A very deep psychological question...

[Sui Generis]

Why does it matter if they are gay or straight? That doesn't change them one bit...Oh well anywayz....I just accepted it...one of my friends is a lesbian...its not that hard to accept...I mean its her choice...doesn't affect you so why should you care?

[Avalon]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by DuoGod of Death [/i]
[B]Why does it matter if they are gay or straight? That doesn't change them one bit...Oh well anywayz....I just accepted it...one of my friends is a lesbian...its not that hard to accept...I mean its her choice...doesn't affect you so why should you care? [/B][/QUOTE]

I agree! You should be friends with your friend regardless of their sexual preferences.

[Delian]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by D. Dark [/i]
[B]Sexuality is not important, thoguh I can understand if people feel uneasy if they look at them in a certain way, but no, I wouldn't mind, for as you all say, it is trivial and pointless. [/B][/QUOTE]

Well to be quite honest, even though i'm straight, I'd find it quite flattering if a girl looked at me like that....but that's about it:D

[D. Dark]

[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Delian [/i]
[B]

Well to be quite honest, even though i'm straight, I'd find it quite flattering if a girl looked at me like that....but that's about it:D [/B][/QUOTE]

It's slightly different for guys. They get the wrong image. Actually, I DON'T wanna think about that. It makes me uneasy.

I've read some replies, like Cloud's, and seems to me he's really indecisive about it (He keeps reassuring himself). You don't know what to think in that kind of situation.

Would you follow the pack...

...or would you follow your heart?

I don't know at the moment. It's very psychologically challenging. I probably wouldn't mind, but I'd feel akward around them?

It's just the stigma that title has...

I still need to think.

[Baby Kiwi]

[color=crimson]Honestly, I don't know how I would react. I would definitely feel weird around them because I have lived such a sheltered life that I have never really been around homosexuals before. I know that I should treat them the same as everyone else, but I would feel really weird around them, like I dont know what to do or say in fear of hurting them. (Like making a remark that they might think was deragetory). I feel really bad for saying that, but I honestly would feel that way. :confused: [/color]

[PiroMunkie]

[SIZE=1]Sexual orientation does not make a person, they are who they are no matter what. Let's say I have a friend named Bobby Rogers, we're friends for a long time and he's a great friend. We spent all of our chilhood together messing around getting in trouble and whatnot. One day he tells me he's gay. So what? He's still Bobby Rogers, my friend, and a good one at that.[/SIZE]

[Delian]

I think that if a friend told me that they were gay, I would take it as a sign that they trust me enough and consider me as a good friend, to be able to share that kind of information with me. When a person close to me told me they were gay, of course I was shocked at first, because you never expect it, expecially from someone who doesn't express it.It's like "Hey you want some icecream, oh and by the way, I'm gay" But it was cool and being the curious person that I am, of course I asked questions. But nothing's changed.
We're still the same as always.

The point is, they don't want you to be different and uneasy. If they ever told you, it would probably be because they think that you would be the friend that would feel comfortable with knowing

[stardust]

I'm not that shallow,I would still be their friend,wouldn't bother me:)

[velvet paws]

I don't think I've actually said this to anyone before..well maybe to Daz once in passing..but the only reason that I came out was coz I fancied my best friend Kayleigh. It took me about 5 months to decided it but she completed me in everyway possible and I thought she was good looking too, and realised I was jealous of all the guys she went out with because of how physically close they could get to her eg big hugs..gettin off with..arms round etc.
Now I knew I didn't stand a chance with her, so I only ever admitted it to Daz and I think he forgot about it..I duno..heh I was going out with him at the time.

The two girls I've been out with, Cait and Hayley, never completed me as much as Kayleigh did, even with the hugs and gettin off and stuff (sorry to the people who might not wish to know this but I guess you shouldn't be checking this topic). The thing is though..when I broke up with them I didn't know where to go next..because I'm dead scared of admitting I fancy a girl or going and chatting one up incase they're anti gay or something..i mean even them not being interested would be embarrassing. With Cait it was easy..I came out to her and she said "kool so am i but i was too scared to tell you" and things went on from there..and even Hayley it was easy coz she said she was bisexual then a few weeks later Daz said that she had commented "it's such a pitty you two are going out because I think you're both well fit".

