A Relationship Disaster.

[Haku877]

Well, the title isn't all that accurate, I'm sorry. but It will become one unless I can have some advice.

The situation is:

Me and this Girl ( lets call her C) Me and C have been talking for a while now. talking about getting together and we really do like each other and we have spent time together and talk for endless hours. How is this possible? shes my sisters best friends. wow. problem. Shes scared of losing her best friend so I don't want to convince her to just take a chance. so its really hard. She really is beautiful and amazing, i care so much about her. We've like each other for about a year now, and found out about 6 months ago, and we know so much about each other now.

Now, thats not the problem.

The problem is, me and this other girl( lets call her J) Me and J, we have know eachother for quite some time, 5~ish years. She has like me for all 5 years. and waited till now. we are dating. but hear me out. I really have liked her for a while. and she too is beautiful, and I care for her too, but It took me 5 days to think If I should go and ask her out. 4 of hose days spent on think about C, and what to do. It's been a week now. and J really cares and is afraid to lose me and break her heart.. Same here. but I still have feelings for C. And we still talk about suff. I just don't want to lose a great friend. or break her heart. I really do care. but I just can't let go of C.

I really need someone to talk to. one of the people I talk to about this stuff is C.
The other person I talk to I haven't seen in like 2 weeks.

[Raiha]

[COLOR="DarkOrchid"][FONT="Times New Roman"]Clearly your best bet is to play rock paper scissors and see how it turns out. Actually dating your sister's best friend sounds like a terrible mistake, and just because she's beautiful and smart, shouldn't really impact your choices.

Conversely, dating your other friend doesn't seem like a good idea either. How old are you? Do you even need this kind of drama? Don't be in a relationship, don't pick one over the other and voila. There will be no disaster. [size=1]It's like a miracle...[/size][/FONT][/COLOR]

[Haku877]

Well to start, im gonna be 16 in a few months. ( i know doesn't seem old)

Rock,Paper,scissors? A little insensitive no? Ha.10 times....50 50 ( RPS generators)

We don't know if she would like the idea or not yet ( my sister) but, there are more then those reasons then that to impact my choices.

[Aberinkula]

[COLOR="DarkSlateGray"][SIZE="1"]I take it J is one of you're best friends? If so, DON'T GO AFTER HER! If scrubs taught me anything, if it works out as friends, it won't work out well as a couple. I agree with the episode wherer Docter Cox said it's better if you and you're lover aren't friends. Take it from somone who was in that position.[/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Haku877]

well, good. me and J were not BEST friends, but we are good ones.

[James]

[font=franklin gothic medium]So, wait...you're just friends with J but you aren't in a relationship? I thought you said you were dating?

Anyway, if you [i]are[/i] in a relationship with J...then I don't really know why C comes into it. You might like C, but is that necessarily a reason to end the current relationship?

I think you probably need to take a step back and work out what you want to do. If you are in a relationship with J, then you need to decide whether or not it's worth ending that - especially on the remote possibility that C might be better for you.

If you weigh it up and it's not worth it, then I would tend to keep it in the pants and just enjoy a friendship with C. [/font]

[Vicky]

[SIZE=1]Why don't you just pimp them both?[/SIZE]

[Ikillion]

[COLOR=#35160f][SIZE="1"][FONT="Trebuchet MS"][quote name='Vicky'][SIZE=1]Why don't you just pimp them both?[/SIZE][/QUOTE]
I hate how you beat me by two minutes just to say that.[/FONT][/SIZE][/COLOR]

[Neptune]

[quote name='Vicky'][SIZE=1]Why don't you just pimp them both?[/SIZE][/QUOTE]

[FONT="Arial Narrow"][COLOR="DarkSlateGray"]That seems like the logical solution to me if you can't choose between them. They'll eventually find out that you're playing them both and not want to talk to you ever again, ruining your relationships with both of them and your sister. That's like killing three birds with one stone, even better than two.

Okay okay, just kidding. My best advice for you, seeing as your 16, is to go with whoever has the bigger rack. You'll have plenty of time to worry about love later in life.[/COLOR][/FONT]

[Rachmaninoff]

Are you sure you should even be in a relationship if you're already wishing you could have someone else instead? Sounds to me like you're not ready for it. Or at the very least as James said, keep it in the pants and leave C to friendship only. You play them both like the others have suggested and you're likely to lose both.

[Haku877]

[quote name='Neptune'][FONT="Arial Narrow"][COLOR="DarkSlateGray"]
Okay okay, just kidding. My best advice for you, seeing as your 16, is to go with whoever has the bigger rack. You'll have plenty of time to worry about love later in life.[/COLOR][/FONT][/QUOTE]

...Im not to worried about the bigger rack like others.

Also, unlike a normal person, I can kill 3 birds with a one Tumor stone.

Ikillion and vicky:
Thats pretty funny. but im no pimp. even if i tried, lol.

James:
Yes im dating J, but I still like C.
Im keeping this all in mind.

and no worry, the pants are on.

[Neptune]

[quote name='Haku877']...Im not to worried about the bigger rack like others.

Also, unlike a normal person, I can kill 3 birds with a one Tumor stone.

