Ugh... Girlfriend Troubles

[Aberinkula]

[COLOR="1234"]Well, lately me and my GF have been haivng a healthier relationship, but today me and her were talking on the phone with another one of my freinds. Anyways about 30 minutes into the conversation my friend calls. Well, he's one of my best friends so I decided to tak to him for a bit. Anyways he tells me to tell my other freind to three-way him. (Yes haha, but not like that so don't let that cross your mind.)

Anyways, I go to the other line to tell my friend that and she says, no I'm going to leave and my girlfriend says the same thing, or something quite like it. But now, she's mad at me for talking to him. And UGH!

So, what can I do about this perdicament?[/COLOR]

[Raiha]

[COLOR="DarkOrchid"][FONT="Times New Roman"]You can immediately dump your loser girlfriend for being selfish with your time and being jealous about you talking on the phone with your best friend.

Clearly she has control issues as well as a problem with you talking to people that aren't her. If she can't relinquish how many minutes to you to spend with someone else then I believe you need to find someone with less problems. OR Just be single and embrace the celibacy of sadness and masturbation. Sorry, I'm harsh like that.

You can hardly call a relationship healthy when you squabble over the little things.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Aberinkula]

[COLOR="1234"]Well, I do love her, it's not some kiddy crap. Plus my other best freind, who is like a sister to me, is best freinds with my GF. She's the reason we met in the first place. If I dumbed her I'd get a one way ticket to Hurtsy-balls-ville.

Me and her had the same problem last year. We thought we were soemthing we weren't. I thought I was bi she thought she was a lesbian. We have a strong connection through that. Plus, her old father used to beat her mom, and leave my gf feeling like she was to balme, so if I broke up wiht her, she'd probably fall even deeper down that hole.

So breaking up with her is out of the question. Besides, [spoiler]we both masturbate so there really isn't any change with that situation for me.[/spoiler] Plus she'd think I was only using her for her body, which is not the case at all.


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[AzureWolf]

Relationships are about compromise. Sure, she might have overreacted, or you probably never got the hint that she just wants some alone phone time (or a little bit of both, which is usually the case). Apologize and tell her you will be more receptive in the future, and also ask her to voice her concerns if it seems like you are being callous.

I disagree with Neuvoxraiha about arguing about little things. I think it is perfectly normal and the best way to iron out the kinks in a relationship before something big comes along.

[Raiha]

[quote name='AzureWolf']
I disagree with Neuvoxraiha about arguing about little things. I think it is perfectly normal and the best way to iron out the kinks in a relationship before something big comes along.[/QUOTE]

[COLOR="DarkOrchid"][FONT="Times New Roman"]I'll admit that came out wrong. I meant more that if the little things are having a big impact on the relationship, then there's something wrong.

Oh yes, and I never said that you didn't love her, I just said that there were some deeper issues not being worked out. Never called it child like. I'm aware that you're capable of human feeling. Somewhere. In there. Dumping someone shouldn't depend on anyone else's opinion.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[2010DigitalBoy]

[COLOR="DarkOrange"]Well, I've never had a girlfriend, but I had a boyfriend who I broke up with over phone issues, too. Namely the fat that he was calling me when I dislike talking on the phone. I obviously am not the right person to talk to about phone issues.

However, for all that you've been bragging about your great girlfriend, you better ****ing patch this up. And you've been going out for, like, months now, right? You'd think it's be pretty strong by now lol. [/COLOR]

[Rachmaninoff]

[quote name='Premonition'][COLOR="1234"]So, what can I do about this perdicament?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]Talk to her and find out what's going on. Does she not get along with your friend? If so, then it's not unreasonable for her to disagree with adding him to the conversation. In the end, find out what's going on and go from there, once you know why she was annoyed you can work out a compromise.

[Aberinkula]

[COLOR="1234"]Well, her and my other friend are friends too, so there's nothing big about it, please we sorted it out. [/COLOR]

[Rachmaninoff]

[quote name='Premonition'][COLOR="1234"]Well, her and my other friend are friends too, so there's nothing big about it, please we sorted it out. [/COLOR][/QUOTE]Glad to hear it. ;)

[Stuart]

[FONT="Trebuchet MS"]Well, you don't want to be charged with domestic assault, and unlawful trespass, or spend nine days in a high security state asylum, three days in state correctional facility, be convicted to those two charges, sentenced to five years probation, and be transfered out of the state.

