Why Do People Cheat?

[Rachmaninoff]

I'm not really looking to start any war between the parties in terms of who cheated the most, but rather this article about politicians getting caught:

[URL="http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/31545723/ns/politics-more_politics/"][U]Analysis: Why do politicians cheat?[/U][/URL]

Merely reminded me of how I wonder why people are dumb enough to cheat in the first place. I'm sure plenty of people have the chance to cheat, they just don't give in and actually do so.

What do you guys think? I personally think it's just stupidity on their part. Everyone I've known that has given into cheating of this kind, has ended up regretting the mess it caused later on, well except for one.

I have one friend who got himself fired for fooling around with the wife of his boss. And yet the idiot still sees nothing wrong with what he did. Though you could also blame her since she didn't have to go along with it.

Anyway, have any of you ever been tempted to cheat? Do you know someone who has? Or what are your thoughts on why people do this kind of thing.

[2010DigitalBoy]

I don't want to make a controversial statement, which I'm sure this will look like to some, but I think the 'stupidity' of cheating starts with the 'stupidity' of marriage. Personally, I don't really care for the idea of a singular relationship and the set of rules coming with it, I'd rather just maintain an independent existence that interacts with other people than try to basically combine lives with someone, because no matter how I look at it, that just doesn't work for me, nor most people, which is why so many people end up in bad relationships. I think that rather than one socially acceptable method of coupling, we should choose whatever kind of relationship lifestyle works for ourselves.

But of course, marriage is something so traditional and ingrained into our beings and beliefs that it's hard to think this way. I admit that we don't live in a world where my ideal romance could easily exist, much less be socially acceptable enough that a politician could live that way.

[Aaryanna]

[FONT="Tahoma"][COLOR="DarkGreen"]^I don't think I'd blame marriage. XD

Personally I think it's because people honestly think they won't get caught. Combine that with stupidity, arrogance and other things and you get people who cheat on others.

Plenty of people don't cheat, you just don't see headlines about them in the news since it's not something they bother to report. [/COLOR][/FONT]

[Nony]

I pretty much have to concur with Aary here. People probably do it because they think they can get away with it.
Also, if you're cheating while in a relationship, then maybe you shouldn't be in that relationship in the first place if you're tempted that easily. Either that or you're too damn greedy.

[Jabberwocky]

[FONT="Palatino Linotype"]Human lust. We as humans need sex to further advance our race. Sex is normal. In my opinion I'd love to be in a relationship, but one person as a constant source? I mean, I've cheated on my past girlfriends... with another man, but now I would never do it. But if I end up seeing someone who's attractive and I think about having sex with them, as long as I don't do it nothing's harmed. But people's minds wander and that's okay, cheating however, isn't.

Now even though I'm young, I'm having sexual relations with someone and I have been for almost 3 years now. I don't care if he doesn't have any feelings for me, I know he doesn't (unless he's some passive-aggresive weirdo who'd rather keep his true feelings hidden...), and I don't either. I just do what I do for the pleasure, but I honestly don't think doing that while I'm single should be a crime either.

Now I say cheating isn't okay, but having done it, I'm being a hypocrite. And cheating on a girl with the same sex? Something tells me God's going to put that on my ticket to hell >_> [/FONT]

[2010DigitalBoy]

[quote name='Jabberwocky'][FONT="Palatino Linotype"]Human lust. We as humans need sex to further advance our race. Sex is normal. [/FONT][/QUOTE]

For these exact reasons, I don't get why you say cheating is wrong, especially if you understand this. I just don't get it, other than for religious reasons, but if it's for religious reasons than cheating is wrong [I]for you[/I], and not flat-out.

[Jabberwocky]

[quote name='2009DigitalBoy']For these exact reasons, I don't get why you say cheating is wrong, especially if you understand this. I just don't get it, other than for religious reasons, but if it's for religious reasons than cheating is wrong [I]for you[/I], and not flat-out.[/QUOTE]

[FONT="Palatino Linotype"]You're right, but I didn't say I would never ever cheat again. I leave that open becasue the possbility of it happening again is there with my teenage foolishness, and becasue of the fact that I don't really understand true relationships and love. And sure, I think it's wrong, but that really doesn't stop me from doing it. Blame it all on the ignorance of being a 15 year old, haha.

It's like doing a drug. You know it's wrong but that doesn't stop you from doing it.

EDIT Well as it seems I DID in fact say "I would never do it." Well I thought about it for a while, and that statement is a lie. Looking back at my past behaviour, it is indeed possible I might cheat again. [/FONT]

[Allamorph]

[FONT=Arial]Power corrupts.

Also everyone thinks they're special and exceptions apply to them and lots of bad judgment and stupid decisions happen spur of the moment and blah blah blah rambling about various minutae and so on.

Power corrupts.[/FONT]

[Rachmaninoff]

[quote name='Allamorph][FONT=Arial']Power corrupts.[/FONT][/quote]Oh of course.

Anyway it's always easy to justify betraying someone else. So long as it doesn't directly affect you, why care right? [/sarcasm]

I always find it amusing to see those who find cheating acceptable, getting mad when someone does it to them though.

[Jax Rhapsody]

Sometimes people dont get what they want so they cheat. Its all about what people want and dont want sometimes. If its sex then its like pretty much give and take like a relationship period. Your partner doesnt do what you want them to do, but its unfair for you than your not getting your sexual rhapsody. It's also unfair if you try and make them do what they dont want, which is pretty much a Catch 22.

I want my fiancee to suck and swallow(spit, swap whatever) but she doesnt like it. I'm a real kinky person and she's not. Why should I hafta go back sexually? Why should she do something she's not accustomed to? It gets to a point where I will find it elsewhere. I'm not gonna force someone to do what they dont want to do, I also deserve to reach my peak of kinkiness. You wanna make each other happy but dont want to make yourself unhappy in the process. Give and effing take. This is just in relation to the sex part. I'm starting to get pissed off thinking about it.

I'm not saying its right, I'm saying if people wouldnt be so selfish it wouldnt happen as much and that goes both ways too.