Ikillion and vicky:
Thats pretty funny. but im no pimp. even if i tried, lol.
[/QUOTE]

[FONT="Arial Narrow"][COLOR="DarkSlateGray"]Man, why do Ikillion and Vicky get to be funny but my humor flops? Oh well.

Okay, now for my [B]serious[/B] advice. I've been in the same situation before. I'll keep it simple and say that I was also with J and liked C, although before I dated J I barely knew anything about her. Temptation flows.

I hung around with C for a while behind J's back, never did anything besides hang out like friends. I developed feelings for C but as far as I could tell she had none for me, so I realized that I was being dumb and stopped hanging out with C and am still with J today. I found out that C actually did like me during that time, but at this point in my relationship after seeing C change drastically I definitely made the right decision by staying with J. She's pretty special.

Basically, just use your better judgement and don't lose a girlfriend, friend, and sister all at once. We can only give you advice, you have to roll with it.[/COLOR][/FONT]

[Haku877]

[quote name='Neptune'][FONT="Arial Narrow"][COLOR="DarkSlateGray"]
Okay, now for my [B]serious[/B] advice. I've been in the same situation before. I'll keep it simple and say that I was also with J and liked C, although before I dated J I barely knew anything about her. Temptation flows.

I hung around with C for a while behind J's back, never did anything besides hang out like friends. I developed feelings for C but as far as I could tell she had none for me, so I realized that I was being dumb and stopped hanging out with C and am still with J today. I found out that C actually did like me during that time, but at this point in my relationship after seeing C change drastically I definitely made the right decision by staying with J. She's pretty special.

Basically, just use your better judgement and don't lose a girlfriend, friend, and sister all at once. We can only give you advice, you have to roll with it.[/COLOR][/FONT][/QUOTE]

Ya, but that advice is great and all, but the situation is a little different. I'll put it in simple terms.

I have like C for a while, and J for a while shorther, and a time a while ago. i have been dating J for a week. we were good friends before, and me and C were great friends. I know both of them have had feelings for me for a while now.

if any of that made sense.

but thanks for trying.

[chibi-master]

Okay, first off, I will recomend asking your sister if she'd mind you dating her friend in a tone that makes it sound a [I]little[/I] like you're joking. If she says yes, you can start thinking about dating C. If not, wait a while and try again, like a Magic 8 Ball. It sounds like you like C more than the other girl. So maybe you should explain these feelings to J and see if she understands. If so, she may willingly break it off with you. If that happens, and you have your sister's okay (or not, if you wanna go behind her back), GO FER DA GURL(C)!!!:animesmil

[Korey]

[FONT="Franklin Gothic Medium"]It seems to me that any advice that we try to give you is either turned down or kinda laughed at, so I'm just gonna keep it simple for you....

If you can't decide between both girls, you need to just not be dating either of them. You're not far in your relationship with J to have any sort of "history" with her. By "history" I mean relationship "history". I'm sure she'll be a lil hurt by this, but you need to do that before you end up hurting her more by your indecisiveness. That hurts more knowing that you kept up this front and hung out a lot with C while still being with J. C would also be hurt that you spent this much time with her and couldn't be with her, because of your attachment with J. So what I'm saying is this...

If you can't pick or be decisive enough to be one's friend or friends with both...you need to look at whether you can be in relationship, beause they are filled with difficult decisions that leave you with an unfair set of options. Life sucks like that, and you're gonna end up hurt if you ride the fence and can't make a decision. Someone always ends up hurt. You need to suck it up and just make a decision for your own happiness.

Class Dismissed[/FONT]

[Sara]

[quote name='Aberinkula'][COLOR="DarkSlateGray"][SIZE="1"]If scrubs taught me anything, if it works out as friends, it won't work out well as a couple.[/SIZE][/COLOR][/QUOTE][font=trebuchet ms]Even if the characters on Scrubs were real people, I would be hesitant about taking dating advice from any of them.

[b]Fact[/b]: Dumping someone expressly to go out with someone else is a jerk of a thing to do.

[b]Fact[/b]: If you're constantly thinking about the other young woman in this situation, it's not fair to your current girlfriend.

I think you need to put your relationships on hold and reevaluate what you want before you continue to lead either of these young ladies on.[/font]

[RiaBinx]

I had alot of best friends, almost all of them are guys. They all decided at the same time that they liked me a bit much. Now I have no guy friends. Only my sister and my friend Lynx, she moved though.

[Sabrina]

[FONT="Tahoma"]I don't know if you've resolved this or not, but I agree with Sara. [QUOTE=Sara][font=trebuchet ms][b]Fact[/b]: Dumping someone expressly to go out with someone else is a jerk of a thing to do.

[b]Fact[/b]: If you're constantly thinking about the other young woman in this situation, it's not fair to your current girlfriend.

I think you need to put your relationships on hold and reevaluate what you want before you continue to lead either of these young ladies on.[/font][/QUOTE]You really do need to put things on hold until you figure out what you really want.

The advise may seem a bit harsh, but look at it this way, would you want someone going out with you if they were constantly thinking of someone else and considering dumping you for the other person?

I know I wouldn't so I certainly wouldn't do that to someone else. Anyway, best of luck getting that sorted out. [/FONT]