Should've killed her while I had the chance. But maybe you shouldn't take the same approach. Silly kids.

[B]P.S.[/B] That's a true story, by the way.[/FONT]

[Nomurah!]

[quote name='Premonition'][COLOR="1234"]Well, lately me and my GF have been haivng a healthier relationship, but today me and her were talking on the phone with another one of my freinds. Anyways about 30 minutes into the conversation my friend calls. Well, he's one of my best friends so I decided to tak to him for a bit. Anyways he tells me to tell my other freind to three-way him. (Yes haha, but not like that so don't let that cross your mind.)

Anyways, I go to the other line to tell my friend that and she says, no I'm going to leave and my girlfriend says the same thing, or something quite like it. But now, she's mad at me for talking to him. And UGH!

So, what can I do about this perdicament?[/COLOR][/QUOTE]

[SIZE="1"][COLOR="hotPink"]Well, after you sorted this out, I'm gonna reply.

Maybe that was just a bad time for her, or maybe she's even more immature than I am. Either way. Trust your spidey senses from now on to what MAY or MAY NOT tick off your gf. Mine was crazy. Of course, I didn't find that out... A few months later, when everyday seemed like her time of the month.

Sigh.

What a girl that was... [/COLOR][/SIZE]

[[Sound_Nin]]

[COLOR=Navy][FONT=Book Antiqua]Yeah, I'm not the best to give advice on this kind of thing. Except well, maybe you should go see a counselor, maybe she should too?

I pretty much just figured out that she was jealous. Jealousy is bad. I had to call off an engagement recently because of jealousy. He demanded my time ALL THE TIME. I couldn't do anything but talk to him, ever. Needless to say... I got really sick of it.

Just tell her how it is, really. Unless she's no good at talking about problems, or she plays mind games. In which case you should probably just break it off.

[/FONT][/COLOR][QUOTE][COLOR=#123400]Besides, [COLOR=#000000]we both masturbate so there really isn't any change with that situation for me.[/COLOR] [/COLOR][/QUOTE]

[COLOR=Navy][FONT=Book Antiqua]I think that's a bit personal. o.O
I think you should break up with her ONLY if it seems like she's being emotionally abusive. Just make sure to stay there for her and she won't feel abandoned.
My boyfriend threatened to kill himself if we ever broke up. Guess what? [I]That [/I]was just another one of his mind games too.
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[Skye]

[quote name='Premonition'][COLOR="1234"]Well, I do love her, it's not some kiddy crap. Plus my other best freind, who is like a sister to me, is best freinds with my GF. She's the reason we met in the first place. If I dumbed her I'd get a one way ticket to Hurtsy-balls-ville.

Me and her had the same problem last year. We thought we were soemthing we weren't. I thought I was bi she thought she was a lesbian. We have a strong connection through that. Plus, her old father used to beat her mom, and leave my gf feeling like she was to balme, so if I broke up wiht her, she'd probably fall even deeper down that hole.
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[size=1]Prem, listen to me. Take it from someone who got out of a relationship that escalated from simple jealousy to insane jealousy: love is not enough in this situation. I'm not going to say it's "kiddy stuff" because I know better than to think that - but this is stupid. She's going to seriously hurt you. I mean, I could see her being mad at you if you talked to another girl she doesn't know that well for maybe three hours, but your best guy friend? She has security issues and she's playing off your loyalty to her. She knows you won't go unless she does something really horrible, so she's playing on the borderline, and she's not even sure you'll leave if it gets really bad.

Domestic teen violence can go both ways, Prem. After my last relationship, I'm not sure if I want to know if it being reversed (the girl being the bad guy) is worse or not. I'm not telling you to dump her, just watch it, okay? Don't get hurt because you think that it's all better when it's not; if she does it again, dump her. It won't get better.

:) And I know you said you "fixed" it - just don't let her do it again, otherwise she'll just play with your head and your heart. It quickly turns into a master-slave relationship - and not a pleasant one! (And don't let her "abusive parents" thing stop you: she could pull herself out of it if she really wanted to. That's just one more way for her to make yo ufeel sorry for her, and that' no basis for a relationship.)

Sorry if I seem overly vehement about this, I just don't want to see ANYONE go through the kind of pain I went through because they think love justifies what a person does to them.[/size]