Alexander Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Here's a question that's been nagging at me for a long time. Okay, you don't have to answer to this topic if you don't want to. There is nothing saying you must, so feel free to hold your peace. Here goes... What would you do if, say, your best friend was gay/lesbian? How would you react? Would you reject him/her, or would you stay friends regardless? I honestly do not know the answer to mine. I will never know, unless it were to happen and the actuall situation were to befall me. I'd like to think that it wouldn't bother me...but I can't say that. It wouldn't be true. It always would bother me...but could I get past that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Stupid as he may be, my best friend and I share a bond that is unbreakable by something as trivial as sexual preference. I'm not homosexual, I very much doubt I ever will be. But, to reject ANYONE simply on that basis is immature and stupid. -Justin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 I wouldn't care one bit... but there's a reason for that. But you'd have to ask my best friend when I told him i was gay... He said "more power to you"... and we talk about it freely as if nothing has changed, and it hasn't... I'm still his friend, and he's still mine... and in friendship, it doesn't matter what you are... friends are friends, and nothing, even sexual orientation, can change a real friendship. By the way, this question was asked a few months ago, but thats ok... I just remember it being asked... I don't know if you were around at that time... so I'll let this topic stay open if people wish to respond... but be mature in your answers people... no matter your decision. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sara Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Alexander [/i] [B]would you stay friends regardless?[/B][/QUOTE][FONT=century gothic]Of course.[/FONT] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k9* Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 *shrug* sexuality doesn't matter that much to me - it's no where near important enuf to allow a friendship to disinigrate. in fact some of my friends are homosexual. sidenote - whenever my family visits any large cities, my mom inevitably finds the gay part of town. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
conpiracymonki Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [b]I wouldn't stop being friends with him. I mean, I wouldn't think of him differently or anything, or treat him different. But I might think it's wrong in my POV. But it doesn't mean I'll treat him different. Like, 1/10 people are gay. So that means about 5 of my friends are gay. S'what's your point?[/b] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shinji v2.0 Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Transtic Nerve [/i] [B]I wouldn't care one bit... but there's a reason for that. But you'd have to ask my best friend when I told him i was gay... He said "more power to you"... and we talk about it freely as if nothing has changed, and it hasn't... I'm still his friend, and he's still mine... and in friendship, it doesn't matter what you are... friends are friends, and nothing, even sexual orientation, can change a real friendship. By the way, this question was asked a few months ago, but thats ok... I just remember it being asked... I don't know if you were around at that time... so I'll let this topic stay open if people wish to respond... but be mature in your answers people... no matter your decision. [/B][/QUOTE] Oh come on now TN, we all know that's not a psychological question for you -- it's a dream come true!!! :rolleyes: Just kidding big guy. If your view on your best friend changes the slightest bit after being informed of his/her sexual preference, well then, you weren't really best friends now, were you? sHin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Fall Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 It probably wouldn't worry me. I'd say we'd still be friends..... :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Treble Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Gay or not I don't give a care I wouldn't see him different in anyway.Our friendship will still be the same.:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BabyGirl Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [color=deeppink]Well, as much as I'd like to say it wouldn't change anything between myself and a friend...I think it would. I think I'm just stupid like that...who knows :huh:[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Shy Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [SIZE=1]I wouldn't care one bit, but if the question was reversed I have a feeling my friend would never talk to me again.[/SIZE] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Delian Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Oh Gosh...I don't give a crap about a person's sexual preference. I do have someone close to me that is gay and it doesn't make one hell of a difference to our relationship. A friend is a friend no matter what...sexual preferences shouldn't change anything. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 I'm with BabyGirl.......... I think it would change, even if it's the smallest measure. I mean, it's their choice, and I would still love them as a friend and care about them, talk to them, hang out, all that normal stuff....... but in my mind, I think my preception would be altered, not to the point where I'd give 'em weird looks or anything....... but truthfully it's not something I'd expect; it's only natural to be surprised. It would be a mental thing, like how long have they been like that w/out telling me? Small stuff like that, and I could talk to them about it too. So in conclusion, things would be a little different, but we'd still be best friends. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Transtic Nerve Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Yes I know things change... obviously... i mean, before I came out, my best friend and I never talked about Queer as Folk... or gay whatever... or who knows what.... now... we do that.... now my best friend's girlfriend talks to me about my boyfriend, about this or that... stuff she never did before... The question was, however, if you would still accept them for who they are... and I think we all answered that, regardless if things would... change or not... sometimes change is fo rthe good... I'd rather know my best friend, then have him or her living a lie in front of me, even if it meant a big change. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heaven's Cloud Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [color=indigo] I would like to say I don't care what a person is like, no matter their ethnicity or sexual orientation, however, if my best friend were to tell me was a homosexual, I would first laugh thinking that it was a joke, then I would have a coronary. But that is only because my best friend is the antithesis of the stereotypical gay male, and he really enjoys slobering over girls. But lets say my best friend was the normal average "joe" and said that he was gay. I wouldn't stop being his friend, we wouldn't stop being best freiends more then likely, there would just be a bit of akwardness at both ends for a little while, then everything would probably go back to normal.[/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dan L Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Alexander [/i] [B] What would you do if, say, your best friend was gay/lesbian? How would you react? Would you reject him/her, or would you stay friends regardless?[/B][/QUOTE] when you said 'A very deep psychological question...' i was expecting something a little more.... deep.. but hey... This has actually happened to me before.. One of my friends came out.. from that day on there were two little 'factions' within my social circle.. 