words of the Great DB: WRONG! Girls - especially the better-looking ones (or the ones who think they look better when they dress up like hoes) - usually have this distaste towards anything that's smelly, sweaty, pimply and dresses like a clown (ie nerdy guys).[/quote] As far as I and many guys I know are concerned- the ones who are all beauty fussy and dress up like whores are the worst of the lot, and will only lead to trouble because they spend too much and will gladly leave you for another guy even if you do keep them happy. Truly hot girls don't have to wear revealing outfits or a ton of make up to look good, they just naturally do. I have also noticed they tend to be self-conscious about their looks, which helps stabilize relations with them because you can then complement them from time to time so they feel better about themselves. I think the definitions are different around here. In this area the nerds are typically very clean and precise, the most visible determining factor that makes them a nerd is being behind in the style department in addition to just plain knowing too much. There are also cool and not cool nerds, but many of the not cool ones fall into the geek variety or blur the line between the two. True some of the nerds get zits but many take measures to control them. It is the geeks that are dirty and smelly, nobody likes them at all. Of course you also see the Jocks who only are popular because they are on the sports teams, typically being followed by the slutty types who think they can easily hook up with one. [quote name='Sandy'] [I]Secondly[/I], you say that sex is the last thing guys should have in mind when they're searching for a partner. Again, WRONG! Sex is the very first motive of countless straight guys to do pretty much anything with a girl - even if they know they can't have it immediately, it's always patting the path for the future. This might sound degrading, but that's just how it is for us guys. Emotional bond with the partner comes later than the thought "I want to have sex with that person", but when it does come, it can every bit as strong as women have. ;D Few exceptions don't make a rule. ;P[/QUOTE] I'm not the only one in this area who would be perfectly happy dying a virgin. In my mind and several others I know sex is something reserved for a married couple, and in all reality is only important for the continuation of the family. It is perfectly possible to have a fun and active life without resorting to sex at all. And I would rather spend my life with somebody who would be there for and with me in work and play, than somebody who the only thing we agree on is that we both like the bed. Though for most people and areas you probably are right Sandy, I just do things differently is all. Comes from being a nerd and thinking too much. But there is no denial at all, I am by far not the coolest guy in the school and I am hardcore nerd, but that doesn't stop people from liking me a lot. Pity it wasn't until recently I realized that what I always thought was them annoying me was actually them trying to be friendly, if I had known that sooner I would have a lot more friends right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aaryanna Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [COLOR="goldenrod"][FONT="Comic Sans MS"][quote name='uzi890']well theres this at my school we sit next to each other in english. and we talk together etc but i nocticed when we're not talkin she giv me these looks like:animeblus or ;) what should i do should i take the quik route and ask her or wait longer?like till high school? ps thats the only class i hav with her[/QUOTE]If you've known her for a while then speak up and talk to her. Otherwise, wait until you've had a chance to actually talk to her more.[quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi;794012][color=red]What are you talking about? Hot chicks love nerds, we just don't know how to tell them we love them too. It isn't really that hard to learn you know. [/color][/QUOTE]Uh, no. Nerd or not being a nerd/geek has nothing to do with it. We don't love a guy just because they are a nerd or a geek. XP[quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi;794016]Not true. I think a lot of times girls are drawn to nerds but we're ignorant of that fact, and end up chasing them away with the less beneficial nerd tenancies.[/QUOTE]If you're ignorant of the fact... Then how would you even know? Most nerds at my school are not chased by the girls at all. [QUOTE=Odin M Yggdrasi'']Though I don't see why you would mention the virginity deal in a thread like this, when picking out a GF that should be the last thing on your mind.[/quote]Well DB has it in the wrong context, but where I live? The major religion frowns upon girls who are not a virgin. So to some guys that's beyond important, painfully so. When they get older they won't even marry a girl who isn't a virgin, even if they aren't one themselves. [/FONT][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eleanor Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Sandy'] [I]First[/I] you claim that girls lust after nerdy boys, but they are just too blind to see it. In the words of the Great DB: WRONG! Girls - especially the better-looking ones (or the ones who think they look better when they dress up like hoes) - usually have this distaste towards anything that's smelly, sweaty, pimply and dresses like a clown (ie nerdy guys). [/QUOTE] [font="trebuchet ms"] To be fair, a lot of nerds can be cool. Those are the nerds girls love. :)[/font] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellerby Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Lunox'][font="trebuchet ms"] To be fair, a lot of nerds can be cool. Those are the nerds girls love. :)[/font][/QUOTE] [FONT="Tahoma"][COLOR="DimGray"]Point of fact: me! :D[/COLOR][/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest The Blue Jihad