Now..I still really like guys..had a 17month relationship with Daz and I still love him deepdown..and I've now been 2 1/2 months with Jay and I think I love him but I'm not really sure yet :confused: I've cared strongly for him for 1 1/2 years so I'm comfy sayin I love him but I dont know if I feel that's he's my one and only kinda thing. The only problem with guys is that..no matter how right for me they feel, there's always this little gap that they can't fill and some nights when we're out at the pub or something I'll see a nice girl and I'll just want to go and chat her up and get off with her. I never do..but alot of the time I go through phases where girls do it for me more then guys (always worry my bf's slightly if i have one at that point coz they see girls as opposition, as i suppose rightly they should) and I just wish I had the guts to ask some of the ones I've seen out, when/if I break up with Jay of course. But this is confused by the fact that Cait and Hayley still left me with gaps..what they could fill guys couldn't, what they couldn't guys could kinda thing..where as Kayleigh made everything good and I didn't feel like I needed a guy as well/instead.

I don't quite know where this is going..it's my feelings and I just wondered if anyone would like to comment..try and help maybe. I love Jay the same way I love Daz..but sometimes I still feel that gap throbing inside me, yearning to be filled..I ignore it and it fades until I sometimes forget it's there..but it never quite goes away.

[Duo Maxwell]

seeing this has happend to me, yes I'd stay friends actually I did but I sorta didn't call her for a week, hey I was trying to figure out what I was gonna say coz she said she had a crush on me... that is one of the scariest things that can happen, your friend telling you they're gay and they have a crush on you. we never talked about it again, she talked with my other friend though. then one day her sis comes up to me and says "E says she doesn't love you any more" so that sorta relived me but some of the stuff she's said to my other friend sorta makes me wonder if she is gay or not... it doesn't really bother me either way I'm fine with it

[Pressure]

[COLOR=purple]To me.. If you are gay, a lesbian, bisexual or heterosexual... 'm gonna go with Seph-san.. I'm just like... yeah.. and? so what? more power to you!!

It doesnt matter to me what your sexual preference is... unless your homophobic... Homophobia is one of the things i CANNOT tolerate... my best friend since the 3rd grade and i were in a mall one day with our parents and she saw these two guys holding hands. She immedeately pointed and went "Ew! Look at those fags!" I haven't spoken to her since.

If one of my good friends were to come out to me and tell me they were gay, I'd probably respect them more... b/c they accepted it. When I first saw in TN's signiature "Let's get one thing straight... I'm not" I was all "Oh cool!, thats awesome! " and I kept on goin...

actually.. gay people are often more fun to be around than straight ppl.. they r usually funnier and more open to anything..

i must admit.. one thing sucks about gay guys... THEY GAY MEN ARE ALWAYS THE HOTTEST MEN... looks at TN..

but if i freidn were to come out i'd be like "Uh-huh, cool, so, you wanna go get ice cream?"[/COLOR]

[velvet paws]

I don't mean to drag a sorta oldish topic back up..but I just wondered if anyone could make any sence of my last post and possibly give me a few words..maybe even a sentence?? Coz it's still eatin at me and 2moro is the night I go out to pubs with my mates and get most effected, whether I'm drunk or perfectly sober and with good company makes no difference. Also my bf is sleepin over so if I need to say anything to him then I can....

I think I'm going into one of my little 'i like girls more' things again..something to do with a girl I know who may or may not be interested...but I've got off with her before. She wouldn't want a serious thing ne way and I love Jay so I'm not going to do anything about it regarding her...but I just need to try and settle my mind abit coz I'm too stressed about everything else right now.

When ever I told Daz or Phil I liked girls more they were like "well are you trying to tell me that you want to break up or what" and I'd reply "no, of course not. I really care about you. I just thought you had the right to know that I fancy quite a few girls at the moment" and they'd ask if I was sure and I'd say yes and that would be the end of it.

The only thing with Jay is I've never actually done that to him...I've told him about when I did it to the other guys..but he's never had to experiance it. And this girl called Kayleigh who he really hates (not the one I posted about b4) was beggin him to get me to get off with her a few weeks ago and I didn't coz I don't think she's a particually great person (looks or personaliity) and coz it upset him so much...but if he feels threatened by her I duno how he'll react :confused: he's a great guy and wouldn't do anything without good reason..but I'm scared to hurt him... [SIZE=1]..........I've done that too much in the past...*private guilt trip*.........[/SIZE]

[phoenixflames]

To discrimanate some one because of the simple fact that they're gay, lesbian, bi, or whatever is just like discrimamating someone because of the way they look, act, or their religion. it's wrong. wars have started in countries over this sort of thing. people have died, over colors. that's all. do we want to do this over sexual preference? I know that my best friend is gay. he told me, and he was afraid that i wouldn't like him any more. But we are still inseprable. best friends forever. i currently attend harvard, and he is in penbrook. and, we are still best friends. it doesn't matter.:rolleyes: duh.