1) "Those that stayed friends with the gay guy" 2) "The two faced ****** that rejected him" I was in group (1).. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sephiroth Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 I really wouldn't give a damn about something so trivial as a friend being gay/lesbien, one of my best friends are gay, and tn is gay too, in fact, I remember when tn first told me he was gay, and I merely replied.... ".....and?" if another friend said to me that they are gay, I would just say that I don't care and that friendship is not based on sexual preference, heck, people give me a weird look if I say a guy looks cute, and this is coming from a married man, they would ask if I was gay, and I would just simply say no, after all, is it so wrong to say that a member of the same sex could be cute/good looking/whatever? hell, just a few weeks ago I was walking through town with one of my friends (the one that is gay) and we saw this preacher talking out to the crowd and started saying "people are turning to the arts of satan with things like harry potter, and homosexuality", I turned to look at my friend, who just looked down on the floor, obviously quite hurt by what the preacher said, I got angry at this and argued back at the preacher, after I was done he merely shut up and said "what do you know".... true, the world is becoming more accepting of homosexuality, but thats not saying a great deal considering there are people who would actually talk on the street to crowds saying that homomsexuality is wrong/evil/whatever.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anna Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sephiroth [/i] [B]if another friend said to me that they are gay, I would just say that I don't care and that friendship is not based on sexual preference, heck, people give me a weird look if I say a guy looks cute, and this is coming from a married man, they would ask if I was gay, and I would just simply say no, after all, is it so wrong to say that a member of the same sex could be cute/good looking/whatever? hell, just a few weeks ago I was walking through town with one of my friends (the one that is gay) and we saw this preacher talking out to the crowd and started saying "people are turning to the arts of satan with things like harry potter, and homosexuality", I turned to look at my friend, who just looked down on the floor, obviously quite hurt by what the preacher said, I got angry at this and argued back at the preacher, after I was done he merely shut up and said "what do you know".... true, the world is becoming more accepting of homosexuality, but thats not saying a great deal considering there are people who would actually talk on the street to crowds saying that homomsexuality is wrong/evil/whatever.... [/B][/QUOTE] ....... Harry Potter and homosexuality are related [i]how[/i]????.............. gah, stupid people..... I think it's ridiculous how you can't comment on someone of the same sex being cute or whatever. I look at girls almost as much as I look at guys (NOT in the same context, however). And I'm straight, not bi or anything. I think it's natural to notice others of the same sex in admiring their appearance, it's just one's choice of acting on that which seperates sexual orientation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Turkey Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 I wouldn't care if any of my friends were gay, and I doubt they would reject me if I was gay. Well, for some reson I've never been able to see if a guy is ugly or good looking. I can only judge the clothes... HP and homosexuality, evil?:blulaugh: I'd love to hear a preacher say that just so I can laugh at him loudly! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SSJ5 Vegeta Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Alexander [/i] [B]Here's a question that's been nagging at me for a long time. Okay, you don't have to answer to this topic if you don't want to. There is nothing saying you must, so feel free to hold your peace. Here goes... What would you do if, say, your best friend was gay/lesbian? How would you react? Would you reject him/her, or would you stay friends regardless? I honestly do not know the answer to mine. I will never know, unless it were to happen and the actuall situation were to befall me. I'd like to think that it wouldn't bother me...but I can't say that. It wouldn't be true. It always would bother me...but could I get past that? [/B][/QUOTE] It wouldn't bother me at all. I would still treat them the same no matter what, because a true friend should like you for who you are, no matter what sexuality, race, or gender. I actually know a bisexual and he's actually a pretty cool guy. He's as equal as anyone else and that's how I treat him. I myself am straight but it doesn't matter that he's not because we both kind of see some things on the same level even though he's not straight and I am. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
velvet paws Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 we'll...um yea..check the sig. And I've neva had any problems about it..we'll not off my friends anyway. They deal with it in their own little ways, however they need to I guess, but they're not really bothered as long as I accept that they're not gay and would neva be interested. They still hang with me and talk to me...infact being honest I had more problems when I became a 'freak' or 'greb' to saying that I liked girls as well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Voodookanaka Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Id probably ask my m8 if i could join in with her :D one of my old good m8s turned out to b gay, i kinda knew he was after a certain story he wrote (invloving me :S dont ask) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chaos Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 I have but two things to say. 1) No, it would not affect me, not our friendship, NOTHING. Period. 2) If you're stupid enough to let a small thing of sexuality, runing your so-called "Friendship", then I believe that you SHOUND'T have any friends, at all. Because, if you do that to the gay friend, what will happen when something really, really big happens? If you rejesct someone because they have things for those of the same gender, what'll happen when say, someone's mugged someone or something? Are you going to stab them in the back as well? Turn them in? Just because they mad a bad mistake, and such? WILL YOU?! -Neil Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
D. Dark Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 Sexuality is not important, thoguh I can understand if people feel uneasy if they look at them in a certain way, but no, I wouldn't mind, for as you all say, it is trivial and pointless. What knind of long-term friendships would they be if you abandoned them at the first turn? In time, you'd get used to it, and see them for the friend that they really are towards you. If you can't face that, then damn, you're very shallow... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Zeh Posted January 21, 2002 Share Posted January 21, 2002 [COLOR=red]Gay? Not gay? Does it [i]really[/i] matter? I mean of course it would affect my friendship! But wouldn't just about anyone be amazed if one of your friends would come out and tell you they were gay? I mean it would take a bit of gettin' used too. But i doubt it would truely affect my friendship. It would be a whole different case though if someone was hitting on me... but then, all of my friends know i'm straight for obvious reasons...... But it really wouldn't afffect any of my friendships... Actually just a few days ago i found out one of my best friends are gay... i got the hell teased outta me for being his friend but i really didn't care..... Whoa look at me muttering on.... and i'm supposed to be doing homework... [/COLOR] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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