Posted October 15, 2007 Share Posted October 15, 2007 [quote name='Sandy']Man, you're in dual denial. [I]First[/I] you claim that girls lust after nerdy boys, but they are just too blind to see it. In the words of the Great DB: WRONG! Girls - especially the better-looking ones (or the ones who think they look better when they dress up like hoes) - usually have this distaste towards anything that's smelly, sweaty, pimply and dresses like a clown (ie nerdy guys). [I]Secondly[/I], you say that sex is the last thing guys should have in mind when they're searching for a partner. Again, WRONG! Sex is the very first motive of countless straight guys to do pretty much anything with a girl - even if they know they can't have it immediately, it's always patting the path for the future. This might sound degrading, but that's just how it is for us guys. Emotional bond with the partner comes later than the thought "I want to have sex with that person", but when it does come, it can every bit as strong as women have. ;D Few exceptions don't make a rule. ;P[/quote] Says the gay man. Listen to him, the thread should. Wise, he is. Puzzled, I am. Believed him to be a douche, I did. [CENTER][URL="http://www.blueharvest.net/images/closeups/yoda.jpg"][U]Yoda[/U][/URL] [/CENTER] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sandy Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 [quote name='The Blue Jihad']Says the gay man. Listen to him, the thread should. Wise, he is. Puzzled, I am. Believed him to be a douche, I did. [CENTER][URL="http://www.blueharvest.net/images/closeups/yoda.jpg"][U]Yoda[/U][/URL] [/CENTER][/QUOTE] Ha! Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I live in another world where there are no girls but only leather-clad big men with moustaches dancing under rainbows. :P So yeah, I do know something about the mindset of women, since I've been both a nerdy guy lusting after girls (way back when I was still confused as heck) as well as many girls' best gay friend (much later). Trust me, guys, when you want advice about girls but you're too afraid to approach one, the next best solution is a gay guy. ;D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Allamorph Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 [quote name='Sandy']Trust me, guys, when you want advice about girls but you're too afraid to approach one, the next best solution is a gay guy. ;D[/quote] [FONT=Arial]Like Dr. Phil. (Oh, jays. I think I just made [I]myself[/I] sick.)[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SunfallE Posted October 16, 2007 Share Posted October 16, 2007 [COLOR="RoyalBlue"][FONT="Lucida Sans Unicode"][quote name='uzi890']well theres this at my school we sit next to each other in english. and we talk together etc but i nocticed when we're not talkin she giv me these looks like:animeblus or ;) what should i do should i take the quik route and ask her or wait longer?like till high school? ps thats the only class i hav with her[/QUOTE]If you've known her for a bit talk to her, otherwise, wait a while and learn more about her first. You wouldn't want to scare her away by being too forward. ^_~[quote name='Sandy']Man, you're in dual denial. [I]First[/I] you claim that girls lust after nerdy boys, but they are just too blind to see it. In the words of the Great DB: WRONG! Girls - especially the better-looking ones (or the ones who think they look better when they dress up like hoes) - usually have this distaste towards anything that's smelly, sweaty, pimply and dresses like a clown (ie nerdy guys). [I]Secondly[/I], you say that sex is the last thing guys should have in mind when they're searching for a partner. Again, WRONG! Sex is the very first motive of countless straight guys to do pretty much anything with a girl - even if they know they can't have it immediately, it's always patting the path for the future. This might sound degrading, but that's just how it is for us guys. Emotional bond with the partner comes later than the thought "I want to have sex with that person", but when it does come, it can every bit as strong as women have. ;D Few exceptions don't make a rule. ;P[/QUOTE]I agree with Sandy here. Looks, are important. Especially when hygiene is involved. Nothing turns a girl off quicker than that. Sure some nerds/geeks or whatever you want to call it are clean, but on the flip side, most if not all that I've known, hadn't figured out what deodorant was yet. XP Mind you I'm talking about the more obsessive type here instead of the more mild version that a lot of people fall into. I'm talking about the hard core ones. Also, whether or not people want to admit it, on some level physical attraction [including sex] is a big factor as well. Do you talk to all the girls at your school or work? With the intention of really getting to know them better? If they aren't physically attractive, most of the time the answer is no. You'll be polite perhaps, but that's about it. But the truth is, that physical appearance is what first resulted in you noticing them at all. It's the same for women Sandy, on some level, that initial attraction is a big factor in who we actually make an effort to get to know better. Honestly, friends and boyfriends. Most if not all of them got my attention due to how they looked and then that got sorted into friends vs boyfriend material based on their personality. And though some of them were geeks or nerds, that aspect of them was not what led to us either being friends or dating. lol Also to be clear, I'm not horribly picky, but I'm not going to deny that how someone looks doesn't matter or even occur to me. It's not the deciding factor, but it is definitely one of them. [/FONT][/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest uzi890 Posted October 22, 2007 Share Posted October 22, 2007 [quote name='Odin M Yggdrasi'][color=red] What are you talking about? Hot chicks love nerds, we just don't know how to tell them we love them too. It isn't really that hard to learn you know. Seriously, just go for it. After you've been talking to her for a while (preferrably a few weeks, seem interested but don't get quite crushy) then make your move- ask her. Above all be yourself, if she likes you she will be drawn to you, if not then it wouldn't work anyway. I would aim for frienship first, if that works out then you can try for something more. Either way, don't be crushed if it turns out she was only looking at you because she hadn't seen you before and she really is dating somebody else.