Relationships: Round 2!

[Lady Aura]

[CENTER][FONT="Palatino Linotype"]And I'm back. I couldn't think of a better title for this thread, so I used my old one.

I'm gonna start from the beginning. Almost a year ago, I dated a girl that I loved very much... and then I messed up our relationship because of my stupidity. She moved away soon after, and a friend of mine said that she might be coming back.

I'm scared as heck. A friend of hers said that she still has feelings for me. That's kind of the problem. I want to see her and talk to her again, but I'm scared to hurt her again.

I don't want to lead her on, but at the same time, I want our relationship to come back again.

It's so confusing for me...[/FONT][/CENTER]

[Raiha]

[COLOR="DarkOrchid"][FONT="Times New Roman"]No dear, you don't want your relationship back, because as we've already discussed, you are still miserable about the last break up you just had. How many weeks ago? Rebound.

Rebound. Rebound. I say again, it might seem like a relationship in which you have a chance to forge good from an unhappy past but while this might sound ridiculously pompous [and it is], I don't think you're ready. Consider leaving off this kind of romantic thought, because while I'm sure you desperately want to have someone special in your life right now, you're still developing mentally and physically and will continue to do so for several years at least. Leave off the romantic hearts and flowers and pleasant warm fuzzy feelings until you're finished going through puberty.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Lady Aura]

[quote name='Raiha'][COLOR="DarkOrchid"][FONT="Times New Roman"]How many weeks ago? [/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

[CENTER][FONT="Palatino Linotype"]Two.. three weeks ago? Somewhere around there. But, Ai (her nickname that we had for her) had this weird way of getting me happy for a long period of time.
I dunno. Maybe I just kinda thought that she could take away the depression of [I]him.[/I][/FONT][/CENTER]

[Raiha]

[quote name='Lady Aura'][CENTER][FONT="Palatino Linotype"]
I dunno. Maybe I just kinda thought that she could take away the depression of [I]him.[/I][/FONT][/CENTER][/QUOTE]

[COLOR="DarkOrchid"][FONT="Times New Roman"]DANGER. DANGER WILL ROBINSON!

Only you can make yourself happy again. And relying on someone else to do it for you is a recipe for heartbreak.[/FONT][/COLOR]

[Lady Aura]

[quote name='Raiha'][COLOR="DarkOrchid"][FONT="Times New Roman"]Only you can make yourself happy again. And relying on someone else to do it for you is a recipe for heartbreak.[/FONT][/COLOR][/QUOTE]

[CENTER][FONT="Palatino Linotype"]x.x You're right. Still, I'm scared to see her again.[/FONT][/CENTER]

[Sabrina]

[FONT="Tahoma"]I certainly hope you listened to Raiha's advice. Only you can make yourself happy again. If you rely on others to lift depression or to make your day, you'll just keep running through a vicious cycle of the same problem. I'd give it more time instead of jumping into a new relationship so quickly.[/FONT]

[Aberinkula]

[COLOR="DarkSlateGray"][SIZE="1"]Well, I do agree with Raiha that it could be rebound, so I'd wait a while. I myself am getting over my best friend, he's bi too, but he doesn't like the fact that I like him. So I'd wait before jumping into a new relationship just in case something similiar happens to come up.

Personally, I wouldn't go into the dating scene, it can cause problems. Believe me, wanting to date your friends can complicate things, so I've decided to leave relationships out until I become older. So I'd say give it time, wait until you're about 16 before dating again.[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[James]

[font=franklin gothic medium]Is it possible to just be friends with this person? I agree with others that you probably need a good break from relationships for a while - it gives you time to clear your head and get over any lingering issues.

Friendship may be the best answer, if one can be maintained.

But if this girl is attracted to you and wants more than friendship...then I would personally avoid her. After all, she may only make things worse for you in the short term.

Sometimes you have to put your own sanity and wellbeing above what others want, otherwise you won't be any good to those people anyway.[/font]

[Rachmaninoff]

Broken record time... it's called rebound. Don't do it, give yourself time to get your own feelings sorted before you go and get them tangled up in a new relationship. It really is a good idea to give yourself space between relationships so you don't jump into one for all the wrong reasons.

Like thinking it will cure your depression. That's the wrong reason and a big mistake since it doesn't work.

[Roxie Faye]

[color=#9933ff]I was thinking along the lines of what James said. Actually, James sort of said exactly what I wanted to, and more succinctly as well. First the Military thread and now this. Dayum, James, you're on a roll.[/color]