[/color][/QUOTE] i aint no nerd k [quote name='Aaryanna'][COLOR="goldenrod"][FONT="Comic Sans MS"]If you've known her for a while then speak up and talk to her. Otherwise, wait until you've had a chance to actually talk to her more.Uh, no. Nerd or not being a nerd/geek has nothing to do with it. We don't love a guy just because they are a nerd or a geek. XPIf you're ignorant of the fact... Then how would you even know? Most nerds at my school are not chased by the girls at all. Well DB has it in the wrong context, but where I live? The major religion frowns upon girls who are not a virgin. So to some guys that's beyond important, painfully so. When they get older they won't even marry a girl who isn't a virgin, even if they aren't one themselves. [/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE] i m shy though but in a resevered way but any time she something i freeze up and i dont look at her and every one around her are like: u like him dont ya? cuz oif the way she looksd at me but any time she something i freeze up and i dont look at her and every one around her are like: u like him dont ya? cuz oif the way she looksd at me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starwind Posted October 23, 2007 Share Posted October 23, 2007 If everyone is so worried about whether or not hot girls are into nerdy guys, just do what I did and find a cute, nerdy girl and your set. They do exist, I promise they do. I found one and you can too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sojiro47 Posted October 23, 2007 Share Posted October 23, 2007 [quote name='Starwind']If everyone is so worried about whether or not hot girls are into nerdy guys, just do what I did and find a cute, nerdy girl and your set. They do exist, I promise they do. I found one and you can too.[/QUOTE] [FONT="Book Antiqua"]I can one up that. I found a hot girl who digs ugly nerds, and she Loved me. Even ask Aceburner. No, it wasn't him. Ok, I'm going to be a dueche now, and answer every Guy-posted-girl problems thread from here forward. Yeah, she's cute, and chances are she's more intelligent than anyone gave her credit for. To answer your petition for advice, I ask you a question: Can you handle rejection? If not, learn to fast, because life's going to deal it out to you fast. Even if you have the balls to find out if she likes you back, it's not worth Jack if you aren't ready to be shot down. Because that fear is what keeps you from her. [quote name='Sean Connery']Best!? Losers whine about their "best". Winners go home and **** the prom queen[/quote] [quote name='Nicholas Cage']She was the prom queen[/quote][/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest xOne Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 I believe that, if you like her, you should ask her out. There is no harm in asking. If she doesn't like you, at least you wouldn't have to constantly ponder about it everyday. If she does, then cool. Although my opinion on middleschool/highschool is that it never lasts. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Aberinkula Posted October 24, 2007 Share Posted October 24, 2007 [quote name='Sandy']Ha! Just because I'm gay doesn't mean I live in another world where there are no girls but only leather-clad big men with moustaches dancing under rainbows. :P[/quote] [COLOR="77656"]Actually Sandy, there is a place like that. It's called San Fransciso. :p[/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Odin M Yggdrasi Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 Well it seems I am back in the same lot as most of you. I got dumped last night. Apparently I had overlooked one thing, and it took 6 months before it became apparent. Our interests weren't close enough to have material to talk about. Oh well, I still got good experience from that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Korey Posted October 25, 2007 Share Posted October 25, 2007 [FONT="Franklin Gothic Medium"]Now to add my two cents...dating is a process or trial and error. You have to learn to deal with being rejected by many people before you find the one for you. Trust me, heartbreak is never easy. If it was, then everyone would be flinging from person to person with little to no connection. If you truly like this person, then you need to tell them. Regardless of who you are, geek, jock, prep, whatever. It doesn't matter what social category you're put into, because you have to make girls see you for who you are. You can be the biggest nerd in the world and I promise you that if you just be yourself, you will get a girl that loves you for who you are. To put this theorem into context for you...I am madly in love with a girl and we are the biggest dorks on the planet. I'm a nerd, with pimples and the whole bit. I don't have to hide around her, because she loves me for who I am. It shouldn't have to matter how you are stereotyped because anyone can be with anyone. As long as you be yourself, you will get the respect of a lot of women, even love if you are truly serious about it. So go for it. Here's a little proverb for you: "The bridge that's never crossed leads to the village that no one has seen" Meaning if you don't try, how will you know what will happen.[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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